Few things can ruin the moment during sex or foreplay like an immobilizing leg cramp. If you’ve ever experienced it, you know the feeling—and the series of events that immediately follow like clockwork almost every time. A cramp will come out of nowhere, shoot through your leg, cause the body to freeze in place, and leave no option but for you to declare a timeout.

If you experience a mild cramp attack, sometimes all it takes is a quick break to stretch your legs out, then get back to business. It’s OK to pause and handle cramps so you can relax the muscles and be comfortable to get  back into the groove. It’s best to walk around so blood can flow evenly again throughout your cramped muscles. A little hand massaging on the muscles will help, too.

To prevent leg cramps, staying hydrated and stretch regularly will keep your muscles primed. Then consider these few cowgirl adjustments to keep you feeling sexy and flexible, and without leg cramps:

• Pillows make great props. Place a pillow under each of your knees for some elevation while on top. This variation in comfort and height could be the perfect solution to avoid cramps.
• Like speed dating, give yourself 3 minutes in cowgirl, then switch it up. Move your body north so your pussy’s right above his face and let him go to town with oral loving for the next 3 minutes. Then, then switch back! You can enjoy cowgirl again, or even spin around for some sexy 69. Choose your pleasures and enjoy the variety too.
• Take cowgirl to a chair. Give your lover a kiss then turn around for standing reverse cowgirl. This position allows you to be on your feet with legs only partially bent. There will be less of a chance of pesky leg cramps from folded-at-the-knee legs.
• Adjust to reverse cowgirl with your feet on the bed beside his legs, and lean back onto his chest. Arch your back and have him hold your hips to guide and help as well. This way, you’re not sitting on your bent, crunched legs, which can cause cramping from lack of blood flow.

If you do find yourself in the leg cramp situation, it doesn’t have to be a deal-breaker. In fact, embracing the opportunity to stop, slow down and take a break will likely lead to a more intense orgasm when you get back up and continue the fun.

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What if I told you that the holy grail of orgasms has nothing to do with an intricate sex position, a magic pill, or even a partner? This ‘secret’ is a technique called edging, otherwise known as orgasm control. Anyone of any experience level can incorporate edging into their arsenal of bedroom tricks. Additionally, you may hear it being referred to as ‘surfing’ or ‘peaking’. This pleasure practice focuses on delaying climax one or more times during intercourse or masturbation, stoking a slow, intentional fire that will result in an orgasmic explosion like no other.

Think of the amplified feeling of gratification that happens the moment you finally achieve a sneeze, after losing it several times beforehand. The first climax after partaking in edging is much like that coveted sneeze, if you can imagine it being relocated to an erogenous zone. Just like a delayed sneeze, the more times you ‘lose’, or delay your orgasm, the more powerful it becomes.

Bringing yourself to the brink of climax is not for everyone; the 60 second orgasm may be your cup of tea, and that is a wonderful thing! Overall, the purpose is to tantalize, not to torment. Successful edging, which requires equal parts patience and self-control, serves a valuable purpose when it comes to harnessing sexual energy.

Benefits:

• Deeper, more intuitive understanding of your and/or your lover’s body, knowing when that moment of ecstacy will happen, and how to control it
• A great introduction to BDSM. Edging is a common form of power exchange, as an exhibition of power and control on behalf of the Dominant partner. Imposing restraint is a staple for maintaining control over your partner
• Results in increased stamina for both men and women
• Excellent natural option for male ejaculation control

Challenges:

• Inadvertently going over the edge while skirting the line of sweet release during solo play
• Learning to know your partner’s physical signs and cues, including breathing, body movements, and physical reactions
• Throwing in the towel because orgasms are, um, awesome. Why wait?

