What if I told you that the holy grail of orgasms has nothing to do with an intricate sex position, a magic pill, or even a partner? This ‘secret’ is a technique called edging, otherwise known as orgasm control. Anyone of any experience level can incorporate edging into their arsenal of bedroom tricks. Additionally, you may hear it being referred to as ‘surfing’ or ‘peaking’. This pleasure practice focuses on delaying climax one or more times during intercourse or masturbation, stoking a slow, intentional fire that will result in an orgasmic explosion like no other.

Think of the amplified feeling of gratification that happens the moment you finally achieve a sneeze, after losing it several times beforehand. The first climax after partaking in edging is much like that coveted sneeze, if you can imagine it being relocated to an erogenous zone. Just like a delayed sneeze, the more times you ‘lose’, or delay your orgasm, the more powerful it becomes.

Bringing yourself to the brink of climax is not for everyone; the 60 second orgasm may be your cup of tea, and that is a wonderful thing! Overall, the purpose is to tantalize, not to torment. Successful edging, which requires equal parts patience and self-control, serves a valuable purpose when it comes to harnessing sexual energy.

Benefits:

• Deeper, more intuitive understanding of your and/or your lover’s body, knowing when that moment of ecstacy will happen, and how to control it
• A great introduction to BDSM. Edging is a common form of power exchange, as an exhibition of power and control on behalf of the Dominant partner. Imposing restraint is a staple for maintaining control over your partner
• Results in increased stamina for both men and women
• Excellent natural option for male ejaculation control

Challenges:

• Inadvertently going over the edge while skirting the line of sweet release during solo play
• Learning to know your partner’s physical signs and cues, including breathing, body movements, and physical reactions
• Throwing in the towel because orgasms are, um, awesome. Why wait?

Tips & techniques:

• Master it by yourself first. Practice makes perfect! Work your way up to 20-25 minutes at a time
• Alternate sex toys, finger fun, and sensory play. On a male partner, a masturbation sleeve is a great toy to bring into the mix
• Press pause: Get your juices flowing and ramp up arousal with yourself or your partner.  Identify the moment that you are close to climax, and STOP for a few seconds. Go back to the beginning with less pinpointed pressure, targeting everything but the bullseye (Looking at you, clitoris!) Rinse and repeat at least one more time; enjoy!
• Distraction: If you are experimenting solo, alternate your favorite toy with your fingers when you feel yourself about to burst
• Get creative! You are not limited to just foreplay here. The fun part about edging is that it can be a grab bag of whatever stimulation you prefer—whether you incorporate penetration or not

If you are new to edging, don’t get discouraged! It may take a few weeks or a couple months until you’ve perfected your technique. Like anything worth waiting for, patience is a virtue, young grasshopper.

***

Heighten your edging experience with sex toys from TickleKitty.com:

The post Slow Burning Sensuality: The Art of Edging first appeared on Tickle Kitty Blog.

The post Slow Burning Sensuality: The Art of Edging appeared first on Tickle Kitty Blog.

Men come in all shapes and sizes, and so do their genitals. Penises can be uncircumcised, circumcised, girthy, thin, lengthy or short.

During my experience in the colorful world of cocks, I’ve seen members as big as porn stars, and others the size of my middle finger. But no matter what I uncover under a man’s belt, I always try to make him feel good about his body, and have fun, because no sex life is hot and heavy when a man’s ego goes flaccid.

Besides, a big bulge doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve struck gold, and a small one doesn’t automatically translate to bad sex. Regardless of his size, the better you make him feel, the better he will want to perform for you in bed.

So, how can we make men feel like their magic sticks are indeed magical?

Here are 5 tips to incorporate today:

1. Tell Him How Good He Makes You Feel

It’s no secret that everyone likes compliments, but if your man is on the smaller side of the penile spectrum, you should never lie to him about how big he is. He’s probably been in a locker room, watched porn, or peeked in a urinal before, so he is already aware of his size compared to others. If you do lie about it, he’ll know you’re faking your reaction, and may become distrustful and insecure.

Instead, stroke his ego by telling him how wet he makes you, and how good he feels inside of you. This works for dicks both big and small. When you specifically tell a man what makes your toes curl, he will likely do more of it, including oral and manual pleasures.

2. Be Excited When He Whips It Out

Remember that you don’t have to say anything to show how excited you are about his penis. Even before he drops his drawers and unveils his package, give his member some kisses and caresses on the outside of his pants. Show him your eagerness with that sensual look you know how to give. Then let him sit back and relax while you tease and begin to unzip his fly. This will reassure him that you’re really into him—and it—regardless of its size. It’s also a great way to get a full standing ovation for your creativity and enthusiasm, which gives you something to be excited about, too!

3. Show Him Some Manual Love

Hand-jobs are a great way to make your guy feel good because manual techniques will work for him no matter his size—disco sticks big and small can’t get enough of some slick palm action. And he won’t need to worry about if he’s big enough (or too big!) to satisfy you when you’re keeping your hands busy. Try giving him a hand-job while you’re straddling his legs—big or small, he’ll love to watch you playing with his dick and enjoy the curvaceous views of your body. And don’t be shy to use a stretchy men’s stroker on him. He’ll LOVE it.

And pay attention to every part! Don’t leave his two huevos just hanging around. Most guys truly appreciate some passionate touch on their crown jewels, so touch them. In my own personal experience, the smaller the penis is, the more sensitive a guy’s balls are, and the more they like to be fondled.

4. Positions and Techniques that Play to His Penis

Whether big or small, your guy may have had challenges finding the best sex positions for maximum pleasure—for both himself, and for you.

For an extra-sizable stud, you can’t go wrong on top with the Cowgirl position. Riding him is an ideal position as you are in control of the speed, rhythm and depth. He’ll be at ease knowing he doesn’t have to worry about hurting you—and you can jump on, take control, and let him enjoy your gyrating hips on his pleasure pole.

If he’s smaller than average size, boost the classic Missionary position by putting your legs over his shoulders, and then flex your pelvic muscles, tightening your vagina around him (this is called “Kegels”). This will make him feel like you’re giving his penis a loving, tight hug! As a bonus, put pillows under your butt for deepest penetration. Then give yourself a helping hand on your pleasure spot and you may just start climaxing at the same time. For over 100 illustrated new position ideas, see Dr. Sadie’s bestseller, Ride ‘Em Cowgirl!

5. Don’t Fixate on His Size

This especially applies when you’re faced with a well-endowed man. Try not to seem intimidated; after all, lube exists for a reason. And he’s not going to poke your heart out with his penis, I promise. Just make sure to communicate, and guide him during sex. Let him know what feels awesome, and when it gets uncomfortable. It can be fun and is a lot like playing red light, green light. So, don’t be afraid to talk to him because a good partner will be accommodating to your cues—and make the sexual experience pleasurable for both parties.

If his package is on the smaller side, don’t fret. Some women actually prefer this since they require less work in general, are more comfortable during anal. They are also less likely to leave you aching in the morning! Tip: put a cock ring on him before having sex – it’ll make his dick harder and last longer, which will make him feel even better. Men with smaller penises also have a tendency to put more effort into sex, and give amazing oral. For these reasons alone, it’s best to keep an open mind, and not judge a dick by its cover.

Many believe “it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean.” Sure, the size of the vessel might help, but even big ships don’t always know how to steer.

The post 5 Ways to Make a Guy Feel Great About His Member—No Matter His Size first appeared on Tickle Kitty Blog.

The post 5 Ways to Make a Guy Feel Great About His Member—No Matter His Size appeared first on Tickle Kitty Blog.