If you’re reading this, bless you for giving oral sex the respect it deserves. Sadly, some people are unwilling to take the time and effort to properly to reciprocate oral sex with their partners, though they are enthusiastic to be on the receiving end. Enter the orgasm gap: the statistical fact that in heterosexual encounters, men orgasm more than women. Statistics show over 80% of women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, which is why oral sex can be critical. Aside from your cunnilingus capabilities, developing a compassionate mentality is a way to tip the orgasm equality scales. Here is a breakdown on becoming the best (oral sex) partner you can be.

Act (and ask) selflessly.

It’s no secret that communication is a challenge for lovers during intimacy, whether we are worried about hurting someone’s feelings, sounding pushy, or killing the mood. Cultural conditioning leads us to believe that staying quiet is easier than speaking up, or learning each other’s love languages. However, there’s a simple solution to remove the guesswork while taking pressure off your partner. Just ask! Let her know how much you love making her feel good, and you want to know what she loves best. Instead of asking “How does this feel?”, be more specific. Tell her you will perform a series of techniques that she will assign with a number. Example: 1 for “Meh” and 5 for “Eff yes!”. This game is an opportunity to demonstrate that you’re not just going through the motions, rushing to get your piece of the action. It will equip you with the knowledge of what works, while empowering her to communicate what she wants. (Why this concept isn’t the Golden Rule of Pleasure, I’ll never know!)

About those tips and techniques…

To start, never overlook the importance of a comfortable environment. Believe it or not, the lights off can make or break our ability to orgasm. Ask if she prefers the lights on or off before getting down to business. Next, grab a pillow or two and slide it underneath her pelvis, to give you a better angle while easing pressure on her back.

As far as oral sex techniques, slow, repeated ice cream licks on the vulva and the U-spot (the opening to the urethra, just above the vaginal opening, above the lips) are a crowd pleaser. Once you get into a rhythm, practice writing the letters of the alphabet with your tongue…in cursive if you’re fancy! Don’t be afraid to get up close and personal, either. By that I mean—use your face. All of it. Big noses are a plus. If you’re nimble, ask if she’d like internal or external finger or sex toy stimulation. For women who like simultaneous stimulation, there is nothing like the gift of a blended orgasm (G-spot and clitoris at the same time). Truth be told, what it really comes down to is dedication, and attention to detail. If all else fails, stop and ask for directions!

Don’t stop, get it, get it!

If your partner is expressing verbal or physical signs of sexual bliss, keep the same motion flowing. It may be an innocent knee-jerk reaction to abruptly switch up the tongue techniques when your partner approaches the edge. Their pleasure is peaking, and one might interpret that as needing to up the level of intensity all around. I have been guilty of this in the past. When their orgasm approached, a voice in my head would whisper, “Lights! Camera! Jazz Hands!”, at which time my hands and mouth would operate frantically with no rhyme or reason. (Just…why?) I ended up learning this later, unfortunately, as each partner was too coy to tell me otherwise. Repeat strokes aren’t boring; they are the stairway to orgasm heaven. If you are experiencing symptoms of lockjaw or carpal tunnel and your partner is enjoying that technique, just stay…right…there.

The female orgasm is a bi-product of something bigger than fancy techniques and vibrators combined. It is the result of mental clarity; thoughts free of sexual expectations and daily stress. There is a ways to go before equal pay in the workforce, but in the meantime, orgasm equality is attainable. One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind. One blog at a time.

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Think back to one of your hottest dates. Not necessarily where you went, but how you felt when the passion started to peak. When you were still out in public, ready to rip your date’s clothes off. At that point, the sexual chemistry has evolved from pretty obvious to palpable, and you may have just heard someone shout, “go get a room!” in your direction. Often times, the decision arrives to throw in the towel during dessert, and high tail it home for hot sex.

That feeling of insatiable anticipation and desire before stepping foot into the bedroom—isn’t it delicious? This fiery dynamic is #RelationshipGoals, whether you’re in a long term relationship or on a first date. No matter what stage of the relationship you’re in, that dynamic is VITAL to your success. Here are some tips on fostering that vibrancy no matter what stage you’re at, or where you go on your date.

On a first date, romantic synergy isn’t 100% guaranteed. However, focusing on your confidence prior to a date is a sure-shot way to shine even if the date doesn’t. Bringing your A-game even if your date sex isn’t on the menu is what counts. Nipple pasties are a discreet way of drawing out your inner sex goddess. The feeling of these sexy adornments underneath your bra will invoke serious sensual energy and a bold sense of empowerment. Your posture and mannerisms will perk up, right along with your nipples. For a more erotic experience, Lace Panties with Pleasure Pearl Beads are insanely thrilling to wear in public. They don’t vibrate; there are no crazy bells and whistles, but you will seriously make people wonder why you’re smiling. The strip of soft pearls down the center will roll backward and forward with your every move, whether sitting or standing. Generating secret arousal will make it impossible to NOT smile, despite any awkward moments. Women who take longer to climax may also benefit from a pearl thong or vibrating underwear, because it will kick start your stimulation. Who knows, you may even come before you go home. And that is a win-win whether you’re alone, or otherwise.

