The trio of bondage & discipline, dominance & submission, and sadism & masochism may have a history of deviant depiction, but its rise to mainstream popularity in recent years has bred a lot of newfound curiosity. And though it stands on the basic pillars of communication and consent, BDSM can still seem pretty intimidating to anyone who’s new to the scene. However, it’s something many couples can benefit from.

Never fear, Tickle Kitty is here! Ready to help guide your grand entrance into the realm of kink and how to make it work wonders for you and your partner.

How To Bring It Up

It might seem fairly obvious, but ensuring you’re on the same page with your partner about what is and isn’t on the table is an important first step to approaching the kinky waters. Like many things in the world of sex, communication is everything—so of course the same goes for something as intimate as BDSM.

Commonly referred to as hard and soft limits, categorizing all the things you totally would try, might do, and definitely refuse is one of the first things you should do. You and your partner can make your own lists of each, then reconvene and see where mutual interest and compromise can be reached. Making a point to raise the subject outside of the bedroom and in a moment when you have ample time to talk about it are two other important factors to keep in mind when breaching sensitive subjects like these.

Beginner’s Tips & Tricks

First off, educate yourselves. One of the best parts about the Internet is the arsenal of knowledge available at your fingertips. When it comes to something as diverse and well-discussed as BDSM, the online insight is invaluable. Whether together or separately, you and your partner can easily listen to podcasts and read up on countless articles written by all sorts of extremely well-informed sex educators and practitioners. That way, you can also learn some proper techniques beforehand to help prevent accidental injury down the line.

Start out slow. Once you think it’s time to dive in, don’t feel the need to go zero to dungeon master on day one. For as personal as BDSM can (and should) be, establishing your system of communication is essential from the get-go. By this point you should have decided on a safe word and action, which tells your partner to stop what they’re doing immediately if things get too extreme; so prioritize getting comfortable with each other and your actions before ramping up the intensity.

Accessible tricks & toys. Instead of going straight for the electro rods and chastity cages, beginning with more “user friendly” toys is another great way to initially ease into things. Naturally it takes time to find your way, so first experimenting with items like a loosely tied scarf and incrementally sized toys can help avert you from feeling in over your head or intimated. And if sex toys are relatively new territory for you in the first place, even just restraining your lover’s hands while giving them oral, or receiving a sensual massage while blindfolded are great ways to begin your experimentation.

Value aftercare. Regardless of your experience level, aftercare is always a critical note on which to end, too. Dedicating the time to check in with each other after your hot and heavy sesh plays out helps ensure everyone feels good about what just happened and is tended to both physically and emotionally. BDSM can elicit some pretty intense responses, so “coming down” from the experience can be a serious bond strengthener itself.

And above all, never engage BDSM with anyone that you don’t fully trust. Period.

Tools Of The Trade

So once you’ve got your heads wrapped around the approach, a simple selection of toys can be a helpful stairstep into the world of kink.

Blindfolds. Sensation play is a mainstay itself, so a simple blindfold is a non-intimidating way to start getting your sexy sea legs. By covering up the sense of sight, all other senses will be heightened, so brushing a soft feather, silky scarf or plastic Wartenberg pinwheel across your partner’s anticipation-filled body is enough to shift their arousal into a whole new gear.

Impact Toys. Another stereotyped but true common facet of BDSM, spanking can help increase blood flow to certain parts of the body and enhance sensitivity as a result. Although the pros can make it look pretty intense, the fact you can control the level of impact makes it a great beginner technique. Start small with a paddle or crop to get a feel for how your partner likes it, and switch off between sultry spanks and gentle rubs of the same (now much more tender) erogenous zones.

Nipple Clamps. If you aren’t super used to masochism in the first place, a set of nipple clamps can help you learn how to find loads of pleasure in a touch of pain. Regardless of gender, they can also help stimulate multiple erogenous zones at a time with a unique, often adjustable amount of pressure. All while looking super sexy, too!

Restraints. Putting the “bond” in bondage, user-friendly handcuffs can add another level of sexiness when one person takes full control. But instead of the traditional metal lock and key, opting for velcro varieties that can be easily removed, or even bondage tape that only sticks to itself instead of the skin, can take a little pressure off of the first-time performance and allow you to explore with peace of mind.

