Without a little planning, February 14th can too easily end up being an all-night Netflix binge, along with a party-sized container of (select one, or all three): super-chunk ice cream, super chocolate-y candies, or super-sized box wine.

You deserve better.

This year, it gets better.

I’m sharing my Top 6 list of favorite Valentine’s Day fun for solo adventurers. It doesn’t matter if you’re between lovers, you’ve sworn them off, or they’re just out of town. What does matter is you take care of yourself, and today’s the day to elevate your game and make you the star attraction. C’mon…

1. Go out to dinner with a good friend.

Celebrate a friendship that’s not about what you don’t have—but what you do have—you and your amazing friend.

2. Take yourself out on a pleasure adventure.

If a friend isn’t available for dinner, treat yourself to something special like a luxurious massage, mani/pedi, healthy hike, you get the idea. Pamper yourself with what feels good to you.

3. Treat yourself to a nice gift.

Take yourself browsing and spend on yourself what you’d be spending on a lover.

4. Celebrate non-romantic love and community.

Surround yourself with friends and do something fun and out of the ordinary, like bowling or miniature golf. Go somewhere exciting as a group and have fun together.

5. Be of service.

If you have friends with kids—and you love their kids—then offer to babysit and let your friends go enjoy a romantic night out with peace of mind that you’re having a blast with their kids at home.

6. Make sweet love to yourself.

Make a date with yourself to try something new, like the Womanizer Premium 2 clitoral air-suction toy (if you haven’t tried this—it’s AH-mazing). Create the perfect ambiance: scented candle, bath salts, low lights and the music you love. Splash on a touch of my signature lube, Slippery Kitty and let the pleasure party begin.

For even more fun, try any of first five adventures, knowing you’re coming home to finish the perfect day with some perfect self-love.

After all, whether you’re in a relationship or not, you always come first.

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Masturbation is the first natural sex activity for most women. Biologically, we were meant to experience sexual pleasure with and without a partner. As children, we touch ourselves and learn that stimulating our genitals gives sensual pleasure, but it isn’t until late childhood or adolescence that we recognize such behavior as “sexual.”

Still, those who don’t discover masturbation as children can develop it as a learned skill. The problem is, some women don’t take the time to explore their full sexual potential. Some claim, “I tried it before and didn’t enjoy it,” never indulging again. Lack of knowledge or persistence might cause such resistance. When you had sex for the first time, was it completely enjoyable? The first time you ate spinach or sushi, did you really like the taste? Maybe, but probably not. Masturbation is no different: Just as you acquire taste for new food, you can learn to like masturbation. And just as your culinary tastes might develop over time, your preferred masturbation techniques will likely change also.

Masturbation helps you explore your sexuality, allowing you to harmlessly discover and fulfill your sexual needs and desires. Regardless of race, age, marital status or orientation, masturbation can help you develop a strong sex life—mentally, emotionally and physically.

Some feel that sexual satisfaction can only be reached in the presence of a romantic partner. Many women still have these old-fashioned ideas about fulfilling their sexual needs. But we all have sexual desires, so why should the lack of a partner deprive us from fulfilling our sexual desires? Why not take matters into your own hands?

For some couples, the climax of one partner means sex is over for both of them. The other partner might feel unfulfilled, cheated or both. When this occurs, women sometimes feel guilty expecting to have their needs met. We should never be ashamed or afraid to voice our needs. Suppose you were hungry and anticipated a luxurious dinner for two all afternoon. But if, when the meal arrived, your date said he felt full after the salad, you would hardly forego your own hunger and say, “That’s all right. As long as you’re satisfied, I’m satisfied.” If you’re still hungry, say so—your sexual needs are as real and valid as your date’s sex drive. You should be able to communicate your desires, as well as satisfy them, even if your partner is tired, indifferent or unavailable.

Some women fear masturbation will reduce the quality of their lovemaking with a partner. Others worry that it will over-stimulate them or condition them to respond only to a certain stimulus. But masturbation doesn’t jeopardize a healthy sex life, nor is it only an alternative to sex. Quite often, it can greatly enhance your sex life—with or without a partner.

