We all know it’s important to please our ladies in bed. But the enigmatic minds of women are quite unlike our own. In other words, they think about other things than just sex all the time. So, while it’s important to ensure she orgasms, it’s not the most essential thing in the world to her. Let’s face it, guys, they’re into the love thing. They want to feel like you’re actually paying attention.

To keep her from straying, let’s first take a look some of the main reasons why women may become disinterested. Inattention is probably the biggest one, and that can open the door for her to turn to someone else—usually that friend who’s waiting in the wings for you to screw up. If the only time you show a real interest in her is when you’re horny, you’re at risk of losing her. If you want to keep her, here’s a cheat sheet of things women find irresistible in men when it comes to being attentive.

1. Cooking

You must have developed one or two decent recipes during your tenure as a bachelor. Instead of taking her out to eat, or expecting her to cook for you, try showing her your mad skills in the kitchen. Even if it’s a disaster, she’ll appreciate that you cared enough to try.

2. Laughter

If you can make her laugh, you’re well on your way. And keeping a sense of humor can help get a couple through any rough patches that may arise. Most importantly, don’t take yourself too seriously.

3. Remembering key dates

If you’ve ever forgotten a birthday or anniversary, you know what I’m talking about. If you miss an important day, it’s going to hurt her—but you’re the one who’s really going to feel the pain as a result. Women can hold a grudge, so expect to be reminded of it with great regularity if you ever make this mistake. Set reminders, it’s simple.

4. Date nights

Once you’ve settled into a relationship, it can be easy to fall into a routine where your nights together are merely spent in front of the TV. And that can be fine on many nights, but don’t let it turn into a rut. Take her out every once in a while. Dinners, movies, or even just going for a walk—they love that shit.

5. Compliments

Don’t assume that she knows you think she’s beautiful, or that you appreciate everything she does. Be thoughtful enough to articulate it, and reassure her that she’s still the world to you.

6. Looking nice

I know they’re comfy as hell, but for God’s sake, reserve the sweatpants only for when you’re alone. Especially the old, stretchy ones, with all the holes in them. And maybe get a decent pair of shoes. Let her know you actually care about how you look when she’s around.

7. Trust

This is a huge one, guys, and it’s developed through a variety of deeds and behaviors. First, allow yourself to be vulnerable with her. Let down the guard you hold between you and the outside world. Let her in. You’re not perfect, and neither is she, so stop pretending. When this becomes a two-way street, honesty, respect, and loyalty will prevail without room for jealousy or suspicion.

8. Listening

Just as it’s important to be open with her, you need to be there for her—and actually pay attention—when she has something to say. When you do, you’ll be armed with those sweet little details that you can drop on her later when you want to melt her heart. Few things can make a woman lose her clothes better than proving that you were listening and that you remember.

9. Compromise

You don’t always have to win or be right, and that can be a tough one for guys to get over. You might not always see eye to eye. When that happens, it’s important not to judge. Even if you disagree, show empathy—that you understand why she feels the way she does. When she knows that you’ve at least heard her out, she’ll feel validated, respected and accepted.

10. Affection

This should be a no-brainer, but it can be a pitfall once you’ve settled into the relationship routine. Remember that she will always like to kiss, hold hands and cuddle. Unless you smell, which has inspired me to add a bonus thing she likes: good hygiene.

Do you want to know the ironic thing about all this stuff? If you give her everything from this list, she’ll actually become more likely to climax, anyway. That’s because she’ll feel more comfortable and loved with you, and that’s an excellent recipe for orgasms.

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A few years ago I came across an ideology which revolutionized my dating life. It suddenly became clear which women I’d better connect with, and I understood how to meet their needs. Things were great. My romantic adventures became less complicated. The end.

Or was it? One magical day, I decided to apply these teachings to the bedroom, and something remarkable happened. I was able to overcompensate for all my many, many flaws.

Maybe you’ve come across The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman or its adapted teachings. The book suggests each person has a primary and secondary love language to which they will most positively respond. It’s a practical piece of literature, and I highly recommend you read it.

If you’re like me and you fall asleep every time you try to read for more than ten minutes, I’ve provided what each language is below in a hyper-condensed form. I’ve also included how to apply these five ideas in the bedroom.

1. Words of Affirmation

Does your partner say, “Oh stop,” when you give them a compliment (but you know they secretly want you to continue)? Then they might feel most loved with words of affirmation.

So tell them how good they look or how amazing they’re making you feel during sex. You want to be super vocal. Be all like, “Damn girl, your bum makes me hard and stuff,” or “Whoa, if you keep doing that I’m going to prematurely ejaculate all over the dang place (again).”

2. Acts of Service

Does finishing a honey-do list or preparing a nice meal make your partner swoon? Then they might feel most loved when you provide acts of service.

So give them lots of head. Most people love getting oral. But this category of people will likely appreciate it the most. If not, there are plenty of other acts of service you can provide in the bedroom. Try giving a back rub before the deed or washing the sheets afterward.  

3. Receiving Gifts

Can you get away with almost anything as long as you buy your partner a forgive me present afterward? Then they might feel most loved when you spoil them with gifts.

So buy them sex toys or a luxurious water-based CBD lube. Shower them with sexy presents, and they will shower you with passionate sex.

4. Physical Touch

Is the general population totally grossed out by how much your partner makes you partake in PDA? Then your boo might feel most loved with physical touch.

So cuddle them after sex. And feel free to give them adorable little eskimo kisses and hold their hand during your lovemaking sesh. People who fall under the physical touch category need extra affection.

5. Quality Time

Does your partner kind of feel like a stage 5 clinger? Do they miss you when you leave to go to the bathroom? Then your partner might feel most loved with quality time.

So don’t just slam and scram. That is, don’t leave your mate as soon as le sex ends. It’s probably a good idea for you to stay the night. Those who fall into the category of quality time want your presence more than anything else.

If you’re an overachiever like I wish I were, you can figure out what your partner’s secondary love language is too, and then mix and match that with their primary. For example, maybe your companion’s primary is physical touch, and their secondary is quality time. Then you can cuddle them to sleep after sex, and you’d be able to fulfill both their needs. Or maybe they respond to acts of service and receiving gifts. In this case, you could buy them really nice massage oil and then give them a full body rub before sexy times.  

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