If there’s one thing we know, it’s that Rihanna isn’t the only fan of chains and whips. As long you act upon them responsibly, kinks and fetishes are perfectly healthy and normal to have. They can expand our sexual horizons and help couples feel closer than ever before, so at the end of the day, never be too afraid of wading into the kinky waters.

Besides, you won’t know whether you like it until to try it.

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Have you ever asked (or been asked), “what’s your sign?” Astrology is a popular avenue to explore sexuality, shedding insight into core personality traits. Some believe that our behavioral modes are predestined, and explained by the stars. By using the power of astrology we can better understand the nuances of sexual expression, and further, learn the art of seducing any partner.

Aries

Aries LOVES sex, the more spontaneous the better. A sex toy to keep an Aries guessing is the versatile Le Wand, with a combination of 200 speeds and powerful patterns for on-demand pleasure. Or, surprise Aries by slipping on a sexy outfit and handing them a paddle to light their fire…they love to be dominant.

Taurus

Taureans can be stubborn, but they don’t mind being told what to do in bed. Some may call them lazy, but they are just comfortable laying in the lap of luxury. Seductively bind him in bondage tape while gliding a Tenga masturbation sleeve up and down the shaft and bring this bull to his knees.

Gemini

Gemini finds intelligence the most attractive feature in a partner. Mental stimulation will turn this sapiosexual on before the clothes come off. Spark communication with a couple’s game, or by cuddling up with an erotic book. When it comes to sex toys, the dual-ended nJoy Pure Wand has two sexy sides, just like the Gemini twins.

Cancer

A primary component of lovemaking for a Cancer is emotional stability and intimacy. To foster connection with a Cancer, enjoy extended foreplay together. Incorporate something that will bring you to climax in unison, like The Wave Couple’s Orgasm Ring.

Leo

This fiery lover enjoys nothing more than being worshipped. Get them in their element and spark up a massage candle for a pampering experience. Allow your Leo to lay back while stroking his penis (and ego) with the Head Honcho masturbator sleeve.

Virgo

A typical Virgo is very organized, even when it comes to sex. They also need to know that their lover genuinely enjoys being intimate together. A luxury sex toy kit containing a variety of pleasure essentials will please both partners, while appeasing Virgo’s attention to detail.

Libra

The Libra scales serve as a symbol for balance and harmony, which also represent the Libra personality. When it comes to sensuality, establish a relaxing environment with a sensual, full body massage using the famous Magic Wand to get them in a romantic headspace.

Scorpio

Scorpions will rock you like a hurricane, engaging in a passionate feast for the senses. With an insatiable desire to touch, taste and feel everything in sight, bust out the bondage cuffs. Or try an adventurous trio of butt plugs that lets you choose which size will maximize your pleasure. The sky’s the limit when it comes to fulfilling mutual fantasies with a Scorpio.

Sagittarius

The Sagittarius prioritizes physical intimacy. They want their partner to reach climax (and they expect the same in return). The Womanizer Deluxe is a sure-shot way to make you climax in no time, EVERY time. Since sex is all about closeness for a Sag, a vibrating cock ring will encourage both partners to come at the same time.

Capricorn

Sweet in the streets and a freak in the sheets! Capricorns possess a playful outlook on love and life, and they aren’t afraid to get down and dirty. They love to please and be pleased, so prostate play is usually A-OK! Treat your Capricorn to the supercharged orgasm they so rightfully deserve!

Aquarius

Traditional sex is usually out of the question, so prepare to get innovative. Aquarians appreciate creativity, so consider a unique sex toy. The versatile iBend is a customizable vibrator the bends in any direction to create a shape that best suites the user’s needs. It can be used internally or externally, for pinpointed pleasure.

Pisces

Romantic Pisces yearn for emotional connection. They don’t need bells and whistles; they just want to be loved, so plan for a night of passionate cuddles and kisses. Turn your environment into an island getaway for this fish, starting with a tropical candle and most importantly, waterproof toys!

Astrology may not reveal a magical secret to falling in love, but it can be a handy roadmap for new ways to rock your lover’s world!

