Us kids of the 90’s lived without Internet. It didn’t exactly suck because we had no clue what we were missing. But as a result, we were forced to use exceedingly desperate measures to get our porn fix. In fact, when I think back to my childhood, a lot of the misadventures us neighborhood kids found ourselves in revolved around the noble quest of seeing boobs. Those reading this article who grew up in the 90s might have a smirk on their faces remembering their own zany escapades. For those of you who didn’t grow up in the era of side-scrolling video games and Pogs, here’s how we got by…

1. Communal porn stashes

In my neighborhood, there was a majestic tree that all the kids knew about. It was a lot like the tree in To Kill A Mockingbird, but instead of finding soap carvings and bubblegum, we would discover Playboys. And let me tell you, we fought hard to stock that tree. The things we did to acquire those porn magazines went above, and beyond the effort we put into homework. More on that later.

2. Creativity

To a 90s kid, almost anything could be porn. Lingerie catalogs. Music videos on MTV. National Geographic magazines. Fashion shows where the models didn’t wear bras, so you got to see their boobies bounce up and down and—if you were lucky—catch a glimpse of some wandering nipple. Commercials.

3. Friends with Internet

Okay, so we did have Internet. But not many people had it, it was painfully slow, and the porn options were super scarce. It would take many years for the Internet to be blessed with the infinite material to appease every possible sexual appetite it possesses today.

4. Staying up past our bedtime

There were these channels that would play movies with softcore porn in them, and it was everything. But they would only play these movies on weekends after midnight, so you had to be super covert about it. If things lined up right and your parents went to bed early, you would sneak downstairs to the family television (back then the average television per household was two. One was usually in your parent’s bedroom, and the other was always in the family room). Then you would have to quickly turn the volume to zero before it woke everyone up (if you were extra clever, you would lower the volume beforehand), and then you would hope your parents didn’t catch you.

I remember doing this just to admire the female form. I didn’t really know what masturbating was, so I would just sit there in awe, with my hand on the power knob (of the television! Some of our TVs still had knobs and dials back then). Then I would enjoy all the fun hormones flowing through me. I was such a little weirdo.

5. Keeping track of which movies had boobs in them

Before Mr. Skin came out in 1999, we had no way of knowing which films had nudity in them. Of course, you wouldn’t be able to rent these movies yourself, anyway. You would have to come across these sultry scenes during family movie night. Only after suffering the cringe-worthy nightmare of sexuality exploding on screen with your parents in the same room, would you know where the skin was exposed.

From there, it was kind of an elaborate system. If you were lucky enough to get access to the movie before it was returned to Blockbuster and your parents were either sleeping or doing some gardening or whatever, you would fast forward the video to the good stuff—if your parents were kind, and they rewound the tape. Then you would watch that blissful scene a few times and then rewind it again. Of course, then you would brag to all your friends which movie and when the sighting occurred. I could more accurately list which films from the 90s had nudity in them than list US presidents.

6. Distracting the convenience store clerk

This was a two-person job. One had to distract the clerk, while the other peak at the dirty mags on the top shelf of the magazine rack. This was the signature move of two of my childhood best friends. Except these two clowns eventually used this plot to steal the magazines. In fact, that’s how our porno tree was stocked. Their operation went smoothly until one day the clerk chased my friend outside the store, and his clumsy ass fell over when he tried to hop on his getaway bike.

7. Our dad’s porno mags

We all had that one friend who knew where his dad kept his entire porn magazine stash. Some of these stockpiles were absolute goldmines. I’m talking decades of naked women. From bush to landing strips to Brazilians.

8. Our imagination

I totally forgot we did this! I was reminded while writing a separate point. There was actually a time where we used our imaginations to think about sexy thoughts. Just like our grandparents did before television or nudie mags. We would recall particular things we witnessed during the day—perhaps we saw a girl at the waterpark who made the opportune choice of wearing a white t-shirt, or we walked behind a lady who was walking up the stairs wearing a skirt—and then we would just think about that. A lot of women still do this today during intimate solo times, but men nowadays? There’s a neverending selection of porno which is always available on the tiny device we keep in our pocket. Why would we EVER use our imagination?

