It IS possible!

For more than two decades I’ve been a daily Magic Wand devotee. But the Womanizer Next rocked my world. Instead of providing super-strong direct clitoral stimulation, like the Magic Wand, The Womanizer uses PleasureAir technology to tease the almighty clit via gentle vibration and suction.

I’ve been around the sex toy block and there’s nothing on the market remotely like this orgasm-inducing beauty.

The Womanizer Next arrives in an elegant box, perfect for gift giving. Compared to a lot of plastic  wrapped sex toys, it’s a classy presentation. Once opened, it can be stored discreetly in its accompanying black satin bag. It doesn’t look at all like a traditional vibrator—and at first glance, you may not know what to make of it, but boy does it deliver.

Orgasm is a reflex and some women need more time than others to ramp up arousal. That’s a-OK. But if you’re looking to step up your response time – whether oral sex, intercourse or masturbation is next on the agenda – give this a shot. Although full disclaimer: I’m not advocating for women to put a stop clock on their pleasure. I’m all for women taking all the time they want and need to achieve pleasure – whether orgasm is the end game or not. (Sex should never be a race and the Big O doesn’t have to be the finish line.)

But the Womanizer can help get you from Point A to Point B faster than any toy I’ve ever tried. And I’ve tried A LOT of them.

For starters, the toy is extremely easy to use. Push the button to turn it on and off, then adjust between eight levels of intensity. (I tend to stick to the first four settings.) Depending upon the size of your clit, there are two clitoral stimulator silicone heads to choose from. You can also purchase replacements separately. The Womanizer Next runs with a USB rechargeable cord, so you never have to worry about replacing batteries – always a plus for those of us who have a well-stocked toy drawer.

I use the Womanizer Next for speedy solo sex experiences, as well as to also get warmed up for other sexual adventures. It’s much quieter than most of my vibrators, which makes it less intimidating to introduce into partner sex scenarios. Nothing kills a sexy mood faster for me than obnoxiously loud toys. “Oh, hey there! Want to play with my pussy and this phallic shaped jackhammer?” Umm, nope.

I typically enjoy giving oral sex more than receiving it and have a hard time climaxing from cunnilingus alone.

However, a quick stint with the Womanizer Next will get me to a point where I can actually come from oral alone. Go figure.

Another scenario: Sometimes, a gal needs to get off – pronto. When I’m stressed, there’s no faster way for me to relax than to masturbate. Orgasms release the happy-inducing hormone oxytocin, which has been shown to relieve tension, and the Womanizer Next often produces fast, multiple orgasms. See, it’s good for you!

For menopausal woman, it’s a godsend.

A recent study, the Treatment of Orgasmic Difficulty in Perimenopausal, Menopausal and Post-Menopausal Women, found that The Womanizer Next may be exactly what women need. Even though the study involved a small sample, every single woman in the study, as in 98 percent, had an orgasm while using The Womanizer Next, and 50% of them in less than 60 seconds. Wow.

Sure, how easily orgasmic a woman is to begin with plays into the equation – how turned on she is when stimulation starts or whether stimulation is optimized to provoke orgasm in the first place. But believe it or not, this technological wonder makes lightning fast orgasms a reality. As in your kitty will purr in one minute or less. I’m not making this up.

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What if I could tweak your talents even higher? From everyday lover to Clitoris Connoisseur? How will she thank you—after the biggest, strongest heart- poundingest orgasms of her dear life?

As America’s Pleasure Coach, I’ve uncovered surprising truths about female orgasms. Easily, the orgasmic upgrades that’ll turn your hands into living sex toys are often simple tweaks to what you’re already doing!

In fact, look at this one surprising truth:

Your clitoral moves are mostly sound. But these guided tweaks are your passport to ecstasy.

Really! With the few hints you’ll read below (and maybe even try tonight!), I guarantee you will take your girlfriend or wife by storm, bring out her TRUE orgasmic potential – then feel her passion come roaring back to you with erotic pleasures you’ll love, time and again.

But first, a quick word to every woman curious enough to be reading this! If you find yourself cheering and applauding the sensual touches I am now revealing to the guys in our lives we love so much (and want to love more), that blue Tweety bird at left will gladly carry your orgasmic tip-offs to all your adventurous friends (including one in particular!).

Okay guys, try this tweak next time you’re in the heat of foreplay: Do Nothing.

That’s right. When was the last time you got good advice, and that advice was to Do Nothing. Yet here’s what I mean: As you’re gently fingertipping her clitoris, and you feel her excitement on the rapid rise, instead of rubbing faster and faster, simply pull back your fingertip ever-so slightly and do Absolutely Nothing!

I guarantee you will drive her insane with lust. In fact, her clitoris may actually begin chasing your fingertip in search of the intense pleasure of your touch. So enjoy the chase – then resume giving her what’s now become a matter of urgency!

But what if her clitoris is still a bit of a mystery to you?

Try this:

Too bad they don’t teach this in school. Bet you’d pay attention then!

Knowing the “how” of clitoral touch works best when you know the where. And while every clitoris is as different as every snowflake – some hiding and others easily seen – you’ll always find the clitoris atop your lover’s two inner vaginal lips, cradled just below where they gracefully arc together (see illustration).

So how does it feel to her when you caress her clitoris just right?

Pretty close to how the head of your penis feels when she touches you just right. (And that’s a BIG clue to controlling the pace and pressure of how you touch her!) Now, the moment you try on your lover the technique I’m about to share with you—I guarantee you will magnify the sensuality of your touch so much, you will easily send her down that slippery slope to splashdown in Orgasmland.

Here you go:

The BIG secret to delight her with the biggest orgasms EVER comes in one 4-letter word.

That word is Lube – as in personal lubricant – which I guarantee will light up every one of the THOUSANDS of clitoral pleasure receptors packed into her tiny pleasure button!

Some may say that the natural lube provided by Mother Nature is all that’s needed. True… for some women, some of the time. But vaginal dryness, caused by medications or dehydration or bad timing will cause your gentle fingertip to feel like SANDPAPER on her clitoris. (I speak for all womankind when I say, “OUCH!”) Next time, try a little drizzle of a slippery water-based lube you can easily get at any pharmacy, or online, and you will QUICKLY glide her to sexual ecstasy.

How on earth do you think she’ll reward you??

Whenever you learn a cool new move playing your favorite sport, you probably score more, right? Same goes for sex. I hope you’ll try these moves I just shared with you, and I guarantee you’ll run up the scoring!

To sum up: Passion is a two-way street. Being a giving, generous lover always comes back to you in unexpected, erotic ways.

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Could it be her orgasm isn’t playing hide and seek after all? Maybe Mother Nature’s just playing a harmless little tease on the two of you.

Why is it that many women don’t climax from pure penetrative sex? It’s because a whopping 80 percent of women need some sort of clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm—either directly or indirectly. This means standard missionary-style penetration often misses the mark from Mother Nature’s little flaw of design. Thankfully, I have the resolution to your non-orgasmic sex woes. Let’s beat Mother Nature at her own fun—by creating an abundance of orgasms for your lover, and even simultaneous orgasms for you both!

All it takes is a little CAT, or coital alignment technique. That’s textbook talk for the pleasurable sensations of aligning her clitoris and vulva with your pubic mound and shaft during missionary-style sex. Now, you can go from barely sideswiping her orgasmic trigger, to directly rubbing and stroking her clitoris for glorious orgasms while deep inside her.

You just need to make a small adjustment to what you’re doing now. Here’s the scoop:

Start in traditional missionary position, only with a small pillow under her hips (this’ll give her some lift along with support for her pelvic angle). After you gently glide inside, shift your body up several inches, so your pelvis is directly atop hers. You should be higher up on her now, with your chest near her shoulders (and no longer face-to-face). With this new alignment, your shaft is now providing pleasurable friction on her vulva and clitoris with every stroke.

Now amp it up: While staying snug and pressed against her, slowly grind and gyrate your pubic mound in small circles as you press against her vulva. Try visualizing her clitoris as you press on it, and resist the natural temptation to lift off and thrust in and out. Just keep your penis snugly inside her, and sense the rhythm she needs. You’ll know you’ve found it when you feel her holding you tighter and pulling you closer with her legs!

Here’s how it works: By simply sliding yourself up slightly, you’re giving her all the clitoral contact and delicious friction she needs to come. And with only that tiny position adjustment, you’ll advance from “good in bed” to “super-generous-five-star-giver-of-orgasms-good-in-bed lover”—and who wouldn’t proudly wear that merit badge?

Now that you’ve got the hang of it, take it to the next level: try incorporating a subtle sextoy like a luxurious vibrating penis ring along with masterful clitoral fingertip touching to keep the orgasms coming and coming…

You’d think Mother Nature would’ve set all this all up for you with CAT-like precision, but it seems she’s left a few fun things for you to still figure out on your own. So next time: Shift > Contact > Come!

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Father’s Day is right around the corner. The kids are getting Dad a card… What are you giving your man…?

Instead of giving your man a tie, shirt or sweater, why not have some fun this year?

I’m going to make it easy for you with my special list of unique gift ideas that use your sensuality and passion to make this Father’s Day one he’ll never forget—most don’t cost a penny. And this’ll be one Father’s Day that you’ll enjoy as much as he does!

Throughout the year, men feel a lot of pressure to perform—sexually or otherwise. Why not take away that pressure? Show him how much you adore him by making him feel like a rock star. How do you that? Well, there’s one thing that every man wants. And the best part…? It’s not just about him. It’s about you, too!

I’m talking about pleasure—the gift that only you can give.

You know your lover’s body and turn-ons better than anyone. This is your chance to show him that you’ve been paying attention to his desires and demonstrate how much you want to make him feel good—both inside and outside the bedroom. So ladies, why not make this Father’s Day the start of a new tradition. Create your own celebration. Here are some fun ideas to help you plan that super sexy gift for your man that’s uniquely tailored by you:

1. Start early with text messages

• Hint that you have surprises waiting for him.
• Keep it mysterious—don’t give him too many details.
• Tell him how much you’re going to rock his world.
• Start heating things that morning with my free list of sexy sext-messages.

2. Get naked

• Help him with a task he’s been trying to finish at home—in your birthday suit!
• If he loves his car, wash it for him naked.
• If he’s into video games, take him on in the raw.
• If he loves golf, wash his balls—naked!

3. Shower together

• Lather him up and scrub him from head to toe. Take your time worshiping his body.
• Give him a good head massage when washing his hair.
• Offer extra TLC when washing his most sensitive body parts…
• Added benefit: When you get down to business later, you’ll know he’s squeaky clean!

4. Get playful on a dinner date

• Wear his favorite slinky dress or out fit—the one you know he really loves you in.
• Whisper sweet something’s in his ear. Remember… slooowly, quietly and breathy.
• Let your hand “accidentally” fall into his lap. Or, from across the table, slip off a shoe and tickle his crotch with your toes.
• Halfway through your meal, let him know that you “forgot” to wear panties. Then prove it.
• Bring a mini whisper-quiet vibe in your purse and excuse yourself to the ladies room for 10 minutes. When you return, tell him you just gave yourself an orgasm with it!

5. Let it ride with visuals

• Men are visual creatures. They LOVE watching you. So let ‘em.
• Get into positions that let him see you and your curves, and how much you’re enjoying yourself.
• Have you tried Reverse Cowgirl? Guys love this position. Try it, or another exciting new position.

