I sat back and listened to my friends having a lively argument. They were heatedly discussing one of the most contentious points in human history. Not religion or politics, not if the chicken or egg came first, but the equally as fascinating topic of female ejaculation.

Otherwise known as squirting, gushing, niagara falls, or my favorite, splash mountain.

There is so much mystery surrounding this delightful activity. Is it, or isn’t it pee? Where does it come from?

Is it “normal?” Can you learn how to do it? It’s time to settle this debate once and for all.

What the squirt?!

The technical definition of female ejaculation is an expulsion of fluid from or near the vagina during or before an orgasm. Pretty vague, right? The truth is that squirting is as different for each woman as orgasms are, we don’t all have the same kind! Heck, I don’t even always have the same types of orgasms in a day.

Unfortunately there have been no conclusive studies on female ejaculation, as there has been a lack of cohesive definitions and research methodology, as well as terminology. Most of the research done has been to examine the nature of the fluid, and determining whether or not it contains urine, but even that research has been inconclusive.

Some think that the fluid is secreted by the paraurethral ducts, which are through and around the urethra. Other’s feel it related to the Skene’s gland, but drawing a conclusion is proving to be as contentious to science as the location and use of the g-spot has been.

If you find this as frustrating as I do, consider this; pleasure is pleasure. It doesn’t really matter what the chemical compounds are of the fluid that’s spurting out of your pussy, as long as you’re having a good time doing it!

Whether it is in fact urine, or it’s the mysterious and wonderful elixir of life that continues to baffle science, having a good time is all that really matters. Since these fancy scientists can’t figure it all out, why don’t we roll up our sleeves and enjoy some hands-on research? I thought so. For those of us who have never experienced this seeming unicorn of a sexual experience, can squirting be learned? Of course the scientific jury is out on that too, but I sure had fun finding out.

Pre-squirt out.

First things first—it’s best to go to the bathroom and empty your bladder beforehand. Peeing before and after sex is great for men and women alike anyways. It promotes healthy urethras and decreases the chances of UTIs. Whether or not the squirted fluid is urine doesn’t really matter, but if it’s a concern for you, this practice may also help ease your mind.

Laying down a towel or waterproof blanket such as the Liberator Fascinator Throw Moisture-Resistant Sex Blanket is a great next step, as it makes clean up so much easier!

Being in touch with your pelvic floor muscles may increase your chances of celebrating with a gush, so spending some time connecting with your vaginal canal through Kegels can be a wonderful idea. To really get your pelvic floor into shape, the Apex by Pour Moi essentially does your Kegels for you.

This will hopefully start bringing you into your body, and relaxing your mind. I would suggest trying this out by yourself before experimenting with a partner. It’s lovely to be able to really relax and have as little self consciousness as possible. In addition, being in touch with your own body first can also help you communicate your sexual likes and dislikes to your partner.

Ready, set, squirt!

It’s time to get your groove on, and enjoy whatever gets your motor running. Try watching some porn that you like, light some candles to romance yourself, and break out your favorite toys. In order to build up the ejaculatory fluids, you need to be really aroused, so take your time luxuriating in your pleasure, you deserve it.

Now it’s time to locate the sometimes elusive g-spot. With your palm facing towards your vulva, insert a finger or two into your vagina, and try using a ‘come hither’ motion. You should feel a slightly spongy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina, when your finger is around the second knuckle of your opening. Every vagina is different, so don’t get discouraged if you can’t find it right away. The more aroused you are, the more engorged the g-spot becomes, so if you can’t locate it, try knocking out a clitoral orgasm first and spend some more time getting fired up.

Once you’ve got your finger on the button, give that g-spot some love! Explore what feels good. Curved g-spot stimulating toys like the We-Vibe Rave or the NJoy Pure Wand can be a lot of fun—and super helpful.

Firm, circular movements usually work best, but you can also try shorter ones, as if you were scratching an itch (gently). Every few minutes, try bearing down a little, squeezing your pelvic floor as if you were trying to pee. Spending about thirty minutes to an hour doing this is a good starting point, and if anything in particular is feeling really good, do more of that!

Allow yourself to really relax and enjoy this practice. It’s not a race and there is no pressure. In fact, putting pressure on yourself to squirt is often a barrier to actually squirting, so if you notice yourself getting frustrated and blocked, just switch to your most reliable method of orgasm and bring it home. There’s always next time to try again.

More squirt to go around.