On the other hand, long term relationships take effort when it comes to keeping it spicy. Getting out of the house is half the battle; ending the night with a bang takes intention. If you are looking to create an ideal sexual environment, make foreplay the focus of your date, instead of the bi-product. Typically, foreplay is considered a bedroom ritual, but why wait for the toys to come out at the end of the night? Some couples and individuals wear sex toys in public unbeknownst to anyone else, just for the thrill of it. Have you ever thought the two people at the next table are giggling because one is wearing a vibrator? It is totally possible. Certain sex toys are designed to put the power of your pleasure in someone else’s hands. The compact Jive – Bluetooth Controlled Wearable Vibrator is a quintessential hands-free sex toy, with an egg shape that fits snugly alongside the G-spot. It is so discreet and quiet, you can wear it during sex, on a date, or even at work! The Jive is controlled through a wireless app which your partner can operate from anywhere in the world (but would highly enjoy watching you squirm from across the table).

Another vibrator that you can wear comfortably underneath your clothes is the Butterfly Remote Penis Venus, which stimulates the clitoris as it penetrates, a bonus for the clit queens. Handing the compact remote to your partner, knowing very well you could totally orgasm in public takes confidence and trust. To amp up the adrenaline, visit a karaoke bar and test your willpower while belting out a song for your lover. This activity could turn into something you really enjoy together. If not, it will make an awesome story.

Just keep in mind that where you choose to go, and what you choose to do is really just a vehicle to foster authentic joy with each other, and ultimately strengthen a relationship. Next date  night, consider thinking outside the box (and the bedroom)!

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The Heart Me Vibrator caught my eye around Valentine’s Day, and I couldn’t resist treating myself as a token of self-love. Despite its simplicity, I was hoping it would be equally as powerful as its ultra-femme appearance.

It arrived, cute and colorful as advertised, from the pretty box branded ‘With Love, xxx’ to the luxurious-looking vibrator itself. I felt like I had just received the perfect gift. Fitting perfectly in the palm of my hand, I noted how comfortable it was to hold. I found myself spacing out just stroking the soft silicone for a minute. While it felt silky smooth, it still maintained a grippy feel that would come in handy if things got rowdy. (And by “rowdy”, I mean “slippery with lubricant”.) I plugged the Heart Me Vibe into my computer and let it charge for a few hours. When I was ready to use it, I held down the power button and actually blurted out “Whoa!” when it started vibrating. I was planning to take this on vacation over the weekend (it’s so petite and travel-friendly!), but I couldn’t wait, so I jumped right into bed.

I’m a clit-stimulation girl, so the size did make me a bit skeptical because it’s pretty small. Once I started massaging myself with different circular motions, and sliding up and down to find the right spot, I realized how powerful this little vibe really was. Then, I flipped the heart so that the pointed end fit between my two forefingers, while my thumb rested on the top. The shape really felt like it’s meant to be handheld, because it moved exactly where I wanted with little effort. Another benefit was that it didn’t heat up like other bullet or handheld vibrators, which can get really hot and at times. I was even able to incorporate my G-spot vibrator and keep the Heart in place with my left hand simultaneously. With the combined power of these two sex toys, I reached an intense orgasm in a whopping 30 seconds.

I then decided to use it with my partner during sex. Initially, I alternated it on each nipple as I licked them, while stroking his shaft during foreplay. As I moved down south to give him oral love, I held the vibrator in the lowest setting against his perineum. That could have made him climax alone, but—ah ah ah—(*shakes finger*)—not before I come first! I sat on top and slid all the way down on him, holding the Heart right in front of my clit. We both climaxed pretty quickly with the added help of the Heart. The extra vibration provided the same benefits of a cockring and a bullet vibe with no strings attached.

In my history with sex toys, no bullet vibe left has been left unturned…and I’m so glad I was drawn to this one. In this case, the book is as good as the cover, and it will always have a special place in my toy box (and my heart).

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Guys, ever wish you’d last longer and feel stronger during sex or masturbation? Introducing the cock ring, also known as a c-ring, erection ring, or penis ring. These performance-enhancing toys achieve universally-desired benefits of increased stamina, a bigger penis, enhanced sensitivity during lovemaking, and more explosive orgasms. As a natural alternative to pills and supplements, they are heavily marketed to those with a penis, but they also offer titillating stimulation for any sexual partner. For example, cock rings increase the chances of simultaneous clitoral and vaginal orgasms for her. Physical benefits for him range from transforming the look and feel of a penis, while providing a boost in sexual confidence. How sexy is that?

How they work: during an erection, the penis fills with blood, which keeps it firm. A cock ring, secured around the base of the penis, keeps the blood strictly in the shaft, resulting in an engorged look and feel. Wearing a penis ring doesn’t completely cut off circulation; it just slows it down and keeps it localized. The restriction of blood can help endurance, prevent premature ejaculation, and enhance every sensation on a thicker, bigger shaft. Having a cock ring wrapped snuggly around the penis also leads to more intense orgasms, as the ring squeezes the shaft, forcing built-up pressure to be released during an explosive orgasm.

For those new to cock rings, the first step is to determine the right size and fit. Beginners usually opt for a set that includes multiple sizes like the RingO Pro X3, giving the option to pick and choose a comfortable size while achieving rock-hard results. Regardless of material, any ring will easily slide on with a spot of lube; just a little dab will do ya.

