Have you been acting more like an old married couple than two lovers in lust lately? Remember when you were that couple? You know what I’m talking about; the twosome who held up the drink line at the bar because you won’t stop making out; the pair constantly making googly eyes over brunch; the duo whose friends joked invented PDA because you couldn’t keep your hands off each other for a minute.

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It IS possible!

For more than two decades I’ve been a daily Magic Wand devotee. But the Womanizer Next rocked my world. Instead of providing super-strong direct clitoral stimulation, like the Magic Wand, The Womanizer uses PleasureAir technology to tease the almighty clit via gentle vibration and suction.

I’ve been around the sex toy block and there’s nothing on the market remotely like this orgasm-inducing beauty.

The Womanizer Next arrives in an elegant box, perfect for gift giving. Compared to a lot of plastic  wrapped sex toys, it’s a classy presentation. Once opened, it can be stored discreetly in its accompanying black satin bag. It doesn’t look at all like a traditional vibrator—and at first glance, you may not know what to make of it, but boy does it deliver.

Orgasm is a reflex and some women need more time than others to ramp up arousal. That’s a-OK. But if you’re looking to step up your response time – whether oral sex, intercourse or masturbation is next on the agenda – give this a shot. Although full disclaimer: I’m not advocating for women to put a stop clock on their pleasure. I’m all for women taking all the time they want and need to achieve pleasure – whether orgasm is the end game or not. (Sex should never be a race and the Big O doesn’t have to be the finish line.)

But the Womanizer can help get you from Point A to Point B faster than any toy I’ve ever tried. And I’ve tried A LOT of them.

For starters, the toy is extremely easy to use. Push the button to turn it on and off, then adjust between eight levels of intensity. (I tend to stick to the first four settings.) Depending upon the size of your clit, there are two clitoral stimulator silicone heads to choose from. You can also purchase replacements separately. The Womanizer Next runs with a USB rechargeable cord, so you never have to worry about replacing batteries – always a plus for those of us who have a well-stocked toy drawer.

I use the Womanizer Next for speedy solo sex experiences, as well as to also get warmed up for other sexual adventures. It’s much quieter than most of my vibrators, which makes it less intimidating to introduce into partner sex scenarios. Nothing kills a sexy mood faster for me than obnoxiously loud toys. “Oh, hey there! Want to play with my pussy and this phallic shaped jackhammer?” Umm, nope.

I typically enjoy giving oral sex more than receiving it and have a hard time climaxing from cunnilingus alone.

However, a quick stint with the Womanizer Next will get me to a point where I can actually come from oral alone. Go figure.

Another scenario: Sometimes, a gal needs to get off – pronto. When I’m stressed, there’s no faster way for me to relax than to masturbate. Orgasms release the happy-inducing hormone oxytocin, which has been shown to relieve tension, and the Womanizer Next often produces fast, multiple orgasms. See, it’s good for you!

For menopausal woman, it’s a godsend.

A recent study, the Treatment of Orgasmic Difficulty in Perimenopausal, Menopausal and Post-Menopausal Women, found that The Womanizer Next may be exactly what women need. Even though the study involved a small sample, every single woman in the study, as in 98 percent, had an orgasm while using The Womanizer Next, and 50% of them in less than 60 seconds. Wow.

Sure, how easily orgasmic a woman is to begin with plays into the equation – how turned on she is when stimulation starts or whether stimulation is optimized to provoke orgasm in the first place. But believe it or not, this technological wonder makes lightning fast orgasms a reality. As in your kitty will purr in one minute or less. I’m not making this up.

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You may already know this, but chances are, your girl uses a sex toy (or several). Pretty dang hot to think about, right? And although she’ll always enjoy using them alone as an essential and healthy part of her sexual release and discovery, she’d probably love to have you join.

Sex toys are super efficient and amazing and will probably take over the world one day. But they lack in one crucial area: emotion (for now). My friend, that’s where you come in. Along with your undoubtedly magical body, you bring laughter, affection, and unforgettable memories the two of you will never be able to stop talking about. If that wasn’t enough, here are five reasons sex toys will lead you to better and more frequent sex.

1. It exudes selflessness

Some fellas have it in their head that using sex toys is cheating as if sex was some kind of game fueled by the ego. Without getting too poetic on you, sex is so much more than that.

Therefore, the man who can check his ego and enhance bedroom activities for the selfless reason of improving his lover’s experience is the same man who will not only be considered an ideal lover but also receive admiration and reciprocity sevenfold.

2. It helps you, like, get to know yourself, man

It’s all about self-discovery, man. So spark a joint, put on some smooth jazz or that other stuff you’re into, maybe light a few candles… Sex toys will help you map out your body, unleashing the unique and surprising things that make you feel really good. You’ll be all like, “Whoa! Hey now, what the heck was that? I kind of like that.” Then, you can take your newfound body awareness to your lover, so she knows exactly what you like. This will make you a more confident lover (which is one of the hottest things a girl could ever want in the bedroom).

3. It’ll help you last longer

When you practice alone with a self-masturbater like the Hummer, which is as close as it gets to the real thing, it will feel awesome, while helping you build up your sexual stamina for your next encounter with a real-life woman.

And when you use a penis ring with your lover, it can help you go the distance in two ways. First, when applied around the base of your penis and testicles, it can effectively prolong ejaculation via the “squeeze technique.” Secondly, it will trap blood in your penis, so if you have trouble maintaining an erection for an extended time, cock rings will help your erection compete with your appetite (and your cardio). The Tammy Couple’s Ring is the perfect choice because it will help you last longer, while making her come quicker, so you can hopefully orgasm at the very same time.

4. It leads to more orgasms

Sexual pleasure, in its many forms, could not be as accessible as it is today without sex toys. Whether you’re physically disabled, single, or have trouble climaxing, sex toys will ensure you don’t miss out on all the fun.

There are even sex toys if you’re in a long distance relationship. The Moxie gives all the power to the person with the remote, so even if your lover is across the globe, you can still give her orgasms.

5. It will enhance her experience

Guys, you’ve probably already noticed this because you’re totally on it, but many women have trouble climaxing if the clitoris is neglected. It’s biology. So what humanity did was create toys for the clitoris like vibrating wands and clitoral suction toys and vibrating cock rings to more effectively give the attention her clitoris deserves while you’re able to focus on your penetration game. This combination of pleasure will drive her wild, and possibly more so than any other item on this list, make the sex better and more frequent.

Even after reading the points above, some may think introducing sex toys in the bedroom will only benefit her. But who do you think benefits the most when she benefits from something in her life? First her cat, and then… YOU. That’s right, man. If you’re ready for your life (especially your sex life) to reach new levels of greatness, I highly recommend surprising your girl with a new toy.

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So you really like this girl, huh? Then this is no time to be lazy when planning a date that will not only impress her, but increase the likelihood of things really going your way. Whether this a first date, you’re still in the getting-to-know-you stage, or you just want to take your game up a notch, here are seven date ideas so hot they’re almost like foreplay.

1. Drive-In Movies

There are fewer drive-ins around than, say, when your parents or grandparents were young, but they’re still out there—and for good reason; there’s not much movie-watching going on. It’s way more fun than your typical megaplex. I mean, what could be better than a movie in the privacy of your car? The movie might not be all that good, but at least you’re free to talk without disturbing anyone around you. And there’s just something about that intimate setting that always leads to making out, or perhaps even more? But before you get to that, it’s not a bad idea to flex your creative prowess by hiding snacks in the various nooks and crannies of your car. Just don’t hide anything perishable in case you get squirrel-like amnesia.

2. Where Everybody Knows Your Name

I hesitate to put bar hopping on this list, as it’s not the most creative date idea. But there’s an opportunity for both of you to put a little twist on it: Take one another to your favorite watering holes. Even if we’re talking about a neighborhood dive bar, it’s always a good move to take her to a place where people know you (which, of course, doesn’t have to be a bar). It’ll put her at ease, and the atmosphere will tell her a little something about you, hopefully making her even more curious. Then, let her take you to her favorite spot. By now, you may have a little social lubricant in you, and have plenty to talk about.

3. Anything With Animals

I hope this isn’t news to you, but chicks dig animals. Don’t act like you’ve never noticed dog-walking is a great way to meet girls. Furthermore, don’t act like you’ve never considered adopting a dog to meet girls. Now that you’ve already met her, melt her heart by taking her somewhere she’ll be up to her ears with those adorable little panty droppers. A zoo is OK, but make sure there are hands-on experiences available. Otherwise, a shelter could be a fun little date that’ll show her your sensitive side, especially if you’re good with animals.

Protip: If you’re an experienced rider, she would love to go horseback riding. If there’s anything girls have adored their entire lives besides mermaids and unicorns, it’s horses.

4. In-Town Tourism

Every city has at least one place it’s known for—a place tourists visit while locals roll their eyes. But maybe there’s one in town that neither of you has ever been to in all your years there. While it may not sound all that exciting, this works on many levels. First, it puts you on even ground, in that it’s new to both of you. Second, it’ll actually be fun. Whether it’s a cultural institution, a sporting event, or whatever, there’s always something there to fill any lapses in conversation, and may even share some laughs at the expense of other tourists.

5. Brunch

This is an amazing outside-the-box date that’ll let her know you’re not stuck in the Netflix-and chill rut, and that you’re more imaginative than resorting to the typical dinner-and-a-movie fare. It also sends a signal that, being morning and all, you’re not expecting to bring her home with you, even if that’s secretly your intent. Some great food and late-morning drinks can be a perfect start to a date she’ll want to continue into the afternoon and beyond, so keep it going by following up brunch with another tip from our list.

6. Dancing

I’m certainly aware it’s not for all of us, but most ladies love to dance. If you can get by without making a fool of yourself (you actually know how to dance, for instance), this is a really great, even sensual, activity that will get the blood pumping and your bodies touching. And a couple drinks aren’t going to hurt in terms of lowering inhibitions for you both. Because clubs tend to be loud, make sure your time together also includes a quieter place to talk. Going for a walk is always a good addition to any date.

7. Wine Tasting

Independent wineries seem to have sprung up everywhere, so there’s probably one near you. If not, there are plenty of bars and restaurants that host tastings. This is a great afternoon start to a date that could last long into the night. Be sure to start with a tasting where you can sample the winery’s wares. It’s an opportunity to try one another’s selections and find out which ones you like. Then you should each get a full glass of your favorite and venture outside, where you’re bound to find some live music, food, and an opportunity to walk the vineyard and talk.

This type of date shows her you’re at least slightly cultured, while providing plenty to occupy you both in the event awkward silences sneak up between good conversation. And, typically being an afternoon activity, it naturally leads to, “What should we do next?” Plus, just saying, but a 2009 study in Italy suggested that moderate imbibing of red wine resulted in higher scores related to “sexual desire, lubrication, and overall sexual function” in women. So, there’s that.

In conclusion, you might want to consider bringing along a condom or two because these dates are pretty much foreplay. I mean, playing with puppies? A drive-in movie? Fella, you’re going to want to prepare yourself. While you’re at it, order some lubricant as well to make sure it all goes smoothly when things (inevitably) escalate. Hope you two have a magical time!

