People have been experimenting with and practicing anal sex for thousands of years, but only in the last few years are we beginning to be comfortable talking about it among heterosexual men. Today it’s called ‘pegging,’ and it is taking the sexual world by storm, thanks to an episode of Broad City that aired in 2015 (though the name was coined in a poll conducted by Dan Savage). It’s when a woman uses a strap-on to anally penetrate her heterosexual partner. Turns out, spoiler alert, you don’t have to be gay to enjoy anal sex because… ALL men have a prostate.

In an interview with GQ, Tom Ford sings the praises of pegging because, according to him, it allows men to understand the vulnerability of sex. It’s an interesting power flip that can possibly lead to men being more sensitive lovers towards their partners.

But while heterosexual anal sex for men is being talked about, that doesn’t necessarily mean strap-ons are flying off the shelves. It’s still a delicate topic. Pegging doesn’t mean a straight man is secretly gay. It means he’s willing to explore a new side of his sexuality. So if you and/or your partner are interested in pegging, here are a few ways to start breaching the topic.

Talk It Out

The first step, as with anything new and sexual, is to talk about it. If you’re a woman who has had anal sex before, then you know it’s not something you just…slip into. It requires a lot of communication, trust, and preparation. If you’re not comfortable talking about it, you’re probably not ready to try it, and everyone should be on the same page.

It’s also important to keep the dialog neutral. Ladies, most men are not going to ask to be pegged. It’s still not exactly seen as mainstream, and even though some men may want to try it very few are going to ask. If you are interested in pegging your partner, it’s important to make sure he doesn’t feel like you’re going to do something to him. There has to be immense trust between the two of you.

Test It Out

If you’re a man interested in pegging, or if you’re interested in pegging your man, before you start browsing the strap-ons, start gently exploring your man’s butt with fingers, a soft prostate massager, and lots and lots of lube. This will open up the door to communication about what feels good to him, and to you, and what can be improved on. Another great way to open communication is to flip through this fully-illustrated sex-help book all about anal.

Start Slow

The first time you peg a man or a man lets him peg you is going to be nerve-wracking. Pegging is a very intense and vulnerable shift in power dynamic and can open the door for a lot of role playing scenarios that you might not have otherwise known you wanted. It’s important to let things happen naturally. Keep communication going while you start. Ask him what he likes, what feels good. It’s important to let him set the pace.

…and don’t forget the lube!

Debrief

No matter how your pegging experience goes the first time around, it is very important to communicate with your guy when you’re finished. Think about the first time you, as a woman, ever had sex and how vulnerable you might have felt. You let someone take a very dominant role and penetrate your body (though hopefully the experience was sexier than that wording). It’s really no different when pegging a straight man for the first time. Men are traditionally used to being in the dominant role, so when he asks for or agrees to this completely submissive position it’s important to check in with his feelings afterward to see what did or did not feel good. It’s being sensitive to someone else’s feelings and body, just the same as we expect as women.

The result with pegging, when done properly, is a whole new level of intimacy, trust, and sex appeal that you might not have otherwise known you wanted or needed. It has the potential to transform an already electric sex life into something completely off the charts in all sorts of wonderful ways.

Just don’t forget the lube.

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We all know it’s important to please our ladies in bed. But the enigmatic minds of women are quite unlike our own. In other words, they think about other things than just sex all the time. So, while it’s important to ensure she orgasms, it’s not the most essential thing in the world to her. Let’s face it, guys, they’re into the love thing. They want to feel like you’re actually paying attention.

To keep her from straying, let’s first take a look some of the main reasons why women may become disinterested. Inattention is probably the biggest one, and that can open the door for her to turn to someone else—usually that friend who’s waiting in the wings for you to screw up. If the only time you show a real interest in her is when you’re horny, you’re at risk of losing her. If you want to keep her, here’s a cheat sheet of things women find irresistible in men when it comes to being attentive.

1. Cooking

You must have developed one or two decent recipes during your tenure as a bachelor. Instead of taking her out to eat, or expecting her to cook for you, try showing her your mad skills in the kitchen. Even if it’s a disaster, she’ll appreciate that you cared enough to try.

2. Laughter

If you can make her laugh, you’re well on your way. And keeping a sense of humor can help get a couple through any rough patches that may arise. Most importantly, don’t take yourself too seriously.

3. Remembering key dates

If you’ve ever forgotten a birthday or anniversary, you know what I’m talking about. If you miss an important day, it’s going to hurt her—but you’re the one who’s really going to feel the pain as a result. Women can hold a grudge, so expect to be reminded of it with great regularity if you ever make this mistake. Set reminders, it’s simple.

4. Date nights

Once you’ve settled into a relationship, it can be easy to fall into a routine where your nights together are merely spent in front of the TV. And that can be fine on many nights, but don’t let it turn into a rut. Take her out every once in a while. Dinners, movies, or even just going for a walk—they love that shit.

5. Compliments

Don’t assume that she knows you think she’s beautiful, or that you appreciate everything she does. Be thoughtful enough to articulate it, and reassure her that she’s still the world to you.

6. Looking nice

I know they’re comfy as hell, but for God’s sake, reserve the sweatpants only for when you’re alone. Especially the old, stretchy ones, with all the holes in them. And maybe get a decent pair of shoes. Let her know you actually care about how you look when she’s around.

7. Trust

This is a huge one, guys, and it’s developed through a variety of deeds and behaviors. First, allow yourself to be vulnerable with her. Let down the guard you hold between you and the outside world. Let her in. You’re not perfect, and neither is she, so stop pretending. When this becomes a two-way street, honesty, respect, and loyalty will prevail without room for jealousy or suspicion.

8. Listening

Just as it’s important to be open with her, you need to be there for her—and actually pay attention—when she has something to say. When you do, you’ll be armed with those sweet little details that you can drop on her later when you want to melt her heart. Few things can make a woman lose her clothes better than proving that you were listening and that you remember.

9. Compromise

You don’t always have to win or be right, and that can be a tough one for guys to get over. You might not always see eye to eye. When that happens, it’s important not to judge. Even if you disagree, show empathy—that you understand why she feels the way she does. When she knows that you’ve at least heard her out, she’ll feel validated, respected and accepted.

10. Affection

This should be a no-brainer, but it can be a pitfall once you’ve settled into the relationship routine. Remember that she will always like to kiss, hold hands and cuddle. Unless you smell, which has inspired me to add a bonus thing she likes: good hygiene.

Do you want to know the ironic thing about all this stuff? If you give her everything from this list, she’ll actually become more likely to climax, anyway. That’s because she’ll feel more comfortable and loved with you, and that’s an excellent recipe for orgasms.

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