For those who want something a bit more complex, c-rings frequently come with a vibrating bullet. The genius of adding vibration to a cock ring is that it turns the penis into a real-life vibrating sex toy. A fitted vibrating ring provides a snug fit for him, and an attached vibrator stimulates her clitoris, no matter what position. The Ultimate Lasso is a fully adjustable design, resembling a bolo tie for the cock & balls, with side strands that loosen or tighten with a sliding attachment. This soft, pliable ring has a removable bullet for mutual pleasure if you decide the ring itself isn’t your thing.

The simple yet stylish Tux is a stretchy, studded vibrating ring with an unassuming look, effortlessly outfitting the penis. Grind on it while on top or ask him to push it harder into you during missionary. Similarly, the Duet Passion Enhancer is also a snug-fitting ring featuring a bullet with a raised texture to tease ‘n tickle the clitoris and labia. A decadent vibrating ring like The Wave features a waterproof design, with a thick, cushiony clit stimulator and ripples that deliver all-over sensations for her and him. When flipped upside down, it will externally tickle his prostate for a truly surging finish. This type of ring is an awesome introduction to mild prostate stimulation without penetration.

A good intermediate option is The Tongue Lover, with two well-fitted loops, and a strategically placed mini tongue to hit the clit. The small inner ring wraps around the shaft, and the larger ring wraps snugly around the balls. This extra-secure fit keeps blood in the penis and enhances every sensation for him, while letting you enjoy clit stimulation and penetration at the same time.

If your desire is maximum firmness, a weighted ring will ensure the tightest possible fit. A weighted ball hangs and tugs from the Weighted Lasso, keeping the ring cinched as tight as possible without causing pain. The fully-adjustable ring promotes a rock-hard feel and explosive climax. Since the design is adjustable, it accommodates any size!

Think you’re too advanced for a cock ring? The versatile Couple’s Reversible Ring will make you think again. This ring has two different shaped vibrating clit stimulators on each side, making it fully reversible to flip around or upside down. Once fitted around the penis, the top loop becomes a finger-sized steering wheel, giving you 100% control to put the clit stimulators where you please. To pleasure his cock, balls, and everything in-between, place the larger ring around the balls and the smaller ring around the base of the penis. The vibrating bullet will rest on his taint to create a magical triangle of pleasure.

With a world of design options and hardly any sex toy experience required, there isn’t only one cock ring to rule them all. This quintessential couple’s toy is the total package!

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Have you ever asked (or been asked), “what’s your sign?” Astrology is a popular avenue to explore sexuality, shedding insight into core personality traits. Some believe that our behavioral modes are predestined, and explained by the stars. By using the power of astrology we can better understand the nuances of sexual expression, and further, learn the art of seducing any partner.

Aries

Aries LOVES sex, the more spontaneous the better. A sex toy to keep an Aries guessing is the versatile Le Wand, with a combination of 200 speeds and powerful patterns for on-demand pleasure. Or, surprise Aries by slipping on a sexy outfit and handing them a paddle to light their fire…they love to be dominant.

Taurus

Taureans can be stubborn, but they don’t mind being told what to do in bed. Some may call them lazy, but they are just comfortable laying in the lap of luxury. Seductively bind him in bondage tape while gliding a Tenga masturbation sleeve up and down the shaft and bring this bull to his knees.

Gemini

Gemini finds intelligence the most attractive feature in a partner. Mental stimulation will turn this sapiosexual on before the clothes come off. Spark communication with a couple’s game, or by cuddling up with an erotic book. When it comes to sex toys, the dual-ended nJoy Pure Wand has two sexy sides, just like the Gemini twins.

Cancer

A primary component of lovemaking for a Cancer is emotional stability and intimacy. To foster connection with a Cancer, enjoy extended foreplay together. Incorporate something that will bring you to climax in unison, like The Wave Couple’s Orgasm Ring.

Leo

This fiery lover enjoys nothing more than being worshipped. Get them in their element and spark up a massage candle for a pampering experience. Allow your Leo to lay back while stroking his penis (and ego) with the Head Honcho masturbator sleeve.

Virgo

A typical Virgo is very organized, even when it comes to sex. They also need to know that their lover genuinely enjoys being intimate together. A luxury sex toy kit containing a variety of pleasure essentials will please both partners, while appeasing Virgo’s attention to detail.

Libra

The Libra scales serve as a symbol for balance and harmony, which also represent the Libra personality. When it comes to sensuality, establish a relaxing environment with a sensual, full body massage using the famous Magic Wand to get them in a romantic headspace.

Scorpio

Scorpions will rock you like a hurricane, engaging in a passionate feast for the senses. With an insatiable desire to touch, taste and feel everything in sight, bust out the bondage cuffs. Or try an adventurous trio of butt plugs that lets you choose which size will maximize your pleasure. The sky’s the limit when it comes to fulfilling mutual fantasies with a Scorpio.

Sagittarius

The Sagittarius prioritizes physical intimacy. They want their partner to reach climax (and they expect the same in return). The Womanizer Deluxe is a sure-shot way to make you climax in no time, EVERY time. Since sex is all about closeness for a Sag, a vibrating cock ring will encourage both partners to come at the same time.

Capricorn

Sweet in the streets and a freak in the sheets! Capricorns possess a playful outlook on love and life, and they aren’t afraid to get down and dirty. They love to please and be pleased, so prostate play is usually A-OK! Treat your Capricorn to the supercharged orgasm they so rightfully deserve!