After writing this article, I’ve come to realize something… We had it really good growing up in the 90s. Porn was a cherished and sacred thing. It was scarce. More forbidden and naughty. You got whatever porn you got, and you were thrilled with it. There was no critically scrolling through the relentless options, further propelling a culture of never being satisfied and always wanting something new or different.

I’ll never forget that awkward lust. The adrenaline rush of trying not to get caught. That desperate hunt for the next porn fix. We had to be creative and cunning back then. And to me, that made porn all the more exciting.

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The birds and the bees aren’t what they used to be! In a lighting-fast internet culture of easily accessible porn, increasing peer pressure, and misinformed abstinence-only sex education, it’s hard to know where to begin when preparing your kids for a safe, healthy sexual future.

Though some parents have that coveted, BFF-level relationship with their kids, not every family has it so easy. Kids naturally become more aloof and distanced from their parents as they reach adolescence, so it’s important to start the sex talk while they’re young and build their trust in you as a guiding adult. You don’t have to hide their eyes from every movie sex scene or snoop through their online history. Start your kids’ sex education with a foundation in honest, candid information, and they’ll have the decision-making smarts to pick healthy choices as they mature into sexual beings.

Anatomy Lessons

Previous generations often equated anatomy with sexuality. Hence, a lot of girls thought they could get pregnant from kissing, but assumed the pulling-out method was effective birth control. Don’t feel shy when they start to ask about the vagina and vulva or penis and testicles. Start with the basics, and see where the kids steer the conversation. They might know more than you’d expect, or they might be more concerned with imaginary friends and toys, in which case they’re telling you to wait for a better moment to explain how babies are made. In either case, a basic, age-appropriate anatomy book is a good way to test the waters. Let them page through it alone, and then pick it up together to see what connections they’ve drawn. Encourage questions, and never let them leave the conversation confused.

Knowledge Equality

Schools are fond of separating girls and boys for respective talks on menstruation and spontaneous erections. It’s understandable that children might not feel comfortable learning about sensitive topics with the opposite sex in the room. However, make sure they get the other half of the puberty lesson at home. It’s important for boys to understand periods, and for girls to understand the hormonal changes in their male classmates. Let them know that everyone their age will experience these changes as they get older, and that it’s a time to extend empathy and camaraderie to their peers instead of teasing and laughter. Periods and boners are normal, and it’s about time we raised a generation of kids that understood that from the start.

Safer Sex, Safer Teens

Since when has denying teens access to birth control or condoms convinced them not to have sex? Ask your parents and, with a sigh, they’ll probably reply, “never.” If your kids are on the brink of puberty, educate them on safe sex and allow them ample access to various forms of birth control. Make sure they know you’re available for advice without fear of punishment or shame. Explain the physical and emotional commitments required for sex without trying to scare them away with moral judgements. Talk about the importance of consent and caring for your partner’s well-being. Equip teens with the facts, but don’t try to stop them from having sex by grounding them from the weekend party. They’ll just find a way to sneak out later, and they certainly won’t ask your advice on being safe. Giving teens the chance to make their own right decisions instills confidence and foresight into their actions.

Lead with Honesty and Heart

We know, parents—there is no instruction manual for raising kids, and every child needs an educational experience that is tailored to their personality and learning style. No matter what topic you’re discussing, always be honest and show your kids that you’re teaching from the heart. It can sometimes be embarrassing or even intimidating to reveal the truths of human sexuality to impressionable young minds, especially when they’re your own. When you’re unafraid to bare your soul and approach everything from a place of love, kids pick up on that. Even if they don’t always say it, they’ll gain a newfound respect for their parent as a wise, guiding sage, and will forever seek to maintain your trust.

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Teenagers are masters of rebellion, especially when it comes to sex. Their hormones are in high gear and their fear of cooties has newly faded. It’s easy to chalk up their obsession with sexual behavior to peer influence or a typical teenage phase, but the real cause is often difficult to recognize and even harder to admit for some parents. Truthfully speaking, sometimes it might be you, Mom or Dad.