Tips & techniques:

• Master it by yourself first. Practice makes perfect! Work your way up to 20-25 minutes at a time
• Alternate sex toys, finger fun, and sensory play. On a male partner, a masturbation sleeve is a great toy to bring into the mix
• Press pause: Get your juices flowing and ramp up arousal with yourself or your partner.  Identify the moment that you are close to climax, and STOP for a few seconds. Go back to the beginning with less pinpointed pressure, targeting everything but the bullseye (Looking at you, clitoris!) Rinse and repeat at least one more time; enjoy!
• Distraction: If you are experimenting solo, alternate your favorite toy with your fingers when you feel yourself about to burst
• Get creative! You are not limited to just foreplay here. The fun part about edging is that it can be a grab bag of whatever stimulation you prefer—whether you incorporate penetration or not

If you are new to edging, don’t get discouraged! It may take a few weeks or a couple months until you’ve perfected your technique. Like anything worth waiting for, patience is a virtue, young grasshopper.

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Female MMA champion Ronda Rousey couldn’t be more wrong – using lube doesn’t make you or your partner lazy, and there’s never a bad time to reach for a bottle of extra topping to add to your sex sundae.

There are loads of reasons a woman might want or even need lube, and every single one of them leads to a conclusion we can always get behind: more comfortable, healthy, and orgasmic sex. Sensual lubricants are as varied as sex toys these days, and it’s easy to find the perfect combination of ingredients to fit your desires and unique body chemistry. Whether you’re looking for strawberry flavor, added moisture, or dual massage benefits, lubes keep your sexy parts oiled and primed for pleasure.

If you’re not convinced yet, our list of amazing reasons to make lube your new bestie will have you grabbing your trusty bottle every time you get down!

Soak Your Powered Play

With all the mild to wild options in modern lubricants, testing out a new slippery substance is like buying a new sex toy (and usually at half the price). It brings new sensations to your partnered or solo sessions, and can even turn your toy time into a novel play experience. Drizzling lube on an old favorite vibrator gives new life to your usual masturbation routine. Experiment with a heating or cooling lube and watch those multiple vibration options become electrified with pleasure-giving power! Just make sure to remember the golden rule of mixing lubes and toys: never use lubes containing silicone on silicone-made toys, as the chemical reaction will cause the sex toy’s exterior to disintegrate.

Skin Saver

Lubes can save you from chafing and other sorts of topical post-sex pain, especially if you’ve got sensitive skin or are naturally more on the dry side. Even if your body produces plenty of moisture during coitus, sometimes nature can’t keep up with your bumpin’ and grindin’. This goes double for babes that get that internal “raw” feeling after a lot of thrusting, or get chafed from grinding their clitoris against a partner’s pubic bone. Look for a water-based lube without paraben or glycerin, as these ingredients can sometimes irritate sensitive skin. A silicone lube also works wonders for keeping rawness or chafing at bay. Silicone is non-irritating and hypo-allergenic for all skin types, and it doesn’t dry out like most water-based lubricants. (Pssst….just remember not to use it with your silicone sex toys!)

Slather On the Foreplay Action

While your body and mind are working to prepare your sexy parts for action, a usually pleasurable touch can feel downright irritating without proper lubrication. Before your partner starts their downstairs stroking, add a few drops of lube to your vulva and clitoris, and invite them to slowly explore every inch of your slippery outsides. For oral delights, there are a plethora of tasty flavored lubes that mimic everything from fresh fruit to dessert delicacies. If couples’ massage is what pushes your buttons, dual-use lubes can be used as body glides over all of your curves and inside your pleasure zones. Incorporating lube into your foreplay gets both of you heated up for the main event while giving your vagina a helping (ahem!) hand in prepping for that explosive, lip-biting sensation as your partner slides into your body.

You never need an excuse to use lube. Craving a killer orgasm is reason enough! Figuring out the best lube for your solo or partner sex is just like seeking your next sex toy. Do a little browsing of Dr. Sadie’s very own formula, Slippery Kitty Lube on TickleKitty.com and give the product description a good read. She’ll always steer you in the right direction for slippery fun!