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Now that Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, and Sadism & Masochism–otherwise known as BDSM–have hit peak popularity in mainstream media, strictly-vanilla couples are curious to see what all the fuss is about. Even Fifty Shades can make dipping into bondage and blindfolds seem a bit intimidating, but with a bit of patience and a gentle touch, anyone can safely and pleasurably take kinky sex for a spin.

If you’re a newbie to using toys and accessories to dominate and stimulate, it’s best to begin with some basic BDSM moves that enhance sensation. These 5 introductory BDSM suggestions are a sexy and easy way to add some flavor to your usual routine. Just remember the Golden Rule of kinky sex: always talk about what you plan to do and get your partner’s consent before you start the naughty action.

1. Sensory Deprivation

Teasing your partner with the gentle element of surprise is an enticing way to begin foreplay. Ask your partner to sit in a comfortable chair or lie down on the bed. Using a silky blindfold or soft piece of fabric like a neck tie, bandana, or light scarf, cover your partner’s eyes and gently secure the fabric behind their head. Removing the sense of sight heightens your other 4 senses, so everything you taste, touch, smell, or hear will send extra tingles down your spine. Imagine how lush a whip cream-covered strawberry will taste, or how much a tickling feather will turn on your blindfolded partner? For newcomers to sensory deprivation, introduce the blindfold without any wrist or ankle restraints. Kiss and gently touch your partner to ease them into the darkness, and ask them to vocalize what they feel with every stroke, tickle, and caress.

2. Spanking–With a Twist

Spanking is a BDSM staple with a common misconception. Leave the heavy leather floggers in the dungeon and start with the adorable, ribbon-adorned Heart Beat Crop. Getting spanked is more about increasing blood flow to certain areas of the body, which increases sensitivity to your partner’s touch. Try this little experiment if you find yourself associating spanking with pain. Choose a sexy accessory like the Tickle Time Feather, or grab a regular hair brush from your bathroom. Notice how it feels to run the feather or brush bristles over your palms. Now clap your hands a few times–not so hard that it hurts, but just hard enough that your palms start to turn red. Immediately brush the feather over one of your palms, or use the hair brush to gently scratch and press into your skin. Feels a lot more enticing after clapping, doesn’t it? The same concept works for your butt, thighs, arms, or anywhere else on your body that you want to gently increase sensation.

3. Silk-Tied Wrists

Now comes the B in BDSM–bondage, and it can be just as sensual and soft as the rest of your foreplay. Use a beginner’s cuff like the Comfort Handcuffs, or another soft fabric similar to your DIY blindfold, and bind your lover’s wrists in a comfortable position above their head, behind, or in front of their body. If you’re brand new to bondage, don’t tie your homemade cuffs too tight, and make sure your partner can wiggle their arms and wrists. As you gently move their arms into place, whisper sexy-sweet nothings in their ears about all the orgasmic pleasure they’ll receive once tied up. Trust us, they’ll let you know if and when they’re ready for you to get rougher.

4. Suction Sensations

Just like spanking, using gentle suction on erogenous areas like the nipples or clitoris pulls blood to the surface of the skin, resulting in extra sensitivity and even stronger orgasms. Use a pair of nipple suction toys, like the Nipple Play Suckers, or a vulva pump like the
Intimate Embrace Vibrating Vulva Pump a few minutes at a time. Remove the suction and give your lover’s puffed-up nipples or vulva a long, soft kiss or a warm lick. Then work your way up to 5 – 10 minutes of sucking pressure. The longer you leave them on, the more they’ll feel when you switch from the toy to your mouth. When you’re both ready for the next step, mix suction toys with a bit of light bondage, a blindfold, and killer oral sex.

5. Say It Sexy

Dirty words are the icing on the BDSM cake. A submissive’s pleas of “yes, mistress” are like music to a dominant’s ears, and obedient subs don’t dare make a move without a command from their Domme. If playing master and servant isn’t exactly your thing, you can still take a cue from kinky lifestylers and work dirty talk into your routine. As with all BDSM activities, have a thorough discussion with your partner before you scream “you’re my nasty little slut!” in the throes of passion. Find the words that turn you and your partner on the most by whispering them into each other’s ears before you take your clothes off. One person might enjoy hearing they’re gorgeous and great in bed, while someone else might get off on more aggressive talk and sexual demands.