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1. Lover’s Foreplay Dice Game

2. Crystal Chain Nipple Clamps

3. Stretchy Couple’s Vibrating Climax Ring

4. Manta Men’s Vibrating Stroker

5. Clone-A-Willy

6. Flash Star Erotic Pasties

7. Pump Up The Love – Couple’s Suction Kit

8. Stay Hard Adjustable Loop Ring

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Be prepared

Brave the unknown

Be shameless

Focus on her

Be confident, but not too confident

Whip out a sex toy

Take control

Introduce a new position

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Butt stuff remains one of the most divisive sexual acts. Those who love it, really love it. And those who don’t, really don’t. But you’ll never know what category you fall into unless you try it for yourself. Not only do you need to be lubed up (independently with lube since your butthole doesn’t self-lubricate like a vagina), but you’ve also got to relax your butthole muscles for the best experience. We know ass play can be intimidating to a newbie, but there’s no reason to go into it unprepared. If you take your time with anal foreplay (fingering and rimming), your odds of enjoying it are a lot better. Here, several sexperts break down their best anal foreplay tips for beginners.

1. Get a water-based lube. Dr. Jill McDevitt, sexologist, says to secure a quality water-based lube ahead of time. This’ll make rubbing and massaging even better. Even if your foreplay doesn’t involve penetration for now, lube makes everything better and can increase sensitivity.

2. Get some toys in there. Dr. Jill also recommends trying a vibrating anal toy with a broad head. “Simply place the head against the anal opening but don’t insert, or glide the toy in a circle around the opening. External anal vibrations adds completely new sensations. Alternate between the vibe and your finger to really tease.”

3. Pay attention to the buttcheeks too! Just because your ultimate goal is the butthole, doesn’t mean you should totally ghost your partner’s buttcheeks. Dr. Sadie Allison, founder of TickleKitty.com and Author of Tickle My Tush: Mild-to-Wild Analplay Adventures for Every Booty recommends starting off with a sensual booty massage. Using lube, “place your thumbs in the creases where the legs meet the butt cheeks and glide your thumbs along the crease from the inner thigh area to the outer side. Lift and repeat. Then, put your palms together in ‘prayer position’, placing them on their tailbone and gliding up and down their buttcrack. “

4. It shouldn’t hurt. This is where lube comes in. It should basically just feel like you might need to poop. You don’t! (I hope you don’t.) “Relax your muscles, and breathe,” advises Dr. Emily Morse, sexologist. “Use a lot of water-based lubricant.”

5. Try it on your own first. You know how it’s basically impossible to tickle yourself? This isn’t the same, but trying anal foreplay out on your own is informed by a similar mindset. You won’t be surprised as much by your own, um, touch. It won’t be the same as it would be coming from a partner, but it’s a good way to feel out if you’re into the sensation.

6. This is a case where shower or bathtub sex might actually be good. Normally shower sex is bad and very hard to successfully pull off. But because relaxation is so key here, trying anal play in a place where you’re more likely to feel calm and loose is helpful. Plus, if you’re worried about cleanliness (which isn’t a real problem, but it’s an understandable concern), moving things to a place where you’re already getting clean helps out.

7. Start small. The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working your way up. “To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers, tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play,” says sexologist Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce. “An option is to purchase a Butt Plug Kit that uses several plugs, of graduating sizes, just for this training.”

8. The person doing it should err on the shallow side. Everything that goes in should be “just the tip.” The nerve endings you’re trying to stimulate are in the anus — hence the moniker “rimming” — and not all the way up there, which is generally the painful part and also the part that makes you feel like you need to take a huge dump. Imagine it like a basketball hoop, and the ball should just be rolling around the rim of the basket, not actually making the basket. Does that help? I know nothing about basketball.

9. There shouldn’t be any rapid-fire movement immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers anywhere should not happen immediately. “So much of sex is fast — especially in porn — but anal play has to be prepped,” says Morse.

10. You can vary up positions. No, not all butt stuff needs to be done doggy style. It’s true it might be a little harder to get some solid eye-contact going on when face-to-anus things are happening. But! There are a variety of positions to try, like lying on your back with your hips elevated, or sitting on his face in reverse cowgirl. Move around until you find one that makes you feel most at ease.

11. Communication is key. The only way to know what works and what doesn’t is to be totally honest with your partner about what they’re doing. It’s important to always being tuned in to how the other is feeling and be vocal about your preferences.

12. It’s not dirty. As clinical sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk says, the anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little fecal material in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think.

13. That being said, you can totally clean things up. The key to anal play is comfort, so do whatever you need to help with any lingering anxiety. “Using an anal douche is not harmful if only done once in awhile and might help you relax your concerns about your bowels,” advises Dr. Pierce. You can use something as simple as warm water for a quick cleanse too.

14. It feels best when there’s some additional stimulation going on. Vaginal, clitoral, nipple-centric — whichever feels best for you. While some women only need butt play à la carte, most women can’t come from anal stimulation alone. “The anal part is something that’s an accent. It adds to the overall experience,” says Ian Kerner, researcher and author of She Comes First.

15. Make sure your partner doesn’t use the same butt finger in your vagina afterward. Why do you think The Shocker exists? Necessity is the mother of invention. “Baby wipes should be mandatory on every nightstand,” says Morse.

16. If you try it a few times and hate it, don’t keep trying it because you think it’ll eventually be tolerable. “Assuming you have a considerate lover who’s invested in you feeling good, I think you’d know within the first five times whether you like it or not,” says Kerner, explaining that this depends on a variety of factors. “I’ve encountered women who hated receiving oral sex initially but love it now, and it was because they were self-conscious. It depends on your levels of inhibition, your feelings about your partner, your feelings about your body. If all these things are good to go, and you just don’t like the sensation, you’ll know pretty fast.”

17. You don’t need to get a wax. “Most women don’t get Brazilians simply to engage in anal foreplay,” says Kerner, based on his research. #Yep.

In conclusion, “Sunset,” a user on this weird forum I found while trying to gather more seasoned #ButtholeWisdom for you guys, says: “if you are very feeling good with your partner and you know him or her very well, i think it’s a very lovely situation.”

I agree with Sunset.

This article was originally published on Cosmopolitan.

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It used to be that we were only bombarded with ads for male enhancement products when we were looking at porn (research purposes only, ladies, we swear). Now we’re forced to see old men with pill-induced, eight-hour boners during commercial breaks on every channel. Whether we’re talking about pharmaceuticals or devices, like penis pumps, advertisers are preying on a basic male instinct to desire being well endowed.

Though it’s probably true that most women prefer their man to have a big heart, it’s not uncommon for us to equate larger penis size with being more of a man. Our porn research typically yields us only very-large specimens to compare our own members to, after all, so it’s easy for many of us to have occasional feelings of inadequacy.

You might be wondering if there’s a no-cost, pill-free way to increase length or girth. Have you considered stretching?

Simple penis-stretching exercises have been shown to provide a recognizable boost in the size department. I’m no doctor, and you’re not receiving medical advice here. In fact, science hasn’t looked into this practice much at all, from what I can tell. I’m just going to tell you about the three stretches that worked for me—and without you having to worry about intercepting the mail before your lady opens a mysterious, discrete package that causes a bunch of embarrassment.

First, if at any point you feel pain—stop! You’re doing something wrong. That said, you don’t want to be erect at all when you do the stretches. That’s how things get hurt when you’re just starting out. The concept isn’t so foreign from stretching muscles before and after exercise. Though the penis is an organ, not a muscle, the general idea here is to gradually increase blood capacity by gently stretching the tissue over time. And greater blood capacity means bigger erections.

And like with any physical activity, you’ll want to start off warmed-up. We’ve all had our George Costanza moments in cold water, so you know what I’m talking about. We don’t want our ‘lil guy to be contracting into the body when we begin, so a warm, damp cloth will make things more conducive. Better yet, take your stretching into a nice shower or bath. It doesn’t matter if you’re lying down, sitting or standing, as long as you’re comfy. Now, you’re ready to begin stretching.

The Simple Stretch

I begin by gripping the shaft slightly below the head, essentially holding it in an OK sign made with my thumb and index finger, then gently pulling it away from my body. I hold it for 10-30 seconds, then slowly release. Remember, start off easy. It’s not supposed to hurt at any point. Don’t tense up or hold your breath. Breathe and be relaxed.

I repeat by stretching in other directions—left, right and upward—though I personally avoid stretching in the downward direction because some speculate that could be bad. All said I spend about 10 minutes twice a day (or 20 minutes once a day) doing these easy stretching exercises, and the result is definitely noticeable.

But you have to be committed to putting in the time, and understand that it will take at least a month before you start to notice the difference. Even 10 minutes a day will do when you’re just starting off. Plus, you can turn on your favorite series on Netflix to help get you through it.

Jelquing

Once you get into a good flow, you can begin supplementing these simple stretches with jelqing. To properly jelq, you’ll need some lube and a penis at half-mast (50% full). I recommend using a water-based lube because it’s better in every way, but especially for jelqing, as it can really go the distance when you add water. And just like for the previous exercise, make sure to warm up your bits before stretching.

Now, you’re ready to milk your dong like a cow. Make the OK sign you learned about during the previous stretching exercise, and place it at the base of your shaft, right against your pubic bone. With a little pressure, slide your hand towards the tip. Stop when you reach your penis head, and the next hand will perform the second jelq. Continue making this motion with each hand, and now you’re jelqing, my man. When starting out, I recommend doing about 50-100 jelqs about five times per week, and then slowly increase that number at your own pace.

Hanging Weights

Ready for another workout for the old meat thermometer? Try hanging weights over long periods of time. This method may be impractical for most men, as it’s not exactly easy to saunter through the workplace with a marble-filled sock hanging from your cock. But if you live alone or you work from home in a robe as I do, it’s definitely worth considering. As mentioned earlier, some people believe stretching downward is not a good idea, so try this exercise at your own risk—or maybe do some research first.

Hanging devices can be bought online, but you can MacGyver your own with a sock, some marbles (or any other small, heavy things you can find), and some string. Just don’t tie the string too tightly, or you can cause damage. And, as always, start slow. Maybe begin with a few marbles and gradually increase the weight and the hang time.

Now that you’ve read this, there might be a voice in the back of your head, skeptical of what I’ve shared with you today. Perhaps it’s convinced you that increasing the size of your manhood is impossible. Maybe you’ll even check out what “experts” or doctors have to say on the matter. To that little voice, and to all the haters, who for some reason want to crush man’s collective dream of having a larger penis, there are two relevant pieces of knowledge I want to drop.

First of all, human beings can stretch every other part of their body to be larger, like their ears, and even their necks. So why can’t the penis be pulled bigger, hmmm?

Secondly, scientists can get four football fields of skin from one baby’s foreskin. Sooo, yeah. It’s pretty stretchy down there.

If your romantic partners are cruel about your size, or the fellas in the locker room keep teasing you—who gives a f*ck? Dicks are funny things,  so laugh with them. Grow yourself a bigger weenie because you want to grow yourself a bigger weenie, and get on with your bad self. Just be sure to share these sacred teachings with your friends, just as it’s been handed down by the skin flute masters before us.

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Or would it just delay the inevitable?

The meaning of sex can be much deeper than most people fully realize. I believe it’s the strongest transfer of human love and energy. You’re offering more than just your body when you partake in this act. In some cases, without even realizing it, we can give a lot more.

Not too long ago, I wrote an article describing how to set up a successful FWB relationship. The truth is, I don’t think I’d be able to pull something like this off for very long. And I know there are quite a few people who feel the same way. Allowing yourself to become so close to someone—so vulnerable and intimate—to co-create such a magical act on a regular basis and attempt to remain platonic is absurd to me.

I spoke to some female friends of mine while conducting my primary research for this article. One of them admitted that after just a single night of nooky she would catch feelings for guys she didn’t even particularly like beforehand.

