From the most straight laced to kinkiest on the block, power plays just as big a role in each and everyone’s sexual dynamic. Of course there are different ways this exchange of power plays out in every relationship, but focusing on exactly how and why to incorporate power play into the bedroom can unleash a whole new dimension of sensual possibilities.

The Principles of Power

In its most basic form, a power dynamic often boils down to the concepts of dominance versus submission. The dominant party being more apt to initiate and call the shots; with the submissive more inclined to take their lead. Which role each partner assumes really depends on what gets them off, and the chosen role might not be as obvious as you’d think. At the end of the day, it’s all about mutual pleasure.

Certainly there are naturally assertive individuals who carry that trend into the bedroom, but other times people who lead more dominant daily lives enjoy handing over the reins to a partner for a euphoric end. The key to establishing these is open communication and honesty about personal desires.

So what’s the real appeal?

Like many things when it comes to sex, playing with power can be appealing to different people for different reasons. Those who dominate may find it pleasurable to take the lead in an intimate setting; while subs may feel liberated from worry by being in the hands of someone they deeply trust. Some may simply like the closeness they feel with their partner, no matter which end of the dom-sub spectrum they’re on.

But individual preferences aside, there’s a slew of benefits many couples collectively find in this erotic escape as well.

Adventure, Spice & Everything Oh So Nice

Depending on how “all out” you really go, power dynamics first and foremost are an exciting way to spice things up. It’s easy to fall into a rut of the same old song and dirty dance, so making subtle (or not so subtle) moves to establish each other’s roles can throw some tantalizing excitement into anyone’s habitual groove.

Something as simple as busting out a pair of handcuffs or bondage tape to restrain the sub’s hands above their head (or a bedpost) can be a great way to ease yourselves into the basics of power play 101. As the dom leads all the kissing, stroking, flogging and other alluring acts to follow, the sub can really let their mind go while knowing they’re both in for a riveting ride.

Playing with power is also a great excuse to venture outside of your comfort zone. We always hear praises of role play in and of itself, so dabbling with power by having one person “boss” the other through a series of seductively steamy acts is an additional way to embrace personas that may satisfyingly stray from your natural tendencies. Pro tip: add some exciting (and maybe surprising) dirty talk to the mix to really take things up a notch.

How To Approach It

So if power play has piqued your curiosity, but you just don’t know how to introduce it to your partner—fear not! It might be a lot simpler than you’d think.

Obviously, communication is key. Approach the subject outside of the bedroom first by expressing interest to your partner, then suggesting which acts you’d be interested in exploring. You two can even make your own individual lists of sexual acts that you either ‘would do,’ ‘might explore’ or are ‘out of the question.’ See where your lists align, then start with those acts. Once those boundaries are established, decide on a safe word that can be said if things get too intense for either one of you. Be sure to communicate throughout the entire experience by asking if your lover is enjoying what’s ensuing, and if any adjustments need to be made.

It goes without saying there’s no pleasure quite like being in sexual sync with a partner; so regardless of your intimate style, there are tons of benefits to be reaped from playing with power. Whether looking to take the full plunge or just get your feet a little wet here and there, it’s amazing the difference a sultry shift of control can make for chemistry between you and your lover. So strap in and buckle up—you never know what you may discover about a whole new side to sex.

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Orgasm denial can be an intensely cruel game, yet it can also be so excitingly erotic. It will take your orgasms to the next level—if you’re ever allowed to have one that is (I told you it was cruel).

You see, orgasm denial is the practice of being sexually stimulated, but then having the stimulation stop suddenly, and the orgasm denied. Oftentimes, you won’t be the one controlling this. Whether or not you orgasm will be in the hands of your dominant lover.

The Three Main Types of Orgasm Denial

Complete denial is the practice of sexually stimulating and playing with your partner, but never allowing them to orgasm. This can take place over the course of hours, days or even months.