6. A big finish

• That’s right. The thing that every man wants. A 5-Star blowjob.
• Use lots of lube and start with your hands. Why not surprise him with a new foreplay stroker?
• Remember, enthusiasm is the #1 thing a man wants from his woman when getting a great BJ.
• BJ’s are the ultimate way for you to let him know how much you appreciate him.

Just like you, men today want to feel connected to their lovers. They want to know that you are satisfied and that you enjoy pleasing them as well.

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Ladies, show him just how much you care. This Father’s Day give him the gift of pleasure—mentally, emotionally and sexually! He’ll appreciate it more than you know. www.ticklekitty.com

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You may already know this, but chances are, your girl uses a sex toy (or several). Pretty dang hot to think about, right? And although she’ll always enjoy using them alone as an essential and healthy part of her sexual release and discovery, she’d probably love to have you join.

Sex toys are super efficient and amazing and will probably take over the world one day. But they lack in one crucial area: emotion (for now). My friend, that’s where you come in. Along with your undoubtedly magical body, you bring laughter, affection, and unforgettable memories the two of you will never be able to stop talking about. If that wasn’t enough, here are five reasons sex toys will lead you to better and more frequent sex.

1. It exudes selflessness

Some fellas have it in their head that using sex toys is cheating as if sex was some kind of game fueled by the ego. Without getting too poetic on you, sex is so much more than that.

Therefore, the man who can check his ego and enhance bedroom activities for the selfless reason of improving his lover’s experience is the same man who will not only be considered an ideal lover but also receive admiration and reciprocity sevenfold.

2. It helps you, like, get to know yourself, man

It’s all about self-discovery, man. So spark a joint, put on some smooth jazz or that other stuff you’re into, maybe light a few candles… Sex toys will help you map out your body, unleashing the unique and surprising things that make you feel really good. You’ll be all like, “Whoa! Hey now, what the heck was that? I kind of like that.” Then, you can take your newfound body awareness to your lover, so she knows exactly what you like. This will make you a more confident lover (which is one of the hottest things a girl could ever want in the bedroom).

3. It’ll help you last longer

When you practice alone with a self-masturbater like the Hummer, which is as close as it gets to the real thing, it will feel awesome, while helping you build up your sexual stamina for your next encounter with a real-life woman.

And when you use a penis ring with your lover, it can help you go the distance in two ways. First, when applied around the base of your penis and testicles, it can effectively prolong ejaculation via the “squeeze technique.” Secondly, it will trap blood in your penis, so if you have trouble maintaining an erection for an extended time, cock rings will help your erection compete with your appetite (and your cardio). The Tammy Couple’s Ring is the perfect choice because it will help you last longer, while making her come quicker, so you can hopefully orgasm at the very same time.

4. It leads to more orgasms

Sexual pleasure, in its many forms, could not be as accessible as it is today without sex toys. Whether you’re physically disabled, single, or have trouble climaxing, sex toys will ensure you don’t miss out on all the fun.

There are even sex toys if you’re in a long distance relationship. The Moxie gives all the power to the person with the remote, so even if your lover is across the globe, you can still give her orgasms.

5. It will enhance her experience

Guys, you’ve probably already noticed this because you’re totally on it, but many women have trouble climaxing if the clitoris is neglected. It’s biology. So what humanity did was create toys for the clitoris like vibrating wands and clitoral suction toys and vibrating cock rings to more effectively give the attention her clitoris deserves while you’re able to focus on your penetration game. This combination of pleasure will drive her wild, and possibly more so than any other item on this list, make the sex better and more frequent.

Even after reading the points above, some may think introducing sex toys in the bedroom will only benefit her. But who do you think benefits the most when she benefits from something in her life? First her cat, and then… YOU. That’s right, man. If you’re ready for your life (especially your sex life) to reach new levels of greatness, I highly recommend surprising your girl with a new toy.

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Giving great oral pleasure is an art, and if you want to create a masterpiece, you’ve got to equip yourself with the right tools. Even the most talented fingers, lips, and tongues can level-up their oral expertise with a drawer full of sexy accessories. Tickle Kitty has got you covered on the best vibrators, lubes, and sensation-enhancing toys to play wing-man (or woman) to your mouth, and we’ve listed the best ways to play:

1. Keep it Wet and Slippery

Wetter is always better, especially when it comes to oral lovin’. Even the wettest and wildest babes will feel the difference between plain ol’ body fluids and an extra dose of moisture from a sensual lubricant. Spring for a tasty delight like with flavored lube for an added bonus. Once you’ve drenched your partner’s penis or vulva in strawberry sweetness, enjoy lapping it up with your lips and tongue as you explore every inch of their nether regions. For vagina owners, always double-check your ingredients, especially when flavor is involved. A healthy, hypoallergenic lube that’s safe for your insides and outsides—like Slippery Kitty—will be pH balanced, water-based, and free of glycerin and paraben. Drizzle on the wet stuff like you’re making an ice cream sundae and go to town!

2. Suck and Stroke

Just when he thought it couldn’t get much better than a warm mouth and soft tongue, introduce your new secret weapon: a men’s stroker. Penises love texture, and a squishy oral-friendly sleeve, like the Hummer Penis Stroker, brings a new dimension to your head-giving game. The Hummer is full of soft bumps, twists, and turns that feel incredible as they bob up and down his erect penis. Lube him up and alternate between licking and sucking his member with your mouth while stroking him with the masturbator sleeve. If you’ve got a sensitive gag reflex, use the sleeve as an extension of your mouth and suck on the tip of the penis while using the masturbator to stimulate his shaft. No matter how you choose to play, he’ll be in ecstasy with his two favorite things: smokin’ hot oral sex, and a new toy just for him.

3. Pulse and Play

Men’s sex toys have been catering to blow job lovers since the invention of the wheel. It’s about time the ladies had the luxury of top-of-the-line oral delights. Thanks to the Womanizer, vulva owners can now experience all the body-tingling sensations of the most skilled oral giver, all in the palm of your hand. The Womanizer uses tiny pulses of air to recreate the feeling of a gently sucking pair of lips. Although this unique toy is awesome for solo time, we think it also makes the perfect addition to couples’ oral play. Hand it to your partner and use it during foreplay to jump-start the sensitive nerve endings in the clitoris. Once you’re warmed up, move the Womanizer’s suction cup lower on your labia while your lover gently licks your clitoris (or vice versa with a tongue on your labia and the toy on your hot button). This little oral wonder is also a great way to reach your big-O with the helping hand of your partner if you can’t always climax during oral. For tireless lovers (and the occasional tired tongue), the Womanizer hits the spot every time.

4. Jump, Jive, N’ Moan

There’s nothing like a blended orgasm—that toe-curling combination of clitoral and g-spot climax in harmony. Bring some good vibrations to your oral session with a wearable internal sex toy, like the Warming G-spot Swirl. Insert the Swirls curved, bulbous head into your vagina while letting the flatter, outer piece rest on your vulva and clitoris. The internal G-spot shaft will rock you like no other while the vibrating pad simultaniously carresses your vulva’s sensitive nerve endings. Before you get down to sexy business, make sure you’ve got your cell phone handy. This sex-tech vibe connects to an app on your smart phone, where your partner can easily control the vibrational patterns with a single swipe. Givers, take note: to drive her absolutely wild, change your tongue technique every time you click to the next vibration setting. As an added bonus, the Jive teases your partner across the bedroom or across the world. When you can’t get a taste of your lover, the bluetooth connection enables long-distance play time.

5. Booty Rockin’

Oral connoisseurs are always looking for their next thrill. If you’ve tried every sex tip in the book and are looking for a truly unforgettable orgasm, anal stimulation can be a mind-blowing new addition to your oral repertoire. Start slowly with a beginner-friendly small plug, like the Little Zinger. This gently-weighted anal toy is comfortable to insert and offers a little extra fullness as it’s shape stimulates the nerve endings in your anus. Wear it while receiving oral sex and you’ll immediately notice those extra tingles that can only come from teasing your tush. Once you’ve fallen in love with the delicious mix of oral and anal pleasures, spring for a pyrex anal toy like the App-Controlled Ditto+. Let your lover buzz you into orgasm as they take control of the Trio’s remote and three strategically-placed motors while working their mouth over your vulva. If you love blended orgasms, simultaneous clitoral and anal play take pleasure to the next level.

Just when you thought oral sex couldn’t get any better, add a vibe, lube, or stroking tube to bring an extra zing to your tongue skills. There’s no better way to blow your partner’s mind than with some spine-tingling toy tricks!

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You know all those things you should be doing before sex? Like kissing, and touching, and all that other sexy stuff called foreplay? (Which I hope you make lots of time for). Well, there’s some other important things I recommend you try before you even begin foreplay fun. Let’s call it foreplay before the foreplay, or pre-foreplay. I know, it sounds pretty awesome.

Just when you thought sex couldn’t get any better, these thoughtful pre-game touches may take lovemaking to the next level. So please consider the ideas below, and feel free to give these ideas your own creative twist, as no one would be better suited to plan out what will make his jaw drop.

Sensual Prep

Soothe your skin. Skip the Jergens and reach for Almond Oil to lather up with. It’s great for your skin, giving you a natural glow, while making you smell heavenly and feel delicious in his arms.

Add a dash of Vanilla. It’s one of the sexiest scents, and has been proven to drive men wild. Dab some in unexpected hot spots like your cleavage, nipples, navel, and inner thighs. The sultry scent on your erogenous zones will surely be a pleasant surprise.

Mental Prep

Stimulate the biggest sex organ of all—the Brain. Try reading some titillating literature like “5-Minute Erotica” together in bed—out loud. You may be surprised at how arousing that can be.

Get flirty. Try flirting throughout the day so you’ll both be hot from the minute you see each other. Send naughty sexts or voice-messages like “I’m dying to please you tonight,” and, “I love how you touch my ____.” Or, go saucier with, “I want you in my mouth,” and “I’m going to leave you exhausted tonight, baby.”

Physical Prep

Touch yourself. Take some you time before date night begins, by teasing, caressing and exciting yourself. This will get you nice and aroused for when the magical moment comes. But don’t go all the way—edge yourself and play just enough to get your cheeks rosy and your juices flowing.

Be Adventurous

Buy a new sex toy and lube. If you’re new to toys, I recommend The Wave couple’s orgasm ring. It’s easy on the eyes, perfect to use together during lovemaking, can give women amazing orgasms—and sometimes simultaneously with your lover!

Remember, it doesn’t take much to make a huge difference in the bedroom. It’s all the little things that make sex extraordinary, and I have a sneaking suspicion that the above ideas, along with a few of your own, will get you there perfectly. Meoow!

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Vibrator Addiction & Desensitization

Easy O’s From Penetration Alone

Partners Being Responsible For Each Other’s Orgasms

“Good Sex” Equals an Orgasm

Multiple Orgasms For Women, Only

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1. Change things up…

2. Focus on her…

3. Take a break…

4. Throw on a rubber…

5. Squeeze your lemon…

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What Are Kegels?