Sound absurd? Studies show that when you share high adrenaline events with someone, like a roller coaster or bungee jumping, it can lead to sexual attraction. So just imagine what sex can do!

Maybe you don’t need to imagine because you’re like me and you’ve totally got it on before (I have; I swear). You know what sex is capable of doing. Perhaps it made you associate feeling amazing with your sexual partner. Or it could’ve even increased your feelings of love and attachment. All these weird and confusing feelings can be explained in another study.

What about people who have already been dating for a while? Can better sex actually save the relationship? Well, a lot of times, frequency of sex can be directly correlated with the quality of the partnership. Does this conversation between friends sound familiar?

“So how are you and Bob?”

“Things are okay. We stopped having sex.”

Do you think Bob and his lover would be better if they were still engaging in sexual intercourse? Maybe.

Now imagine if this hypothetical couple had eye-watering, body trembling, the mattress should just be burned afterward kind of sex. Bob and his partner would probably be in a lovely place. That’s the kind of coitus which could take all those petty disputes and annoyances, and chuck them in the bin next to the used condoms and empty lube bottles. This argument is especially valid if the two people love each other in the first place.

When the sex is good, that crazy little thing called love is more likely. This dangerous side effect is possible because when we orgasm, the part of our brain which makes decisions pretty much turns off. And while there’s nothing responsible in our brain to manage things, we’re flooded with all kinds of love hormones. So we’re confused, and we make really stupid decisions, like fall in love.

Furthermore, you can’t become addicted to fake orgasms, whereas real orgasms have similar addictive properties to drugs like heroin. And that’s pretty much what love is right? A tumultuous heroin addiction. Stronger and more frequent orgasms would undoubtedly make it more difficult to walk out that door.

Of course, better sex isn’t the cure-all solution to relationship problems. It’s entirely situational. Intercourse is just one important part of a healthy relationship spectrum. But it definitely could be the spark which reignites the dwindling ember. Sex provides another playing field to form a powerful bond with your partner, so it should never be overlooked.

Even if you disagree with everything I’ve blabbered on about, I do believe there’s one thing we can all agree on: better sex won’t hurt the relationship. Improving your sex life is always a great idea, especially if it’s done in addition to restorative practices and techniques on psychological and emotional levels.

The next question you might have is, “well, how can I get this better sex you keep talking about?”

You’re in the right place. I highly recommend checking out all of the free content available on The Tickle Kitty blog, followed by absorbing Dr. Sadie’s entire sex-how-to book catalog (including free online excerpts). The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris changed my life. All of her teachings are wonderfully informative. And once you’ve got the reading down, try incorporating some couple’s sex toys into the bedroom for realtime results.

Afterward, multiply the number of times you give oral sex per year by 100. That alone could probably save everything in the relationship. Heck, if everyone did that, we might even rescue the planet and bring about world peace.

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Even though Henry Kissinger was not referencing BDSM when he stated, “power is the ultimate aphrodisiac”, he was onto something. The exchange of power is a primary pillar of BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission) and truth be told, experiencing a rush of power as the Dominant or submissive partner can be intoxicating. A misconception about BDSM or kinky sex is that pain is required. This is not true; erotic power exchange simply involves one partner handing over control to the other in a meaningful way.

A classic component of bondage is impact play. This includes spanking, flogging, and even caning. Playful spanking (and other elements of BDSM) can be a gateway to a stronger bond with your lover, and incorporating a sexual fantasy into your repertoire has its rewards:

• It turns your partner on. Is there anything hotter than taking your partner’s sexual excitement into overdrive?
• The communication, trust, and care required is a vehicle to deeper emotional connection and intimacy with your lover.

Here are some basic steps to get your feet wet.

Before

Communication before, during and after any sort of power exchange or BDSM role playing is crucial. This includes establishing a safe word initially to use when either partner wants to immediately stop activity. This can be as lighthearted as the word ‘banana’ or ‘pussycat’. It is okay to change your mind at any given moment if you have reached your personal comfort threshold.

If you are in the research phase for spanking instruments, reach for something already in your home, such as a paddle hairbrush, or a wooden spoon. Note that any tool with a smaller surface area, like a crop, will create a very sharp sensation. For beginners, choosing a tool that makes a ‘thuddy’ sound as opposed to a snap, crackle, or pop will be less painful. Think a wide, fur-lined paddle, or a flogger with thick, soft straps.

During

• Position: For beginners, the traditional over-the-knee (OTK) is a classic position. However, instructing the submissive to lean against an object like a chair is just as reliable as long as the object remains sturdy.
• Placement: Keep impact confined to the peek of the butt and below. Anywhere above could put the kidneys and tailbone in jeopardy. The fleshiest part of the butt should be the bullseye. The ‘sweet spot’ is where the upper thigh meets the butt. By focusing on medium-to intense impact here, the sweet spot is close enough to the genitalia to send pleasurable aftershocks to the testicles or the vulva.
• Pace: Rapid, repeat strikes can be jarring. As the Dominant, take your time and distribute calculated strokes that allow for breathing room and suspense! The element of surprise goes hand-in-hand with spank-induced euphoria.

Aftercare

Whether you spank for pain, pleasure, or both, it will result in a rush of adrenaline and release of endorphins. Effective aftercare can range from:

• A verbal re-cap to discuss what was good, or what you may want to change next time
• Eating chocolate to replenish oxytocin
• Kisses, light strokes or a massage to promote relaxation
• Applying lotion or chilled aloe vera for cooling relief (unless you enjoy the pain and prefer to bask in the sting)

Pro tip: Always keep an open mind, and don’t knock it ‘til you spank it!

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Many relationships eventually arrive at a point where they are in need of romantic resuscitation. This is a normal place to land (and not just once), especially for long-term relationships. In new relationships, the time is ripe to be transparent about your needs, specifically those of the sexual variety. Determining your sexual needs up front will help steer clear of an uncomfortable rut and/or resentment down the line.

Communication is tricky, even if the request is seemingly simple. Many individuals feel more comfortable remaining guarded about our sexual preferences, finding it nearly impossible to muster the courage to ask, “would you use two fingers instead of one?”, or “I’d love for us to try this new position tonight.” Fear of bashing feelings, being judged and/or rejected is a powerful silencer.  With that said, how do we speak up? First, identify the root of the issue. A few examples of communication roadblocks in a relationship:

• One or more sex drives have become unaligned
• A healthy sex life exists, but there is noticeable room for improvement
• One or both partners have expressed interest in exploring pleasure products, but aren’t sure where to start

When it comes to getting from Point A to Point B, start with a strategy.

Set your intention.

This is quite possibly the most important component of the process. Take the time alone to identify the goal, and determine how you ideally want to feel at the end of the conversation. Relieved? Inspired? Connected? Consider that feeling your target during communication. While pleasure might be the short-term goal, how will the conversation benefit your big picture? Try playing out different outcomes in advance, determining how to achieve the goal, despite possible tensions arising. Find relevant resources to help you feel comfortable talking about the subject; including online articles, adult videos, or consulting with a professional or some friends beforehand.

Location, location, location.

Establishing a neutral, safe environment is key for setting the energetic tone of any conversation. Also, initiating a discussion during or immediately after sex may not be ideal, as you risk the chance of catching each other off-guard or spoiling the moment. Go for a weekend walk in a new neighborhood (that may also conveniently have a sex toy shop on the block), or revisit the place you had your first date. Fun fact: Nostalgia makes us feel happier and more optimistic!

If it feels good, do it.

Don’t be afraid to speak up (from the heart, with confidence) if you are feeling particularly connected to your partner. Does it feel good to slowly (and consensually) guide your partner’s hand to uncharted territory on your body? What other physical cues will allow you to express yourself in the moment? Consciously connecting with your own body during sex promotes healthy sexual expression and ultimately, feeling liberated from the shame and stigma that is still attached to the idea of sex. You have the choice to create a positive and supportive interaction with your partner. Alternatively, you can be dismissive and uninterested. What do you choose?

ABC: Always Be Complimentary.

Any conversation should focus on the journey you are on together, rather than what may be lacking. Avoid the blame game! Compassion and consideration will make or break the way you listen to and understand each other—no matter how far out the idea is. If you are looking for an excuse to bring home a newcomer’s sex toy, attend a sex toy party with friends and invest in something unassuming, like a small bullet vibrator. (“Can I try some vibration on you to make you come harder tonight?”) If you cannot find a middle ground, how can you compromise? For example, if one partner wants to try anal sex but the other is unwilling or hesitant, compromise on watching an adult video together that features anal play. That way, both partners achieve a happy medium—together. (This tip is straight outta Dr. Sadie Allison’s book, Tickle His Pickle!) Lastly, try creating a master list of sexual interests that you both may or may not be interested in. Examples: Visiting a sex toy store, nipple play, spicing up your foreplay, anal sex, cock rings, shower sex, crossdressing, outdoor sex, visiting a fetish club, threesomes, etc. On two separate pieces of paper (one for each of you), make 3 columns titled: YES!,  MAYBE…., and NOPE. List all interests in the column that resonate with you most, and when you are finished, compare lists. This is a constructive and quick way to match up your interests at any point in a relationship.

Prioritize your pleasure. Have the hard conversations. The happiness will follow.

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If you’re old school like me, and you enjoy the physical feeling of holding an actual book (or a penis) in your hands, then you’re about to score a 2-for-1 special! I was so excited to crack this pocket-sized book open and flip through the eye candy that decorated each page. Upon first glance, the pocket sized Tickle His Pickle appeared as an instructional guide with a bit of a graphic novel vibe.  By page 6, I was hooked, and we had only just begun to hit the tip of the surface.

In the beginning, Dr. Sadie sheds a comforting light on some common intimacy inhibitors, such as overcoming hesitations about your partner’s scent or taste. These topics are portrayed as a cue to uplevel your love life by experimenting with new positions or pleasure products—just do it! One point that resonated with me the most is so simple, so accurate, and yet so overlooked at times—“Good communication starts at the lips.” Bless you, Dr. Sadie! Solid communication is THE foundation of a more intimate and exciting experience with any partner. We all deserve to feel good—and heard! I appreciate the fact that she addresses this before getting the sausage party started (in the book and otherwise).

As we all know, communication can be complicated—even if you are completely comfortable in a relationship. Not sure how to start communicating on a deeper level with your significant other? She suggests using the book itself as a suggestive stepping stone by leaving it somewhere your partner can see it. Depending on the reaction you receive—whether excited, or none at all, you will have a better idea of how to gauge the rest of the conversation.

Physical anatomy is also covered, starting with the sexual response cycle and the most ‘potent parts’ to incorporate during a romantic romp. Spoiler alert: they aren’t sexual organs. They are our eyes and ears! At this time, “Aural Aphrodisiacs” are explained, with Dr. Sadie stating ‘honesty is your best aphrodisiac’. This is such an understated approach to trying sexy talk without feeling cheesy or self-conscious. Focus on how your body is reacting to stimulation by calling it as you feel it, in a way that feels true to you.

One section of the book illustrates the contrasts in our sexual desires, and tips on accepting them. If your partner is turned on by anal play and you aren’t there yet, indulge them by watching an adult video that features anal sex. We participate in different types of negotiation on a regular day-to-day basis with all sorts of people including clients, children, and customers. Our sexual partners are no different.

The book pushes way past how to please the cock and balls, chock full of insightful details on everything from shaving to lubrication, and how to shop for it. (You don’t have to look very far—Dr. Sadie has her own line of female formulated lubricants, Slippery Kitty! Seriously, her intellectual limits know no bounds.)

