Listen fellas, we know you’re fascinated with the female body—butts included. But not all women want their man to explore this region. So if she’s willing to give you the key to her backdoor, you better appreciate just how lucky you really are.

You also don’t want to rush into things. There are important details to consider, along with a little preparation. But don’t worry, I got you. Take a seat and I’ll teach you exactly what you should be doing before putting anything near that yummy booty of hers.

Communication is lubrication.

In any sex act—especially anal play, always communicate with your partner to make sure they’re comfortable and are enjoying what you’re doing. This should be a two-way feedback.

New and nervous?

Insist your lover gets comfortable with the sensations and plays with herself first. She should get familiar with her backdoor and what types of sensations feel good. This will also help her to be able to guide you through your analplay exploration. She’ll already have an idea of what she likes and doesn’t like.

Always use lube.

This is one of the most important tips about buttplay. The anus does not produce natural lubrication like the vagina, so you must use lubricant to avoid pain or even damage. Like, lots of lube.

Study up on the erogenous zone first—especially if you’re new at it.

This erogenous zone requires much more attention to care and safety than others. So being a thoughtful lover, you may want to pick up a copy of my bestselling book Tickle My Tush: Mild-to-Wild Analplay Adventures for Every Booty, which teaches everything you need to know about getting started and enjoying anal sex, safely and pleasurably—with illustrations to make techniques easy to implement.

Practice good hygiene.

This is very important for comfort and safety. Hands should be washed and nails trimmed with no hang-nails. Latex gloves can be used as well and prevent bacteria from being exchanged. Also, showering beforehand with your partner and making sure you’re both squeaky clean will put her mind more at ease.

Get her warmed up and increase blood flow.

Getting her warmed up, and loosened up, is very important. And this includes activities you can do before you even think about heading around the backside. Start with other foreplay activities to get arousal up and blood flow to the genitals. This includes kissing, oral, touching, massaging and even some intercourse. This will get her body primed and ready to receive backdoor loving and allow her to feel more pleasure from it.

Give her a sensual butt massage.

Part of warming up can (and should) include a sensual butt massage. Use lube and try these techniques: place your thumbs in the creases where legs meet the butt cheeks and glide your thumbs along the crease from the inner thigh to the outer thigh. Lift and repeat. Then, put your palms together in ‘prayer position’, place them on her tailbone, then glide up and down her butt crack.

Start with gentle ‘outerplay’.

After she’s warmed up from other sexual activity, incorporate anal outerplay by pressing gently against her anus with the flat of your fingerpad, but don’t go inside. This is an amazing tease and wakes up and excites the sensitive nerve endings. You may just find her tight sphincter relaxing, and opening up to your touch.

Go slooowly with finger-play.

Only after she’s hot and wet, gently insert just the tip of a well-lubed finger to the first knuckle (just past your fingernail). Then sit still. See how she responds. Remind her to relax and enjoy. Then wiggle your fingertip slowly, moving in small circular motions or going in-and-out ever so slightly. Work your entire finger in slowly, and be sure to re-apply lube as needed. Experiment with the “cork-screw” in-and-out twisting technique.

Toss her salad. “Rimming”, that is.

Start with a wet, soft tongue and tap, lick, and swirl around the anus. Then graduate to a stiff tongue, insert it and then relax it, letting it get pushed out naturally. Repeat. Play with her clitoris while doing this and you may just find her begging you not to stop!

Start with an analplay kit that you can both get into.

If you’re looking for guidance on how to have safe, fun and pleasurable anal sex, explore the Couple’s HotTush Please Kit that comes with everything you need: my bestselling, illustrated Tickle My Tush guide, signature body-safe lube Slippery Kitty, a classic bullet vibrator, and a cute beginners butt plug.

Well gentlemen, if you follow the above guidance, there’ll be no ifs, ands, or butts about it—you’ll be on your way to giving magical pleasure to a new and exciting venue on your lover’s body. Just don’t be surprised if anal becomes her new favorite guilty pleasure and she backs dat booty up to you for more and more.

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Ease your way into backdoor bliss with anal toys from TickleKitty.com:

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Sex and cannabis, two pleasurable pastimes that go together like peas and carrots. That may be obvious, but public perception has come a long way on these taboo topics. Relentless research and activism have proven that they are safe, reliable sources of improved health and happiness.

With the legalization of recreational cannabis, more awareness is being shed on the medical benefits of CBD-based products. In short, CBD, or cannabidiol, is the non-psychoactive compound of the cannabis plant. Unlike THC, CBD will not get you ‘high’. It is used to treat PTSD, anxiety, seizure disorders in animals, among many other symptoms. Dubbed ‘nature’s Advil,’ it naturally manages these symptoms while improving our mood. CBD is also working serious magic to enhance sexual intimacy, pain relief, and communication. These CBD products are perfect for intimacy—keeping your head clear and your body buzzing.

Massage Oils & Personal Lubricants

CBD-infused coconut oil is what sparked my interest in non-psychoactive cannabis. I used it as vaginal lubrication first, and then a topical oil for anal relaxation. Those who experience pain with penetration, clinically known as vaginismus, turn to CBD-infused lubricants for vaginal tension relief. When used vaginally, you may notice a subtle calming effect on the entire nervous system; hypersensitive but not overstimulated. By waking up the nerves, CBD lubrication and topical oils promote blood circulation, sexual response, and gets your juices flowing naturally. If you’re new to lube in general, I’d recommend starting with a natural water-based lubricant like Slippery Kitty, then graduate to a CBD-infused lube, GoLove CBD Intimate Serum.

Pair with: A ribbed, hand-blown glass dildo and slow internal strokes, and add a few drops of CBD oil to your sensual massage.

