The 50 Shades of Grey just started filming in Vancouver this month and I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to see how it turns out. True, there’s been lots of fan debate over the film’s cast, but judging by these pictures alone, I think Dakota Johnson and Jamie Dornan have some real chemistry going on (and they haven’t even gotten to the sex scenes yet!) Who wouldn’t want to sign a sex contract with sexy Jamie?
Whether you love or hate Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey, there’s no arguing that the book series has helped break down taboos about BDSM. Not only did it help women around the world take ownership of their sexual fantasies, but it also started lots of fun conversations about what people were really doing behind closed doors. Exploration has always been fun and now people aren’t ashamed to talk about it.
The movie might not come out until 2015 (crazy, I know) but that doesn’t mean you should wait that long to add a little ‘Shade’ inspired moves to the bedroom. Pair your imagination with my 50 Shades of Pleasure bedroom kit for a night of heightened sexual stimulation. It’s a great way to introduce a little kink into your routine and act out all those naughty rich guy/innocent girl fantasies on your own.
Whether you’re a BDSM novice or a spanking siren, here are three ways you can put a little more X in your sex life.
- Start with SpankingErotic spanking, whether it’s with your hand, a whip, or paddle, can bring you or your partner a heightened sense of stimulation. Not only does it clearly give one person dominant control (which can be a total turn on), but it stimulates nerves in your backside that are just as highly sexually charged when touched as your breasts or other erogenous zones. Start by determining who will do the spanking and play around with degrees of pressure. Come up with a safe word so your partner knows if the pleasurable pain has just become pain.Erotic spanking allows you to let go of control completely and give into the ‘game.’ Add another layer to the fun by dressing up and role playing – whether its as Anastasia and Christian or your own naughty duo.
- Introduce A Few ToysBuilding up your pleasure chest can translate to even steamier sex. Using a silky scarf, you can blindfold your partner – teasing them with the unknown – or you can take that same scarf and use it as hand ties. Ties are another great way for one partner to give over complete control over to the other. Take turns tying each other up and surrender to that person as they arouse you any way they want. Explore with a Blushing Kitty Vibe or cock ring and see how far you can make them squirm with desire. Keep it simple and explore your fantasies with the 50 Shades of Pleasure starter kit.
- Lay Ground RulesAs with all things, it’s important to lay some ground rules with your partner before giving in completely. Your list doesn’t have to be as intense as Christian’s but knowing you can trust each other is a huge part of helping you let go completely. BDSM allows you to be vulnerable but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a say in what makes you uncomfortable. Don’t be shy about telling your partner what your boundaries are and let them know right away if they are crossing any of them. Trust really can be the sexiest turn-on.
Have you ever had your own 50 Shades of Grey moment in the bedroom? Were you nervous acting on it or did you just go with it? I’d love to hear from you. Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org