My favorite part of the book was the prostate play section, a topic that can be tricky to navigate. Dr. Sadie recommends using medical role play as a vehicle to prostate exploration. The only reason I finally put this book down (vs. immediately reading it a second time) is because I was SO ready to put my new tips to work that I hauled ass to the lingerie store to purchase a hot nurse costume!

As a sex educator, I’d like to think I can be a pretty well-seasoned meat handler, but Dr. Sadie is on another level. Not only does the book provide accessible tips for all levels of penis lovers, but it is accompanied by the Tickle His Pickle Pleasure Kit, too! Tickle His Pickle is a prime example of Dr. Sadie Allison’s fine-tuned expertise, and as Adam Corolla likes to say, she truly is a penis genius.

Overall: Gripping

Grade: A!

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Dr. Sadie Allison appears on Dr. Emily Morse’s latest Sex With Emily podcast with playful penis-seduction techniques in “How To Be A Penis Genius.” This IS hot!

But tip-to-taint penis pleasure is just the start. Dr. Sadie teases-up tips from her bestsellers, Tickle His Pickle and The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris. The two riff on the lost art of sensual handjobs, exquisite clitoral touch, the joy of orgasms (for each of you!), and everything sexy and seductive in between. Tune in for all this, and the Number One thing men crave in bed (psst…it ain’t what you think!)

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As shown above, the two sexperts enjoy discussing all things sex. Don’t miss out! And for more pro sex tips and techniques, pick up a few copies of Dr. Sadie’s bestselling how-to sex books and give yourself and your lover the ultimate gift of pleasure.

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• Over 20 illustrated clitoral touching techniques to arouse, tease, and entice the clitoris, even during lovemaking
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Come discover all the highly orgasmic touches and seductive techniques his penis craves—and you’ll love giving. Tickle His Pickle revs up passion, rekindles intimacy, and sparks the reddest hottest lustiest sex—while  revealing all the priceless penis secrets you long to know.

• Over 50 illustrated sizzling techniques to master oral lovemaking
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“So, whose idea was it for your book club’s Valentine’s ball to have a historic theme. And why Scotland?”

“It’s a really sweet story, Honey, about a new member in the group. On Valentine’s Day two years ago, Fiona was on a trip to Scotland and her car broke down in the middle of nowhere. This handsome Scot came along and helped her. It turned out he actually attended the same university she did in the States. He was visiting his family. They got married last Valentine’s Day in a genuine Scottish castle. This is their first anniversary, and her husband has been really homesick. The club has been reading the Outlander books, andwhen Fiona suggested that we recreate one of the balls in the book to make him feel better, we thought it was very romantic. Then when we discovered what women wore at the time, we all felt deliciously naughty that our breasts would be on display—and our defense for flashing everybody would be, ‘We’re just being historically accurate.’”

She looked in the mirror and admired the job the bright red material was doing boosting her breasts and showcasing her nipples. “I’m going to look like a ho advertising her wares,” she giggled.

Gregg grumbled as he sat on the end of the bed struggling with the garters to hold up his socks. “Fine. You get to look sexy as hell, while I have to wear this scratchy kilt. It feels like my dick is being sandpapered. You’re sure I can’t cheat and put on some underwear?”

“Like I said, historical accuracy,” she laughed and sat down beside him. “Besides, you look cute in a skirt, and I think it’s sexy that I can just—” She slid her hand under his kilt and stroked his cock. In seconds, it was rock hard.“ This is fun. Now I know why guys get turned on when we girls don’t wear panties.” She got up and checked her makeup one last time. “Come on. We have to leave in five minutes so we aren’t late for the grand march.”

“Five minutes. Are you serious?” He pointed to how his kilt was tented.

Staring at the evidence of his erection, she pursed her lips. “Hmmm. I have an idea.”

Kneeling in front of him, she pushed his legs apart, and unfastened the front of her dress so her breasts were completely exposed. Lifting his kilt, she leaned in, engulfed the hard cock with the creamy flesh, and began tittie fucking him.

“Oh my God! That is so sexy.” He groaned.

Laura was surprised she shivered with excitement. She had very sensitive breasts and loved it when her husband played with them—or when she played with them herself! But she’d never put Gregg’s cock between them. Pressing ‘the girls’ together, she slid them up and down his warm, rigid shaft. As she got more aroused, she teased the top of his cock with her stiff pink nipples. Coating them with his precum, she squeezed them and moaned.

The visual of his wife working his penis and playing with her tits was so amazing, he couldn’t take his eyes of her.

“OK there, laddie,” she said in a terrible Scottish accent, “if I’m doin’ all the work fuckin’ ye, ye owe me more than a wee bit a jizz on my titties. Time to blow!” She leaned down, sucked his dick hard, and felt it swell and twitch. Removing her mouth, she directed his cock so the warm cum shot all over her chest. She looked at him with her ‘dirty girl’ smile and massaged his sperm into her soft, round breasts. “It’ll be our little secret why ‘the twins’ look so perky tonight!” Retying her dress, she looked at the clock and smiled. “Mission accomplished with a minute to spare. Time to leave.”

As Gregg got up and adjusted his kilt, he laughed. “You realize that with all of you prancing around topless, I’m going to be hard again within minutes of our getting there.”

She repaired her lipstick and winked. “Well, laddie, then I imagine this is going to be one memorable Valentine’s Day.”

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A few years ago I came across an ideology which revolutionized my dating life. It suddenly became clear which women I’d better connect with, and I understood how to meet their needs. Things were great. My romantic adventures became less complicated. The end.

Or was it? One magical day, I decided to apply these teachings to the bedroom, and something remarkable happened. I was able to overcompensate for all my many, many flaws.

Maybe you’ve come across The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman or its adapted teachings. The book suggests each person has a primary and secondary love language to which they will most positively respond. It’s a practical piece of literature, and I highly recommend you read it.

If you’re like me and you fall asleep every time you try to read for more than ten minutes, I’ve provided what each language is below in a hyper-condensed form. I’ve also included how to apply these five ideas in the bedroom.

1. Words of Affirmation

Does your partner say, “Oh stop,” when you give them a compliment (but you know they secretly want you to continue)? Then they might feel most loved with words of affirmation.

So tell them how good they look or how amazing they’re making you feel during sex. You want to be super vocal. Be all like, “Damn girl, your bum makes me hard and stuff,” or “Whoa, if you keep doing that I’m going to prematurely ejaculate all over the dang place (again).”

2. Acts of Service

Does finishing a honey-do list or preparing a nice meal make your partner swoon? Then they might feel most loved when you provide acts of service.

So give them lots of head. Most people love getting oral. But this category of people will likely appreciate it the most. If not, there are plenty of other acts of service you can provide in the bedroom. Try giving a back rub before the deed or washing the sheets afterward.  

3. Receiving Gifts

Can you get away with almost anything as long as you buy your partner a forgive me present afterward? Then they might feel most loved when you spoil them with gifts.

So buy them sex toys or a luxurious water-based CBD lube. Shower them with sexy presents, and they will shower you with passionate sex.

4. Physical Touch

Is the general population totally grossed out by how much your partner makes you partake in PDA? Then your boo might feel most loved with physical touch.

So cuddle them after sex. And feel free to give them adorable little eskimo kisses and hold their hand during your lovemaking sesh. People who fall under the physical touch category need extra affection.

5. Quality Time

Does your partner kind of feel like a stage 5 clinger? Do they miss you when you leave to go to the bathroom? Then your partner might feel most loved with quality time.

So don’t just slam and scram. That is, don’t leave your mate as soon as le sex ends. It’s probably a good idea for you to stay the night. Those who fall into the category of quality time want your presence more than anything else.

If you’re an overachiever like I wish I were, you can figure out what your partner’s secondary love language is too, and then mix and match that with their primary. For example, maybe your companion’s primary is physical touch, and their secondary is quality time. Then you can cuddle them to sleep after sex, and you’d be able to fulfill both their needs. Or maybe they respond to acts of service and receiving gifts. In this case, you could buy them really nice massage oil and then give them a full body rub before sexy times.  

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Let’s be real: most guys are satisfied with women even showing up in the first place. We’ll take what we can get. Hey, you’re naked! Amazing.

The list of sexual stuff women do that men love could probably go on forever. So for the sake of my editors and the average reader’s attention span, I’ve narrowed the compilation down to some noteworthy feats women do which take everyday, pedestrian sex (which again, we’re more than okay with) to the next level. Here are six things women do in bed that men love…

1. Narrate what they’re doing.

“And now, I’m playing with your dick like it’s my own personal lightsaber. Ffffkrrrrshhzzzwooom. Bzuhzzzuhzzzuhzzz. Kkkksshhhh.”*

*lightsaber sounds were curated from a Reddit post discussing lightsaber sounds.

This kinda stuff is the best! Ah man, we love it when women do this. It creates anticipation for what she’ll do next, and we get to hear it in that sultry, bedroom voice. Vocalization is a major turn on, and when it’s used to narrate all the naughty things she does to us, it can heighten any lovemaking sesh.

2. Offer alternatives to rejected ideas.

Okay, so maybe you don’t want it in the butt. We get it. We’re freaky, and for some reason we’re intrigued with your bumholes.

But what about titty-fucking? Or 69ing? We understand that some women have boundaries and we respect that. When she’s willing to compromise by firing right back with another fun thing to try, guys really, really, REALLY like that. It beats getting the look of judgment.

3. Nurture us.

We have feelings too, okay? *Sniff* We might not show them often because we’ve learned to hide our vulnerabilities behind the metaphorical fig leaf, but they do exist.

When women can make us feel loved—with tenderness, care, intimacy—there is nothing better. We can get back to that raunchy, kinky sex tomorrow, but baby, just for tonight, can we get some of that good love?

4. Initiate.

Women know that we want it. We’re not exactly subtle. But do women want it too or do they just humor us so we’ll cuddle them and take them on dates? It’s hard to tell if we’re the ones who are constantly initiating.

Believe it or not, it can hurt our egos when we’re always pursuing. It feels nice when we’re wanted too. Even if it’s something small like suggesting a certain position or leading us with their hands, it’s very much welcome.

5. Be patient and understanding.

The penis is a fickle thing. It goes hard when one needs to pee. It stays soft when one needs to make love. It also encounters retraction periods. But with a woman’s patience and understanding, we’ll be able to overcome performance anxiety, and maybe we’ll be roaring to go tomorrow. Or maybe even in a few minutes… Oop! There it goes. Can we try again now?

6. Share their fantasies.

I want to live in a world where we can just help each other actualize all of our fantasies. Even our deepest and darkest ones (as long as they are morally okay).

Men want to feel needed. So when women confide in us their fantasies, it’s not only super sexy by definition, but it also gives us a chance to be an integral part of fulfilling her wildest desires—which could be the hottest thing EVER.

It also opens up a dialogue so we will feel confident to bring up our own fantasies. We have some fun and wild stuff we’d like to explore too.

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Be honest: Have you ever really kept any of those outdated, old-school new year’s resolutions? Most of us have wanted to reach some sort of generic goal at least once in our lives, like losing weight or going to the gym or giving up sweets, but it’s time those boring old standards were given an update for the modern babe. These days, if you want to become a real-life goddess of confidence and positivity in the new year, the key lies in feeling comfortable in your sensual self.

We’d like to suggest some new routines that honor the magical mamma you already are and kick vapid sexual stereotypes to the curb. Giving fear and self-doubt the ol’ KO are way more empowering than worrying about your waistline.