Aquarius

Traditional sex is usually out of the question, so prepare to get innovative. Aquarians appreciate creativity, so consider a unique sex toy. The versatile iBend is a customizable vibrator the bends in any direction to create a shape that best suites the user’s needs. It can be used internally or externally, for pinpointed pleasure.

Pisces

Romantic Pisces yearn for emotional connection. They don’t need bells and whistles; they just want to be loved, so plan for a night of passionate cuddles and kisses. Turn your environment into an island getaway for this fish, starting with a tropical candle and most importantly, waterproof toys!

Astrology may not reveal a magical secret to falling in love, but it can be a handy roadmap for new ways to rock your lover’s world!

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For some men and women, the nipples are an extremely pleasurable (and preferred) erogenous zone for stimulation. The reasons aren’t just physical—it’s science! Studies show that nipple stimulation activates the same part of the brain as the clitoris, cervix, and vagina.  When stimulated, nipples release oxytocin, also known as the ‘love hormone’. This neurotransmitter is directly connected to sexual pleasure and orgasm release, which is just one reason to indulge in nipple action. Incorporating nipple stimulation techniques and toys are a fantastic gateway into the world of pleasure products, deeper intimacy, and even the elusive nipplegasm. Here are a handful of nipple toys and techniques to tickle your fancy, ranging from mild to wild.

Accessories

Simply drawing attention to your nipples is a great place to start. The Burlesque Classic Pasties are a necessary striptease accessory. Discreet enough to wear under a blouse for a sexy surprise, these pasties stay in place with reusable adhesive backing, and fit all nipple sizes. Your lover will be pleasantly aroused to see them when the rest of your clothes come off! (Bonus points if you make the tassels spin.) For a fierce and fancy touch, try non-piercing jewelry, like  The Chandelier or “Squeeze Please” Nipple Jewelry. Both of which are adjustable and comfortable, requiring zero commitment. This type of nipple accessory comfortably slips around the nipple and tightens to your liking without pinching, providing a mesmerizing sparkle as you move.

Edibles

Men and women have the same amount of nerve endings in this erogenous zone, so nipples are fair-game pleasure playground. Licking up, down and around will make the toes curl. Sweet treats like syrup, whipped cream, honey, chocolate, and even all-natural flavored lube double as body toppings. Take note of your vagina’s response when your nipples are being licked—does it tingle or throb with pleasure? To make your nipples tingle too, Nip Zip Ice Balm-Strawberry Mint will send chills of delight from head to toe. Then, lightly blow on the area for an extra arctic thrill. Incorporate hot (wax, breath) and cold (ice cubes, cold water) to build up and release sexual energy throughout foreplay.

Good Vibes

Nipple clamps ignite pleasure by applying pressure to restrict blood flow. The restriction of blood flow intensifies physical sensations when applied to the nipples, even more so by releasing pressure. Tighten a pair of adjustable clamps like Purple Nipplettes, which clip on securely when applied at the base of the nipple and are attached to little vibrating bullets to tease the nipple. Clamps feel so good because they mimic the erotic sensation of light nipple tugging that we love so much. Not to mention, the added vibration tickles the nipples simultaneously, creating waves of uncontrollable pleasure.  Hands-free clamps leave your fingers free to roam and stimulate your clitoris (or your partner). Don’t wander too far—the trick is to remove clamps at just the right time. When a nipple device is released, the blood that has built up is released too, sending a rush of pleasure from head to toe. You can also use a handheld vibrator like the Heart Me Vibe on its own to achieve a similar effect, on the nipples, clitoris…wherever the heart desires.

Twist and Shout

Designed for advanced users, the T-Cups Nipple Suction Duo walk the line between pain and pleasure. Apply them securely and twist clockwise until the desired amount of pressure is achieved. A little goes a long way! The suction will make the nipples swell with pleasure, which is visible through the clear tubes. When removed, the nipples are ultra sensitive and primed for pleasure. Take them off during peak arousal, and the likelihood of a nipple orgasm becomes more probable, especially with light sucking or tugging.

For a more moderate affect, try the NipplePlay Vibrating Suckers. These suction cups attach to the nipple with a light squeeze, and vibrate against the tips for orgasmic sensations. They create the same sensitive-to-the-touch effect as nipple clamps and the T-cup suckers, but with less pressure on the nipples. The added vibrating bullets add a playful, erotic dimension to your nippleplay.

Don’t underestimate this erogenous zone—nipple orgasms exist. Aside from satisfying physical benefits, that pleasure molecule oxytocin is also responsible for our feelings of trust! This means that nipple play can bring a whole new level of happiness and depth to your relationship. Just continue to focus on what feels good, no pressure. Unless you’re tightening up the clamps, that is.

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Sex and cannabis, two pleasurable pastimes that go together like peas and carrots. That may be obvious, but public perception has come a long way on these taboo topics. Relentless research and activism have proven that they are safe, reliable sources of improved health and happiness.