The Gift That Keeps On Giving

But Really, That’s Not All

No Pain, All Gain

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What’s the best thing that’s ever happened to you in bed? When asking this question to a few of my more ‘experienced’ friends the dopey smiles that crossed their faces were heartwarming. They’ve had some pretty great sex. Recalling it brings up memories of epic orgasms, tantalizing teasing, fantasies realized, and more. Good sex is standard, but great sex can be elusive, so when you find it the memories become something of legend.

Here are the best things done in bed, as told by people who experienced them.

Domination Desires

“I always told my girlfriend about this fantasy I had about fishnet stockings, her hair pulled back and wet, and me tied to the bed. We never actually made that fantasy happen while we were together, but we did meet up one night post-breakup, on my birthday, when she surprised me at home with all the fixings to make the fantasy happen. It was one of the best nights of sex I’ve ever had. It kind of made me realize how great of a girlfriend she could be and that I didn’t appreciate her. We’re still friends to this day and I tell her that fantasy made me truly realize what I lost.” — Dan, 39

Talk This Way

“I think we all have some pretty twisted fantasies that we don’t share with many partners. You wait for that special partner who isn’t going to judge you. I’ve had a long-standing, long-distance hookup buddy who I can tell absolutely any fantasy to. And I have some strange ones. Like, step-brother step-sister ones. But this woman just allows me to say whatever comes naturally and doesn’t make me feel like a freak. She even engages back with me in the dirty talk and asks me questions to fill out the fantasy. I feel like I can completely be myself with her because she’s not in my everyday world.” — Steve, 33

Persistent Pleasure

“You know when you’ve just had too many orgasms in one session and your vagina gets super sensitive and you just can’t possibly be touched anymore? Yeah, well, I thought I was at that point. But my partner insisted he go down on me despite my arguments of, ‘Not again. I can’t again.’ Well, turns out I could, and I did. And I thanked that good man.” — Lauren, 29

Flattery Gets You Anywhere

“I actually like to be complimented on my performance in bed. When a guy compliments my skills at pleasing him, it turns me on. I thrive on the positive feedback. One time a guy kept praising me as I was giving him a blowjob, showering me with adulation and praise and really giving me those grunts of positivity. It absolutely drove me insane to the point where I couldn’t even finish him, I had to get on top of him.” — Samantha, 30

Target Acquired

“One guy was able to target my G-spot by pressing down on my pelvis from the outside. To this day I still haven’t been able to have other guys replicate it. It was the craziest, most intense orgasm and it felt amazing.” — Margaret, 42

Blasts from the Past

“This may sound weird, but my girlfriend and I get off watching videos of each other having sex with previous partners. It took a while before we both were able to admit to each other that we were independently into that. Imagine our surprise when we both said, “I like that, too!” Now it’s a healthy part of our sex life. We don’t swing or sleep with other people, but the idea of bringing each other into these past moments makes it like we are reliving it together and sharing it together. I love watching her get off, and vice versa. It actually brought us insanely close together and has lead to the best sex I’ve ever had.” — Michael, 36

Test Drive

“I met a guy on Tinder but it took a few months before we actually met in person because he lives far away. In those months we developed a sexy friendship with flirty conversations and the occasional nudie pic. By the time we met the anticipation was so intense. But he didn’t want to jump into sex right away. Instead he basically took my body for a test drive. With our underwear on he tossed me around the bed like a rag doll seeing which positions would suit our bodies best. No one has ever done that to me before. It was insanely hot to build the anticipation even further, so that when we finally did take our clothes off I was dying for him to touch me.” — Gaby, 31

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I receive a lot of sex toys. Like, a lot. In fact, I have a whole bottom drawer full of them. That’s been one of the perks of writing about sex for the past five years. But, sadly, it’s been a perk that has been lost on me. I’m terrified of complex vibrators.

Wait…what?

Yes, you read that correctly. No, I am not a virgin. Far from it. I love sex. I have had all sorts of epic, mind-blowing, trance-like sex. With multiple partners. I’ve even gone to sex parties and had sex in front of other people. Point being, I am not a prude.

But in the absence of a relationship or a penis for the night, I’ve always had one vibrator that manages to do the job just the way I like it. No muss, no fuss. Just a solid, strong orgasm to call my own. Ornate vibrators always freaked me out. The phallic shapes with neon colors, the various appendages that vibrate and swirl and light up. It all seemed a bit…much.

So when I unwrapped the ‘Pattering’ G-spot Rabbit I admittedly cowered in fear. But curiosity got the better of me. So I unwrapped the package. First touch sent shivers through my fingertips—so silky soft. A little bit of porn and a little bit of lube and I was ready to give it a whirl.

I rubbed a small amount of lube on the tapered head of the massager. After a few minutes of light-stroking nipple play, I felt myself getting wet and relaxed enough to slide the head of the toy inside me. I was nervous, to say the least. But with a little bit of pressure, the ‘Pattering’ G-spot Rabbit slid inside me with a nice and tight fit.

Three buttons on the base of the toy control the various vibrations. The middle button controls a vibrating, rotating pad on the bulby g-spot tip of the vibe. The bottom button controls the various vibrating speeds of the clit stimulator, which perfectly teases the clit while the vibrator is inside. For the first few minutes I played with only the clit vibrator, while I used my hand to rub my nipples, which tends to be the way that gets me insanely worked up. If you want to make me have a blackout orgasm, that’s the way to start. I figured it would be similar with a vibrator.

I figured right.

After a few minutes of teasing my clit with the pulsing on-and-off of the clit vibrator I was ready to take the plunge with the G-spot massager. I was nervous, admittedly, and maybe not as relaxed as I could have been. But once I felt a bead of moisture trickle down the shaft of the toy, I knew that I was insanely turned on, and I was ready for a G-spot orgasm—something different than I’d felt before.

I slowed the vibration on the clit vibrator, because I felt myself about to come and I knew there were so many more functions to explore. Because the rechargeable massager has 10 vibrations and three pulsation speeds, I knew I needed to take my time.

I started to feel my body get hot, like it usually does when I’m pleasing myself the way I know how, and I could tell my orgasm was building. The added motion of the unique, pattering, G-spot stimulator was smooth yet intense, and coupled with the external vibrator, my back began to arch and my toes began to curl. Eventually I felt my pussy start to loosen up for the shaft inside of me, which only made the pattering motion on my G-spot even more intense, especially as I did a gentle rotation with the shaft, slowly pulling it in and out and turning it slightly to the side to hit all the right angles.

Between the 10 vibration patterns and three pulsation speeds, I feel like I’ve barely scratched the surface on what the ‘Pattering’ G-spot Rabbit is capable of. And, believe it or not, once I find the combination I like, the vibrator will remember the correct setting to get me off to my liking. Every. Single. Time.

So maybe I wasn’t a vibrator girl before. But I clearly see that I have missed a memo. And I am moaning to catch up.

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I sat back and listened to my friends having a lively argument. They were heatedly discussing one of the most contentious points in human history. Not religion or politics, not if the chicken or egg came first, but the equally as fascinating topic of female ejaculation.

Otherwise known as squirting, gushing, niagara falls, or my favorite, splash mountain.

There is so much mystery surrounding this delightful activity. Is it, or isn’t it pee? Where does it come from?

Is it “normal?” Can you learn how to do it? It’s time to settle this debate once and for all.

What the squirt?!

The technical definition of female ejaculation is an expulsion of fluid from or near the vagina during or before an orgasm. Pretty vague, right? The truth is that squirting is as different for each woman as orgasms are, we don’t all have the same kind! Heck, I don’t even always have the same types of orgasms in a day.

Unfortunately there have been no conclusive studies on female ejaculation, as there has been a lack of cohesive definitions and research methodology, as well as terminology. Most of the research done has been to examine the nature of the fluid, and determining whether or not it contains urine, but even that research has been inconclusive.

Some think that the fluid is secreted by the paraurethral ducts, which are through and around the urethra. Other’s feel it related to the Skene’s gland, but drawing a conclusion is proving to be as contentious to science as the location and use of the g-spot has been.

If you find this as frustrating as I do, consider this; pleasure is pleasure. It doesn’t really matter what the chemical compounds are of the fluid that’s spurting out of your pussy, as long as you’re having a good time doing it!

Whether it is in fact urine, or it’s the mysterious and wonderful elixir of life that continues to baffle science, having a good time is all that really matters. Since these fancy scientists can’t figure it all out, why don’t we roll up our sleeves and enjoy some hands-on research? I thought so. For those of us who have never experienced this seeming unicorn of a sexual experience, can squirting be learned? Of course the scientific jury is out on that too, but I sure had fun finding out.

Pre-squirt out.

First things first—it’s best to go to the bathroom and empty your bladder beforehand. Peeing before and after sex is great for men and women alike anyways. It promotes healthy urethras and decreases the chances of UTIs. Whether or not the squirted fluid is urine doesn’t really matter, but if it’s a concern for you, this practice may also help ease your mind.

Laying down a towel or waterproof blanket such as the Liberator Fascinator Throw Moisture-Resistant Sex Blanket is a great next step, as it makes clean up so much easier!

Being in touch with your pelvic floor muscles may increase your chances of celebrating with a gush, so spending some time connecting with your vaginal canal through Kegels can be a wonderful idea. To really get your pelvic floor into shape, the Apex by Pour Moi essentially does your Kegels for you.

This will hopefully start bringing you into your body, and relaxing your mind. I would suggest trying this out by yourself before experimenting with a partner. It’s lovely to be able to really relax and have as little self consciousness as possible. In addition, being in touch with your own body first can also help you communicate your sexual likes and dislikes to your partner.

Ready, set, squirt!

It’s time to get your groove on, and enjoy whatever gets your motor running. Try watching some porn that you like, light some candles to romance yourself, and break out your favorite toys. In order to build up the ejaculatory fluids, you need to be really aroused, so take your time luxuriating in your pleasure, you deserve it.

Now it’s time to locate the sometimes elusive g-spot. With your palm facing towards your vulva, insert a finger or two into your vagina, and try using a ‘come hither’ motion. You should feel a slightly spongy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina, when your finger is around the second knuckle of your opening. Every vagina is different, so don’t get discouraged if you can’t find it right away. The more aroused you are, the more engorged the g-spot becomes, so if you can’t locate it, try knocking out a clitoral orgasm first and spend some more time getting fired up.

Once you’ve got your finger on the button, give that g-spot some love! Explore what feels good. Curved g-spot stimulating toys like the We-Vibe Rave or the NJoy Pure Wand can be a lot of fun—and super helpful.

Firm, circular movements usually work best, but you can also try shorter ones, as if you were scratching an itch (gently). Every few minutes, try bearing down a little, squeezing your pelvic floor as if you were trying to pee. Spending about thirty minutes to an hour doing this is a good starting point, and if anything in particular is feeling really good, do more of that!

Allow yourself to really relax and enjoy this practice. It’s not a race and there is no pressure. In fact, putting pressure on yourself to squirt is often a barrier to actually squirting, so if you notice yourself getting frustrated and blocked, just switch to your most reliable method of orgasm and bring it home. There’s always next time to try again.

More squirt to go around.

Regardless of if you were successful at ejaculating solo, you can try this out with a partner whenever you feel ready. Follow the same steps, including laying down some towels for peace of mind. Make sure to communicate clearly with your partner as they explore your vulva and vagina with their fingers or a toy. This is such a fun way to discover what feels good, and help your sexual partner learn more about your anatomy.