Though Millennials are the start of a huge change in attitudes toward sex, some outdated morals still remain from the less-than-golden years of our own parents’ misguided sex education. An abstinence-only approach is still prevalent in many schools and homes despite evidence that reveals its worthlessness. Even more disturbing, much of what is taught isn’t even medically accurate and is used as a scare tactic on young, impressionable minds.

When parents or teachers paint sex and everything that comes with it, like porn, sex toys, and contraception, as taboo and forbidden, sexuality becomes a wildly misled conquest instead of a gradually introduced natural part of life. Though raising kids has parents on their last nerve for myriad reasons, there actually is a way to navigate those hectic teenage years so you can turn curious kids and teens into sexually stable adults. Here are five ways you can help lead the way.

Stop Slut-Shaming

Before a parent even delves into the topic of taking off one’s clothes, it’s important to stop the shame for what people choose to wear. There is, of course, a way to dress to earn sexual attention, but kids need to learn they can never pre-judge a person’s intentions or personal views based on their outfit. It’s also good to point out that when a person reaches the age of consent, it’s perfectly OK to dress sexy, and this shouldn’t warrant cat-calling or otherwise abusive language from others. However someone wants to dress, they should be respected for how they treat the people and world around them. Kids will encounter enough teasing and bullying as they work their way into adulthood. Teach them to always rise above negativity and baseless put-downs.

Break the Taboos

It doesn’t matter whether the topic at hand is sex or a new puppy for Christmas. When you make something off-limits or taboo to kids and teens, their need and curiosity for it strengthens a thousandfold. If a family pet just isn’t into the cards considering the family budget or work schedules, most parents won’t think twice about explaining this to kids in an honest fashion. This is exactly how sexual topics should be approached. Certain questions might be more harrowing to answer than others, but it’s important to always tell the truth. On top of the potentially dangerous consequences of offering false information, kids can usually tell when you’re lying and will seek out the answer elsewhere. Would you rather teach your child about the nuances of pornography, or should they be compelled to look it up online while unsupervised at a friend’s house? Show your kids that no topic is off-limits and that they can always get a reliable, judgment-free answer from people they can trust.

Teach that Sex is Primarily About Pleasure

One of the most confusing and naive things you can explain to a kid or teen is that sex is mostly about making babies. Sure, that’s the biological function of sex, but the role it plays in our relationships and overall wellness is much broader than that. Orgasm is largely what drives humans to consider procreation in the first place, and sex isn’t the only way to get it, especially if you don’t feel ready.

Masturbation should always be encouraged in a private setting and can almost never become a negative sexual outlet for teens. Self-pleasure is a teens’ first experience with the meaning and motivation behind sex. It also breaks down the stigmas imposed upon our bodies by the media and teaches us that we’re capable of sexual happiness all by ourselves. Without inducing too much blushing, and if they’re at an appropriate age, direct kids to simple vibrators or masturbators, or sneak a surprise beginner sex toy into their bedside drawer. It might sound awkward, but they’ll thank you later.

Talk About Having Responsible Sex

Birth control and STI protection are of equal importance, but teens need to clearly understand the difference between preventing pregnancy and preventing infection. Keeping teens from accessing either method has never stopped them from having sex. Creating taboos will only increase their curiosity for the wrong reasons. Teach them that seeking pleasure with a partner is healthy and normal, but it takes the right tools and emotional intelligence to do so without hurting themselves or their peers. Explain the different options in birth control and STI barriers for all sexual preferences and gender identities. Partner sex is a big responsibility, and consent and emotions play just as large a role as physical consequences. Both mind and body require proper care before, during, and after sex regardless of age or experience.

Lead with Honesty and Heart

We know, parents – there is no instruction manual for raising kids, and every child needs an educational experience that is tailored to their personality and learning style. No matter what topic you’re discussing, always be honest and show your kids that you’re teaching from the heart. It can sometimes be embarrassing or even intimidating to reveal the truths of human sexuality to impressionable young minds, especially when they’re your own. When you’re unafraid to bear your soul and approach everything from a place of love, kids pick up on that. Even if they don’t always say it, they’ll gain a new-found respect for their parent as a wise, guiding sage, and will forever seek to maintain your trust.

