Stumbling through the proverbial ocean of porn sites leads to a lot of different emotions, many of which seem to happen at the same time: arousal, attraction, confusion, disgust, envy. In an effort to weed out the stuff we don’t want to see, a sort of catch-all phrase has popped up in response to the negative stereotypes built around typical male-centric content.

“Female-friendly porn” has become a buzz phrase and trend in modern adult film-making. It’s a huge, positive step in the right direction towards a healthier adult industry, but sometimes the topic needs a little explanation. What is actually meant by this phrase is “ethical porn,” which doesn’t limit itself to specific kinds of sex acts. Humans of all sexes and gender identities are turned-on by all different kinds of sex, which can range from slow-burning romance to hard-and-heavy BDSM scenes to one-night stands with strangers. It’s a misconception that women only like plot-driven porn with lots of dialogue and first dates prior to the main event. Ethical porn seeks to create various sex scenes that focus on consent and chemistry between performers, safe and sane sex acts with respect to the actors’ limits, and proper compensation for the actors who make a living as sex workers.

The amount of adult videos online is daunting when you’re trying to narrow down your turn-ons and find porn that is produced with the utmost respect for the performers. We’ve got some tips for finding the hottest scenes that you can watch while knowing the people on screen are happy, healthy, and having fun.

Search Social

Before you get down to real business, do some research on porn actors that have the same turn-ons as you. Social media is a great place to begin because many performers love sharing their latest content with their adoring fans. Sex-positive culture websites and organizations are also usually linked to performers who focus on positive porn ethics. Search hash tags like #sexualwellness, #sexworkisrealwork, #sexpositive, and #fetishmodel to get started on your search for like-minded porn actors and actresses. You can also use porn tube sites to preview different kinks and fetishes and the people who love showing them off. Once you start clicking around, you’ll probably stumble on more than a few performers whose pique your interest. Whether you’re searching on Instagram or Porn Hub, dig deeper to find the performer of your choice and learn more about what kind of specialty content they create and where you can find it.

Support the Cause

We know, the internet is full of free porn, but the people who are turning you on via video are also paying bills and student loans. If you’re enjoying their performance, they deserve to be paid. Whenever possible, support your favorite porn actor directly through their website or independently-run online content store. This ensures that every cent goes straight to the performer every time their photos or videos are purchased. Quite often, less ethical producers hire porn actors for a low flat fee per scene and then profit endlessly each time they re-sell the content, leaving the performer without any rights to royalty payments when their videos are sold. When you buy content through a performer’s self-run site, you’re ensuring that they can support themselves, just like anyone else who works hard at their day job. 

Sex-Positive Productions

Some performers prefer to work solely for producers rather than host their own website or content shop. Luckily there are many ethical production companies that treat their actors with respect and seek to create a healthy atmosphere for the people they hire. Wellness-focused porn directors and producers are generally vocal about their mission, making them easier to research on their websites and social media. Give their “About Me” profile a good read to see if a director or producer shares your ethics and views on what makes sex-positive porn. You can also search the performers they hire and discover more about their on-screen experiences with different production companies. Purchasing content from ethical producers is another way to support the people who are creating a better standard for sex workers. These types of video creators want their actors to feel safe during their scenes, and happy long after they leave the studio. If you see a porn performer continuously featured on a director’s website or smiling on-set in their behind-the-scenes photos on social media, it’s a often good sign that they’re working in a healthy environment.

Many of today’s adult performers are a new breed that seek to abolish false stereotypes and push for positive change within the porn industry. There’s still a lot of content floating around the internet that is less than positive for the people on screen, and it’s up to viewers to help raise the bar on healthy standards. Supporting ethical porn is a double turn-on: it arouses your sexual senses while giving you those warm, fuzzy feelings for funding a good cause.

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The birds and the bees aren’t what they used to be! In a lighting-fast internet culture of easily accessible porn, increasing peer pressure, and misinformed abstinence-only sex education, it’s hard to know where to begin when preparing your kids for a safe, healthy sexual future.

Though some parents have that coveted, BFF-level relationship with their kids, not every family has it so easy. Kids naturally become more aloof and distanced from their parents as they reach adolescence, so it’s important to start the sex talk while they’re young and build their trust in you as a guiding adult. You don’t have to hide their eyes from every movie sex scene or snoop through their online history. Start your kids’ sex education with a foundation in honest, candid information, and they’ll have the decision-making smarts to pick healthy choices as they mature into sexual beings.

Anatomy Lessons

Previous generations often equated anatomy with sexuality. Hence, a lot of girls thought they could get pregnant from kissing, but assumed the pulling-out method was effective birth control. Don’t feel shy when they start to ask about the vagina and vulva or penis and testicles. Start with the basics, and see where the kids steer the conversation. They might know more than you’d expect, or they might be more concerned with imaginary friends and toys, in which case they’re telling you to wait for a better moment to explain how babies are made. In either case, a basic, age-appropriate anatomy book is a good way to test the waters. Let them page through it alone, and then pick it up together to see what connections they’ve drawn. Encourage questions, and never let them leave the conversation confused.

Knowledge Equality

Schools are fond of separating girls and boys for respective talks on menstruation and spontaneous erections. It’s understandable that children might not feel comfortable learning about sensitive topics with the opposite sex in the room. However, make sure they get the other half of the puberty lesson at home. It’s important for boys to understand periods, and for girls to understand the hormonal changes in their male classmates. Let them know that everyone their age will experience these changes as they get older, and that it’s a time to extend empathy and camaraderie to their peers instead of teasing and laughter. Periods and boners are normal, and it’s about time we raised a generation of kids that understood that from the start.

Safer Sex, Safer Teens

Since when has denying teens access to birth control or condoms convinced them not to have sex? Ask your parents and, with a sigh, they’ll probably reply, “never.” If your kids are on the brink of puberty, educate them on safe sex and allow them ample access to various forms of birth control. Make sure they know you’re available for advice without fear of punishment or shame. Explain the physical and emotional commitments required for sex without trying to scare them away with moral judgements. Talk about the importance of consent and caring for your partner’s well-being. Equip teens with the facts, but don’t try to stop them from having sex by grounding them from the weekend party. They’ll just find a way to sneak out later, and they certainly won’t ask your advice on being safe. Giving teens the chance to make their own right decisions instills confidence and foresight into their actions.

Lead with Honesty and Heart

We know, parents—there is no instruction manual for raising kids, and every child needs an educational experience that is tailored to their personality and learning style. No matter what topic you’re discussing, always be honest and show your kids that you’re teaching from the heart. It can sometimes be embarrassing or even intimidating to reveal the truths of human sexuality to impressionable young minds, especially when they’re your own. When you’re unafraid to bare your soul and approach everything from a place of love, kids pick up on that. Even if they don’t always say it, they’ll gain a newfound respect for their parent as a wise, guiding sage, and will forever seek to maintain your trust.

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