Seasons change, and so can chemistry. But starting things off right isn’t typically a challenge for many couples, thanks to the infamous “honeymoon phase”.

The constant texting, exchanging googly eyes, being excruciatingly smitten over each other in the beginning stages of a relationship—you know, that honeymoon phase.

But how quickly the fire may (or may not) fade away can reflect a pair’s greater sexual compatibility. And even though everyone has their own personal pleasure preferences, there are several elements that play a part in keeping the coals of romance burning.

Spark

The initial spark is one of the first (and obvious) indicators as to whether you and a partner may be on a good track of romantic rapport. Getting to truly know someone requires significant time, effort, and a strong desire to even do so in the first place. So if the two of you aren’t particularly drawn to one another from the new and unknown beginning, how could you be surprised if there aren’t any flares of excitement much later on down the road?

Frequency

Mismatched libidos have been a grade-A pain to couples everywhere since the dawn of time. Just like snowflakes, no two sexual drives are exactly alike. But drastically differing from your partner in that department has the potential to chart a path of complications that can really rock the boat long-term.

Fulfilling each other’s needs is one of the biggest aspects of a healthy sexual relationship. And if you’re relatively on the same page about how often the deed should be done, you’re probably in good shape. However, if not, the fallout can range anywhere from mild annoyance to feelings of rejection or resentment. So in these kinds of cases, remember compromise is key! Prioritizing intimacy amidst the daily grind can help ensure everyone’s both sensually and emotionally satisfied in the end.

Sexual Outlook

How you view sex and its importance to you can set the stage for harmony as well. Some use sex as a means of expressing themselves, while for others it’s a release or way to feel connected with another person. So even though you don’t have to have the exact same outlook as your partner, finding similar value in the experience can do wonders for lasting chemistry. Especially if you can really dial into what forms of pleasure they most enjoy.

Experience

Past romantic experiences can play a big part in compatibility, too. Of course it doesn’t mean you have to have slept with a million people to know a thing or two about relationships, but what you have been through (both good and bad) is one of the most influential tools in gauging what you do or don’t like in a partner. If your partner is on the same page due to similar experiences, keeping the romantic flame burning is that much easier.

Emotional vulnerability, feeling secure in your sexuality, realizing how sex only gets better with age—we often take away these lessons from past events. But at the end of the day, being comfortable in your own intimate state as well as being able to share that intimacy with another is what ultimately defines a partnership that’s harmonious for the long-haul.

So Turn Up The Heat!

But honeymoon phase or not, there are always ways to keep the spice alive in your connection.

When it comes to sex, static routines are never your friend. So introducing things you may not typically think to use like a vibrator or penis ring can bring on heightened sensations that you’ve never explored before.

Of course if toys are already your thing, throwing in one with new features like a remote for your partner to control can incite some much-needed excitement. Although devices aside, even simpler approaches like using arousal gel or focusing on a new erogenous zone can be perfect solutions for bringing fresh, fun energy into a relationship of any length.

So it’s not like you have to match up perfectly with your partner or face a romance that’s doomed forever, but key elements like these certainly shed light on how sexually compatible you might be. Similarities and differences will always exist, but knowing where work may and may not be needed can help all the sexy stars align, and set you and your boo onto a successful path for the long run.

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It’s often said that a woman can decide who they’ll fall in love with based on the magic they feel from the first kiss—no pressure, fellas! In fact, many women believe kissing is more intimate than intercourse. Time to listen closely, because I’m about to teach those lips of yours some new tricks.

First, you can’t go wrong with tried-and-true techniques like wet, gentle pecks, sucking and biting her lips, sensual tongue swipes and neck suckles. These are scrumptious ways to create a mutually awesome kissing experience that can easily get juices-a-flowing. But to take her kissing experience to new heights, I recommend incorporating the elements of surprise, mental titillation and touch.

I call this trick “The Tongue Lover” and I have a good feeling it’s going to do more than make her mouth water:

After a good amount of warm up kissing when everything’s hot and steamy, and you’re both ready to head to the next level, place your hand tenderly on her cheek and swiftly suck her entire bottom lip into your mouth—use your suction to hold it there.