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I was woefully unprepared for life as a young woman. My parents never had the “talk” with me; I barely remember my mother talking to me about menstruation. It’s not all that surprising that I didn’t hesitate when it came to losing my virginity. I was 15 and crazy about a sophomore lacrosse player named Andy. When he offered to tutor me in French, I finagled a session at my house while my parents were out.  Before we made any headway on French agreement with compound verbs, I was face down on our basement sofa giving head. Then he suggested we go all the way. I may have paused for a minute, but he had a condom handy. I obliged, felt a few thrusts of piercing pain and it was all over before I could give it much thought. The condom broke. I panicked, silently pleading not to get pregnant. I don’t think he noticed.

A month and a missed period later, I phoned a close friend to confess my fear.  My mother eavesdropped on the call and confronted me, screaming what a slut I was and grounded me. My father thought I was the victim of rape. Neither would accept that it was a consensual act, nor did it spark any conversation about sex. This was all my fault and my actions made me damaged goods. The slut-shaming did not end there. News of my popped cherry spread throughout my high school. For many weeks, I walked the halls in a haze of shame and judging stares.

For most people, sexual repression stems from three sources – culture, family or religion. We’re told it’s not something “nice girls do.” In hindsight, I gave the messages I received growing up way too much power over how I perceived myself. Even when I began to embrace and explore my sexuality, it took years to move beyond the shame and reverse my sex miseducation. Here are some lessons I learned on that journey:

It’s OK to have sexual desires.

As long as you’re safe, consensual, respecting boundaries and not breaking the law, there’s nothing wrong in how you feel or what you’re doing. It’s OK to crave pleasure and cultivate a healthy relationship with your sexuality. If you don’t have sexual desires, that’s fine too. Repeat after me: Sex is not a bad thing.

Masturbation is not bad.

Eventually, I bought my first vibrator, which got me off faster than Johnny Gill’s “Rub You the Right Way” (aptly a top hit at the time). Knowing I could pleasure myself—on my terms, without contracting an STI or getting knocked up—was a powerful tool as I explored my sexuality. Nowadays, there’s no faster way for me to find calm than through self-induced climax. Like brushing my teeth, I masturbate daily (if not more). As a result, I know my body better and all the mind-blowing magic it’s capable of.

Sex toys can only make your sex life better.

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There’s no right or wrong way to own your sexuality.

Growing up, I was spoon-fed your standard issue, “Be heterosexual, get married and practice monogamy” storyline. I’ve never fit into such norms. Since I was a teen, I’ve been attracted to both men and women. I’ve grappled with monogamy. I’ve experimented. My every day sex life ebbs and flows and is ever-changing. What works for me today may change tomorrow and I’m open to those possibilities and rule very little out. Although everyone has an opinion on the topic, there’s no sweet and convenient Little Black Dress approach to owning your sexuality.

There’s more to orgasming that penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex.

As much as I love penetrative pussy sex, this masculine achievement is not the be-all-and-end-all to my orgasm. Most women need some kind of clitoral stimulation in addition to penetration to orgasm. Plus, there are countless other creative ways to pleasure a partner. I’m tired of both sexes believing that PIV sex is the holy grail of female orgasm. There’s more to my orgasm than harder, faster, longer. Think steady finger banging while I rub my clit or a tongue that knows its way around.

It’s not all about the orgasm.

There is so much pressure put on the orgasm. Sure, it may be the pinnacle of pleasure for some, but sex doesn’t need to be so goal oriented. Not to get all lame cliché, but sex really is all about the journey and not the destination.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions.

As we move through life, we are constantly figuring out our values, being challenged and forming our thoughts and opinions as they pertain to sex. Communicate with your partner(s), ask questions. No matter how much you think you know, there’s always more to learn. Be sure to check in with your partner from time to time. Talks about sex are not a one-and-done rodeo. We’re always evolving.

The bottom line? Sex isn’t something to be ashamed of. All of the negative messaging we get surrounding sex doesn’t stop people from having it. If anyone makes you feel less than for exploring your sexual best, screw them (but not literally.) You deserve to have the safest, most self-aware and satisfying sex imaginable. Period.

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