With the legalization of recreational cannabis, more awareness is being shed on the medical benefits of CBD-based products. In short, CBD, or cannabidiol, is the non-psychoactive compound of the cannabis plant. Unlike THC, CBD will not get you ‘high’. It is used to treat PTSD, anxiety, seizure disorders in animals, among many other symptoms. Dubbed ‘nature’s Advil,’ it naturally manages these symptoms while improving our mood. CBD is also working serious magic to enhance sexual intimacy, pain relief, and communication. These CBD products are perfect for intimacy—keeping your head clear and your body buzzing.

Massage Oils & Personal Lubricants

CBD-infused coconut oil is what sparked my interest in non-psychoactive cannabis. I used it as vaginal lubrication first, and then a topical oil for anal relaxation. Those who experience pain with penetration, clinically known as vaginismus, turn to CBD-infused lubricants for vaginal tension relief. When used vaginally, you may notice a subtle calming effect on the entire nervous system; hypersensitive but not overstimulated. By waking up the nerves, CBD lubrication and topical oils promote blood circulation, sexual response, and gets your juices flowing naturally. If you’re new to lube in general, I’d recommend starting with a natural water-based lubricant like Slippery Kitty, then graduate to a CBD-infused lube, GoLove CBD Intimate Serum.

Pair with: A ribbed, hand-blown glass dildo and slow internal strokes, and add a few drops of CBD oil to your sensual massage.

Bath Treats

Next level self care! CBD-infused bath bombs and soaking salts are great for beginners looking to dip a toe into psychoactive-free fun. It provides the medicinal effects of a good cannabis strain without being intoxicating. Full-body benefits include inflammation & pain relief, moisturized skin, and detoxification. CBD is amazing for melting away menstrual cramps, whether applied topically or used in a bathtub.

Pair with: A waterproof vibrator to tease the clitoris and nipples as long as you can hold out, and a satin robe for afterwards.

Edibles

Willy Wonka himself would be envious of the edibles on the market. Options include chocolates, suckers, taffy, gummies and more. (With a little research and a good CBD oil, you can also get creative in the kitchen.) Edible-induced relaxation reduces anxiety, and calms communication fears. If your to-do list races through your head during intimacy, an edible will help the mind focus on physical sensations. Schedule a sensory play date night, and try an edible for dessert. Pick out your sex toys in advance, and slowly move from one erogenous zone to the next.

Pair with: A set of vibrating nipple clamps, a multi-purpose vibrating massager, and a feather tickler.

As you experiment, remember the following: Start small. Take microdoses as you go, and check in on your physical response regularly. Pleasure awaits!

The pursuit to higher pleasure is a journey, and the benefits make the journey well worth it. Keep these things in mind, and enjoy the ride.

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Did you know that some men and women have the ability to orgasm from nipple play alone? It’s science. Nipple play releases a chemical in the brain called oxytocin (the same chemical released during orgasms), which activates the good feeling of pleasure. We all have the same sensitive nerve endings in the nipples and areolas, meaning we all have access to this pleasure hub. The next time you hit the sheets, give it a go, either solo, or with your partner. Pay attention to your clitoris—does a nipple kiss make you tingle? If so, you’re on your way to a nipple-gasm! Here are three secret tips to climax through nipple stimulation:

Secret 1: Communication is king.

Some men don’t realize nipples are an entire other erogenous zone that can be extremely arousing for them as well. So it’s worth an introduction!  Two-way communication is key to fine-tuning sexual pleasure with your lover. Ask if they’d like to gently experiment. Or, approach the nipples slowly and very gently when you’re in bed. Observe their reaction and you’ll know for sure. Ask how she/he wants it. Urge them to deeply focus on the nipple sensations. As you experiment, continue to check in, gauging vocal reactions and body language. Then ask again if they like what you did and how you can adjust it. Start slow and work your way up as you learn your lover’s unique preferences.

Secret 2: Relaxation rules.

Just like a vaginal or clitoral orgasm, our bodies respond best when we are relaxed. It may be worthwhile to devote an entire foreplay or lovemaking session just to the nipples! When the focus is solely on nipple arousal, the more likely an orgasm from nipple stimulation will be reached . Start slow and let your instincts navigate your fingers or mouth. Try massaging a breast with the full hand and work your way into nipple play after your lover is well massaged. Then, tease with kisses, moving down the neck, chest, and eventually to the nipples. Use a lot of tongue and slow, juicy kisses. (This can be a fun way to lead to oral sex, too.) The Tickle-Time Feather is a great beginner’s tool for light breast brushes (or anywhere). At this point, your lover will be eager for your mouth to be all over their man-or-womanhood. If you do migrate south, try edging your partner and make a pact to return to the nipples frequently. For romantic beginners, this luxury Afterglow Massage Oil Candle liquefies at body temperature so it’s never too hot when applying to skin. Full-body arousal means you’re more likely to orgasm from one final lick of the nipple.

Secret 3: Perfect your technique.

Between your hands, mouth, and nipple toys, there are limitless techniques at your fingertips. Focus on one nipple at a time, and alternate to avoid overstimulation. If you are using your mouth, blow and breathe across the nipples. Add a lick of saliva for wetness first, then blow, which will offer a cool, titillating breezy feeling. Nipple stimulating creams like the Nip Zip Ice Balm cause the same pleasurable cooling effect. Don’t be afraid to get sloppy! French kiss, lick, and suck with your mouth. Slither your tongue quickly back and forth. Wiggle your tongue quickly like a snake. Give ‘em sloppy puppy kisses! Or faintly glide over the nipples using saliva or a dab of lube. With your fingers, start with a light, gentle touch. Run the palms of your hands up and down the nipple, and circle around on the areola. The simple Nöje Wand vibrator is a must-have for buzzing stimulation on nipples—or all over the body. You can pinpoint stimulation by squeezing in mini pulses, rolling the nipple back and forth gently between the fingers, tugging, or tapping. If you like it rough, try spanking or flogging nipples. The Heart Beat Crop is great for precise tapping and slapping, and can be used for gentle or rough nipple play.