Resolution #1: Stop Stressing About When You Orgasm with a Partner

As if the #orgasmgap wasn’t bad enough, we’ve got movies and marketing telling us that all great sex happens when both partners orgasm at the same time. Wrong! Great sex happens when two people communicate their needs, practice consent, and know what gets them off (or at least aren’t afraid to figure out what does). Coming together is nice on the rare occasion that it happens, but there’s really no reason it needs to happen for both of you to be satisfied. Just make sure to give your partner a helping hand if you get lucky first.

Resolution #2: Give Up All Those Masturbation Myths

Some of those antiquated masturbation myths just won’t give up. No, your vibrator won’t give you nerve damage, and yes, you’ll still crave sexual connection with your partner even if your battery-powered lover can get you off in 60 seconds. There are all sorts of reasons we’ve been fed about why masturbation or using sex toys is bad for us, and this is the year to drop all of them. Not only will self-love boost your happiness, but it can actually trigger your sex drive to want more orgasms with a partner. Just another reason why masturbation is pretty much awesome.

Resolution #3: Try Something New in Bed—With Yourself

Trying something new in bed with your significant other is a good idea by itself, but this year, take it up a notch. Try something new with yourself, solo, that you’re curious about, like anal vibrators or triple stimulation—something with the possibility to feel so deliciously satisfying that you’ve got to test it out alone first! Use your hands and some new toys to open up pleasure areas you never knew existed. Once you find your new technique, feel free to share it with your partner and teach them how to send you into ecstasy.

Resolution #4: Get in Touch with Your Spiritual Sexuality

When you’re deeply in touch with yourself as a sexual being, self-love is a ritual of getting to know your sensual spirit. Light some candles and incense, make an altar of crystals, and sit cross-legged in front of the softly glowing light. Put on your best lingerie and choose a mental picture or a fantasy to focus on. Look at yourself in the mirror and admire your curves. Give yourself a sexy massage and discover hidden pleasure points. Whatever makes you feel whole, beautiful, and in touch with yourself in these moments can be translated into confidence throughout your entire life.

Resolution #5: Find What Fits You, and Go For It

Whether it’s swinging or polyamory or the most vanilla, monogamous, missionary position kind of sex, don’t be afraid to fall into the style of having sex that fits how you receive pleasure. We know kink is all the rage, and it’s so bad-girl-status to wear your sluttiness on your sleeve and date around a la Samantha Jones from Sex and the City. But deep down, what kind of sex actually makes you happy? What kind of sex puts you in that magical aroused trance where you can’t tell up from orgasm? Whatever it is—whips and chains, multiple partners, meditative tantric sex—that’s the kind of sex you should be having, and it’s all up to you to figure that out. Sounds kind of fun to us!

It’s 2018, and it’s safe to say that whatever is bogging down your sex life needs to go. Kick your preconceived notions and uncertainty all the way back to January 2017 and live the goddess-worthy sex life you deserve.

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Women may seem like complex creatures, but when we’re looking for sexual stimulation, getting us going can be quite simple. Sure, our desire may not be as pointed as his is, but some of the best sex I’ve ever had, had nothing to do with being penetrated. In fact, if you look beyond our lips, you’ll notice a whole, wide world that gets us wet.

1. Forego lust for love.

A woman wants to feel like you can’t get enough of her. She may want you to show this through kisses and touch, through spending quality time together, through the purchase of gifts, via your words or as a result of your actions. When you take time to notice the little details about our hair, or our clothing, it shows you care. When you open doors, tell us how beautiful we are and how much you appreciate us, you will get more of what you want too.

2. Screw flowers, figure out our fantasies.

According to a 2015 Neilsen report, 85% of romance novel readers are women. Combine that with the popularity of the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise and you can see how romance, and a little sexy-kinky-power-play can combine to make for some hot nights of steamy sex.  Bring a romance novel to bed and offer to read a chapter, or ask your lady what types of fantasies turn her on and then find a video or book with that theme. You can even use the book as a role-play guide by becoming the characters and acting out the scene. Reading erotic material together can allow you to be more creative, and can allow your woman to feel more empowered and tolet the power dynamic shift from reality to romance.

3. Slow down, you move too fast.

Yes, a quickie works some of the time, but as my friend and fellow sex educator Barbara Carrellas always says, “Men are like microwaves, and women are like ovens.” That means women take a lot longer to heat up. Don’t rush it, instead ration it out. Start and stop your touch, licks or thrusts, listen to her body, her breathing and her words of encouragement or insight. Try putting a blindfold on her and slowly, very slowly, almost as if you’re not moving at times, touch and tease her, for as long as she can take it.

4. Let her be in charge.

Sometimes a woman likes to be in control, and sometimes she may want to lose control. Either way, try switching up who takes the lead in your sex life, and see how your lady responds. Sure, she may need a little encouragement from you, especially so that when she ties you up, she knows you’re truly game to being submissive. Buy her her first bondage kit and then crawl over to her and say, “Mistress, I beg you to tie me up and tease me.” Remember, practice makes perfect!

5. Touch that clit!

It’s not always penetration or G-spot stimulation that brings a woman to orgasm. Clitoral stimulation is the golden rule of sex play for the majority of ladies. That means rubbing around, on, or near the clitoris. Add some lube to the pad of your pointerfinger and see if she gets more worked up going clockwise or counterclockwise. Try tapping the clit or playing with the frenulum above her clitoris. The more attention you pay to detail, the more aroused she’ll become.

The bottom line is if you turn her on, she’s likely going to want to return the favor.

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As I sit down to write this, I can’t help but reminisce about my extensive history of first dates. The tragedies, the successes, the embarrassments—I’ve had a prolific dating career. Picture Ted Mosby from How I Met Your Mother, but the kids have stopped listening, moved out of the house, and put dad in a home because he’s still rambling on about his dating adventures.

In all of these encounters, here are some things my dates did to me which weren’t okay:

• Went on a maudlin tirade about their ex-boyfriends.
• Catfished me (not once, not twice, but thrice).
• Left with a member of the band we were watching.

Here are some things I did which weren’t okay:

• Passed out on the dinner table.
• Gifted fake flowers.
• Spent the night on my date’s bathroom floor.

The above misadventures weren’t so great. In fact, they were awful. But
these instances take us to our big question: Should we consider copulation on the first date to be socially acceptable? Well, if you were to ask me if sex, which is oneof the most powerful transfers of love and positive energy, is okay on the first date, I will always answer YES.

But it doesn’t matter what I say. And don’t worry about what your parents may have drilled into your head. Forget what society has told you, what your friends think, or what your sex ed teacher taught you. Most importantly, don’t allow your date to convince you.

It’s only okay to make whoopie on the first date if you feel whoopie is okay on the first date. You and only you can make that decision. This is your marvelous experience as a human being. That towering thing of flesh, and bone, and swaying extremities is yours, and how you want to use it is entirely up to you.

I will share this, though: if what’s holding you back is a fear that maybe it’s taboo or even trashy, and you’re worried you’ll be led down a dark path, then always remember…

Sex is an act of love. If you’re using it with good intentions—not to make someone jealous, or to cause pain—but to share the magic, bliss, energy, and the synchronization of two spiritual beings at a vibrational level,
all of which this act creates, then it cannot be considered anything but good. There’s a reason it’s referred to as “making love.” So when you feel safe and comfortable with your date, and the chemistry was reactive, then feel free to express your feelings with your hips.

But please, please, PLEASE… As always, use your best judgment. If you’re looking for a serious relationship to commence with this act, then it might be a good idea to express these intentions beforehand. Some people are of the opinion that when you have sex on the first date, it is implied to remain a one night stand. It’s also important to be wary of players, fuckboys, and heartbreakers, who may lead you to believe they have the same long-term interests as you, but in reality, seek to deceive you.

All that said, sex on the first date is not something which should be frowned upon. In fact, I believe first dates need to include more coitus. Lots more coitus. Maybe even more anal, but I’m not going to get into that right now. The things that first dates need less of are catfishing, stand-ups, and fools who thought they could handle several jagerbombs at dinner.

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Now that Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, and Sadism & Masochism–otherwise known as BDSM–have hit peak popularity in mainstream media, strictly-vanilla couples are curious to see what all the fuss is about. Even Fifty Shades can make dipping into bondage and blindfolds seem a bit intimidating, but with a bit of patience and a gentle touch, anyone can safely and pleasurably take kinky sex for a spin.

If you’re a newbie to using toys and accessories to dominate and stimulate, it’s best to begin with some basic BDSM moves that enhance sensation. These 5 introductory BDSM suggestions are a sexy and easy way to add some flavor to your usual routine. Just remember the Golden Rule of kinky sex: always talk about what you plan to do and get your partner’s consent before you start the naughty action.

1. Sensory Deprivation

Teasing your partner with the gentle element of surprise is an enticing way to begin foreplay. Ask your partner to sit in a comfortable chair or lie down on the bed. Using a silky blindfold or soft piece of fabric like a neck tie, bandana, or light scarf, cover your partner’s eyes and gently secure the fabric behind their head. Removing the sense of sight heightens your other 4 senses, so everything you taste, touch, smell, or hear will send extra tingles down your spine. Imagine how lush a whip cream-covered strawberry will taste, or how much a tickling feather will turn on your blindfolded partner? For newcomers to sensory deprivation, introduce the blindfold without any wrist or ankle restraints. Kiss and gently touch your partner to ease them into the darkness, and ask them to vocalize what they feel with every stroke, tickle, and caress.

2. Spanking–With a Twist

Spanking is a BDSM staple with a common misconception. Leave the heavy leather floggers in the dungeon and start with the adorable, ribbon-adorned Heart Beat Crop. Getting spanked is more about increasing blood flow to certain areas of the body, which increases sensitivity to your partner’s touch. Try this little experiment if you find yourself associating spanking with pain. Choose a sexy accessory like the Tickle Time Feather, or grab a regular hair brush from your bathroom. Notice how it feels to run the feather or brush bristles over your palms. Now clap your hands a few times–not so hard that it hurts, but just hard enough that your palms start to turn red. Immediately brush the feather over one of your palms, or use the hair brush to gently scratch and press into your skin. Feels a lot more enticing after clapping, doesn’t it? The same concept works for your butt, thighs, arms, or anywhere else on your body that you want to gently increase sensation.

3. Silk-Tied Wrists

Now comes the B in BDSM–bondage, and it can be just as sensual and soft as the rest of your foreplay. Use a beginner’s cuff like the Comfort Handcuffs, or another soft fabric similar to your DIY blindfold, and bind your lover’s wrists in a comfortable position above their head, behind, or in front of their body. If you’re brand new to bondage, don’t tie your homemade cuffs too tight, and make sure your partner can wiggle their arms and wrists. As you gently move their arms into place, whisper sexy-sweet nothings in their ears about all the orgasmic pleasure they’ll receive once tied up. Trust us, they’ll let you know if and when they’re ready for you to get rougher.

4. Suction Sensations

Just like spanking, using gentle suction on erogenous areas like the nipples or clitoris pulls blood to the surface of the skin, resulting in extra sensitivity and even stronger orgasms. Use a pair of nipple suction toys, like the Nipple Play Suckers, or a vulva pump like the
Intimate Embrace Vibrating Vulva Pump a few minutes at a time. Remove the suction and give your lover’s puffed-up nipples or vulva a long, soft kiss or a warm lick. Then work your way up to 5 – 10 minutes of sucking pressure. The longer you leave them on, the more they’ll feel when you switch from the toy to your mouth. When you’re both ready for the next step, mix suction toys with a bit of light bondage, a blindfold, and killer oral sex.