Bath Treats

Next level self care! CBD-infused bath bombs and soaking salts are great for beginners looking to dip a toe into psychoactive-free fun. It provides the medicinal effects of a good cannabis strain without being intoxicating. Full-body benefits include inflammation & pain relief, moisturized skin, and detoxification. CBD is amazing for melting away menstrual cramps, whether applied topically or used in a bathtub.

Pair with: A waterproof vibrator to tease the clitoris and nipples as long as you can hold out, and a satin robe for afterwards.

Edibles

Willy Wonka himself would be envious of the edibles on the market. Options include chocolates, suckers, taffy, gummies and more. (With a little research and a good CBD oil, you can also get creative in the kitchen.) Edible-induced relaxation reduces anxiety, and calms communication fears. If your to-do list races through your head during intimacy, an edible will help the mind focus on physical sensations. Schedule a sensory play date night, and try an edible for dessert. Pick out your sex toys in advance, and slowly move from one erogenous zone to the next.

Pair with: A set of vibrating nipple clamps, a multi-purpose vibrating massager, and a feather tickler.

As you experiment, remember the following: Start small. Take microdoses as you go, and check in on your physical response regularly. Pleasure awaits!

The pursuit to higher pleasure is a journey, and the benefits make the journey well worth it. Keep these things in mind, and enjoy the ride.

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Combine your CBD exploration with a sex toy from TickleKitty.com to enhance your relaxation and pleasure. Visit Golovecbd.com to explore Dr. Sadie’s CBD Intimate Serum:

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Like everyone else, you probably take your backside for granted. Yet you rely on these muscles all day long for standing, walking, climbing and running. They even save you from passing gas in crowded elevators!

But how often do you think about turning it into a playing field of pleasure—not just to soothe your lover’s aching muscles, but to excite that soft receptive skin? As an often overlooked erogenous zone, those two cheeks are always eager for sensual arousal from kneading, squeezing, kissing, licking, spanking, gentle biting, feather-light touching—or simply calming moments of warm-handed stillness.

Before you begin your sensual booty massage, remember to set the mood. Dim the lights and have your partner lay face first on a soft bed or massage table. Warm and lubricate your hands by lathering on some Slippery Kitty Lube and rubbing your palms together. Most importantly, always make sure your partner is comfortable.

Now that you’re ready to begin, enjoy my expert techniques on giving the most arousing, relaxing booty massage your partner will have ever received.

“Pray for More”

Bring the flats of your hands together, with your pinkies at the top of your lover’s butt cleavage. Begin sliding the sides of your pinkies on a long, slow ride down, nestling them in for maximum pleasure. Now glide them back up, and repeat slowly, over and over. What if you were to add in a subtle wavelike motion?

“Blushing Cheeks”

Cup one palm onto each cheek, and rub slowly in circular motions until the skin warms to the touch. Try kneading and squeezing, too. Now form soft fists, and slowly twist them into the center of your lover’s cheeks.

“Crease Rider”

Nestle the pads of your thumbs into the smiling creases where the legs meet the butt. Apply firm pressure as you glide your lubed thumbs in small circles, slowly widening your circles and pressing deeper. Now run your thumbs slowly back and forth along the creases.

Surfboarding

Place the fleshy heels of your lubed palms above your lover’s cheeks, on either side of the spine. Apply firm pressure as you slowly glide down the cheeks all the way to the thighs. Use a scented massage oil candle for smooth stroking and heater excitement. Keep repeating the glide—resisting the impulse to go faster.

All Thumbs

Gently place both thumbs deep between your lover’s cheeks, on either side of the A-spot. Use soft pressure as you slowly glide your thumb pads up and out to the sides. Now repeat as you move your thumbs down slightly each time, until you reach the taint. Now start at the top again.

Now that you’ve got some booty massage techniques down and your lover is heated and primed, it’s time to dive into something a little deeper. If you want exciting new buttplay, check out my fully illustrated, award-winning book, Tickle My Tush: Mild-to-Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty. 

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Now that you have the ultimate booty massage techniques down, incorporate backdoor sex toys from TickleKitty.com for a more thrilling experience:

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When it comes to reaching climax, the sexes just aren’t hard-wired the same way. In fact, many women have trouble reaching orgasm, period, when having sex with a partner.

But what if women could master their below-the-belt domain and learn how to orgasm whenever they wanted to? Understanding how your body works, learning new sex techniques and knowing what’s available to support your pleasure is essential for satisfying sex.

Meet the Star of the Big O

You know it, you love it, your guy might have struggled to find it: yes, I’m talking about the clitoris!

The clitoris is the key to providing all the pleasure you deserve. It’s the hooded little nub located at the top of the vulva, just above the urethra and vaginal canal. It forms a wishbone-like structure with the glans visible above the surface and two internal crura, or legs. When aroused, the clitoris gets hard and erect just like a penis and is the epicenter of your orgasm.

Position Yourself for Climactic Sex-cess

One of best tried and true positions that she can come in is Cowgirl, or when a woman rides her partner. Cowgirl can offer the perfect landscape for clitoral friction by tilting her pelvis forward and gently flattening her blooming flower for full contact against him as she moves and gyrates. Think of it as her masturbating, by rubbing her clitoris against him. Tip: in this easy-access position, with the flip a thumb (or two!), her lover can easily take over the clitoral stroking reigns.

Indulge in Pleasure With Clitoral Vibes

Nearly 85% of women require some form of clitoral stimulation—whether it’s the right angled position, fingertips or tongue—to reach climax. And then of course there’s sheet-grabbing, eye-rolling, scrape-us-off-the-ceiling vibrators! There’s a wide range of amazing vibrators designed to use while making love. They’re small, powerful, and very effective. Here’s a few Dr. Sadie recommended picks made especially for the clitoris and that are easy to use during sex.

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