It may be tempting to jump to penetration, but be patient and communicate! This is the key to achieving an orgasm through nipple arousal. Once you determine the techniques that turn you on the most, stick with them, and let the nipple orgasms roll on in.

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Even though Henry Kissinger was not referencing BDSM when he stated, “power is the ultimate aphrodisiac”, he was onto something. The exchange of power is a primary pillar of BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission) and truth be told, experiencing a rush of power as the Dominant or submissive partner can be intoxicating. A misconception about BDSM or kinky sex is that pain is required. This is not true; erotic power exchange simply involves one partner handing over control to the other in a meaningful way.

A classic component of bondage is impact play. This includes spanking, flogging, and even caning. Playful spanking (and other elements of BDSM) can be a gateway to a stronger bond with your lover, and incorporating a sexual fantasy into your repertoire has its rewards:

• It turns your partner on. Is there anything hotter than taking your partner’s sexual excitement into overdrive?
• The communication, trust, and care required is a vehicle to deeper emotional connection and intimacy with your lover.

Here are some basic steps to get your feet wet.

Before

Communication before, during and after any sort of power exchange or BDSM role playing is crucial. This includes establishing a safe word initially to use when either partner wants to immediately stop activity. This can be as lighthearted as the word ‘banana’ or ‘pussycat’. It is okay to change your mind at any given moment if you have reached your personal comfort threshold.

If you are in the research phase for spanking instruments, reach for something already in your home, such as a paddle hairbrush, or a wooden spoon. Note that any tool with a smaller surface area, like a crop, will create a very sharp sensation. For beginners, choosing a tool that makes a ‘thuddy’ sound as opposed to a snap, crackle, or pop will be less painful. Think a wide, fur-lined paddle, or a flogger with thick, soft straps.

During

• Position: For beginners, the traditional over-the-knee (OTK) is a classic position. However, instructing the submissive to lean against an object like a chair is just as reliable as long as the object remains sturdy.
• Placement: Keep impact confined to the peek of the butt and below. Anywhere above could put the kidneys and tailbone in jeopardy. The fleshiest part of the butt should be the bullseye. The ‘sweet spot’ is where the upper thigh meets the butt. By focusing on medium-to intense impact here, the sweet spot is close enough to the genitalia to send pleasurable aftershocks to the testicles or the vulva.
• Pace: Rapid, repeat strikes can be jarring. As the Dominant, take your time and distribute calculated strokes that allow for breathing room and suspense! The element of surprise goes hand-in-hand with spank-induced euphoria.

Aftercare

Whether you spank for pain, pleasure, or both, it will result in a rush of adrenaline and release of endorphins. Effective aftercare can range from:

• A verbal re-cap to discuss what was good, or what you may want to change next time
• Eating chocolate to replenish oxytocin
• Kisses, light strokes or a massage to promote relaxation
• Applying lotion or chilled aloe vera for cooling relief (unless you enjoy the pain and prefer to bask in the sting)

Pro tip: Always keep an open mind, and don’t knock it ‘til you spank it!

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Here comes Summer, arguably the sexiest season of the year. The sun comes out, clothes come off, we generally become happier humans. If you’re planning to pack your bags and hit the road for Summer vacation, traveling with sex toys can be nerve wracking. A few things to keep in mind if you’re traveling with toys are the size, shape, weight, noise level, and material. These travel-friendly picks hit the mark in more ways than one.

‘O’ on the Go

Quickies are a breeze with the pint-sized Womanizer Starlet in tow! The newest (and smallest) model of the famed Womanizer Deluxe features patented Pleasure Air technology. It simulates an unreal sucking sensation without directly touching the clitoris. Only have a few minutes in your room between the beach and dinner? Give this clit stimulator 60 seconds, and you will be traveling to new worlds of effortless climax.

Rabbit Season

The rabbit vibrator has evolved by leaps and bounds since its mainstream debut on Sex and the City in 1998.  These days, there is a style for everybunny! A modern example is the sleek Petite Trixie Rabbit, featuring soft, smooth curves for dual clitoral and G-spot stimulation. The fully waterproof design can be used in the bath, jacuzzi or shower, by yourself or with your lover. At 4.25” of insertable length, this rabbit vibe is great for beginners as well as those who like to pack light during their travels.

Going Incognito

The Luscious Incognito Clitoral Vibe is discreet in shape and size, resembling the shape of a lipstick when tucked in a makeup bag. This compact clit toy is whisper quiet and operated by a twist-turn handle, making it a breeze to use. It’s only turned on when you’re good and ready!

Couple’s Paradise

Don’t know how to surf? The Wave – Couple’s Orgasm Ring allows you to ride big waves of pleasure, no experience necessary! This rechargeable silicone cock ring has 7 vibration settings to match your mood. Double the fun by wearing the versatile ring upside down, which provides external prostate stimulation in addition to clit stimulation. This ring is the sexiest addition to a lover’s Summer vacay.