Masturbation is healthy because …

It boosts your self-esteem. Masturbation can help you overcome personal inhibitions and fulfill your sexual desires, fueling your self-confidence and self-image.

It can help relationships. Just because two people choose to share their lives doesn’t mean their bodies share the same schedule. When sexual desires, levels of excitement or pace differ, sexual self-pleasure can fill the void.

It’s consistent sex. Masturbation provides individuals with a sexual outlet during puberty, as well as between romances, marriages and divorce. With masturbation, you can remain sexually active your entire life—always on your schedule and as frequently as you like!

It improves communication. Once you know exactly where and how you like to be stimulated, you can communicate these desires to your partner. You can show your partner what you like by guiding their hands and/or demonstrating yourself.

There are physiological benefits. Regular orgasms induce a state of peaceful relaxation by releasing your body’s pleasure chemicals, called endorphins, from the brain. This process may help alleviate menstrual cramps and promote better sleeping.

It’s safe sex. With the proper use of sex toys and good hygiene, masturbation reduces the possibility of acquiring or transmitting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV and other common viruses transferred between sex partners.

You can choose to be abstinent. If you refrain from sexual activities with others, masturbation provides sexual release without the need for a partner.

It overcomes physical constraints. You can still enjoy sexual pleasure, even if your partner becomes ill or physically disabled.

It’s difficult to think of a reason why you SHOULDN’T try masturbation. As you’ve now learned, the list of benefits goes on and on. So, what are you waiting for? Get to it!

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Warming up for a sexual encounter can be as sexy and stimulating as the encounter itself. When your body and mind are properly primed for sex, the experience becomes exponentially better, and can even lead to stronger (and multiple) orgasms.

Understanding what turns you on will not only lead to more pleasurable sex, but will also impress your lover big time. So as you anticipate your next erotic encounter, warm up and turn on with these 5 easy ways to get yourself in the mood:

Bed Play

Turn your bed into a sexy playground for your body. With a clean pair of your softest cotton sheets, roll around in your bed nude, and basque in the feelings of cool smoothness on your naked skin. Then wrap yourself up in your sheet, close your eyes and moan softly to yourself, observing the tone of your sound—and think how sexy that must be in your lover’s ear. Then while on your back, slowly rock your shoulders back and forth while moving your hips in small circles. Add some gentle caressing, gliding your fingertips along your inner thighs, over your hips, then up to your breasts and nipples. Playing with yourself in this truly sweet and sexy way is a great way to get you into the zone.

Sensual Touch

Even though women often need mental stimulation for heightened arousal, never underestimate how powerful sensual touch to the skin can be. Hop in the shower and let the soothing hot, steamy water flow over every inch of your body, arousing the senses that prepare you for pleasures to come. When you’re ready, spend time caressing yourself where your nerve endings are most sensitive. Close your eyes and slooowly trace along your lips with your fingertip… then down your neck… to your navel, and so on. Take your time. When you’re ready to take it up a notch, massage your breasts, and then use some female body-safe lube to massage your vulva. You should be pretty moist by this time.

Google It

Search for “Sexy Females”. Enjoy all the images of sexy, beautiful women in sensual, provocative poses. Now it’s your turn. In front of a mirror, position yourself in the same poses you see in your favorite images. Give yourself some sexy looks while you’re at it! Move around slowly like a model, accentuating the parts of your body you love best—if you have a nice ass, sprawl out like a cat with your butt held high. If you’ve got voluptuous breasts, push ‘em together with pride. Just have fun! Not only will you look and feel sexy, but this’ll boost confidence for your sexual prowess. Enjoy flirting with yourself in your own private photo shoot as your mind and body get even more heated.

Girl-on-Girl Porn

Explore adult entertainment—specifically lesbian porn. Surveys reveal 1 in 3 adult users of porn are female and that straight women often prefer this genre to get aroused over traditional heterosexual couples. Some women say they prefer lesbian porn because the actresses look more ‘real’ (some without fake breasts) and more relatable. The extra kissing and fondling in these scenes are also really enjoyed. If you haven’t tried this to get in the mood, it’s definitely worth a shot! And I bet your man wouldn’t mind if you happen to turn that video on for him.