With her bottom lip snug inside your mouth, use the tip of your tongue to tickle, swirl and lick her bottom lip. Lick in circles and figure eights, go real slow, then speed it up. Spend a good 10 seconds tongue-teasing this area of her mouth.

While you’re teasing away, let your other hand travel south and ever-so-gently cup her entire vulva in the palm of your hand, and lightly knead and squeeze it, teasing her silly as you lick her lip inside your mouth. Observe her uncontrollable reaction to your simultaneous kiss and touch. You should feel her breathing getting stronger about now.

Next, slowly release her lip from your mouth and immediately look into her eyes and whisper in her ear, “That’s how I’m going to pleasure your clitoris next.” Then pull away while still gazing into her eyes and stay locked. Enjoy her blushing with excitement.

That, my eager pleasers, is The Tongue Lover. And whether you’re looking to make a whopping first impression or to spice things up with your lover, it’s definitely something to make her lips smack with joy. Just don’t be surprised if her mouth wants to kiss you somewhere other than your lips afterwards.

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Think back to one of your hottest dates. Not necessarily where you went, but how you felt when the passion started to peak. When you were still out in public, ready to rip your date’s clothes off. At that point, the sexual chemistry has evolved from pretty obvious to palpable, and you may have just heard someone shout, “go get a room!” in your direction. Often times, the decision arrives to throw in the towel during dessert, and high tail it home for hot sex.

That feeling of insatiable anticipation and desire before stepping foot into the bedroom—isn’t it delicious? This fiery dynamic is #RelationshipGoals, whether you’re in a long term relationship or on a first date. No matter what stage of the relationship you’re in, that dynamic is VITAL to your success. Here are some tips on fostering that vibrancy no matter what stage you’re at, or where you go on your date.

On a first date, romantic synergy isn’t 100% guaranteed. However, focusing on your confidence prior to a date is a sure-shot way to shine even if the date doesn’t. Bringing your A-game even if your date sex isn’t on the menu is what counts. Nipple pasties are a discreet way of drawing out your inner sex goddess. The feeling of these sexy adornments underneath your bra will invoke serious sensual energy and a bold sense of empowerment. Your posture and mannerisms will perk up, right along with your nipples. For a more erotic experience, Lace Panties with Pleasure Pearl Beads are insanely thrilling to wear in public. They don’t vibrate; there are no crazy bells and whistles, but you will seriously make people wonder why you’re smiling. The strip of soft pearls down the center will roll backward and forward with your every move, whether sitting or standing. Generating secret arousal will make it impossible to NOT smile, despite any awkward moments. Women who take longer to climax may also benefit from a pearl thong or vibrating underwear, because it will kick start your stimulation. Who knows, you may even come before you go home. And that is a win-win whether you’re alone, or otherwise.

On the other hand, long term relationships take effort when it comes to keeping it spicy. Getting out of the house is half the battle; ending the night with a bang takes intention. If you are looking to create an ideal sexual environment, make foreplay the focus of your date, instead of the bi-product. Typically, foreplay is considered a bedroom ritual, but why wait for the toys to come out at the end of the night? Some couples and individuals wear sex toys in public unbeknownst to anyone else, just for the thrill of it. Have you ever thought the two people at the next table are giggling because one is wearing a vibrator? It is totally possible. Certain sex toys are designed to put the power of your pleasure in someone else’s hands. The compact Jive – Bluetooth Controlled Wearable Vibrator is a quintessential hands-free sex toy, with an egg shape that fits snugly alongside the G-spot. It is so discreet and quiet, you can wear it during sex, on a date, or even at work! The Jive is controlled through a wireless app which your partner can operate from anywhere in the world (but would highly enjoy watching you squirm from across the table).

Another vibrator that you can wear comfortably underneath your clothes is the Butterfly Remote Penis Venus, which stimulates the clitoris as it penetrates, a bonus for the clit queens. Handing the compact remote to your partner, knowing very well you could totally orgasm in public takes confidence and trust. To amp up the adrenaline, visit a karaoke bar and test your willpower while belting out a song for your lover. This activity could turn into something you really enjoy together. If not, it will make an awesome story.

Just keep in mind that where you choose to go, and what you choose to do is really just a vehicle to foster authentic joy with each other, and ultimately strengthen a relationship. Next date  night, consider thinking outside the box (and the bedroom)!

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