When it comes to reaching climax, the sexes just aren’t hard-wired the same way. In fact, many women have trouble reaching orgasm, period, when having sex with a partner.
But what if women could master their below-the-belt domain and learn how to orgasm whenever they wanted to? Understanding how your body works, learning new sex techniques and knowing what’s available to support your pleasure is essential for satisfying sex.
Meet the Star of the Big O
You know it, you love it, your guy might have struggled to find it: yes, I’m talking about the clitoris!
The clitoris is the key to providing all the pleasure you deserve. It’s the hooded little nub located at the top of the vulva, just above the urethra and vaginal canal. It forms a wishbone-like structure with the glans visible above the surface and two internal crura, or legs. When aroused, the clitoris gets hard and erect just like a penis and is the epicenter of your orgasm.
Position Yourself for Climactic Sex-cess
One of best tried and true positions that she can come in is Cowgirl, or when a woman rides her partner. Cowgirl can offer the perfect landscape for clitoral friction by tilting her pelvis forward and gently flattening her blooming flower for full contact against him as she moves and gyrates. Think of it as her masturbating, by rubbing her clitoris against him. Tip: in this easy-access position, with the flip a thumb (or two!), her lover can easily take over the clitoral stroking reigns.
Indulge in Pleasure With Clitoral Vibes
Nearly 85% of women require some form of clitoral stimulation—whether it’s the right angled position, fingertips or tongue—to reach climax. And then of course there’s sheet-grabbing, eye-rolling, scrape-us-off-the-ceiling vibrators! There’s a wide range of amazing vibrators designed to use while making love. They’re small, powerful, and very effective. Here’s a few Dr. Sadie recommended picks made especially for the clitoris and that are easy to use during sex.
I would like a device that included a light ..any thoughts
Its interesting to see how both the female and male orgasms differ. I find my orgasms can vary in intensity, especially when my nipples are stimulated. I usually am successful when I’m on top but have experienced success during anal and also missionary. I think the key is for the guy to try and time his, since I feel as if mine are harder to achieve, even when relaxed. I find a lot of foreplay to be the key to reaching an O more successfully and faster. Thanks for the useful info!
Wow, great article! i think I’m going to need to get one of those finger tip vibrators for sure really soon. Right now me and my dude have tried using a handheld bullet together; I got a Tickle Kitty one with a kit a while ago, and I’ve always LOVED using it solo. But my boy is a lube fanatic and we’ve been having some pretty crazy slip-and-slide adventures (almost lost it behind the bed lol) So long story short, lots of lube means be extra careful with those smooth little vibes, or get one you don’t need to worry about hanging on to. Wish me luck!
I’ve already known much of this for some time. It can be difficult to ‘time’ climaxes with my partner so that they sync because he is often so aroused he has to ease back & try to hold back his own orgasm as I take awhile longer, sometimes need just a little more to put me over the edge & then my orgasm. Our sex-cess in achieving synchronous orgasms is for him to be raised up on his arms so I have access to use my own fingers for clitoral stimulation in combination with his penetration/gentle thrusts. The thrusting is essential for me in combination with the clitoral stimulation…sometimes he’s too gentle-I need faster strokes but he’s hard pressed to contain his own climax til I can hit that high. Another super-stimulating action is when he teases me with the head of his penis…just inserting an inch or two (in & out) while I personally stimulate my clitoris (either manually or with my vibrator & a bit of lube)…I orgasm every time, maybe even multiples. I’ve had 1 vaginal orgasm & another experience I’ve never encountered with a small orgasm infused with a BIG ONE (like an orgasm within an orgasm…it was WILD. I never knew that was possible. LOL). Even though we’ve only recently engaged in a sexual relationship we have great sex & rarely miss cue on climaxing but it’s knowing the erogenous zones, how to stimulate & confidence with our sexuality…We have very gratifying, frequent orgasms when we can be together 😀
Preach it girl 😉 Thanks for sharing your position tips for simultaneous O’s for all of our readers. It’s great to know that you’re with such a loving partner and that there are orgasms aplenty for everyone! As we touched on in the article, you can always incorporate a toy or two for even MORE wild orgasms to rock your world.
I’m out of league here. Too much brain power on dipyals!