You probably give good blowjobs. Actually, you probably give great blowjobs. But have you mastered the art of deep-throating? This hard-to-attain skill can come in handy for a truly mind-altering blowjob.

Disclaimer: Deep-throating is not at all necessary for a great BJ, so if it’s not something that appeals to you there’s no reason to feel bad. Its merely something to add to your repertoire if the idea of taking a whole penis in your mouth excites both you and your partner.

And if it does…here are a few tips and tricks to getting it done just right.

Train Your Gag Reflex

Usually the number one reason why people have a tough time with deep-throating is that they have a sensitive gag reflex. A gag reflex is the trigger your brain sends your body when it thinks you might be choking, and releases that lurching in your throat and stomach to get you to cough up whatever might be harming you. (Thanks, brain!) And while that is good for our survival, it’s not great for deep-throating because we’re not really going to choke on a dick.

You can train your gag reflex, however, so that it becomes more resistant. You can try putting his penis into your mouth a little deeper each time so that your body gradually gets used to the sensation of having it there. You can try this with a safe object that is not his penis, as well, but just be careful and take it slow.

Breathe Through Your Nose

You’d be surprised at how many people forget to breathe when they’re giving a blowjob. Deep-throating can be a lot of mental work, but while you’re concentrating you should also be breathing the entire time—through your nose. You’ll be amazed at how much easier it becomes. Also, tighten your abs while you do it. This helps to ease up the gag reflex, as well. We’re not sure why, but it works.

Change Positions

Every person’s penis and throat are different, so changing up positions could be the way to deep-throat sensationally. One position that seems to work (almost) across the board is when the giver lays on the bed with his/her head hanging over the edge of the bed. This opens up the L-shaped throat so that a penis can fit fully in. I recommend starting with this position, then adjust as necessary. Always listen to your body and do what feels the most natural for you and your lover.

Use Lube

Just do it. Spit is not a lubricant. It will get dry. Lube makes everything (EVERYTHING) in sex better. There’s no reason to not use it. There’s even flavored lubes to make your deep-throating experience even tastier. 

Use Your Hand

If it’s still a challenge for you to master the deep-throating, wrapping your hand around his penis as you put it in your mouth can create a similar sensation to deep-throating for him. Keep the up-and-down movement of your hand at the same pace as the movement of your mouth for the full effect. Every inch of his penis will be stimulated using this technique, so it will feel fantastic but is also less work for you.

Be in control

Blowjobs can and should be just as much fun for the giver as they are for the receiver. Yes, the act is designed with the pleasure of the receiver in mind, but this should be fun for you, too. As hot as it might be to have him “fuck your face”, you want to be in control when you’re deep-throating. Go at your pace. Stop when you need to. Use your hand, use lube, slow down, speed up. This is about your comfort and enjoyment, just as much as it is about his pleasure.

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Did you know that some men and women have the ability to orgasm from nipple play alone? It’s science. Nipple play releases a chemical in the brain called oxytocin (the same chemical released during orgasms), which activates the good feeling of pleasure. We all have the same sensitive nerve endings in the nipples and areolas, meaning we all have access to this pleasure hub. The next time you hit the sheets, give it a go, either solo, or with your partner. Pay attention to your clitoris—does a nipple kiss make you tingle? If so, you’re on your way to a nipple-gasm! Here are three secret tips to climax through nipple stimulation:

Secret 1: Communication is king.

Some men don’t realize nipples are an entire other erogenous zone that can be extremely arousing for them as well. So it’s worth an introduction!  Two-way communication is key to fine-tuning sexual pleasure with your lover. Ask if they’d like to gently experiment. Or, approach the nipples slowly and very gently when you’re in bed. Observe their reaction and you’ll know for sure. Ask how she/he wants it. Urge them to deeply focus on the nipple sensations. As you experiment, continue to check in, gauging vocal reactions and body language. Then ask again if they like what you did and how you can adjust it. Start slow and work your way up as you learn your lover’s unique preferences.

Secret 2: Relaxation rules.

Just like a vaginal or clitoral orgasm, our bodies respond best when we are relaxed. It may be worthwhile to devote an entire foreplay or lovemaking session just to the nipples! When the focus is solely on nipple arousal, the more likely an orgasm from nipple stimulation will be reached . Start slow and let your instincts navigate your fingers or mouth. Try massaging a breast with the full hand and work your way into nipple play after your lover is well massaged. Then, tease with kisses, moving down the neck, chest, and eventually to the nipples. Use a lot of tongue and slow, juicy kisses. (This can be a fun way to lead to oral sex, too.) The Tickle-Time Feather is a great beginner’s tool for light breast brushes (or anywhere). At this point, your lover will be eager for your mouth to be all over their man-or-womanhood. If you do migrate south, try edging your partner and make a pact to return to the nipples frequently. For romantic beginners, this luxury Afterglow Massage Oil Candle liquefies at body temperature so it’s never too hot when applying to skin. Full-body arousal means you’re more likely to orgasm from one final lick of the nipple.

Secret 3: Perfect your technique.

Between your hands, mouth, and nipple toys, there are limitless techniques at your fingertips. Focus on one nipple at a time, and alternate to avoid overstimulation. If you are using your mouth, blow and breathe across the nipples. Add a lick of saliva for wetness first, then blow, which will offer a cool, titillating breezy feeling. Nipple stimulating creams like the Nip Zip Ice Balm cause the same pleasurable cooling effect. Don’t be afraid to get sloppy! French kiss, lick, and suck with your mouth. Slither your tongue quickly back and forth. Wiggle your tongue quickly like a snake. Give ‘em sloppy puppy kisses! Or faintly glide over the nipples using saliva or a dab of lube. With your fingers, start with a light, gentle touch. Run the palms of your hands up and down the nipple, and circle around on the areola. The simple Nöje Wand vibrator is a must-have for buzzing stimulation on nipples—or all over the body. You can pinpoint stimulation by squeezing in mini pulses, rolling the nipple back and forth gently between the fingers, tugging, or tapping. If you like it rough, try spanking or flogging nipples. The Heart Beat Crop is great for precise tapping and slapping, and can be used for gentle or rough nipple play.

It may be tempting to jump to penetration, but be patient and communicate! This is the key to achieving an orgasm through nipple arousal. Once you determine the techniques that turn you on the most, stick with them, and let the nipple orgasms roll on in.

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