The best part about BDSM–and sex overall–is that you have complete freedom to turn up the heat or slow things down to the intensity that works for you. Always take small steps and communicate with your partner as you both navigate from vanilla to kink. You never know when you’ll find your next favorite bedroom activity!

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Before there were sex toys, there were nothing but everyday items found around the house and Old MacDonald’s produce stand—plus lots of people with vivid imaginations. Today, these items still work their magic. The best thing about sex play with ordinary household objects is that you can really go creatively wild. Just make sure to keep in mind a few safety rules: make sure your object is clean before use, you’re clean, and you give everything involved a good scrub down afterwards.

Now are you ready to get started?

1. Niagara Falls

Dim the lights. Draw the bath. Light the candles. Pour the wine. Add bubbles. It’s your time away from the pressures of daily life. Set the water temperature and flow just the way you like it. Then lay beneath it and let it stream deliciously down on your clitoris. If you’ve got a suction cup dildo, attach it to the porcelain just under the faucet, and let it penetrate you as the water teases you. Your buoyancy in the water will help you glide it in and out. Use your hands and fingers to caress your beasts, clitoris and other body parts—or get a waterproof vibrating sponge. The vibes are inconspicuous, so the kids will never know!

2. Washday Fun

Do you see laundry day as chore day? If it came with a whopping orgasm, would that change your outlook? Make women have discovered the simplicity of spin-cycle pleasure by sitting on a corner of their washing machine – or dryer – while the machines do the rocking and rolling for you. Next to the wand in your bedside drawer, this may the best source of vibration around your house. Recommended for home use only—hidden cameras in laundromats could make you a star!

3. The Wonders of Indoor Plumbing

If you’ve got a hand-held shower head, adjust the water temperature and pressure to your liking, and direct the flow onto your clitoral area. It’ll be easier if you place one foot up on the side of the rub or onto a shower seat, but be sure to keep your balance! Start out with lower pressure and increase it as you become aroused. If your shower head has a massage feature, adjust the pulsations to your liking, too. Please be aware that highly pressurized streams of water into your vagina can cause irritation, so position yourself carefully. If you don’t feel like using the shower head or bath tap, there’s lots of other fun you can have to make your steamy me-time sexier! Who knows, you may love it so much, next time you’ll want to bring a friend.

4. Furniture Orgy

Here’s something you won’t see in any furniture catalog: armchair sex! Pick a soft chair or sofa with padded arms. Place a towel over one of the arms, then sit and carefully position yourself on the arm. Arch your back, spread your legs and let your vulva directly press against the arm. Roll your hips in small circles, or rub agains the arm in quick back and forth motions. Wiggle around ’til you find that perfect position. When your clitoris is rockin’ and you feel the blood flowin’, that’s Armchair Sex!

5. Tied up in Tights

These next two are for couples who want to get their kink on. 50 Shades of Grey may have familiarized you with using a neck tie to bind your lover in a pinch, but ladies can get in on the action too. A pair of tights or stockings can make tight, silky restraints. Grab a sexy (and cheap!) pair to tie wrists together or to bedposts. If you’re trying to keep the neighbors from waking up, you can use stockings as a handy gag as well. Make sure it’s not her favorite pair of stockings or tights, as enthusiastic loving might take its toll.

6. Serve Up A Spanking

Imagine: you’re in the kitchen with your honey. Your lover drops a fork. They bend over to pick it up, displaying their tantalizing tush. You just need to give it a good smack as a token of your appreciation, but your favorite crop is in the bedroom. Don’t worry, there are lots of objects all around you that make perfect impromptu paddles – let us especially recommend a plastic spatula. It’s light, flat and easy to grip. Make sure there’s a little oomph in your swing. Feels great over jeans, or on bare butts too!

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MacGyver-ing up a sex toy from around the house is fun, but who are we kidding? You can’t beat the real things. Take a look at some of Tickle Kitty’s favorite toys when you’re done seducing your shower head or riding the arm of your chair.

Mystic Wand Rechargeable
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LUVIT A Delicious Plaything
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Pinkies – Soft Neoprene Cuffs
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