When experimenting with a partner, try out different positions and see if any are more enjoyable than others. They can sit next to you while you lay on a bed, you could sit in their lap on the couch, or even lay next to each other on a big desk or dining room table – the possibilities are endless. Enjoy playing together for as long as you want, and see if you can create your own niagara falls at home!

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Regardless of whether you actually end up at the gushing destination or not, hopefully the journey was pretty enjoyable, and perhaps you even learned a little bit more about yourself along the way.

By Isabella Frappier, originally published on Sex With Emily @sexwithemily

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What do successful people do? Google that question and you’ll come up with lists from every business magazine out there—Entrepreneur, Business Insider, Forbes, Inc…the list goes on. Each of these Wall Street bibles discuss everything from learning the power of ‘No’ to drinking lemon water. The one thing missing on all the lists? Morning sex. But according to a 2018 sleep study, morning sex could be the key to unlocking your productivity. A survey of more than 1,000 people either in a relationship or living with their partner asked if sex in the morning leads to greater productivity.

Survey says? Yes.

According to the study more than 53 percent of men and 45 percent of women said that they were more productive on the days that they have morning sex. With the facts staring you in the face, why aren’t more people doing this?

Time. We all live down to the wire these days. Our days are micromanaged so minutely that anything out of the schedule throws our entire worlds into whack. But putting “morning sex” into your iCal is probably the least sexy thing out there. The survey reports that people would much rather sleep in or drink coffee than have morning sex.

Turns out getting busy has all the same benefits—it boosts energy levels and relieves stress. Plus, having an orgasm is not the worst way to start the day. For both men and women their estrogen and testosterone are at peak levels in the morning, so already you’re setting yourself up for an advantage, rather than at the end of the day when you both might be tired or distracted. Morning sex is also a massive stress reliever, bringing down stress hormones. Other benefits? It releases endorphins, counts as a workout, and can even help you look younger because it releases oxytocin and other anti-inflammatory molecules.

Still, not everyone is willing to do it. Morning sex feels like a luxury, amid all the other things we have to do like showering, making breakfast, getting the kids ready for school, checking emails, scrolling Instagram, and just about any other priority you can think of that is not sex.

But carving out just a little bit of room to get yours in the morning can make all the difference. According to the survey, men said they would give up 41.5 minutes of sleep for sex, while women would give up 30 minutes. A half hour each morning of less sleep for more sex isn’t so much to ask. In fact, according to the survey, the majority of those surveyed who were satisfied in their relationships were having sex just 4 mornings a month. Of the men and women surveyed, sex lasted on average 26 minutes.

Still, even 26 minutes might be a lot to ask for some people. But they don’t need to miss out on getting (a)head in the morning. Set the alarm 20 minutes early and experiment with foreplay. This, at the very least, will leave you both wanting more for later. Pick positions that aren’t super exotic, like missionary or spooning. This at least makes it a little more alluring in the morning when you’re probably exhausted. Or multitask by showering together, giving you the opportunity to have some frisky fun while you prep yourselves for the day ahead.

Another fun option? Try some toys to get you into gear—and in record time. The Womanizer Starlet, for example, is legendary for orgasms in 60 seconds. Surely there is enough time for that. If you’re feeling sluggish in the morning you can also try the Main Squeeze See-Through Penis Pleaser, which is a masturbation toy you can use on him that takes the job out of ‘hand job.’ You can also turn his penis into a vibrating sex toy with The Wave, a penis ring that enhances sex through vibrations, and makes simultaneous orgasms within reach.

The point is the only one standing in the way of your morning orgasm (and productivity) is you. With a little bit of time management, and the desire to get yours, you could be climaxing your way to a more productive day.

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Orgasm denial can be an intensely cruel game, yet it can also be so excitingly erotic. It will take your orgasms to the next level—if you’re ever allowed to have one that is (I told you it was cruel).

You see, orgasm denial is the practice of being sexually stimulated, but then having the stimulation stop suddenly, and the orgasm denied. Oftentimes, you won’t be the one controlling this. Whether or not you orgasm will be in the hands of your dominant lover.

The Three Main Types of Orgasm Denial

Complete denial is the practice of sexually stimulating and playing with your partner, but never allowing them to orgasm. This can take place over the course of hours, days or even months.

Edging is very similar to orgasm denial, but the ‘denied’ person is actually allowed to orgasm at some point.

Ruined orgasm is when one is stimulated to the point of orgasm, but then stimulation stops mid-orgasm, making it ‘incomplete’ and physically less satisfying for the receiver.

The Benefits

Orgasm denial adds an erotic element of powerplay to your sexual explorations, especially in BDSM communities. By withholding an orgasm, the dom has complete power over the pleasure their partner will receive, and if they ever get to orgasm. The sub enjoys and gets off on the fact they have no control and are in the hands of their dom on what they will or will not receive. Hence, a power exchange.

It’s a great practice if you’re looking to enhance your orgasm control. Your pelvic floor muscles are what contract involuntarily during orgasm. So the more you edge at your orgasm’s tip, the more your pelvic floor muscles are being pumped and exercised. This also keeps your orgasm muscles active and healthy. With more orgasm control, you can learn to last longer, and even learn how to orgasm on command.

This technique is also a great character builder. It teaches you to be patient and gives you the ability to savor the pleasure you do receive. Because when—and if—you finally do orgasm, the explosive release is unparalleled.

Lastly, the practice of orgasm denial can lead to bigger, better and more frequent orgasms. By withholding orgasm for a prolonged time period, the built up sensations lead to an even more explosive release. Who wouldn’t want that? Maybe it’s time you give it a try?

Orgasm Denial Experimentation

The easiest way to experiment with orgasm denial is through masturbation. Set goals to edge yourself up to orgasm say 3-5 times when you’re starting out. So don’t let yourself come until you’ve almost reached orgasm, paused, then restarted. Vary that as you become more comfortable and want to play even more.

With a partner, enjoy mutual-masturbation with edging. Make it a fun game: see who can last the longest receiving pleasure before reaching that point of no return. Whoever orgasms first, loses!

The Best Toys For The Job

Womanizer Deluxe—Orgasm denial via clitoral stimulation is very popular. The Womanizer Deluxe’s unique air-suction technology is designed specially to please the clitoris. And with its super easy-to-use buttons, you can quickly and comfortably switch between the lowest and highest settings, making it the perfect edgeplay accessory.

Le Wand Premium Massager—For those who are into powerplay, this is the epitome of power when it comes to vibrators. Known as the Cadillac of Vibrators, Le Wand is the strongest you can get. If your sub loves a lot of power, then this vibrator that won’t disappoint.

Rocking G Rabbit—Explore edgeplay with triple-stimulation using the Rocking G rabbit vibe. It offers the nice feeling of fullness, with a “self-stroking” G-spot tip and individual vibrating clit tickler. Wow. Now you can control each vibrating pleasure independently and get creative with edging your partner. Switch between G-spot and clitoral action, turn them both on at the same time, or make a fun pattern!

Butterfly Remote Venus Penis—This remote-controlled device gives your partner all the power. Simply insert the wearable vibrator, and hand over the remote, then be a good sub and enjoy the pleasures to come.

Pocket Pulse Penis Vibe—This next-gen penis vibrator offers two unique oscillating motors, and wraps snuggly around his penis. Its unique design allows for hands-free pleasure too! The Pocket Pulse will oscillate on one of his hot spots, the frenulum, or glide it up and down his shaft, stroking him til he’s at the edge.

Satisfyer Air-Pressure Penis Pleaser—Better than a regular handjob, use this masturbator to stroke him until he’s close to climax. Then remove it to show him who’s really the boss.

There’s no denying that orgasm denial isn’t for everyone. It takes a lot of patience to endure such a humbling experience. But, as you learned above, there are many benefits, including more powerful— and better control over—orgasms. And hey, who doesn’t want better orgasms?

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You wouldn’t bake a cake before preheating the oven, or skip ahead to the last page of a book—so when it comes to sex, foreplay is an essential part of the recipe.

When kicking off a budding fling or new relationship, things like kissing, touching and everything else to help set the mood are second nature. With the fire alive and a super hot escapade on the horizon, all steps of foreplay come with exploring a new connection; but as things often move to a more comfortable state of being, savoring the appetizer can sometimes go by the wayside of the entree expected time and time again.

So here’s why that’s a problem

Efficiency is great when it comes to business and doing laundry, but in the intimate moment it can be a real buzzkill. Thanks to research and insight that’s brought the infamous orgasm gap to light, it goes without saying certain parties will notice a bigger difference in satisfaction than others when cutting straight to the sensual chase.

Of course guys can go zero to sixty at the drop of a heated hat, but biology says gals need a bit more time (and stimulation) to get in the zone. And for something that’s arguably just as important to one’s experience as the actual sex itself, it’s no wonder foreplay is the true ticket to heightened elation.

Preparation is everything

By setting the stage with a sultry sesh of pre-sex festivities, you’re able to prepare the mind as well as the body for the climactic action to come. Orgasm is just as much a mental process as it is a physical one (especially when it comes to the female body), so lining up all the needed elements is absolutely essential.

Stimulation is key when it comes to experiencing pleasure. So when guys require getting hard on the outside, it’s not always as apparent that gals need the same reaction…just internally.

Arousing clitoral nerve endings results in the flow of blood and lubrication that helps sexual encounters feel enjoyable. And since upwards of 80% of women struggle with orgasming from intercourse alone, survey says that 17 minutes of foreplay needed on average isn’t just an Internet myth.

And best part is—it doesn’t have to start in the bedroom itself!

The most basic form of foreplay is flirting, which can be done anywhere at (almost) any time. The simplest acts of hugging, kissing and talking dirty can really turn up the heat—beginning however early in the game you’d like! Sure, we traditionally think of foreplay as leading right into bedroom business, but our dirty little secret is stringing out the tease.

The lower and slower you’re able to extend the allure, the better and more powerful of an end product you’re able to have.

Which leads to the ultimate lubrication…

And when communication’s on point, that can really make all the difference.

It’s one thing to go for the most obvious erogenous zones, but another to pay attention and intuitively hit all the right spots of your partner’s dreams.

By talking and keying into your other half’s natural reactions, you can explore each other’s bodies and desires to discover what really gets them going. And by keeping every element of touch, sound and visuals in the mix, you have a sure-fire recipe for sexy success.

We know it, we love it, we need it—so next time you find yourself tangled between the sheets, think twice before you cut foreplay from the erotic agenda.

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If there’s one thing people are dying to know, it’s whether they’re “normal” compared to everyone else.  And for something as complicated as sex, it’s hard to even say there’s such thing as a standard. But regardless of how you phrase it, everyone loves a good sensual stat, so here are just a few of our fave’s to see how your game may (or may not) rank among the average:

Firsts

How old are people when they had their first orgasm?

One of life’s greatest rights of passages tends to happen all across the maturity map. Research has shown ages 17-19 is when 27% of people experienced their first orgasm, followed by 19% experiencing orgasm at ages 14-16, and 18% at 20-24. And unsurprisingly enough, the smallest reported group was ages less than 11 years old coming in at 9.5%, but hey—to each their own.

How old are most people when they lose their virginity? 