5. Say It Sexy

Dirty words are the icing on the BDSM cake. A submissive’s pleas of “yes, mistress” are like music to a dominant’s ears, and obedient subs don’t dare make a move without a command from their Domme. If playing master and servant isn’t exactly your thing, you can still take a cue from kinky lifestylers and work dirty talk into your routine. As with all BDSM activities, have a thorough discussion with your partner before you scream “you’re my nasty little slut!” in the throes of passion. Find the words that turn you and your partner on the most by whispering them into each other’s ears before you take your clothes off. One person might enjoy hearing they’re gorgeous and great in bed, while someone else might get off on more aggressive talk and sexual demands.

The best part about BDSM–and sex overall–is that you have complete freedom to turn up the heat or slow things down to the intensity that works for you. Always take small steps and communicate with your partner as you both navigate from vanilla to kink. You never know when you’ll find your next favorite bedroom activity!

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“So, what time should I pick you up, Sweetie?” It had been so long since Phylicia had seen Riley, her excitement was off the charts. She wasn’t just counting days, she had a timer on her desk that displayed hours, minutes and seconds.

“I can’t tonight. Sorry, Baby. Business. You know how it is. I’ll make it up to you. I promise.”

Her heart sank. “Sure. I understand. It’s not like I had anything special planned,” she lied, thinking of the expensive champagne chilling in the refrigerator and the new vibrator in her nightstand. “But I really want to talk to you about what my boss said to me today. It was terr—”

“I’d love to, Baby. But another time. I’m slammed. Still at the office. I’ll call. I promise. Love you.” [click]

Stunned and downcast, she curled up on the sofa and hugged a pillow. After thirty minutes of moping around the apartment, she sighed and decided to finally play with the telescope she’d purchased. She lived opposite a series of glass towers, and her curiosity about her neighbors had gotten the best of her. As she scanned the windows, she was surprised to come across two women making love in a shower. Despite the thrill of forbidden pleasure, she knew she’d crossed a boundary. She moved on to another apartment.

She’d already told herself that, when it came to respecting people’s privacy, she would follow a commonsense rule. Everyone living in homes with transparent walls knew the risks of being seen. Open curtains, then, meant the inhabitants didn’t mind that aspect of their lives being watched. She assumed the lovers got caught up in the passion and forgot to close the drapes.

It struck her a few minutes later, however, that none of the bathrooms in that apartment building had windows. So how could she see the sexy pair in the shower? Unable to let it go, she took a second look. It turned out that what she was looking at was a mirror that reflected a view of the apartment’s bathroom. The two women making love in the shower. Gloriously naked. Lovingly lathering one another up. Hugging. Kissing. Pleasuring every inch of their beautiful flesh with their hands and lips.

Phylicia looked away. Not only was she sure the women would object to being watched, but their lovemaking only reminded her of how long it had been since her body had been touched that way. The ache was deep and torturous. She went to the kitchen, poured herself a large glass of wine, and felt sorry for herself. Then it hit her. There’s something familiar about those two. Do I know them? She raced back to the telescope. It is! Tinker and Belle! I had no idea!

‘Tinker’ and ‘Belle’ were two women who were always in the front row of the spinning class she took each evening. She called them that because they looked like ‘pixies’ to her. Very petite. ‘Pixie’ haircuts. Sweet, high pitched voices. Phylicia always took a bike three rows directly behind them, and she couldn’t help but envy their tight, shaped behinds. Frankly, it was trying to get an ass like theirs that motivated her to work as hard as she did in class.

Knowing that having answered the ‘Do I know them?’ question meant she had no more reason to watch, she tried to look away—but couldn’t. The sex was hot, and the atmosphere was playful. There was lots of giggling and laughter, followed by raw, desperate, hungry passion. The girls were absolutely uninhibited in their giving and receiving pleasure.

On top of the sex, however, their love was so palpable—and stood in such stark contrast to her own life—she was desperate to share in it. Bracing herself against the wall, she slid her hand into her panties. Imagining it was Tinker’s hand massaging her wet pussy, she came with such force, her knees buckled and she almost fell over.

When her body stopped trembling, a wave of guilt washed over her. It was one thing to accidentally see the naked couple. (Oops! My bad! Moving on.) It was another to go back (Just trying to determine how it’s possible for me to see into a bathroom with no windows)—and then return again (I’m sure I know those girls). But she had no good defense for what she’d just done. She knew the lovers would not agree to her using their most intimate moments as ‘reality porn’ to masturbate to. No matter how frustrated she was, this didn’t excuse such an invasion of privacy.

As she was beating herself up, her phone pinged. Seeing that the text was from Riley, her heart leapt—Yeah! Change of plans! When she read the message, it crashed.

“Delayed at work for another hour. Will be late—so even hornier! Be ready with cold bubbly, wet pussy, and no panties! Expect the best fucking weekend of your life. Get it? XXX.”

Phylicia felt like she’d been punched in the stomach. She couldn’t breathe. Riley had already cancelled their evening plans. Damn! It’s everything I was afraid of. That’s what those cancelled weekends must have been all about. When she regained her composure, she resolved to finally take control of her life. She wasn’t going to wait for some stupid excuse she’d desperately want to believe. She texted back through her tears, “Don’t even bother to try to explain. Don’t call. Don’t text. We’re done!” The phone immediately rang, of course. She refused the call and blocked Riley’s number.

After spending the weekend in bed, going through six boxes of Kleenex and a half-gallon of Rocky Road, she dragged herself to work. As much as she wanted to scurry home and climb back under the covers, she ordered herself to go to the gym. Iam taking my life back today! We have ice cream calories to burn! But when she saw Tinker and Belle, all she could think of was the erotic scene they’d starred in. Class was agony.

Desperate for any kind of balm for her pain, she gave herself permission to spy on the sexy shower babes one more time when she got home. If watching the couple would give her at least a glimmer of hope about her own life, she was sure they’d understand.

When she trained her telescope on their apartment, however, she found a sign, not the sexy couple. “Hey there, Back Row Lipstick. Wanna play? There’s plenty of hot water, and room for one more dirty girl!” Their phone number followed.

She didn’t care how they knew. All that mattered was someone wanted her. Talk about fantastic gaydar! She grabbed her phone and dialed.  “Hi,” she said nervously, in a voice overflowing with relief and desire. “Do you mean it?”

The voice on the other end was soft, sweet, and full of concern. “Absolutely. You looked so unhappy in class tonight, we want to cheer you up. You don’t have to tell us what’s going on, but please don’t say no. You’re gorgeous, and we’ve been crushing on you for weeks. It broke our hearts to see you so sad.”

Phylicia teared up. “I’ll be right there.”

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Within two minutes of her entering their apartment, the three of them were naked and wet (in every way imaginable). The girls’ shower was amazing. Water not only rained down from above, sprays pulsated from every direction. The all stoodalmost motionless for a few minutes as they hugged, kissed and let their hands roam over each other’s naked flesh.

Phylicia luxuriated in the feeling of being desired by two such beautiful women. The sensation of four hands and two mouths pleasuring her almost made her pass out.

“Tonight is all about you,” Belle said sweetly. “We want to make you happy. You can worry about us,” she winked and giggled, “next time.”

Phylicia had done without for so long, each touch made her hungry for more. She responded to each kiss with increasing passion, noticing how differently the two women kissed and touched. Tinker was aggressive; Belle, softer and gentler. It felt wonderfully wrong to be with two women at the same time. It was the sexiest moment of her life.

The two girls squeezed a rich, beautifully scented lavender gel into their hands and v-e-r-y slowly ministered to every inch, every curve, every opening of Phylicia’s body. Returning to her breasts, each girl took a nipple. Tinker roughly tugged and squeezed the left one. Then she ran her teeth around the stiff peak, and bit ever so lightly. Belle gently tongued and sucked the other. Such completely different sensations sent Phylicia’s excitement skyrocketing. Her heart pounded. She breathed so deeply she couldn’t help but take in some of the mist enveloping them. When Tinker bit harder, she came. Her body shuddered as she screamed in amazement. It was the first time she’d ever come just from someone playing with her breasts.

Belle gave her a chance to recover, then stepped behind her, squeezed her ass, and … “Ow!” The hard slap on her behind took her by surprise. Her ass stung sharply because it was wet. But the pain quickly morphed into an indescribable warmth in her pussy. A second slap sent so much pleasure shooting through her body, her knees wobbled. She felt herself heading towards another peak already.

Tinker knelt down and ran her stiff tongue along every surface of the swollen red lips. Teasing the clitoris out from hiding, she sucked it forcefully.

Phylicia squirmed from the rough delight. It made her greedy for ecstasy. “Fuck me. Please, fuck me,” she begged.

Tinker complied, sliding two fingers inside and began slow, deliberate, excruciatingly delicious, and agonizingly delightful finger fucking. As she increased the speed, Phylicia’s deep moans announced she was on the edge—and desperate for release. Pressure on her G-spot rocketed her to another climax, and took her to a place she’d never gone before. Her cunt clenched ferociously around Tinker’s fingers. Her body shook in ecstasy. She let out an inarticulate groan and collapsed into their arms.

Phylicia’s new lovers toweled her off and led her to bed. As they cuddled in the afterglow, Phylicia noticed something in the corner of the bedroom.

“Is that a telescope?”

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Women aren’t the best at making the first move. Well, at least in my experience. They opt not to use pickup lines, even though these sacred scriptures are a hybrid of poetry and magic. Women also have difficulty bouncing back from rejection. And yet, I believe it’s best for everyone if the fairer sex expresses romantic interest first from now on—even if it means years of cheesy pickup line evolution goes to waste.

Speaking on behalf of my gender, I know how awkward, and aggressive, and inappropriate, and stupid, etc., we can be. That said, here are some reasons women should take the reins:

Men can’t grasp the friendzone.

History has stubbornly shown us that men just don’t get it. You see, men don’t possess the attention to detail to decipher the subtle hints women drop us. She may still talk and act the same around us, but for all we know, she could’ve placed us in the friendzone months ago, even though we’re dying to kiss her at every moment. Some men have even found themselves in the collective friendzone of the entire female gender, and yet they’re oblivious.

Let’s not blame the staggering number of men who fall victim to this inescapable vacuum of space. Let’s not blame women for putting us in undetectable categories. Instead, let’s make a straight exchange to allow the meticulous gender to figure out how to navigate the friendzone. Please? We’re all so lost.

It’s the ultimate adrenaline rush.

Ladies… You’ve gotta try it. It’s such a thrilling experience, especially when the wooing attempts take place in front of a crowd. The stakes can be so overwhelming you just want to spew mom’s spaghetti like in that Eminem song.

But don’t worry about how devastating this experience can be for your ego. Go and put yourself out there, be persistent, and embrace the motto, “zero fucks given,” with regards to rejection. It’s a great way to build character.

It’s empowering.

In the spirit of equality, this role reversal would be empowering for many women. The dating app Bumble attempted to create this atmosphere by giving women the ability to message first. And I liked where it was headed. I would love to see this dating concept spread to the outside world.

Women know how to take a hint.

Unlike a large number of men, the vast majority of women know when to cut their losses and move on. Whereas men sometimes take things a little too far. So if trading places leads to a safer and more comfortable dating experience, I’m all for it.

Men wouldn’t get offended.

Men pretty much ALWAYS enjoy being hit on. It’s an ego boost, rather than an unwanted part of everyday life. So do it. Catcall us as we strut past construction sites. Randomly ask us if we want to go on a date. Gawk at us when an unsuspecting burst of steam from a subway blows up our cargo shorts. I think this would be the ultimate exchange because women are exasperated living everyday life like this, and men think they can handle it.

