Regardless if it’s a long-time lover or a fresh new squeeze, initiating sex can sometimes feel pretty awkward. Getting caught up in your own head, worrying what the other person is thinking, debating if you’re being “suave or sexy enough” …can all easily lead you to become your own worst enemy—and not to mention, tragically sabotage your sex lives while at it. It’s usually feelings of self-consciousness and vulnerability that tend to take over. But truth of the matter is, taking the lead in the bedroom can be a huge turn on, and is nothing you should be ashamed of.

Lovemaking should be about seducing each other and not being afraid to express the desire for being intimate more often, which—despite what the inhibition might make you believe—doesn’t have to be all that complicated, either.

Send flirty sexts throughout the day.

We all know foreplay isn’t just a suggestion, it’s a requirement. But what everyone doesn’t always realize is that it can begin far before you actually cross the bedroom threshold. Dirty talk can be a great, lighthearted way to ease into the sultry vibe and get both of your imaginations running wild. So by setting the mood earlier in the day through frisky texts (and pictures if you’re into that too), you can slowly build the sexual tension and give each other something to look forward to all afternoon.

Bust out the lingerie.

Half (if not more) of the lingerie fun is wearing something that makes you look sexy. So even when it’s just cooking dinner or a movie date night that’s on tap for you and your beau, try springing an unexpected surprise on them by donning some super-hot lingerie for the occasion. You’ll feel great, and you know it’ll turn them on, so it’ll help pave a pleasure-filled path for turning up the heat as the night progresses.

Set the mood in your bedroom.

When it comes to sex, a sensual surrounding can make all the difference. Of course we’ve all had that fantasy of getting it on in spontaneous settings, but when looking to lay the grounds for an intimate night in at home, crafting an alluring atmosphere can definitely do the trick. Consider swapping out the dirty laundry and beauty products strewn across every surface for a nice combination of dimmed lights, well-placed candles and artful spread of sex toys and lube on a plushy blanket. Once your partner feasts their eyes upon this irresistible scene, they’ll instantly know what you had in mind for the night. And after luring them in with the appetizer of a soft, sensual massage, they’ll be more than excited for the rest of the night’s wild ride.

Get handsy.

Going back to the whole foreplay-can-commence-before-the-bedroom idea, getting frisky and physical with each other in everyday moments can incite a mutually rousing mood as well. Whether it’s kisses and neck nuzzling while snuggling on the couch, or slaps on the ass while trying to clean out the garage, making playful gestures while doing day-to-day activities together can be a fun way to spark an even hotter sex life.

Gift something they’ve always wanted to try.

We all have those fantasies best left to the head or screen, but surprising your partner with a toy you know they’ve been wanting to explore is a super practical way to get both of you excited for testing the waters of something new. Whether it’s a different type of vibrator for her, a crazy realistic stroker for him, vibrating cock ring for both, or a kit with several items that can take you on a full-blown sensual journey, a sexy gift that thirsts their curiosity can be a super-hot intro to new heights of pleasure.

So regardless if you prefer a more subtle or forward approach, there are countless ways to help bust through the reserved routine and show your partner how much you really want them. By turning up the heat with the littlest things in life, you can kickstart the conquering of all those timid thoughts and get on a fast and fruitful path to having more satisfying sex. And a lot more often, too!

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It’s hard to imagine describing sex as “too hot”, unless you mean it literally.

With the scorching summer alive and well that means the heat is unfortunately here to stay, but don’t let that stop you from ringing in the year’s most sultry season. As temperatures rise, so do our desires; and with the annual spirit of adventure that sets in, so do the endless ways of spicing things up while keeping cool just the same.

Temperature Play

When looking for ways to beat the heat, consider the straightforward approach of temperature play. By incorporating things like ice cubes or cooling lubricant into your ordinary sexcapades, you can provoke all kinds of sensual reactions through the skin’s millions of neuroreceptors. Our bodies are used to the warmth of human touch, so a rush of sensation coupled with the chill of these objects can result in a newfound night of intimacy with an exciting edge. And if you’re really willing to kick things up a notch, try icing down a glass dildo or butt plug for an even more pleasure-packed effect.

Shower Sex

Not too hot, not too cold, but when the temp is just right, shower sex can be a great solution to stickiness and sweat. Although it can be tricky to master, a wet hot shower with your partner (and some slippery lube) can be one of the sexiest sights to see. Nice and slicked down, exchanging steamy kisses from beginning to end—you’ll feel refreshed and recharged without ever once feeling the discomfort of a sweltering summer.

Lingerie

When it comes to lingerie, we all have that special piece (or ten) we’ve been dying to show off. So what better way to do so than when it’s too hot to wear clothing anyway! On days spent close to home this summer, capitalize on the blistering temps by swapping out the baggy loungewear for that super hot getup that’s been collecting dust in your closet for far too long. Of course some pieces are fine to be worn under clothes, but others are just too gorgeous to keep contained, so surprise your partner with a seductive look that will have them (and you) vouching for minimal clothing year-round.

Low-Contact Positions

Getting a little sweaty can definitely be a turn on, but not when your bodies turn into full on slip-n-slides. Opting for positions that minimize bodily contact can be logical lifesavers that still capture the intimacy of sex without the warmth of something like missionary. Other choices like cowgirl, doggy style, a penetrative spooning, or plain old-fashioned oral can offer more comfortable solutions that of course are just as enjoyable…if not more.

Mutual Masturbation

Or you can avoid full-body contact all together through the ever-alluring act of mutual masturbation. Despite the lack of physicality, it’s a great way to guarantee you’re touched exactly how you like to be touched, plus it provides each person a first-hand guide to how the other likes it done. And not to mention, some super sexy visuals, too.

Get Creative Around The House

The first rule of spicing things up means getting out of your regular routine, so for some that may mean the bedroom itself. Once the summertime heat rolls around, we all know there’s no turning back. So let it be the perfect excuse to trade in the hot sheets for more exotic locations around the house. Getting down to business in chairs, up against a table or even right on top of a nice, cool countertop can provide some much-needed relief from the heat that often accompanies your bedroom backdrop. And if your house happens to have a basement (or downstairs), you may have really hit the jackpot! Since we know heat rises, it’s always so much cooler down below.

So as the sun beats down and the heat turns up, at least we can dive into this summer season knowing sensual sacrifices are the last things that have to be made.

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