When it’s just plain and simple intercourse, the average age of first-time males is 16.8 years old, and for females 17.2, according to the Kinsey Institute.

Masturbation

How often do people masturbate? 

Whether flicking the bean or wanking one off, men and women both find bliss in the pleasure-packed pastime of masturbation. A 2016 study by Japanese toy company TENGA revealed 95% of males and 81% of females admit to having masturbated at some point in their lifetime. On average, they found men masturbated around 15 times per month, and women around 8 times per month; as well as singles doing so 16 times per month, in contrast to couples at 10 times per month.

Why do most people masturbate?

(As if we need a reason) That same TENGA research revealed the most common goal 59% of people cited for masturbating is purely to relieve sexual tension. Closely behind, 56% of the group also credited it to sexual pleasure, 54% said for relaxation/stress relief, and last but not least 26% showed their love for it in order to help fall asleep.

Orgasms

How frequently do people orgasm?

It comes as no surprise that men typically orgasm more than women (during sex, at least), but how exactly does that break down? According to a nationwide study, 95% of heterosexual men reported ‘usually to always’ crossing the finish line when being intimate, with 89% of gay men and 88% of bisexual men following suit. On the flip side, 86% of lesbians with only 66% of bisexual women and 65% of hetero women claimed the same degree of frequency.

How long does it take to climax?

In a world where the orgasm gap has never been more alive, couples have long faced the contradiction of men needing around 5 and a half minutes to seal the sexy deal, as opposed to women who need about 17 minutes on average.

How do most women orgasm?

A Cosmopolitan study shows that masturbating with a hand or toy has shown to be the most popular route in a landslide for about 39% of gals, with 20% citing a vaginal intercourse/clitoral stimulation combo, 15% saying vaginal intercourse alone, 12% crediting oral sex, 9% loving a partner using their hand and a lonely 2% enjoying a partner using toys on them.

Toys

How common really are they? 

TENGA’s data also showed American men pale in comparison to women when it comes to owning sex toys at about 20% to 42%, respectively.

Which ones are most popular?

But of all the ones to choose from, vibrators definitely take the cake as the most popularly purchased toy online at 19.2%. Dildos come in second at 16%, followed by lube (which hello, is more essential than a toy) at 14%, anal beads at 12%, penis rings at 11.8%, rubber vaginas/masturbation sleeves at 8.5%, and blindfolds, strap-on’s, handcuffs and more at the bottom with 5% or less.

Porn

How long do most people spend watching porn?

According to PornHub’s healthy hoard of viewer data, the worldwide average of time spent per visit in 2017 clocked in at 9 minutes and 59 seconds. A whopping 23 second increase from the previous year! In the US alone, the average came in a bit higher at 10 minutes and 33 seconds, with Mississipians holding it down for the longest at 11 minutes, 33 seconds, compared to those going for gold in Kansas at 9 minutes, 5 seconds.

Ok, but what about women specifically?

We know guys always get the rap for porn habits, but research from Marie Claire revealed more than 60% of gals watch it a few times per month to every week, and upwards of 10% admitted daily. And while more than half noted they usually indulge alone, 33% get down with watching it with a partner on an occasional or regular basis as well.

And Lastly For Good Measure…

How long is the average penis?

Although size only matters to some, the great wide world of penises has proven to typically range anywhere from 1.6 to 10.2 inches. The average size when flaccid is around 3.5 to 3.9 inches, but when fully erect measures up to around 5.5 inches in all.

So even if you slept through your college stats class and think you’re the ultimate cheese that stands alone, remember there are always people that fall around you on the never-ending distribution curve of sextistics. Study up!

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It happens. Sometimes you just get too excited, and you come before you (and she) would have liked. You’ve probably tried things, like imagining an elderly woman named Myrtle playing Bingo, in an effort to keep from coming too soon. But if that didn’t work out for you, here are some things that may be standing in your way of escaping the awful label of being a minute man.

1. You’re skipping foreplay.

Not only do women prefer engaging in a number of acts before intercourse, it’ll also help you develop in the duration department. If you play your cards right, she will have orgasmed before you ever stick it in, and that’s one less thing to worry about—which takes us to another potential pitfall.

2. Performance anxiety.

If your thoughts during sex are consumed by the fear of finishing too quickly, it’s not going to help you avoid premature ejaculation. Relaxation is the key to lasting longer. Though it’s fairly normal to experience this anxiety in early adulthood, it could develop into full-blown erectile dysfunction later in life, and you don’t want that. Take charge of the anxiety, make it your bitch, and learn from the rest of our list.

3. Lack of control.

Though it can happen quickly, ejaculation doesn’t exactly sneak up on you. When you feel like you’re getting close, you need to stop, at least momentarily. Don’t just finish and say, “Whoops, sorry.” Pull out and take a quick breather. If necessary, just tell her you don’t want to come yet because you’re having so much fun. It’ll not only flatter her, but it’ll show her that her satisfaction is important to you. Meantime, consistently exercising this control (“edging”) will aid your duration skills down the road, and the need for these pauses in the action will become less frequent.

4. You’re not masturbating.

You might be thinking: “I’m gonna get laid. I don’t need to jerk off!” Well, if lasting longer in bed is important to you, masturbating before taking part in the real thing will help. The less semen you have built up, just screaming to get out, the more stamina you’ll find you have when it comes time to work your magic on her. Masturbating is also a perfect time to practice your edging skills by recognizing when you’re getting close so you can slow things down as needed.

5. You’re not using a condom.

Loss of sensitivity is a common male complaint when it comes to wearing a rubber. So it stands to reason that putting one on may help you last longer by decreasing your little buddy’s sensitivity during an intimate moment. Some condoms even have an anesthetic built-in just for this purpose.

6. You’re breathing wrong.

You might even be holding your breath, and that’s bad. Mr. Miyagi wouldn’t steer you wrong, so remember to regularly breathe in through your nose and out your mouth. It’ll relax your muscles and diffuse tension in the pelvis that triggers ejaculation.

7. You’re not wearing a penis ring.

OK, this one is my favorite, because sex toys are so fun. The penis ring restricts blood flow in your penis, which keeps you hard for a longer period of time, as the blood has nowhere to escape. Vibrating rings add additional pleasure for her, since they provide some buzz right where she needs it. Overall, cock rings provide a win-win situation for all involved.

8. You don’t know where your PC muscle is.

As mentioned above, when the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles in your pelvis get too tense, you’re going to ejaculate. You’ve probably heard that Kegel exercises can help men strengthen PC muscles, but if you don’t learn to control them, you’re not going to last any longer. The easiest way to find your PC muscle is by taking a leak. As you stand over the toilet draining your bladder, try to stop the flow using muscles only. The muscle you’ll find yourself tensing is your PC. By knowing exactly where it is, you’ll now be armed with the knowledge of what muscle to relax when you feel like you’re getting close to coming.

9. You’re not trying different positions.

Not only will she appreciate switching things up, it may actually help you last longer, depending on what typically sends you over the edge. For instance, I’m a face guy. That is, I typically finish while my partner and I are face to face. So, if there’s something about seeing the pleasure on her face that sets you off, try working her from behind for a while instead. Know what your triggers are so you can avoid them for as long as possible during sex.

10. You haven’t learned to squeeze.

Squeezing your Johnson just below the head can prevent an eruption. The idea here is close off the urethra that carries your semen to freedom. In addition to avoiding ejaculation, this squeezing technique can reduce the mounting tension by forcing blood out of the penis, thereby increasing the longevity of your sexual encounter.

So yeah, there’s a lot of little reasons which could be the culprit for comin’ too quickly. And trust me, these things can add up. Fast. Like, faster than premature ejaculation. Luckily, you’re now armed with the many mistakes which might prevent you from lasting longer, so you can do your part to avoid them and then go the distance.

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While Kegels first came to popularity with women in order to tighten things up down there after giving birth, men have been increasingly drawn to these pelvic floor exercises in order to improve sexual performance. But do they work? Trust me, if you commit to adding Kegels to your daily routine, you’re going to absolutely blow her mind!

First, let’s examine the muscles involved, then how they correspond to sexual experiences. This network of muscles begins at the base of your penis, and keeps numbers 1 and 2 from escaping before you reach the bathroom to release them. If you’ve ever had trouble peeing in a public bathroom because someone else was around, it was because these muscles tensed up. Science, yo.

But bladder and bowel control aren’t the only things these pelvic floor muscles are good for, of course. When it comes to sex, strengthening and controlling these muscles can be a huge benefit on several levels. But chances are, these aren’t the ones you’re typically working on at the gym, so we’ll need to locate them before we go any further.

Step into the bathroom. If you’re like me, it’s not unusual to unleash a fart when you pee, as a result of these muscles relaxing. So try to find these pubococcygeus (PC) muscles when you’re taking a leak by trying to stop or slow the flow in midstream, while also doing that thing you do when you have to fart, but necessity requires you to hold it in. These are the PC muscles you’ll focus on when doing Kegels. And now that you’ve found them, let’s get to work.

Kegel exercises can be done while sitting or standing, or even when walking. You’re trying them already as you’re reading, aren’t you? That’s good! The key is being able to isolate the PC muscles from the others surrounding them. They can be strengthened by simply tightening them and holding it for several seconds, releasing, then repeating.

While you’re doing these exercises, be mindful to avoid tightening your buttocks, abdomen and thigh muscles. This is all about taking control of the PC muscles that are basically used to working without your conscious involvement. Avoid the temptation to hold your breath. Keep your breathing regular, as with any other exercise or activity. Three sets of 10 reps per day will provide results you’ll notice within as little as one week. But if you want her to notice, stick with it.

So, why are these muscles so important when it comes to sex? Well, these are the same ones that contract when you have an orgasm. So if avoiding premature ejaculation is important to you —and it should be—being able to control them on-command will prevent you from climaxing too soon, so you can understand why this is such a huge benefit of Kegels.

Don’t make the mistake of doing Kegels during sex, though. Remember that you want the muscles down there relaxed, not tensed, which triggers the ejaculation you’re trying to put off. In fact, it’s impossible to ejaculate when they’re relaxed.

Most of us will experience erectile dysfunction at some point in our lives, if only temporarily. But after our sexual peak around age 18, the older we get, the greater the chance that we’ll be affected by ED in some manner. Kegels have proven to be an effective tool in combating forms of ED, including often being credited with increased blood flow in order to produce and maintain stronger erections.

All of these are great reasons to start a Kegels regimen and really take things up a notch for her in bed. But if providing her with better, unforgettable sex isn’t enough, there’s a selfish reason why you should give them a try—better orgasms for yourself. Makes sense, doesn’t it? By toning your PC muscles, those orgasmic contractions will become stronger and more intensely pleasurable. But only after you’ve sent her through the roof, of course.

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The human body is pretty extraordinary. All of its systems working together to keep us alive, trying their best to keep us healthy (even with all the shit we put in our bodies), all so we can continue to delve into the pleasures, pains, and mysteries the world has to offer us.

One of the most complex of these systems is the reproductive—and while scientifically it is for, well, reproduction, it does oh, so much more.

Our sexual organs are wondrous things that we are still learning vastly more about. If you thought everything was covered in sex ed, you are quite mistaken. In fact, far too many curriculums on the subject barely scratch the pubic mound when it comes to anatomy. And don’t get me started on function or pleasure. But, I digress.