Two of Hearts

The compact Heart Me Vibe is perfect for a sensual massage anywhere on the body. It fits in the palm of the hand, perfect for intense, pinpointed stimulation. The 10 intense settings are controlled with a simple click, and can be revved up with ease.

The adorably powerful Heart Finger Vibe sturdily slides between two fingers, providing control and stability. The textured ripples make all-over finger fun explosive. Both of these mini vibes can roam around the clitoris, testicles or nipples—really anywhere your heart desires.

Naturally we’re afraid of judgement should someone call us out for having sex toys in public. At some point over the last 10 years, my fear of traveling with sex toys turned into confidence. I smile when my bags go through the scanner. Sex toys aren’t scary; they are liberating. Strut through the line with confidence—make them wonder what kind of fun you’ll be having this summer.

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Many relationships eventually arrive at a point where they are in need of romantic resuscitation. This is a normal place to land (and not just once), especially for long-term relationships. In new relationships, the time is ripe to be transparent about your needs, specifically those of the sexual variety. Determining your sexual needs up front will help steer clear of an uncomfortable rut and/or resentment down the line.

Communication is tricky, even if the request is seemingly simple. Many individuals feel more comfortable remaining guarded about our sexual preferences, finding it nearly impossible to muster the courage to ask, “would you use two fingers instead of one?”, or “I’d love for us to try this new position tonight.” Fear of bashing feelings, being judged and/or rejected is a powerful silencer.  With that said, how do we speak up? First, identify the root of the issue. A few examples of communication roadblocks in a relationship:

• One or more sex drives have become unaligned
• A healthy sex life exists, but there is noticeable room for improvement
• One or both partners have expressed interest in exploring pleasure products, but aren’t sure where to start

When it comes to getting from Point A to Point B, start with a strategy.

Set your intention.

This is quite possibly the most important component of the process. Take the time alone to identify the goal, and determine how you ideally want to feel at the end of the conversation. Relieved? Inspired? Connected? Consider that feeling your target during communication. While pleasure might be the short-term goal, how will the conversation benefit your big picture? Try playing out different outcomes in advance, determining how to achieve the goal, despite possible tensions arising. Find relevant resources to help you feel comfortable talking about the subject; including online articles, adult videos, or consulting with a professional or some friends beforehand.

Location, location, location.

Establishing a neutral, safe environment is key for setting the energetic tone of any conversation. Also, initiating a discussion during or immediately after sex may not be ideal, as you risk the chance of catching each other off-guard or spoiling the moment. Go for a weekend walk in a new neighborhood (that may also conveniently have a sex toy shop on the block), or revisit the place you had your first date. Fun fact: Nostalgia makes us feel happier and more optimistic!

If it feels good, do it.

Don’t be afraid to speak up (from the heart, with confidence) if you are feeling particularly connected to your partner. Does it feel good to slowly (and consensually) guide your partner’s hand to uncharted territory on your body? What other physical cues will allow you to express yourself in the moment? Consciously connecting with your own body during sex promotes healthy sexual expression and ultimately, feeling liberated from the shame and stigma that is still attached to the idea of sex. You have the choice to create a positive and supportive interaction with your partner. Alternatively, you can be dismissive and uninterested. What do you choose?

ABC: Always Be Complimentary.

Any conversation should focus on the journey you are on together, rather than what may be lacking. Avoid the blame game! Compassion and consideration will make or break the way you listen to and understand each other—no matter how far out the idea is. If you are looking for an excuse to bring home a newcomer’s sex toy, attend a sex toy party with friends and invest in something unassuming, like a small bullet vibrator. (“Can I try some vibration on you to make you come harder tonight?”) If you cannot find a middle ground, how can you compromise? For example, if one partner wants to try anal sex but the other is unwilling or hesitant, compromise on watching an adult video together that features anal play. That way, both partners achieve a happy medium—together. (This tip is straight outta Dr. Sadie Allison’s book, Tickle His Pickle!) Lastly, try creating a master list of sexual interests that you both may or may not be interested in. Examples: Visiting a sex toy store, nipple play, spicing up your foreplay, anal sex, cock rings, shower sex, crossdressing, outdoor sex, visiting a fetish club, threesomes, etc. On two separate pieces of paper (one for each of you), make 3 columns titled: YES!,  MAYBE…., and NOPE. List all interests in the column that resonate with you most, and when you are finished, compare lists. This is a constructive and quick way to match up your interests at any point in a relationship.

Prioritize your pleasure. Have the hard conversations. The happiness will follow.

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If you’re old school like me, and you enjoy the physical feeling of holding an actual book (or a penis) in your hands, then you’re about to score a 2-for-1 special! I was so excited to crack this pocket-sized book open and flip through the eye candy that decorated each page. Upon first glance, the pocket sized Tickle His Pickle appeared as an instructional guide with a bit of a graphic novel vibe.  By page 6, I was hooked, and we had only just begun to hit the tip of the surface.