It’s super hot.

It might be the unexpected nature or the immense confidence it takes, but when women are the ones who pounce, it’s exceedingly sexy. I become a bumbling fool when women strike first, and I happen to know many men who act the same.

So what do you say, ladies? Want to trade places? You might need to clearly verbalize your answer because as I’ve previously explained, men aren’t so great at taking hints.

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Warming up for a sexual encounter can be as sexy and stimulating as the encounter itself. When your body and mind are properly primed for sex, the experience becomes exponentially better, and can even lead to stronger (and multiple) orgasms.

Understanding what turns you on will not only lead to more pleasurable sex, but will also impress your lover big time. So as you anticipate your next erotic encounter, warm up and turn on with these 5 easy ways to get yourself in the mood:

Bed Play

Turn your bed into a sexy playground for your body. With a clean pair of your softest cotton sheets, roll around in your bed nude, and basque in the feelings of cool smoothness on your naked skin. Then wrap yourself up in your sheet, close your eyes and moan softly to yourself, observing the tone of your sound—and think how sexy that must be in your lover’s ear. Then while on your back, slowly rock your shoulders back and forth while moving your hips in small circles. Add some gentle caressing, gliding your fingertips along your inner thighs, over your hips, then up to your breasts and nipples. Playing with yourself in this truly sweet and sexy way is a great way to get you into the zone.

Sensual Touch

Even though women often need mental stimulation for heightened arousal, never underestimate how powerful sensual touch to the skin can be. Hop in the shower and let the soothing hot, steamy water flow over every inch of your body, arousing the senses that prepare you for pleasures to come. When you’re ready, spend time caressing yourself where your nerve endings are most sensitive. Close your eyes and slooowly trace along your lips with your fingertip… then down your neck… to your navel, and so on. Take your time. When you’re ready to take it up a notch, massage your breasts, and then use some female body-safe lube to massage your vulva. You should be pretty moist by this time.

Google It

Search for “Sexy Females”. Enjoy all the images of sexy, beautiful women in sensual, provocative poses. Now it’s your turn. In front of a mirror, position yourself in the same poses you see in your favorite images. Give yourself some sexy looks while you’re at it! Move around slowly like a model, accentuating the parts of your body you love best—if you have a nice ass, sprawl out like a cat with your butt held high. If you’ve got voluptuous breasts, push ‘em together with pride. Just have fun! Not only will you look and feel sexy, but this’ll boost confidence for your sexual prowess. Enjoy flirting with yourself in your own private photo shoot as your mind and body get even more heated.

Girl-on-Girl Porn

Explore adult entertainment—specifically lesbian porn. Surveys reveal 1 in 3 adult users of porn are female and that straight women often prefer this genre to get aroused over traditional heterosexual couples. Some women say they prefer lesbian porn because the actresses look more ‘real’ (some without fake breasts) and more relatable. The extra kissing and fondling in these scenes are also really enjoyed. If you haven’t tried this to get in the mood, it’s definitely worth a shot! And I bet your man wouldn’t mind if you happen to turn that video on for him.

Alternatively, watch a romantic porn scene where a man goes down on a woman. Let yourself be there mentally, as if you were receiving the pleasure yourself. Squeeze and pulse your pelvic muscles as you imagine this happening to you, which will activate blood flow to your genitals and create more sexual arousal. You may be surprised at how quickly your body responds to signals from the most powerful sex organ—the brain—and how the lovemaking juices flow naturally and plentifully.

Edge Yourself

“Edging” is: Coming nearly close to climax or ejaculation, then purposefully stopping sexual stimulation in order to delay the orgasm, so that the ultimate climax will be more intense. Anyone can do this, including YOU! Simply pleasure yourself to the ever-so-close point of orgasming, and then stop, leaving yourself wanting more. Continue this loop until you’re throbbing for an orgasm. Have even more fun by incorporating new masturbation techniques. For new stroking techniques, pick up a copy of my bestseller, Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure. Not only will masturbation get you in the mood, you can also bring some newly discovered clitoral loving techniques to the bedroom and show them how you like it!

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Can you feel it? Your face flushing, your breath getting short, those warm sexy tingles, and your lips parting just a little as you focus on the object of your desire? Today I’m talking about arousal—those wonderful feelings you get from being turned on.

We’ve all been there, as young teenagers we’d get aroused from seeing sexy, erotic images, or from that first wet French kiss with your crush. But over the years and as our lives become more full, our ability (and desire) to become aroused can be affected by day-to-day stresses, relationships coming and going, your long-term relationship or the natural peaks and dips in your physical health.

Thankfully it’s never too late to get yourself there again. Here’s an easy breakdown of what you can do to get those juices flowing, and to feel your arousal build fully and completely:

Get Into a Steamy State of Mind

You can start by kicking your cognitive abilities into gear. Fantasize about favorite past sexual experiences, pick up a hot romance novel or enjoy 5-minute erotica short stories to get into a sexy state of mind. And when the mindis re-focused from the normal fast-paced worries of day-to-day life, to the deep thoughts of excitement and sexual pleasure in the brain allow the body to react physically.

Re-explore Yourself

With this new state of mind, explore masturbation regularly to maintain an easily accessible state of arousal. Experiment with a new sex toy—like a vibrating wand or a clitoral vibe—to find out what you like (which may be different than last year), and keep yourself aroused. Practice getting in tune with yourself. If you’re a newcomer to masturbation, you’ll find 30 techniques in my bestseller Tickle Your fancy—A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure. 

Bring In Your Partner

The biggest sex organ in the body is the brain, and therefore one of the most power arousal triggers. Deep connection, eye-to-eye contact, and openly sharing your desires—and what you find desirable about the other—is a great arousal jump-starter. Simply whispering a few sultry erotic phrases to your lover can be enough. Add in a mix of affection and sensual touching for a physical element will really start feeling the fireworks. Allow yourself to be in a state of discovery and creativity, learning and exploring your partner all over again.

Get Physical

The healthier your body is, physically, mentally and emotionally—the better it will perform in all areas—including your states of arousal. You can improve your sexual self just by eating healthier and exercising more, training your brain and body to get used to a regular, present theme of arousal as a part of your way of being. Yoga and meditation can improve the functioning of your body’s arousal. Deep breathing practices in yoga heighten your body’s awareness of sensation, allowing you to feel more deeply. Meditation allows you to slow your mind down and find inner stillness, bringing focused awareness to all parts of your body and mind. With a clear undistracted mind, you are more open to go further in new heightened states of arousal without any holdbacks.

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Do you think squirting is just for a lucky few? We’ve got good news. Any woman can learn to squirt. With just a few tweaks to your lovemaking sessions, you can find yourself having earth-shattering, mind-blowing orgasms. Don’t believe us? Take a look at the expert-tested tips below:

Get Comfortable

One of the most important aspects of learning to squirt is getting comfortable with yourself and your partner. In fact, the key to squirting is relaxation.

So, first get comfortable. How?

1.  Empty your bladder prior.
2. Play some soft, gentle music.
3. Light a few scented candles, and dim the lights.
4. Ask your partner to give you a massage.

It’s also important that you’re comfortable with your partner. Even with a partner you’ve been with for awhile, it can take a bit to get to this level of intimacy.

Get Warmed Up

A squirting orgasm–or, any orgasm really–cannot take place in a rush. In fact, the more time you take to “warm up”, the easier the task will be to achieve. But what do I mean by getting “warmed up”?

Practice Foreplay. Of course, the right sexual mood is crucial to successfully learning to squirt. To set that mood–and to remove the pressure to “perform”–foreplay is a must.

20-30 minutes of foreplay can increase relaxation and improve feelings of intimacy, both for you and your partner. This will prepare you for squirting, and your partner for the task of making you squirt.

Use Some Lube. As has been discussed previously on the blog, lube truly is your best friend. And, in the case of those just learning to squirt, it can also be your saving grace.

While foreplay is likely to get you aroused enough to not need lubricant, its use can increase sensitivity. As such, it never hurts to have a bit of lube on hand to get things going.

How To Get Your Body to Squirt

Now that you’re sufficiently prepared, it’s time to discuss the more “mechanical” aspects of squirting.

There are two anatomical structures that play a role in squirting–the G-spot, and the Skene’s gland. The G-spot is a tissue that surrounds the urethra and engorges with blood when aroused. The Skene’s gland is located just above the G-spot, and it’s more commonly known as the “female prostate”.

When the G-spot is stimulated, so too is the Skene’s gland. This can cause it to release into the urethra where it is then ejected from the body (i.e. squirted).

As such, we’re going to focus on G-spot stimulation. This isn’t to say that clitoral stimulation can’t cause squirting, but it’s not as common as with G-spot stimulation.

Techniques for Stimulating the G-Spot

You’ll first need to find your G-spot. Then, it’s time to stimulate it. Here’s how:

The Hook. This can be done by yourself or your partner. Place the palm of your hand against your clitoris, and rest your pinky and index finger on either side of thevaginal opening. Now insert the ring and middle fingers, and rest these on the G-spot (which you found with the above exercise).

Use these two fingers to massage the G-spot (using a hook-like) motion. With continuous stimulation, you’ll begin to feel a buildup of pressure. Continue to stimulate the G-spot until the orgasm has built, and follow through until the release.

It is very important to be completely relaxed at this point in time. Only with relaxation will squirting occur.

Penile Penetration. It’s also possible to squirt during intercourse. However, it can be a bit more difficult for inexperienced squirters (so I only recommend this once you’ve practiced a bit yourself).

Foremost, the angle (not depth) is most important to the stimulation of the G-spot. This means you’ll have to use sex positions that focus more on G-spot pressure. A few of these positions include the modified cowgirl position (you on top, but slightly bent backwards using your arms on his knees as leverage) and the lazy doggy style position (with you lying on your belly, legs straight and hips slightly raised).

Sex Toys. If a squirting orgasm still proves to be elusive–or if you’d just like to add a bit more spice to the bedroom–I recommend you give G-spot vibrators a try, like the Jive – Bluetooth Controlled Wearable Vibrator.

For some women, this is the best way to get started with squirting (whether alone or with a partner).

The bottomline: all women can learn to squirt. While it may come naturally for some, others will have to practice. And that’s okay. By implementing the tips above, you’ll be off to a good start.

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Most men are simple beings. And at the end of the day, they just want to be validated and appreciated for all that they do for their women and families. Men like to be recognized for their good qualities and thoughtful actions. They want to know that they’re doing a good job, and that their efforts are noticed and appreciated. That’s not too much to ask, right?

It’s important to show plenty of gratitude to the man in your life. Here are some wonderful things he may be doing on a regular basis, but that may be flying under your appreciation-radar:

His compliments or spontaneous acts of affection.

When you get a “hey baby, I really like that dress on you”, or a “just because” hug and kiss, respond with returned affection or genuine compliments about him. Put that smile right back on his face, because you know how good it feels!

All the little things he does.

Men are do-ers and this is often how they show their love. While it may not be flowers or a new purse (or your preferred love language), it’s his way of caring. So acknowledge the tasks he does like fixing the car, changing the lightbulbs or mowing the lawn. Let him know you’re thankful for all those little things he does. Just your acknowledgement will mean the world to him.

His generous loving in the bedroom.

If you’re lucky enough to have a man who knows how important your sexual pleasure is, let him know you fully appreciate it! Not only does he love his ego stroked with compliments, but you can also show him your gratitude by returning the favor. Stroke his ‘other ego’ with some Slippery Kitty Lube or use his favorite toy and give him a new and exciting sexual experience. For dozens of illustrated oral pleasure techniques, pick up my bestselling book, Tickle His Pickle. You can never go wrong with a “Thank You BJ”.