What subject is rarely, if at all discussed? Orgasms—specifically women’s (who even knew that was a thing until they were much older?). That’s why there are so many publications, like this one, dedicated to the learning, understanding, and implementing of women’s pleasure.

Now, because of science, articles, and sex positivity, women have found out that, not only are our orgasms stronger than men’s, but hey, we’re multi-orgasmic! It’s really great if you’ve mastered it.

But, what about men? While their orgasms seem to be easier to achieve, they also have a refractory period. This is the time after orgasm that a man can no longer maintain an erection—and it varies from person to person. So, are multiple orgasms out of the cards for our penile fellows? Actually, they’re not! It’s just not exactly written about as much.

So, if you’re still with me, there are a few ways to get that multi-orgasmic streak going.

Trains for Gains

Multiple orgasms all start with your pelvic floor health. A lot of people are under the impression that Kegel exercises are only for women, but men need to strengthen their PC muscles just as much. Since this isn’t exactly common knowledge, overall, men’s pelvic floors aren’t as strong, which means neither is their ejaculatory control.

The more you work out the muscles that start and stop your pee, the more control you can get over your ejaculation, and the more orgasms you’ll ultimately be able to have.

Utilizing the Prostate

Also known as the male p-spot, the prostate is a hidden gem in a man’s rectum full of untapped pleasure. Many have dabbled in prostate play, but for some, the thought may send a chill down their spine. This magical gland is one key to being multi-orgasmic. Just be sure to use a “CBD” lube as it’s ideal for CBD’s relaxation and anti-anxiety properties.

Stimulating your prostate not only brings you insane pleasure, but it helps prevent cancer and improves your overall health. To work your prostate even more, the company behind the Intensity, Pour Moi, is in the process of creating a device that men will be able to use to work out your prostate and pelvic floor muscles for you (see reason above).

Once you achieve an orgasm this way, you’ll notice that you may have only been slightly erect, only ejaculated a little, or maybe not even at all. When you get used to this sensation, you can try to keep going after you’ve had one orgasm, and go on to have another. You could also switch to penile stimulation, OR try doing a bit of both. Talk about explosive.

Getting to the Edge

Okay, so now you have a PC muscle regimen and you’ve finally found and stimulated your prostate—what else can you do? Here comes the real test of your orgasmic strength—edging.

Edging is the practice of you or your partner bringing you to the point right before orgasm, and then stopping, so you don’t cross the threshold. What this does is help you to remember that feeling so when you’re having sex, you can pull it back, and go for longer.

Once you have that down, you’ll start to get more control over when you’re actually releasing ejaculate. To get even more practice, you can use the Fleshlight Surge, designed with this method of stimulation in mind. And to help you get used to this feeling, you can try using Promescent, a spray guaranteed to make you last longer in bed.

The more used to this feeling you get, the more you’ll actually orgasm without busting, allowing you stay hard, and being able to orgasm again. Essentially, you’re building muscle memory, just like any other workout you would do.

WOW. That was a whole lot to digest. While many of you will want to try this out, it does take time, focus, and patience to master. So, if you really want to go for gold, you’ll have to be dedicated to the masturbation marathons ahead of you. At the same time, don’t get discouraged if you get a little overexcited.

Originally published on sexwithemily.com

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By now we’ve all heard of the gender pay gap, and how women typically make only 80-percent of what a man earns during a lifetime in the workforce. I know what you’re thinking: “I’m not even an employer. And if I were, I wouldn’t be short-changing any woman who works for me.” That’s good. But what you may not be aware of, however, is that women are being cheated in the bedroom, too—and that means some of us aren’t doing our jobs, guys.

The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB) revealed that, although 85-percent of us apparently believe we gave our partner an orgasm during our last sexual encounter, only 64-percent of the women surveyed said that was true. Meanwhile, 91-percent of us came during that most-recent romp. That, my friends, is an orgasm gap, and here are some ways we can close it.

1. Open dialogue

If there’s one thing these numbers tell us, it’s that our ladies are being too kind, letting us believe we’ve adequately performed, when they actually faked an orgasm for our benefit. Make sure she knows it’s important to you that she’s satisfied—and not to let you off the hook with a fake orgasm that essentially means, “Finish up, and get off of me.” Every woman is different, so don’t assume they all like the same things. She may be too shy to tell you outright, so ask her what it takes to put her over the top.

2. Become cliterate

If you don’t know where the clitoris is, or what to do with it, you’re failing. While it’s easy for us to come during vaginal intercourse, women aren’t built the same way, and that clit needs stimulation if you’re going to satisfy her. Just bangin’ is not going to be enough to do the trick. The clit is where all those wonderful nerve endings are, and you need to work it. Protip: Most women prefer having the clit indirectly stimulated through contact with the hood or labia during penetration.

3. Ask her to masturbate for you

No, seriously. Because 64-percent of the women surveyed did not orgasm during their last sexual encounter, it stands to reason they may have had to pleasure themselves while we reveled in our believed prowess. In fact, according to the NSSHB’s findings, 60-percent of women are masturbating alone before the age of 20, and the numbers rise from there. If she’ll let you, you’ll pick up a lot by watching her reach the Big O. You’ll notice that she’ll alternate speeds and intensity. Don’t just watch—learn.

4. Oral sex

We’re not alone in enjoying getting head, fellas. If you’re worried about your ability to make her come during regular vaginal intercourse, you sure as hell better be going down on her to get the job done before you even think about finishing. Again, know how to stimulate the clit, and remember to switch up your speed and pattern. You know, like spelling out the alphabet with your tongue down there, instead of incessantly up and down, or side to side, only. When you do something right, she’ll respond, so pay attention.

5. Foreplay

The NSSHB study found that variety really is the spice of life for women when it comes to sexual satisfaction. In other words, don’t just drop your pants and jump on her. She doesn’t want to be rushed. Take the time to really get her worked up. Think of it as building steam until she goes off. Findings indicated that the more acts involved during an encounter, the better the chances are that she’ll climax. While more than 90-percent of us guys have no problem reaching an orgasm by jumping right into intercourse, barely half of the women surveyed said it was enough for them. It’s wasn’t until five different acts were performed that women’s orgasm rates approached 90-percent, so be sure to try different positions.

6. Bring in the toys

Honestly, guys, this is the easiest and the most surefire way for her to orgasm. And this isn’t an “if all else fails” idea—you should be using toys, anyway. Supplementing your lovemaking with a sex toy is what Batman or James Bond would do. They use cool gadget all the time. So should you. I recommend using a small vibrator to stimulate her clit while you penetrate her with your penis (if she can handle it).

In most cases, it’s not that difficult to help her climax. I do not doubt if us gentlemen put in a little extra time and care, we can finally close that gap for good. Who knows, women might even start having multiple orgasms. And then, for the first time probably ever, we can see a surplus. I mean, if women aren’t getting paid as much as men, they should at least be getting more orgasms.

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A lot can be said about the ills of pornography, and some of it might even be true. But, like with any controversial issue, there’s always another side to the coin. So while religious leaders and political figures pass their—oftentimes hypocritical—judgments on this particular industry, it’s time to remind everyone that it’s not all bad. In fact, there are actually some positive things that can be learned from porn. In no particular order, here’s our Get-Lucky Seven:

1. Female orgasms matter.

Unless you’re talking about fetish videos specifically about women as sexual slaves (not that I would know anything about these types of pornos), you’ll notice that the women in porn scenes nearly always climax before the man finishes. And that’s actually super admirable. Great job, porn.

2. Saliva is a decent lubricant.

Whether it’s an erotic video or photos, these porn scenarios usually begin with oral sex before leading directly to intercourse. It’s a natural progression, perhaps even dictated by human instinct. In addition to being an excellent form of foreplay to arouse both partners, it readies the participants to take things right to the next level. And if you use a water-based lubricant, a little saliva is a great way to bring your lube back to life when it dries up.

3. Foreplay first.

Sure, it usually begins with an absurd scenario, like a repairman coming to the house, and the girl answering the door scantily clad. I don’t know why they feel the need to create a story, but I suppose it’s sometimes appropriate to set a scene that will appeal to a particular kink. Regardless, the fun usually begins with a kiss, and that’s good! Then comes the undressing, kissing and touching elsewhere. Before too long, they’re both in a frenzy and the penis goes into the vagina. This is an appropriate lesson to be learned for the chronology of good sex.

4. Talking and being vocal makes sex better.

While couples often feel the need to be quiet because others (perhaps children) may be in an adjacent room, or just down the hall, a little dirty talk never hurt anyone, and you can whisper if you have to. Don’t be shy. It’s fun to involve all the senses during sex, so if you’re not communicating with one another, things can get boring fast. Things like moaning will let your partner know you’re into them, and that you’re in the moment. But if you really want to turn up the heat, go ahead and talk dirty to each other!

5. It’s all about the clitoris.

Yeah, chew on that for a second, ladies. I can’t imagine how awful a lover I must have been as fumbling teenager my very first time. I sure as heck didn’t know what a clitoris was, or its importance, but I quickly learned once I discovered porn. I’m sure most ladies will be thankful to be with a lover who can hit the ground running, rather than trying to explain to him the anatomy of the vulva. If he still needs an explanation, get him a copy of Dr. Sadie’s clitoris guide, The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris–Orgasmic Fingertip Touching Every Woman Craves for some helpful illustrations and technique tips.

6. What do men want?

This one’s for the ladies, of course. Given that a vast majority of porn is geared toward men, it can be a valuable insight for women wanting to learn what makes men tick sexually. While it’ll come as no surprise that we’ll never turn down a blowjob, there’s much more to be gleaned, like that role-playing can be a lot of fun, for instance, or that we wouldn’t mind watching you play with yourself. While the circumstances are usually laughable in porn, situations can be a big turn-on for guys. Remember, what you see in porn is what many of us are fantasizing about when we masturbate. We’re really not very complicated, so throwing the spice of fantasy into the mix will never hurt.

7. Learn what you’re into.

There’s probably stuff out there you’ve never dreamed of, and you might just like it! Exploring pornography can actually teach you a lot about yourself, and what your particular turn-ons are. Once you know what you like, you’ll be a better lover, as long as you’re able to communicate it. Everyone has one or two kinks that are arguably weird, but when you’re open about, you’ll find your partner will usually be happy to play along.

So what do you know? Maybe porn ain’t all that bad after all. I wouldn’t exactly call them instructional videos, but there are quite a few things you can learn from watching pornography. And you can totally use that defense if your girlfriend stumbles upon your browser history.

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My husband is still buzzing about his guybrator experience. And if you don’t know dick about this sex toy for his dick, you should. It’s a wrap around sex toy for his wiener. 

First things first. Most vibrators did nothing for my guy’s wiener. In fact, he would often whine that these toys would provide too much zip or too little zap.  But then he met the Pocket Pulse Penis Vibe, a palm-sized penis pleaser that provides a whole handful of stimulating, dual-motor, oscillating vibrations. It’s made exclusively for male members and it’s hands down the best vibrator my guy has ever used.

To begin, with we charged the toy for a few hours so it wouldn’t disappoint. 