Edging is very similar to orgasm denial, but the ‘denied’ person is actually allowed to orgasm at some point.

Ruined orgasm is when one is stimulated to the point of orgasm, but then stimulation stops mid-orgasm, making it ‘incomplete’ and physically less satisfying for the receiver.

The Benefits

Orgasm denial adds an erotic element of powerplay to your sexual explorations, especially in BDSM communities. By withholding an orgasm, the dom has complete power over the pleasure their partner will receive, and if they ever get to orgasm. The sub enjoys and gets off on the fact they have no control and are in the hands of their dom on what they will or will not receive. Hence, a power exchange.

It’s a great practice if you’re looking to enhance your orgasm control. Your pelvic floor muscles are what contract involuntarily during orgasm. So the more you edge at your orgasm’s tip, the more your pelvic floor muscles are being pumped and exercised. This also keeps your orgasm muscles active and healthy. With more orgasm control, you can learn to last longer, and even learn how to orgasm on command.

This technique is also a great character builder. It teaches you to be patient and gives you the ability to savor the pleasure you do receive. Because when—and if—you finally do orgasm, the explosive release is unparalleled.

Lastly, the practice of orgasm denial can lead to bigger, better and more frequent orgasms. By withholding orgasm for a prolonged time period, the built up sensations lead to an even more explosive release. Who wouldn’t want that? Maybe it’s time you give it a try?

Orgasm Denial Experimentation

The easiest way to experiment with orgasm denial is through masturbation. Set goals to edge yourself up to orgasm say 3-5 times when you’re starting out. So don’t let yourself come until you’ve almost reached orgasm, paused, then restarted. Vary that as you become more comfortable and want to play even more.

With a partner, enjoy mutual-masturbation with edging. Make it a fun game: see who can last the longest receiving pleasure before reaching that point of no return. Whoever orgasms first, loses!

The Best Toys For The Job

Womanizer Deluxe—Orgasm denial via clitoral stimulation is very popular. The Womanizer Deluxe’s unique air-suction technology is designed specially to please the clitoris. And with its super easy-to-use buttons, you can quickly and comfortably switch between the lowest and highest settings, making it the perfect edgeplay accessory.

Le Wand Premium Massager—For those who are into powerplay, this is the epitome of power when it comes to vibrators. Known as the Cadillac of Vibrators, Le Wand is the strongest you can get. If your sub loves a lot of power, then this vibrator that won’t disappoint.

Rocking G Rabbit—Explore edgeplay with triple-stimulation using the Rocking G rabbit vibe. It offers the nice feeling of fullness, with a “self-stroking” G-spot tip and individual vibrating clit tickler. Wow. Now you can control each vibrating pleasure independently and get creative with edging your partner. Switch between G-spot and clitoral action, turn them both on at the same time, or make a fun pattern!

Butterfly Remote Venus Penis—This remote-controlled device gives your partner all the power. Simply insert the wearable vibrator, and hand over the remote, then be a good sub and enjoy the pleasures to come.

Pocket Pulse Penis Vibe—This next-gen penis vibrator offers two unique oscillating motors, and wraps snuggly around his penis. Its unique design allows for hands-free pleasure too! The Pocket Pulse will oscillate on one of his hot spots, the frenulum, or glide it up and down his shaft, stroking him til he’s at the edge.

Satisfyer Air-Pressure Penis Pleaser—Better than a regular handjob, use this masturbator to stroke him until he’s close to climax. Then remove it to show him who’s really the boss.

There’s no denying that orgasm denial isn’t for everyone. It takes a lot of patience to endure such a humbling experience. But, as you learned above, there are many benefits, including more powerful— and better control over—orgasms. And hey, who doesn’t want better orgasms?

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Everyone has a fetish, whether they admit it or not. And though some are more ‘open’ in their explorations than others, the fact is there’s a place for everyone across the dynamic spectrum of kink.