In the beginning, Dr. Sadie sheds a comforting light on some common intimacy inhibitors, such as overcoming hesitations about your partner’s scent or taste. These topics are portrayed as a cue to uplevel your love life by experimenting with new positions or pleasure products—just do it! One point that resonated with me the most is so simple, so accurate, and yet so overlooked at times—“Good communication starts at the lips.” Bless you, Dr. Sadie! Solid communication is THE foundation of a more intimate and exciting experience with any partner. We all deserve to feel good—and heard! I appreciate the fact that she addresses this before getting the sausage party started (in the book and otherwise).

As we all know, communication can be complicated—even if you are completely comfortable in a relationship. Not sure how to start communicating on a deeper level with your significant other? She suggests using the book itself as a suggestive stepping stone by leaving it somewhere your partner can see it. Depending on the reaction you receive—whether excited, or none at all, you will have a better idea of how to gauge the rest of the conversation.

Physical anatomy is also covered, starting with the sexual response cycle and the most ‘potent parts’ to incorporate during a romantic romp. Spoiler alert: they aren’t sexual organs. They are our eyes and ears! At this time, “Aural Aphrodisiacs” are explained, with Dr. Sadie stating ‘honesty is your best aphrodisiac’. This is such an understated approach to trying sexy talk without feeling cheesy or self-conscious. Focus on how your body is reacting to stimulation by calling it as you feel it, in a way that feels true to you.

One section of the book illustrates the contrasts in our sexual desires, and tips on accepting them. If your partner is turned on by anal play and you aren’t there yet, indulge them by watching an adult video that features anal sex. We participate in different types of negotiation on a regular day-to-day basis with all sorts of people including clients, children, and customers. Our sexual partners are no different.

The book pushes way past how to please the cock and balls, chock full of insightful details on everything from shaving to lubrication, and how to shop for it. (You don’t have to look very far—Dr. Sadie has her own line of female formulated lubricants, Slippery Kitty! Seriously, her intellectual limits know no bounds.)

My favorite part of the book was the prostate play section, a topic that can be tricky to navigate. Dr. Sadie recommends using medical role play as a vehicle to prostate exploration. The only reason I finally put this book down (vs. immediately reading it a second time) is because I was SO ready to put my new tips to work that I hauled ass to the lingerie store to purchase a hot nurse costume!

As a sex educator, I’d like to think I can be a pretty well-seasoned meat handler, but Dr. Sadie is on another level. Not only does the book provide accessible tips for all levels of penis lovers, but it is accompanied by the Tickle His Pickle Pleasure Kit, too! Tickle His Pickle is a prime example of Dr. Sadie Allison’s fine-tuned expertise, and as Adam Corolla likes to say, she truly is a penis genius.

Overall: Gripping

Grade: A!

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What if I told you that the holy grail of orgasms has nothing to do with an intricate sex position, a magic pill, or even a partner? This ‘secret’ is a technique called edging, otherwise known as orgasm control. Anyone of any experience level can incorporate edging into their arsenal of bedroom tricks. Additionally, you may hear it being referred to as ‘surfing’ or ‘peaking’. This pleasure practice focuses on delaying climax one or more times during intercourse or masturbation, stoking a slow, intentional fire that will result in an orgasmic explosion like no other.

Think of the amplified feeling of gratification that happens the moment you finally achieve a sneeze, after losing it several times beforehand. The first climax after partaking in edging is much like that coveted sneeze, if you can imagine it being relocated to an erogenous zone. Just like a delayed sneeze, the more times you ‘lose’, or delay your orgasm, the more powerful it becomes.

Bringing yourself to the brink of climax is not for everyone; the 60 second orgasm may be your cup of tea, and that is a wonderful thing! Overall, the purpose is to tantalize, not to torment. Successful edging, which requires equal parts patience and self-control, serves a valuable purpose when it comes to harnessing sexual energy.

Benefits:

• Deeper, more intuitive understanding of your and/or your lover’s body, knowing when that moment of ecstacy will happen, and how to control it
• A great introduction to BDSM. Edging is a common form of power exchange, as an exhibition of power and control on behalf of the Dominant partner. Imposing restraint is a staple for maintaining control over your partner
• Results in increased stamina for both men and women
• Excellent natural option for male ejaculation control

Challenges:

• Inadvertently going over the edge while skirting the line of sweet release during solo play
• Learning to know your partner’s physical signs and cues, including breathing, body movements, and physical reactions
• Throwing in the towel because orgasms are, um, awesome. Why wait?

Tips & techniques:

• Master it by yourself first. Practice makes perfect! Work your way up to 20-25 minutes at a time
• Alternate sex toys, finger fun, and sensory play. On a male partner, a masturbation sleeve is a great toy to bring into the mix
• Press pause: Get your juices flowing and ramp up arousal with yourself or your partner.  Identify the moment that you are close to climax, and STOP for a few seconds. Go back to the beginning with less pinpointed pressure, targeting everything but the bullseye (Looking at you, clitoris!) Rinse and repeat at least one more time; enjoy!
• Distraction: If you are experimenting solo, alternate your favorite toy with your fingers when you feel yourself about to burst
• Get creative! You are not limited to just foreplay here. The fun part about edging is that it can be a grab bag of whatever stimulation you prefer—whether you incorporate penetration or not

If you are new to edging, don’t get discouraged! It may take a few weeks or a couple months until you’ve perfected your technique. Like anything worth waiting for, patience is a virtue, young grasshopper.

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