We get it, the heat of the moment is oh’ so hot and sometimes we just want to stick it in. But wait, lovers: There is so much more you can do, without even reaching penetration. Arousal at its finest is finessed through a number of ways, and even hotter when it’s a slow burn. 

This is especially true to women’s pleasure, considering peak arousal can take anywhere from 3-30 minutes in order to near orgasms. When orgasms do happen, they rarely come from penetration: clitoral stimulation is an absolute must. 

It’s a no brainer that we should take a step back and indulge in all the sexual treats we have to offer before starting penetration. Besides, why wouldn’t you want to be the most aroused you could be? Many people and couples also enjoy healthy and satisfying sex lives without ever engaging in penetration of any kind – which is deliciously fun! 

Here are our 3 favorite ways to let your pleasure simmer and enjoy waves of sensation without even penetrating yourself or your partner. 

Your hands are your best pleasure tool

Don’t underestimate the power of your hands when it comes to turning your partner on. They can be used to squeeze, grope, caress, pull, and massage all parts of the body. With lubricated fingers, ask your partner how they liked to be pleasured and have them show you. Perhaps they have a stroke and rhythm they enjoy most, or a rubbing motion that feels best for them. If they enjoy being dominated, try grasping their hair by the nape and pulling them closer to you while you kiss them, or gently placing your hands around their neck. Perhaps your partner likes to have their nipples pinched, or have their hips squeezed and pulled into you as you caress them. 

This can also be tied into mutual masturbation, which is masturbating together. Not only do you get to see your partner pleasuring themselves, but you see how. You learn the touch they love, the methods they use the most often, and their reaction. You can step in and help, or get off on watching each other. 

Get mouthy, literally & figuratively 

Just like your hands, your mouth can be utilized on every single part of your partner’s body. Make it count! Before jumping straight into oral sex, try trailing your lips and tongues along your partner’s body. Start with their inner thighs, work up their stomach, to their chest, and up to their neck and earlobes. These are incredibly sensitive parts of the body and the warm, wet feel of your mouth will be absolutely mind-blowing. 

Performing oral sex is perhaps more satisfactory than penetration for most women, considering it has the highest rate of orgasm turnout. When going down on your partner, ask them what kind of rhythms, pressures, and strokes they enjoy. If you’re giving head to a penis, do they like tongue circles around the head? Deep or shallow strokes with your mouth? How fast? If giving head to a vulva, perhaps they like circular tongue strokes or gentle sucking of the clitoris. 

Just as the physical is important, don’t forget dirty talk! Dirty talk can be very hot, and get your partner hot and bothered even if you’re in public. Try whispering something naughty in their ear while at dinner, or send them a sensual text. The mental stimulation can sometimes be more enticing than the physical, leaving your partner wanting more. 

Sex toys give pleasure in all forms

Sex toys are always our favorite option to recommend, since they can be used in so many ways. Whether you have one around for yourself or want to share with a partner, there are countless scenarios. We love having people teach their partners how to use a toy on them, and make it part of play. 

Have your partner rub a vibrator on your clitoris (we love the Le Wand Petite) while kissing, or on your body as they massage you. You can use a stroker on your partner as they sit back and relax, or apply a cock ring to watch their erection get stronger and stronger. 

Getting a bit more daring, have your partner wear a panty vibe while you go out in public. Using its remote control, play with different vibrational speeds and rhythms to watch their reactions. Besides, who said the movies or a fancy dinner can’t be sexually fun too?

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Ahhh… those first frenzied moments when penis touches labia. When every sexual sensory cell yearns to be stroked. When the thrill of conquest is on the verge of being rewarded. There’s a real art to intensifying these feelings of penetration for you and your lover—and you’re the artist.

Knowing she will experience these first few moments of ecstasy differently from you is key to creating your masterpiece. What does she crave? How can you supercharge it? Come probe and find out. But before the probing begins, there are a few steps to take to ensure optimal pleasure for both you and your partner:

Lubricate Your Love

It probably goes against every bone in your body—especially that big throbbing one—but unless your woman tells you she wants it hard and fast right from the get-go, resist the lust to thrust. Why? She’s not ready.

Your lover won’t feel very loving if you start trying to penetrate before she’s fully preheated. It’s boorish, selfish, and can be uncomfortable or even painful for her. Remember: If she’s dry, standby. If she’s wet, you’re all set.

To maximize the wet fun, grab a bottle of Slippery Kitty Lube—available in Au Naturel or Strawberry flavor—and lather it on your lover to prepare her for the ride.

Treat Her to an Exotic Labial Massage

This massage isn’t on the menu at any spa—but add it to your menu and she could flow like a fountain.

Here’s how: drizzle a little sex lube or saliva directly into the action and spread it around, so you’re both glistening and slippery.

With your hand, slowly guide the head of your slippery erect penis right up to the entrance of her vagina. Resist the urge to go deep! Instead, slowly tease by circling the tip all around the opening, then glide it between her labia up to her clitoris. After a few tempting clitoral swirls, slide it back down to the opening.

Repeat your special massage with several more sensual laps up and down her labia. Admire the view, enjoy the sensations, don’t rush, and use all your superpowers to stay outside. Your rewards will soon come.

Making Your Grand Entrance

When you can’t wait any longer, use your hand to help slide the head of your penis inside. Feel her soft lips surround you as you stimulate those millions of pleasure cells at the mouth of her vagina.

But now’s not the time to go on autopilot—use your sixth sense to match the angle of your erection to her angle of acceptance. Start slowly, and if all is well, go a little deeper, then deeper, then deeper till you’re completely inside.

This is what many women fondly call the “hurts so good” moment—when the vagina is spread wider with pleasure by your grand penetration and the thrilling feeling of fullness. If your lover is expressive, you’ll hear all about it in her sensual vocalizations.

Now you’re faced with a choice. You can start pounding in’n’out like every other Tom, Harry and Dick—or you can thrill her with some incredible sensual abilities, which is exactly what she wants!

Get Your Pump On

By nature, the male always has some (or most) control over the pumping. So why limit yourself to driving in just one gear?

Head Bob. To tease her into a yearning frenzy, stroke shallowly, in’n’out, with just the head of your penis for awhile, nothing deeper.

Combo Platter. Try three mini-pumps only a few inches inside, followed by one long, deep, graceful thrust. Repeat in rhythm.

Divine Grind. Show her you know her by grinding your cushy pubic bone into her tender clitoris…slowly…sensually…erotically …while your penis fills her.

Knead To Speed. After a slow, teasing start, accelerate your pumping toward orgasm. If you feel like you’re going to come too soon, downshift and try the Divine Grind.

Angle The Dangle. Your mission: find ALL your lover’s internal pleasure spots. Pivot and angle your penis all around till she moves and moans with pleasure.

Love Lever G. With your penis buried inside, angle and position for targeted G-spot stroking.

Jackhammer. Some women love it hard and fast. Some don’t know till they try it. And the rest will never like it. So try it once—and if she goes crazy with delight, keep drilling!

Rhythm Nation. There’s a reason sex is known as horizontal dancing—it’s the rhythm. Rather than pump mechanically—groove to the excitement of making love together, pumping, grinding and gyrating in sync with your mutual passion as your entire bodies sway in harmony, including hips, shoulders and knees.

Whether this is brand new to you, or merely a refresher course, the biggest thrills of sex are now in your capable hands!

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