In a nutshell, “fetish” is best defined as an object, body part or act that gets someone aroused—regardless if a partner is present and/or involved. About 549 of them exist, and research has found they’re a lot more common than some would believe.

So where exactly do fetishes even come from in the first place? While there may not be token proof, both science and history have a few theories.

Not Just For Dogs

Some scientists have believed for decades that fetishes can develop from the association of a stimulant or experience with arousal. This is called the Pavlovian theory. Since sex is one big connection between mind and body anyway, the idea that repeat exposure incites excitement that mentally sticks has long been both a popular and plausible school of thought.

Childhood Strikes Again

Another prevailing theory is the idea of early exposure. If someone has a sexual experience during or around puberty, many believe it’s more likely to stay with us as we grow older. Like anything else, we grow alongside our sexual behaviors, so memorable moments that occur as we first become aware of our own sexuality could very well have the potential to imprint your mind for years to come.

Nature’s Choice

And of course there’s also the fact it could just be to each their own! Since there’s such a wide range of sexual fantasy among us, it’s definitely possible fetishes could just be another layer of natural diversity. Everyone has their own unique taste and personality traits, so some could just be inherently more susceptible (and easily excitable) than others.

But overall theory is one thing—where do the most popular fetishes come from?

BDSM

Since the dawn of time, bondage has often topped the list of most popular sexual fantasies. So it’s not too hard to believe BDSM has had a place in the zeitgeist long before the likes of Christian Grey.

BDSM practices have been found in some of the oldest records on the planet. The Mesopotamians, Greeks, Romans, Japanese, Etruscans—you name it! Human civilization has been full of freaks since forever, so everything from power play and ritualistic flagellation, to being beaten and bound for pleasure have had their place in the history books for ages…just maybe not the ones we had growing up.

Foot Fetish

Whether it’s high heels or the foot itself, research has shown feet and toes take the cake for most lusted after body parts. But in reality, foot fetishes dates back to the early 1200s when people were afraid of catching the plague (i.e. STDs) from sexual acts. As a solution, they opted to start experimenting in the “safer” territory of foot worship, which society has taken and ran with ever since.

Voyeurism/Exhibitionism

Humans have also always been captivated by nudity and the sexuality of others, so the prevalence of orgies and sex parties throughout history should come as no surprise as well. In addition to its place in art and literature, displays of sexuality have played significant roles in cultures throughout the world since the days of Ancient Egypt, Greece and Rome.

From then on it’s spread like wildfire, carrying on in many forms like sex clubs, live shows and pop culture’s obsession with threesomes. And not to mention its most obvious incarnation since the invention of motion picture—porn! Need we really say more?

If there’s one thing many psychologists can agree on in the end, it’s that fetishes are a healthy, perfectly normal thing to have (as long as they’re carried out between consenting, adult partners). So whether you’re well versed or are still exploring, we all can at least relish in the fact there will never be a shortage of ways to keep things spicy.

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A lot can be said about the ills of pornography, and some of it might even be true. But, like with any controversial issue, there’s always another side to the coin. So while religious leaders and political figures pass their—oftentimes hypocritical—judgments on this particular industry, it’s time to remind everyone that it’s not all bad. In fact, there are actually some positive things that can be learned from porn. In no particular order, here’s our Get-Lucky Seven:

1. Female orgasms matter.

Unless you’re talking about fetish videos specifically about women as sexual slaves (not that I would know anything about these types of pornos), you’ll notice that the women in porn scenes nearly always climax before the man finishes. And that’s actually super admirable. Great job, porn.

2. Saliva is a decent lubricant.

Whether it’s an erotic video or photos, these porn scenarios usually begin with oral sex before leading directly to intercourse. It’s a natural progression, perhaps even dictated by human instinct. In addition to being an excellent form of foreplay to arouse both partners, it readies the participants to take things right to the next level. And if you use a water-based lubricant, a little saliva is a great way to bring your lube back to life when it dries up.