When we were ready, we wrapped his dog in this tight little bun. He started off soft, which definitely made it easier to get him in the toy, and I started kissing his neck. First small pecks, and then full mouth sucks. I had one hand on his balls and could feel when his dick began to grow harder and thicker. We got out the lube (you’ll need it for this toy), and applied some to his penis. Then I gently stroked the Pulse up and down his shaft. We explored the various oscillation patterns from frenulum to base, and I noticed his dick was digging the vibes. So much so that after a little while of up and down movement, I let it go, hands-free. And as I sucked on his nipples and kissed him all over, his dick got the type of hard it gets before he comes.

So we did the unthinkable…we turned down the vibration. We wanted to prolong the experience and live on the edge for a while. His dick was still hard, but his body grew less stiff. He got into the groove of the lower vibration, and without further stroking, he jacked up the power. It wasn’t long before I watched with delight as my guy, using his guybrator, erupted like a geyser.  It was a semen filled explosion of epic proportions. 

There is both a plus and minus button on the toy, and, they are pretty intuitive.  This thing works well as a vibrator, and it can also be used as a stroker.  First time you charge it, it takes about three hours to get fully juiced. It’s pretty loud on the highest setting, so remember that if you’re masturbating in a house full of people you’d prefer didn’t know you were masturbating.

That being said, you should see it for yourself. It’s truly a magical manly experience. 

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If you’re reading this, bless you for giving oral sex the respect it deserves. Sadly, some people are unwilling to take the time and effort to properly to reciprocate oral sex with their partners, though they are enthusiastic to be on the receiving end. Enter the orgasm gap: the statistical fact that in heterosexual encounters, men orgasm more than women. Statistics show over 80% of women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, which is why oral sex can be critical. Aside from your cunnilingus capabilities, developing a compassionate mentality is a way to tip the orgasm equality scales. Here is a breakdown on becoming the best (oral sex) partner you can be.

Act (and ask) selflessly.

It’s no secret that communication is a challenge for lovers during intimacy, whether we are worried about hurting someone’s feelings, sounding pushy, or killing the mood. Cultural conditioning leads us to believe that staying quiet is easier than speaking up, or learning each other’s love languages. However, there’s a simple solution to remove the guesswork while taking pressure off your partner. Just ask! Let her know how much you love making her feel good, and you want to know what she loves best. Instead of asking “How does this feel?”, be more specific. Tell her you will perform a series of techniques that she will assign with a number. Example: 1 for “Meh” and 5 for “Eff yes!”. This game is an opportunity to demonstrate that you’re not just going through the motions, rushing to get your piece of the action. It will equip you with the knowledge of what works, while empowering her to communicate what she wants. (Why this concept isn’t the Golden Rule of Pleasure, I’ll never know!)

About those tips and techniques…

To start, never overlook the importance of a comfortable environment. Believe it or not, the lights off can make or break our ability to orgasm. Ask if she prefers the lights on or off before getting down to business. Next, grab a pillow or two and slide it underneath her pelvis, to give you a better angle while easing pressure on her back.

As far as oral sex techniques, slow, repeated ice cream licks on the vulva and the U-spot (the opening to the urethra, just above the vaginal opening, above the lips) are a crowd pleaser. Once you get into a rhythm, practice writing the letters of the alphabet with your tongue…in cursive if you’re fancy! Don’t be afraid to get up close and personal, either. By that I mean—use your face. All of it. Big noses are a plus. If you’re nimble, ask if she’d like internal or external finger or sex toy stimulation. For women who like simultaneous stimulation, there is nothing like the gift of a blended orgasm (G-spot and clitoris at the same time). Truth be told, what it really comes down to is dedication, and attention to detail. If all else fails, stop and ask for directions!

Don’t stop, get it, get it!

If your partner is expressing verbal or physical signs of sexual bliss, keep the same motion flowing. It may be an innocent knee-jerk reaction to abruptly switch up the tongue techniques when your partner approaches the edge. Their pleasure is peaking, and one might interpret that as needing to up the level of intensity all around. I have been guilty of this in the past. When their orgasm approached, a voice in my head would whisper, “Lights! Camera! Jazz Hands!”, at which time my hands and mouth would operate frantically with no rhyme or reason. (Just…why?) I ended up learning this later, unfortunately, as each partner was too coy to tell me otherwise. Repeat strokes aren’t boring; they are the stairway to orgasm heaven. If you are experiencing symptoms of lockjaw or carpal tunnel and your partner is enjoying that technique, just stay…right…there.

The female orgasm is a bi-product of something bigger than fancy techniques and vibrators combined. It is the result of mental clarity; thoughts free of sexual expectations and daily stress. There is a ways to go before equal pay in the workforce, but in the meantime, orgasm equality is attainable. One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind. One blog at a time.

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The Heart Me Vibrator caught my eye around Valentine’s Day, and I couldn’t resist treating myself as a token of self-love. Despite its simplicity, I was hoping it would be equally as powerful as its ultra-femme appearance.

It arrived, cute and colorful as advertised, from the pretty box branded ‘With Love, xxx’ to the luxurious-looking vibrator itself. I felt like I had just received the perfect gift. Fitting perfectly in the palm of my hand, I noted how comfortable it was to hold. I found myself spacing out just stroking the soft silicone for a minute. While it felt silky smooth, it still maintained a grippy feel that would come in handy if things got rowdy. (And by “rowdy”, I mean “slippery with lubricant”.) I plugged the Heart Me Vibe into my computer and let it charge for a few hours. When I was ready to use it, I held down the power button and actually blurted out “Whoa!” when it started vibrating. I was planning to take this on vacation over the weekend (it’s so petite and travel-friendly!), but I couldn’t wait, so I jumped right into bed.

I’m a clit-stimulation girl, so the size did make me a bit skeptical because it’s pretty small. Once I started massaging myself with different circular motions, and sliding up and down to find the right spot, I realized how powerful this little vibe really was. Then, I flipped the heart so that the pointed end fit between my two forefingers, while my thumb rested on the top. The shape really felt like it’s meant to be handheld, because it moved exactly where I wanted with little effort. Another benefit was that it didn’t heat up like other bullet or handheld vibrators, which can get really hot and at times. I was even able to incorporate my G-spot vibrator and keep the Heart in place with my left hand simultaneously. With the combined power of these two sex toys, I reached an intense orgasm in a whopping 30 seconds.

I then decided to use it with my partner during sex. Initially, I alternated it on each nipple as I licked them, while stroking his shaft during foreplay. As I moved down south to give him oral love, I held the vibrator in the lowest setting against his perineum. That could have made him climax alone, but—ah ah ah—(*shakes finger*)—not before I come first! I sat on top and slid all the way down on him, holding the Heart right in front of my clit. We both climaxed pretty quickly with the added help of the Heart. The extra vibration provided the same benefits of a cockring and a bullet vibe with no strings attached.

In my history with sex toys, no bullet vibe left has been left unturned…and I’m so glad I was drawn to this one. In this case, the book is as good as the cover, and it will always have a special place in my toy box (and my heart).

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As Shakti was in the middle of a lunge, she felt a sharp pain in her right quad. It was so bad, she almost lost her balance, and her face tightened in response to the burning.

“Sit!” Ellen, her trainer, pointed to a bench. She examined the leg. “You’re lucky. It’s just a cramp. Let me work on it.”

Ellen’s pressure on the knot got the muscle to release. “There. It’ll be sore for a bit, but you’re OK. That’s it for today, so go sit in the whirlpool. Use the jet in the right corner. Let it work it’s magic, and you’ll feel like a new woman. You’ll be fine for Friday’s workout.”

“Yes, Ma’am,” she saluted.

Shakti headed for the locker room. Because she’d only recently joined the gym, she hadn’t had a chance to try out the hot tub yet. She’d eyed the seductive, bubbly waters every time she passed the enormous 15-person tub on the way to the shower. After each tough workout, she dreamed of soaking her sore muscles in it. Now was her chance. She showered quickly and waded into the empty body of gently churning water.

She had no trouble finding the jet Ellen referred to. It was noticeably stronger than the others. However, because there was a ledge all the way around the tub for people to sit on, it took some finesse to position herself so the jet hit directly against her quad. She glanced at the clock on the wall. She could tend to the muscle for another ten minutes, then have enough time to shower, dress and get back to work.

After a few uncomfortable minutes, she decided to shift position. But she moved too abruptly, lost her balance and splashed into the water. Mid-tumble, however, she felt something… ‘Whoa! Where did that come from?’

A wave of exquisitely delicious liquid heat—more intense than anything she’d ever felt—coursed through her body. It was just as well she was submerged. The water muted what would have been an uncontrollable, loud moan. The electric jolt had turned her brain into mush and her legs into noodles. It took her a minute to right herself and come back to earth.

There could be only one explanation. The strong, warm stream from the jet must have brushed her clitoris as she fell. But that was just a quick, glancing touch. How could something so passing generate such a shock of absolutely extraordinary pleasure? At home, she’d played with her handheld shower-head enough to know that her clit loved being massaged by warm, pulsing water. But she’d never felt anything like this.

Intrigued, she carefully knelt on the ledge and positioned herself so the jet hit her clit head on. She instantly let out a short, deep, passionate grunt. ‘Oh fuck!’ Her body vibrated so much, she had to grab the edge of the tub to keep from falling again. Her knees buckled, and her clit moved out of the line of fire.

She stepped back and tried to clear her head. ‘Oh my God. This is amazing!’ She looked at the clock and bit her lip. She’d be late. She’d keep an important client waiting. She’d never done that. She was Miss Dependable. Her boss would ask what had happened. What would she say? It didn’t matter. Nothing mattered. Nothing but the prospect of an amazing orgasm.

She heard voices in the locker room and shower. There was no guarantee someone wouldn’t join her in the tub at the crucial moment. She had to act quickly. Did she dare? What if someone saw her? Her body pulsed with desire. She was helpless against temptation’s pull. She surrendered.

She clenched her jaw tightly. She couldn’t make any incriminating sounds. She positioned herself and gripped the edge of the tub firmly. Pleasure filled her immediately. In an instant, her entire body tingled.  Her hips ground against the hard stream. She closed her eyes, leaned forward and desperately fucked the jet. She swallowed a moan. She tried, but failed, to silence a series of grunts. The pleasure was nothing like she’d ever felt before. It was so primal, part of her actually wanted someone to see what she was doing.

The vibrations kicked up to become a veritable electric charge. It was like holding onto a live wire so powerful she was unable to let go. The current surged. As her body tensed, she felt herself lifted up. Higher. Higher. Her brain was so awash with pleasure, she felt lightheaded. Her body tensed even more. Tighter. Tighter. She was wound so tightly, her need for release was painful. ‘Oh fuck. Please! Please!’ All at once she exploded in ecstasy. Her pussy spasmed. Her hips bucked. Her entire body shook. Her heart pounded so furiously, it felt like it would burst through her chest. She gripped the tub’s edge as liquid joy shot through her. She buried her head against her arm struggling to muffle a deep moan. She stayed that way until her body quieted. As her head cleared, she took a deep breath. ‘Amazing. Fanfuckingtastic! Just what I needed.’

When she stepped back and turned to leave, a woman was entering the tub. Had she seen Shakti getting herself off? ‘Act normal! Act normal!’ she ordered herself. She smiled sheepishly at the woman. “I just joined. This was my first chance to try this. Quad cramp. I feel so much better.”