His no-drama attitude.

Most men could care less about the small stuff, or squabbling over standard female-fare. This is a huge benefit—imagine what it’d be like if he were as sensitive as some of us women can be! Even though he may totally miss the mark on some things, revel in the fact that he’s able to let things roll off his back easily, and enjoy the peace.

His communication skills.

Some guys are challenged when it come to being a good communicator. If you’re fortunate enough to have an open communicator, who’s not afraid to be transparent and share his feelings, take the time to not only listen—but thoroughly hear—what he’s saying. Then acknowledge, validate and take his words to heart.

His thoughtful planning and surprises.

When he springs for a surprise date night, unexpected flowers, or does some of the household chores, don’t let that go unappreciated! Let him know how much you love his thoughtfulness. Take your turn and surprise him back with some romance and playful seduction. He’ll definitely appreciate your appreciation!

His listening and reasoning skills.

When your man gives you his undivided attention and takes time to really listen to you, bless your lucky stars. Every woman deserves a man who will happily talk things through when something (anything) is on our mind. No woman wants to hear a big poopie sigh when we ask “can we talk”. So if you’re fortunate enough to have an engaged, thoughtful listener, let him know you appreciate it by always giving him the same respect when he needs to talk. Also encourage more open dialogue, if you know that’s not his strong suit and that it could help him along.

While this is a short list of all the wonderful things our men do, and there’s certainly a matching list for women’s appreciation, I hope this inspires thoughtful conversation and promotes closeness, mutual understanding and personal growth in your relationship.

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The birds and the bees aren’t what they used to be! In a lighting-fast internet culture of easily accessible porn, increasing peer pressure, and misinformed abstinence-only sex education, it’s hard to know where to begin when preparing your kids for a safe, healthy sexual future.

Though some parents have that coveted, BFF-level relationship with their kids, not every family has it so easy. Kids naturally become more aloof and distanced from their parents as they reach adolescence, so it’s important to start the sex talk while they’re young and build their trust in you as a guiding adult. You don’t have to hide their eyes from every movie sex scene or snoop through their online history. Start your kids’ sex education with a foundation in honest, candid information, and they’ll have the decision-making smarts to pick healthy choices as they mature into sexual beings.

Anatomy Lessons

Previous generations often equated anatomy with sexuality. Hence, a lot of girls thought they could get pregnant from kissing, but assumed the pulling-out method was effective birth control. Don’t feel shy when they start to ask about the vagina and vulva or penis and testicles. Start with the basics, and see where the kids steer the conversation. They might know more than you’d expect, or they might be more concerned with imaginary friends and toys, in which case they’re telling you to wait for a better moment to explain how babies are made. In either case, a basic, age-appropriate anatomy book is a good way to test the waters. Let them page through it alone, and then pick it up together to see what connections they’ve drawn. Encourage questions, and never let them leave the conversation confused.

Knowledge Equality

Schools are fond of separating girls and boys for respective talks on menstruation and spontaneous erections. It’s understandable that children might not feel comfortable learning about sensitive topics with the opposite sex in the room. However, make sure they get the other half of the puberty lesson at home. It’s important for boys to understand periods, and for girls to understand the hormonal changes in their male classmates. Let them know that everyone their age will experience these changes as they get older, and that it’s a time to extend empathy and camaraderie to their peers instead of teasing and laughter. Periods and boners are normal, and it’s about time we raised a generation of kids that understood that from the start.

Safer Sex, Safer Teens

Since when has denying teens access to birth control or condoms convinced them not to have sex? Ask your parents and, with a sigh, they’ll probably reply, “never.” If your kids are on the brink of puberty, educate them on safe sex and allow them ample access to various forms of birth control. Make sure they know you’re available for advice without fear of punishment or shame. Explain the physical and emotional commitments required for sex without trying to scare them away with moral judgements. Talk about the importance of consent and caring for your partner’s well-being. Equip teens with the facts, but don’t try to stop them from having sex by grounding them from the weekend party. They’ll just find a way to sneak out later, and they certainly won’t ask your advice on being safe. Giving teens the chance to make their own right decisions instills confidence and foresight into their actions.

Lead with Honesty and Heart

We know, parents—there is no instruction manual for raising kids, and every child needs an educational experience that is tailored to their personality and learning style. No matter what topic you’re discussing, always be honest and show your kids that you’re teaching from the heart. It can sometimes be embarrassing or even intimidating to reveal the truths of human sexuality to impressionable young minds, especially when they’re your own. When you’re unafraid to bare your soul and approach everything from a place of love, kids pick up on that. Even if they don’t always say it, they’ll gain a newfound respect for their parent as a wise, guiding sage, and will forever seek to maintain your trust.

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Ahhh… those first frenzied moments when penis touches labia. When every sexual sensory cell yearns to be stroked. When the thrill of conquest is on the verge of being rewarded. There’s a real art to intensifying these feelings of penetration for you and your lover—and you’re the artist.

Knowing she will experience these first few moments of ecstasy differently from you is key to creating your masterpiece. What does she crave? How can you supercharge it? Come probe and find out. But before the probing begins, there are a few steps to take to ensure optimal pleasure for both you and your partner:

Lubricate Your Love

It probably goes against every bone in your body—especially that big throbbing one—but unless your woman tells you she wants it hard and fast right from the get-go, resist the lust to thrust. Why? She’s not ready.

Your lover won’t feel very loving if you start trying to penetrate before she’s fully preheated. It’s boorish, selfish, and can be uncomfortable or even painful for her. Remember: If she’s dry, standby. If she’s wet, you’re all set.

To maximize the wet fun, grab a bottle of Slippery Kitty Lube—available in Au Naturel or Strawberry flavor—and lather it on your lover to prepare her for the ride.

Treat Her to an Exotic Labial Massage

This massage isn’t on the menu at any spa—but add it to your menu and she could flow like a fountain.

Here’s how: drizzle a little sex lube or saliva directly into the action and spread it around, so you’re both glistening and slippery.

With your hand, slowly guide the head of your slippery erect penis right up to the entrance of her vagina. Resist the urge to go deep! Instead, slowly tease by circling the tip all around the opening, then glide it between her labia up to her clitoris. After a few tempting clitoral swirls, slide it back down to the opening.

Repeat your special massage with several more sensual laps up and down her labia. Admire the view, enjoy the sensations, don’t rush, and use all your superpowers to stay outside. Your rewards will soon come.

Making Your Grand Entrance

When you can’t wait any longer, use your hand to help slide the head of your penis inside. Feel her soft lips surround you as you stimulate those millions of pleasure cells at the mouth of her vagina.

But now’s not the time to go on autopilot—use your sixth sense to match the angle of your erection to her angle of acceptance. Start slowly, and if all is well, go a little deeper, then deeper, then deeper till you’re completely inside.

This is what many women fondly call the “hurts so good” moment—when the vagina is spread wider with pleasure by your grand penetration and the thrilling feeling of fullness. If your lover is expressive, you’ll hear all about it in her sensual vocalizations.

Now you’re faced with a choice. You can start pounding in’n’out like every other Tom, Harry and Dick—or you can thrill her with some incredible sensual abilities, which is exactly what she wants!

Get Your Pump On

By nature, the male always has some (or most) control over the pumping. So why limit yourself to driving in just one gear?

Head Bob. To tease her into a yearning frenzy, stroke shallowly, in’n’out, with just the head of your penis for awhile, nothing deeper.

Combo Platter. Try three mini-pumps only a few inches inside, followed by one long, deep, graceful thrust. Repeat in rhythm.

Divine Grind. Show her you know her by grinding your cushy pubic bone into her tender clitoris…slowly…sensually…erotically …while your penis fills her.

Knead To Speed. After a slow, teasing start, accelerate your pumping toward orgasm. If you feel like you’re going to come too soon, downshift and try the Divine Grind.

Angle The Dangle. Your mission: find ALL your lover’s internal pleasure spots. Pivot and angle your penis all around till she moves and moans with pleasure.

Love Lever G. With your penis buried inside, angle and position for targeted G-spot stroking.

Jackhammer. Some women love it hard and fast. Some don’t know till they try it. And the rest will never like it. So try it once—and if she goes crazy with delight, keep drilling!

Rhythm Nation. There’s a reason sex is known as horizontal dancing—it’s the rhythm. Rather than pump mechanically—groove to the excitement of making love together, pumping, grinding and gyrating in sync with your mutual passion as your entire bodies sway in harmony, including hips, shoulders and knees.

Whether this is brand new to you, or merely a refresher course, the biggest thrills of sex are now in your capable hands!

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Threesomes come in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes they happen spontaneously. You’re out dancing one night and the next thing you know, you, your bestie and the dude you met at the bar a hot second ago are tangled up in bed. Or maybe you’ve got a steady partner, but someone from your past resurfaces and requited sexual tension sends sparks flying. For some couples, it’s highly erotic to watch their partner give and receive pleasure with another person.

No matter how you want to ménage à trois, it’s a top fantasy for both men and women, yet few are willing to take the plunge. Rightly so, it can be a tricky dynamic for even the most secure of couples and individuals to navigate. It’s unlikely that every three-way session will be red-hot and magical, but they can be safe and fun. Here are a few tips to help scratch that itch—and reduce any potential weirdness.

1. The more talking beforehand, the better

If you’re thinking about dipping your toe into the pool for a group swim, it’s vital to address hopes, fears and expectations. Whether you’re flying solo or embarking on this sexual path with a plus one, it’s best to over-communicate any potential concerns before getting into bed. Nothing kills a mood faster than a “you never told me that” revelation in the middle of sex. From disclosing STIs and discussing birth control to being clear on boundaries (i.e., who can touch what), more talking means less room for fallout and ruined friendships.

2. Get boundaries locked in and abide by them

Every person has a different sexual bottom line. In a group sex dynamic, it’s essential to understand—without question—what works and doesn’t work for all individuals involved before any panties are dropped. Consent and respect are key to any sexual experience.

3. There will be awkward moments—go with it

The handful of threesomes I’ve had have ranged from meh to mind-blowing. I tend to enter such dynamics with minimal expectations, because what may be smooth in my head doesn’t always translate in bed. Sometimes strong emotions surface or someone suffers from performance anxiety (it happens). Hooking up with multiple people at once can (understandably) make one self-conscious.

4. It goes without saying, but practice safe sex

This should go without saying, but whether you’re doing it with one person or more, safe sex is a must. Wash your hands before you play. Vaginal tissue is pretty delicate and you don’t want bacteria, germs or STIs transmitted via manual sex. Know which hand has gone where. Use whatever barrier method works best for you—condoms, diaphragms, dental dams and cervical caps are all options. If you have a latex allergy, consider nitrile alternatives. Condoms are also useful to use on toys that may be shared among participants.

5. Please, don’t get drunk

Having a threesome presents plenty of logistical considerations (and possible challenges) without bringing booze or drugs into the mix. I’m all for cutting loose from time to time (bring on the bubbly!), but it’s a smart idea to keep your inhibitions in check when you’re negotiating sex—period. I rely on visual cues from my partners, and if inebriated, I’m going to have a hard time reading a situation.

The bottom line is that threesomes aren’t for everyone. There’s a fine line between being GGG (Good, Giving and Game, an abbreviation coined by sex columnist Dan Savage) and doing something solely to please a partner. Before you have sex—any kind of sex—it’s important to feel safe, comfortable and happy.

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