Alternatively, watch a romantic porn scene where a man goes down on a woman. Let yourself be there mentally, as if you were receiving the pleasure yourself. Squeeze and pulse your pelvic muscles as you imagine this happening to you, which will activate blood flow to your genitals and create more sexual arousal. You may be surprised at how quickly your body responds to signals from the most powerful sex organ—the brain—and how the lovemaking juices flow naturally and plentifully.

Edge Yourself

“Edging” is: Coming nearly close to climax or ejaculation, then purposefully stopping sexual stimulation in order to delay the orgasm, so that the ultimate climax will be more intense. Anyone can do this, including YOU! Simply pleasure yourself to the ever-so-close point of orgasming, and then stop, leaving yourself wanting more. Continue this loop until you’re throbbing for an orgasm. Have even more fun by incorporating new masturbation techniques. For new stroking techniques, pick up a copy of my bestseller, Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure. Not only will masturbation get you in the mood, you can also bring some newly discovered clitoral loving techniques to the bedroom and show them how you like it!

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It really doesn’t matter how you slice it: break-ups are the worst. You’re essentially forced to unhinge your life from everything that formed your most long-term dreams, your daily routine, and pretty much everything in-between. The simplistic term “break-up” doesn’t even begin to do it justice. It’s a whole lot of emotional yuckiness, even if your partnership wasn’t great. And now that the worst is over (or maybe it isn’t), you still have what remains of your sex life to consider.

A break-up might leave you seething with anger and ready to pounce on any opportunity for revenge sex, or you could wind up feeling so emotionally drained that even your favorite vibrator doesn’t sound enticing. Either way, now is your chance to take a step back and think about what you want, and what might have been missing in your relationship with your sexual self. This is where pleasure products stop being simply sex toys and start opening doors for healing and discovery. Meditate on your most healthy step forward: becoming the kind of sexual being that will always leave you satisfied, with or without a partner.

Spring for a New Toy

Your living space isn’t the only place in need of a good clearing-out of bad memories. Don’t leave anything in your sex toy drawer that brings you close to tears or otherwise reeks of your ex-relationship. Splurge on something new from your personal wish list and be as selfish as possible. Explore an activity that your former partner wasn’t too keen to try, or buy that expensive toy you’ve been pining after, but never had the solo down-time to use. Whatever it is that you’ve been wanting in the bedroom, give it to yourself in spades without an ounce of guilt. The only one you need to please now is yourself!

Focus on Sensations

If you frequently dreamed up sexy scenarios with your partner while you were coupled up, now is the time to change your focus. Using those same fantasies post-relationship is the equivalent of going through your old photos. It helps to cry over memories at first, but hanging on forever isn’t healthy. Instead, switch to focusing on the physical sensations of masturbation. Use your hands or a toy to explore every fold and crease of your vulva, and don’t skimp on the lube. Give your full attention to each glide, tug, rumble, and caress. You’ll wind up with a new appreciation for the pleasure your body is capable of receiving through your touch alone.

Tap Into Your Positive Energy

Orgasms hold a powerful energy that is both physiological and spiritual. Science knows that happiness chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin are released during climax, which can immediately improve your mood. However, the immeasurable soul-healing qualities of self-love are entirely up to you. Turn your masturbation sessions into an intense meditation by visualizing your positive vibes. As you warm up, imagine a bright, white light slowly encircling and running through your body. As you near orgasm, picture that light growing brighter until it explodes like a firecracker, shooting warm, loving energy through your body and out into the universe. Spend the next few minutes breathing deeply and feeling the flow of your renewed connection to self.

Schedule a Sexy Night for One

Lingerie. Candles. Wine. Music. Sex Toys. Who says you need a partner to break out your best mood-setting skills? Set aside an entire evening of turn-ons just for you, and go all out because you’re romancing your #1 lover (read: you, sexy). Start foreplay with a glass of wine, a bubble bath, your favorite lingerie, a striptease in front of a mirror – or all of the above. Then spend the rest of the night in ecstasy with a collection of sex toys and lubes. Don’t stop until you’ve climaxed at least twice and are lulled into the best sleep of your life. The next morning you’ll feel fulfilled, refreshed, and confident that you’re the best damn lay you’ve ever had.

