When it comes to reaching climax, the sexes just aren’t hard-wired the same way. In fact, many women have trouble reaching orgasm, period, when having sex with a partner.
But what if women could master their below-the-belt domain and learn how to orgasm whenever they wanted to? Understanding how your body works, learning new sex techniques and knowing what’s available to support your pleasure is essential for satisfying sex.
Meet the Star of the Big O
You know it, you love it, your guy might have struggled to find it: yes, I’m talking about the clitoris!
The clitoris is the key to providing all the pleasure you deserve. It’s the hooded little nub located at the top of the vulva, just above the urethra and vaginal canal. It forms a wishbone-like structure with the glans visible above the surface and two internal crura, or legs. When aroused, the clitoris gets hard and erect just like a penis and is the epicenter of your orgasm.
Position Yourself for Climactic Sex-cess
One of best tried and true positions that she can come in is Cowgirl, or when a woman rides her partner. Cowgirl can offer the perfect landscape for clitoral friction by tilting her pelvis forward and gently flattening her blooming flower for full contact against him as she moves and gyrates. Think of it as her masturbating, by rubbing her clitoris against him. Tip: in this easy-access position, with the flip a thumb (or two!), her lover can easily take over the clitoral stroking reigns.
Indulge in Pleasure With Clitoral Vibes
Nearly 85% of women require some form of clitoral stimulation—whether it’s the right angled position, fingertips or tongue—to reach climax. And then of course there’s sheet-grabbing, eye-rolling, scrape-us-off-the-ceiling vibrators! There’s a wide range of amazing vibrators designed to use while making love. They’re small, powerful, and very effective. Here’s a few Dr. Sadie recommended picks made especially for the clitoris and that are easy to use during sex:
The LOVER Smart Ring The soft ring stretches around his shaft, and the flatter, longer bullet vibe is perfectly positioned for clitoral pleasures.
Clitoris Cuddler Worn on either persons finger, this powerful, waterproof vibe with rigid grooves feels luxurious on the entire clitoral erogenous zone.
Tickle Kitty Silver Bullet Everyone should have a bullet vibe in their nightstand. Designed for external pleasures with convenient variable speed control dial.
FingO Fun Fingertip Vibe This wireless fingertip vibe is worn comfortably around your finger and features a 3-function powerful bullet and silicone pleasure ticklers.
Remember, we’re always “just practicing” in life—and in the bedroom. So open up, try new things, and have lots of fun along the way!