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Since Fifty Shades hit almost a decade ago, fetishes and kinky sex are experiencing a trendy revival. Humans have always been kinksters, but now that kink has gone mainstream, more people are feeling comfortable with sharing their deepest turn-ons.

By definition, a fetish is a very specific desire for an object, a body part, or a sexual act. If you ask your partner to cuff you to the bed and strap a blindfold over your eyes, then you’re dabbling in kink. However, if you salivate at the mere thought of the smooth, shiny surface of the cuffs and the coolness of the metal digging into your skin, then you probably have a handcuff fetish.

All kinks and fetishes, no matter how seemingly unusual, are perfectly healthy as long as they’re practiced between trusting, consenting adults. However, even the most open-minded couples can stumble upon a surprising fetish desire from a partner. Happy relationships stay happy through constructive conversation, and navigating fetishes is no different. Stay positive, informed, and willing to listen, and your partnership can grow through the connecting experience of kink.

Discuss Your Sexual Needs Early

If you’re embarking on a new relationship, make sure you both get your fetishes out in the open as early as possible. It might seem a bit like jumping the gun, especially if you haven’t slept together yet, but this is especially important if you’re serious about your fetish. Waiting until you’re head-over-heels to spill the fetish beans just makes things more difficult down the line. For example, if you can’t live without spanking, but your partner is extremely sensitive to pain, it could get uncomfortable if the two of you figure this out in the middle of a romp session. Communicate your kinks early to avoid any serious mismatches in sexual tastes that can’t be fixed through compromise later on. (And just think – you might find that you both dig a lot of the same things!)

Educate Yourself

If you’re unsure of how a fetish will work out in practice, read up! Make sure to canvas as many online resources as possible: medical articles, advice from kink-focused sex educators, amateur experiences, and accounts from serious fetish lifestylers. Like everything you read online, take it all with a grain of salt and double-check your facts. Some rather extreme practices are only easy for a chosen few, and others might be willing to dismiss and bash anything beyond the missionary position. Fetish “lifestylers,” a term often used to describe those in the active kink community, are generally very friendly and open to answering questions from curious newcomers. Check out online fetish communities of like-minded souls and seek out knowledgable, respected members. Be open and willing to be educated, and many experienced fetishists are happy to help.

Start Slow and Speak Often

No matter how soft or hard your fetish, always introduce new kinky activities slowly, and preferably without a mouth gag until you’re solid on other types of communication. You might have heard of a “safe word,” which is a single word discussed prior to play time that unmistakably communicates “stop activity immediately!” It’s also helpful to come up with a “safe action” if your activity involves inhibited speech through a ball gag or other material covering the mouth. For example, if you’re gagged and you need a break, you could agree that tapping three times with a hand or foot is the signal to stop. However you choose to communicate, both partners should do it often, especially when testing out new fetishes. The more you engage in fetish play or roleplaying while explaining how it feels, the better your partner will understand how to make the fetish enjoyable for both of you.

Communicate and Compromise

Though it’s rare between committed, loving partners, some couples might hit a wall when trying to find a comfortable middle ground for their sexual needs. Try as you might, your partner’s fetish could be too painful and rough, physically or mentally, to endure. Indulging a partner’s foot fetish, even if it’s a turn-off, is a lot easier than, say, more extreme fetishes like fisting or strap-on play. Engaging in certain acts just isn’t going to work for certain people. However, what you don’t want to do is close the conversation completely. Fetishes don’t disappear out of love, and forcing your partner to give up their fetish isn’t fair. If you’re polyamorous or in an open relationship, encourage your partner to see others who enjoy the stuff you’d rather skip in bed. For monogamous couples, explore every possible avenue of compromise. Fisting might be too much, but four fingers below the knuckles could be your meeting-in-the-middle. And don’t dismiss the power of porn. What you cannot do, you can always watch, and then everyone wins.

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