Regardless of if you were successful at ejaculating solo, you can try this out with a partner whenever you feel ready. Follow the same steps, including laying down some towels for peace of mind. Make sure to communicate clearly with your partner as they explore your vulva and vagina with their fingers or a toy. This is such a fun way to discover what feels good, and help your sexual partner learn more about your anatomy.

When experimenting with a partner, try out different positions and see if any are more enjoyable than others. They can sit next to you while you lay on a bed, you could sit in their lap on the couch, or even lay next to each other on a big desk or dining room table – the possibilities are endless. Enjoy playing together for as long as you want, and see if you can create your own niagara falls at home!

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Regardless of whether you actually end up at the gushing destination or not, hopefully the journey was pretty enjoyable, and perhaps you even learned a little bit more about yourself along the way.

By Isabella Frappier, originally published on Sex With Emily @sexwithemily

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Do you think squirting is just for a lucky few? We’ve got good news. Any woman can learn to squirt. With just a few tweaks to your lovemaking sessions, you can find yourself having earth-shattering, mind-blowing orgasms. Don’t believe us? Take a look at the expert-tested tips below:

Get Comfortable

One of the most important aspects of learning to squirt is getting comfortable with yourself and your partner. In fact, the key to squirting is relaxation.

So, first get comfortable. How?

1.  Empty your bladder prior.
2. Play some soft, gentle music.
3. Light a few scented candles, and dim the lights.
4. Ask your partner to give you a massage.

It’s also important that you’re comfortable with your partner. Even with a partner you’ve been with for awhile, it can take a bit to get to this level of intimacy.

Get Warmed Up

A squirting orgasm–or, any orgasm really–cannot take place in a rush. In fact, the more time you take to “warm up”, the easier the task will be to achieve. But what do I mean by getting “warmed up”?

Practice Foreplay. Of course, the right sexual mood is crucial to successfully learning to squirt. To set that mood–and to remove the pressure to “perform”–foreplay is a must.

20-30 minutes of foreplay can increase relaxation and improve feelings of intimacy, both for you and your partner. This will prepare you for squirting, and your partner for the task of making you squirt.

Use Some Lube. As has been discussed previously on the blog, lube truly is your best friend. And, in the case of those just learning to squirt, it can also be your saving grace.

While foreplay is likely to get you aroused enough to not need lubricant, its use can increase sensitivity. As such, it never hurts to have a bit of lube on hand to get things going.

How To Get Your Body to Squirt

Now that you’re sufficiently prepared, it’s time to discuss the more “mechanical” aspects of squirting.

There are two anatomical structures that play a role in squirting–the G-spot, and the Skene’s gland. The G-spot is a tissue that surrounds the urethra and engorges with blood when aroused. The Skene’s gland is located just above the G-spot, and it’s more commonly known as the “female prostate”.

When the G-spot is stimulated, so too is the Skene’s gland. This can cause it to release into the urethra where it is then ejected from the body (i.e. squirted).

As such, we’re going to focus on G-spot stimulation. This isn’t to say that clitoral stimulation can’t cause squirting, but it’s not as common as with G-spot stimulation.

Techniques for Stimulating the G-Spot

You’ll first need to find your G-spot. Then, it’s time to stimulate it. Here’s how:

The Hook. This can be done by yourself or your partner. Place the palm of your hand against your clitoris, and rest your pinky and index finger on either side of thevaginal opening. Now insert the ring and middle fingers, and rest these on the G-spot (which you found with the above exercise).

Use these two fingers to massage the G-spot (using a hook-like) motion. With continuous stimulation, you’ll begin to feel a buildup of pressure. Continue to stimulate the G-spot until the orgasm has built, and follow through until the release.

It is very important to be completely relaxed at this point in time. Only with relaxation will squirting occur.

Penile Penetration. It’s also possible to squirt during intercourse. However, it can be a bit more difficult for inexperienced squirters (so I only recommend this once you’ve practiced a bit yourself).

Foremost, the angle (not depth) is most important to the stimulation of the G-spot. This means you’ll have to use sex positions that focus more on G-spot pressure. A few of these positions include the modified cowgirl position (you on top, but slightly bent backwards using your arms on his knees as leverage) and the lazy doggy style position (with you lying on your belly, legs straight and hips slightly raised).

Sex Toys. If a squirting orgasm still proves to be elusive–or if you’d just like to add a bit more spice to the bedroom–I recommend you give G-spot vibrators a try, like the Jive – Bluetooth Controlled Wearable Vibrator.

For some women, this is the best way to get started with squirting (whether alone or with a partner).

The bottomline: all women can learn to squirt. While it may come naturally for some, others will have to practice. And that’s okay. By implementing the tips above, you’ll be off to a good start.

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