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Whether you’re male or female, break-ups hurt but they’re not the end. Use your new singledom to get to know yourself again. So dry your eyes and treat yourself to the orgasmic relief you deserve…

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Distance makes the heart grow fonder, and the blue balls (or blue clit) real. Maybe you’re on an extended business trip, studying abroad, or you met online and haven’t seen each other in the flesh yet. You know they’ll always be with you in your heart, but what about the rest of your body?

There are lots of ways you can take care of your physical needs together. Being miles apart doesn’t mean your sex life is toast. The nights can be lonely without your honey, but we’ve got some tips to help you both overcome the empty bed blues.

1. Get saucy with your words.

You may not be able to whisper nasty nothings in their ear in real life, but hearing your voice over the phone or laptop is the next best thing. Call them when they’re alone, and dish all the dirty details about what you want to do to them. Tell them to touch themselves while they’re listening. Or give them an earful while they’re out and about in public for an extra thrill.

And don’t underestimate the power of the written word. With texts, you can have your sweetie squirming from a million miles away. Send a long, nasty message first thing in the morning so they’ll have something to think about. Or tease them for hours with short, dirty texts throughout the day.

2. Treat them to sexy selfies.

Sending naughty nudes is a fine, complicated art. We all know (or are!) girls who’ve gotten unwanted images of gross mystery dicks, and sometimes it’s hard for an honest tit pic to stand out when there’s T&A on every screen. But there are ways to show your love what you got without being creepy or forgettable.

You’d never write a half-assed poem for your sweetheart, so don’t half-ass a photo of your ass either. It’s all about angles and lighting, darling. Don’t just shove your camera down your pants and let auto-focus do the rest. Take your time!  And remember that your partner loves all of you – including what’s not traditionally thought of as sexy. They might love the way your cross your legs, or your sexy eyes. Show them every part!

3. Let the camera love you.

Simultaneous video solo sessions may be the closest you two are going to get to genuine boning.

While you may normally be the quiet type between the sheets, now’s your time to shine in the spotlight. We’re not saying to fake it—don’t pretend you’re a scream queen or groaning stud if it’s not natural. But if you feel a sigh or moan coming on, don’t hold back! Your lover only has the sounds and sights from the screen, so let them see and hear every delicious moment.

Don’t forget that you’re directing and performing in this show. Change up your distance from your laptop or phone—there’s a time and a place for letting them see your whole body writhe on your bed, or getting up close and personal with your goodies. Get creative with your camera.

4. Give the gift of getting off.

Flowers and chocolates are nice, but toys and lingerie won’t give you allergies or a sugar-crash. You can always give them something else just as sweet. Without your loving touch (and suck and lick), a vibrator or stroker might be just what your love life needs. Or something leather or lacy to up the eye candy factor of your pics and videos. If you receive a present, wait until your next Skype date to open it, and then break it in on camera.

Frisky faraway couples may want to try the blueMotion vibrator. It’s made especially for long-distance coochie surprises. Download the app, and you can tease her with its Touch and Tap mode, and then send her over the edge with a word with its audio-attuned Voice setting. You’ll be able to send her unforgettable orgasms in real time from your phone. Isn’t technology great?

5. Keep your hands out of your pants until it counts.

This is the hardest one, so if you can do it you get bonus points.

We know how you’re feeling. It’s been a while. Maybe weeks since you’ve seen your honey in person. You’ve just come back from a club where temptation was grinding on you all night long, or a movie just got you in the mood. Your fingers are itching and your goodies are tingling—but hold off! Save it for your special someone. Tell them about it in a text, or send them a pic of how frustrated you are, but don’t do anything about it until your next filthy FaceTime or phone call.

For one reason or another, if there’s a big wide world temporarily in between you and your boo. But with a little tech and creativity, the distance doesn’t have to be a downer, but part of a sexy experience. The love will keep coming, and so will you!

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Maybe your blissful, orgasmic reunion is coming up soon, or you want to send them something extra special, but here are a few of Tickle Kitty’s suggestions for your near or faraway lover.

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