“Yes,” she replied with a smirk. “I bet you do.”

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Guys, ever wish you’d last longer and feel stronger during sex or masturbation? Introducing the cock ring, also known as a c-ring, erection ring, or penis ring. These performance-enhancing toys achieve universally-desired benefits of increased stamina, a bigger penis, enhanced sensitivity during lovemaking, and more explosive orgasms. As a natural alternative to pills and supplements, they are heavily marketed to those with a penis, but they also offer titillating stimulation for any sexual partner. For example, cock rings increase the chances of simultaneous clitoral and vaginal orgasms for her. Physical benefits for him range from transforming the look and feel of a penis, while providing a boost in sexual confidence. How sexy is that?

How they work: during an erection, the penis fills with blood, which keeps it firm. A cock ring, secured around the base of the penis, keeps the blood strictly in the shaft, resulting in an engorged look and feel. Wearing a penis ring doesn’t completely cut off circulation; it just slows it down and keeps it localized. The restriction of blood can help endurance, prevent premature ejaculation, and enhance every sensation on a thicker, bigger shaft. Having a cock ring wrapped snuggly around the penis also leads to more intense orgasms, as the ring squeezes the shaft, forcing built-up pressure to be released during an explosive orgasm.

For those new to cock rings, the first step is to determine the right size and fit. Beginners usually opt for a set that includes multiple sizes like the RingO Pro X3, giving the option to pick and choose a comfortable size while achieving rock-hard results. Regardless of material, any ring will easily slide on with a spot of lube; just a little dab will do ya.

For those who want something a bit more complex, c-rings frequently come with a vibrating bullet. The genius of adding vibration to a cock ring is that it turns the penis into a real-life vibrating sex toy. A fitted vibrating ring provides a snug fit for him, and an attached vibrator stimulates her clitoris, no matter what position. The Ultimate Lasso is a fully adjustable design, resembling a bolo tie for the cock & balls, with side strands that loosen or tighten with a sliding attachment. This soft, pliable ring has a removable bullet for mutual pleasure if you decide the ring itself isn’t your thing.

The simple yet stylish Tux is a stretchy, studded vibrating ring with an unassuming look, effortlessly outfitting the penis. Grind on it while on top or ask him to push it harder into you during missionary. Similarly, the Duet Passion Enhancer is also a snug-fitting ring featuring a bullet with a raised texture to tease ‘n tickle the clitoris and labia. A decadent vibrating ring like The Wave features a waterproof design, with a thick, cushiony clit stimulator and ripples that deliver all-over sensations for her and him. When flipped upside down, it will externally tickle his prostate for a truly surging finish. This type of ring is an awesome introduction to mild prostate stimulation without penetration.

A good intermediate option is The Tongue Lover, with two well-fitted loops, and a strategically placed mini tongue to hit the clit. The small inner ring wraps around the shaft, and the larger ring wraps snugly around the balls. This extra-secure fit keeps blood in the penis and enhances every sensation for him, while letting you enjoy clit stimulation and penetration at the same time.

If your desire is maximum firmness, a weighted ring will ensure the tightest possible fit. A weighted ball hangs and tugs from the Weighted Lasso, keeping the ring cinched as tight as possible without causing pain. The fully-adjustable ring promotes a rock-hard feel and explosive climax. Since the design is adjustable, it accommodates any size!

Think you’re too advanced for a cock ring? The versatile Couple’s Reversible Ring will make you think again. This ring has two different shaped vibrating clit stimulators on each side, making it fully reversible to flip around or upside down. Once fitted around the penis, the top loop becomes a finger-sized steering wheel, giving you 100% control to put the clit stimulators where you please. To pleasure his cock, balls, and everything in-between, place the larger ring around the balls and the smaller ring around the base of the penis. The vibrating bullet will rest on his taint to create a magical triangle of pleasure.

With a world of design options and hardly any sex toy experience required, there isn’t only one cock ring to rule them all. This quintessential couple’s toy is the total package!

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Masturbation is the first natural sex activity for most women. Biologically, we were meant to experience sexual pleasure with and without a partner. As children, we touch ourselves and learn that stimulating our genitals gives sensual pleasure, but it isn’t until late childhood or adolescence that we recognize such behavior as “sexual.”

Still, those who don’t discover masturbation as children can develop it as a learned skill. The problem is, some women don’t take the time to explore their full sexual potential. Some claim, “I tried it before and didn’t enjoy it,” never indulging again. Lack of knowledge or persistence might cause such resistance. When you had sex for the first time, was it completely enjoyable? The first time you ate spinach or sushi, did you really like the taste? Maybe, but probably not. Masturbation is no different: Just as you acquire taste for new food, you can learn to like masturbation. And just as your culinary tastes might develop over time, your preferred masturbation techniques will likely change also.

Masturbation helps you explore your sexuality, allowing you to harmlessly discover and fulfill your sexual needs and desires. Regardless of race, age, marital status or orientation, masturbation can help you develop a strong sex life—mentally, emotionally and physically.

Some feel that sexual satisfaction can only be reached in the presence of a romantic partner. Many women still have these old-fashioned ideas about fulfilling their sexual needs. But we all have sexual desires, so why should the lack of a partner deprive us from fulfilling our sexual desires? Why not take matters into your own hands?

For some couples, the climax of one partner means sex is over for both of them. The other partner might feel unfulfilled, cheated or both. When this occurs, women sometimes feel guilty expecting to have their needs met. We should never be ashamed or afraid to voice our needs. Suppose you were hungry and anticipated a luxurious dinner for two all afternoon. But if, when the meal arrived, your date said he felt full after the salad, you would hardly forego your own hunger and say, “That’s all right. As long as you’re satisfied, I’m satisfied.” If you’re still hungry, say so—your sexual needs are as real and valid as your date’s sex drive. You should be able to communicate your desires, as well as satisfy them, even if your partner is tired, indifferent or unavailable.

Some women fear masturbation will reduce the quality of their lovemaking with a partner. Others worry that it will over-stimulate them or condition them to respond only to a certain stimulus. But masturbation doesn’t jeopardize a healthy sex life, nor is it only an alternative to sex. Quite often, it can greatly enhance your sex life—with or without a partner.

Masturbation is healthy because …

It boosts your self-esteem. Masturbation can help you overcome personal inhibitions and fulfill your sexual desires, fueling your self-confidence and self-image.

It can help relationships. Just because two people choose to share their lives doesn’t mean their bodies share the same schedule. When sexual desires, levels of excitement or pace differ, sexual self-pleasure can fill the void.

It’s consistent sex. Masturbation provides individuals with a sexual outlet during puberty, as well as between romances, marriages and divorce. With masturbation, you can remain sexually active your entire life—always on your schedule and as frequently as you like!

It improves communication. Once you know exactly where and how you like to be stimulated, you can communicate these desires to your partner. You can show your partner what you like by guiding their hands and/or demonstrating yourself.

There are physiological benefits. Regular orgasms induce a state of peaceful relaxation by releasing your body’s pleasure chemicals, called endorphins, from the brain. This process may help alleviate menstrual cramps and promote better sleeping.

It’s safe sex. With the proper use of sex toys and good hygiene, masturbation reduces the possibility of acquiring or transmitting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV and other common viruses transferred between sex partners.

You can choose to be abstinent. If you refrain from sexual activities with others, masturbation provides sexual release without the need for a partner.

It overcomes physical constraints. You can still enjoy sexual pleasure, even if your partner becomes ill or physically disabled.

It’s difficult to think of a reason why you SHOULDN’T try masturbation. As you’ve now learned, the list of benefits goes on and on. So, what are you waiting for? Get to it!

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Have you ever asked (or been asked), “what’s your sign?” Astrology is a popular avenue to explore sexuality, shedding insight into core personality traits. Some believe that our behavioral modes are predestined, and explained by the stars. By using the power of astrology we can better understand the nuances of sexual expression, and further, learn the art of seducing any partner.

Aries

Aries LOVES sex, the more spontaneous the better. A sex toy to keep an Aries guessing is the versatile Le Wand, with a combination of 200 speeds and powerful patterns for on-demand pleasure. Or, surprise Aries by slipping on a sexy outfit and handing them a paddle to light their fire…they love to be dominant.

Taurus

Taureans can be stubborn, but they don’t mind being told what to do in bed. Some may call them lazy, but they are just comfortable laying in the lap of luxury. Seductively bind him in bondage tape while gliding a Tenga masturbation sleeve up and down the shaft and bring this bull to his knees.

Gemini

Gemini finds intelligence the most attractive feature in a partner. Mental stimulation will turn this sapiosexual on before the clothes come off. Spark communication with a couple’s game, or by cuddling up with an erotic book. When it comes to sex toys, the dual-ended nJoy Pure Wand has two sexy sides, just like the Gemini twins.

Cancer

A primary component of lovemaking for a Cancer is emotional stability and intimacy. To foster connection with a Cancer, enjoy extended foreplay together. Incorporate something that will bring you to climax in unison, like The Wave Couple’s Orgasm Ring.

Leo

This fiery lover enjoys nothing more than being worshipped. Get them in their element and spark up a massage candle for a pampering experience. Allow your Leo to lay back while stroking his penis (and ego) with the Head Honcho masturbator sleeve.

Virgo

A typical Virgo is very organized, even when it comes to sex. They also need to know that their lover genuinely enjoys being intimate together. A luxury sex toy kit containing a variety of pleasure essentials will please both partners, while appeasing Virgo’s attention to detail.

Libra

The Libra scales serve as a symbol for balance and harmony, which also represent the Libra personality. When it comes to sensuality, establish a relaxing environment with a sensual, full body massage using the famous Magic Wand to get them in a romantic headspace.

Scorpio

Scorpions will rock you like a hurricane, engaging in a passionate feast for the senses. With an insatiable desire to touch, taste and feel everything in sight, bust out the bondage cuffs. Or try an adventurous trio of butt plugs that lets you choose which size will maximize your pleasure. The sky’s the limit when it comes to fulfilling mutual fantasies with a Scorpio.

Sagittarius

The Sagittarius prioritizes physical intimacy. They want their partner to reach climax (and they expect the same in return). The Womanizer Deluxe is a sure-shot way to make you climax in no time, EVERY time. Since sex is all about closeness for a Sag, a vibrating cock ring will encourage both partners to come at the same time.

Capricorn

Sweet in the streets and a freak in the sheets! Capricorns possess a playful outlook on love and life, and they aren’t afraid to get down and dirty. They love to please and be pleased, so prostate play is usually A-OK! Treat your Capricorn to the supercharged orgasm they so rightfully deserve!

Aquarius

Traditional sex is usually out of the question, so prepare to get innovative. Aquarians appreciate creativity, so consider a unique sex toy. The versatile iBend is a customizable vibrator the bends in any direction to create a shape that best suites the user’s needs. It can be used internally or externally, for pinpointed pleasure.

Pisces

Romantic Pisces yearn for emotional connection. They don’t need bells and whistles; they just want to be loved, so plan for a night of passionate cuddles and kisses. Turn your environment into an island getaway for this fish, starting with a tropical candle and most importantly, waterproof toys!

Astrology may not reveal a magical secret to falling in love, but it can be a handy roadmap for new ways to rock your lover’s world!

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