3. Foreplay first.

Sure, it usually begins with an absurd scenario, like a repairman coming to the house, and the girl answering the door scantily clad. I don’t know why they feel the need to create a story, but I suppose it’s sometimes appropriate to set a scene that will appeal to a particular kink. Regardless, the fun usually begins with a kiss, and that’s good! Then comes the undressing, kissing and touching elsewhere. Before too long, they’re both in a frenzy and the penis goes into the vagina. This is an appropriate lesson to be learned for the chronology of good sex.

4. Talking and being vocal makes sex better.

While couples often feel the need to be quiet because others (perhaps children) may be in an adjacent room, or just down the hall, a little dirty talk never hurt anyone, and you can whisper if you have to. Don’t be shy. It’s fun to involve all the senses during sex, so if you’re not communicating with one another, things can get boring fast. Things like moaning will let your partner know you’re into them, and that you’re in the moment. But if you really want to turn up the heat, go ahead and talk dirty to each other!

5. It’s all about the clitoris.

Yeah, chew on that for a second, ladies. I can’t imagine how awful a lover I must have been as fumbling teenager my very first time. I sure as heck didn’t know what a clitoris was, or its importance, but I quickly learned once I discovered porn. I’m sure most ladies will be thankful to be with a lover who can hit the ground running, rather than trying to explain to him the anatomy of the vulva. If he still needs an explanation, get him a copy of Dr. Sadie’s clitoris guide, The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris–Orgasmic Fingertip Touching Every Woman Craves for some helpful illustrations and technique tips.

6. What do men want?

This one’s for the ladies, of course. Given that a vast majority of porn is geared toward men, it can be a valuable insight for women wanting to learn what makes men tick sexually. While it’ll come as no surprise that we’ll never turn down a blowjob, there’s much more to be gleaned, like that role-playing can be a lot of fun, for instance, or that we wouldn’t mind watching you play with yourself. While the circumstances are usually laughable in porn, situations can be a big turn-on for guys. Remember, what you see in porn is what many of us are fantasizing about when we masturbate. We’re really not very complicated, so throwing the spice of fantasy into the mix will never hurt.

7. Learn what you’re into.

There’s probably stuff out there you’ve never dreamed of, and you might just like it! Exploring pornography can actually teach you a lot about yourself, and what your particular turn-ons are. Once you know what you like, you’ll be a better lover, as long as you’re able to communicate it. Everyone has one or two kinks that are arguably weird, but when you’re open about, you’ll find your partner will usually be happy to play along.

So what do you know? Maybe porn ain’t all that bad after all. I wouldn’t exactly call them instructional videos, but there are quite a few things you can learn from watching pornography. And you can totally use that defense if your girlfriend stumbles upon your browser history.

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Even though Henry Kissinger was not referencing BDSM when he stated, “power is the ultimate aphrodisiac”, he was onto something. The exchange of power is a primary pillar of BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission) and truth be told, experiencing a rush of power as the Dominant or submissive partner can be intoxicating. A misconception about BDSM or kinky sex is that pain is required. This is not true; erotic power exchange simply involves one partner handing over control to the other in a meaningful way.

A classic component of bondage is impact play. This includes spanking, flogging, and even caning. Playful spanking (and other elements of BDSM) can be a gateway to a stronger bond with your lover, and incorporating a sexual fantasy into your repertoire has its rewards:

• It turns your partner on. Is there anything hotter than taking your partner’s sexual excitement into overdrive?
• The communication, trust, and care required is a vehicle to deeper emotional connection and intimacy with your lover.

Here are some basic steps to get your feet wet.

Before

Communication before, during and after any sort of power exchange or BDSM role playing is crucial. This includes establishing a safe word initially to use when either partner wants to immediately stop activity. This can be as lighthearted as the word ‘banana’ or ‘pussycat’. It is okay to change your mind at any given moment if you have reached your personal comfort threshold.

If you are in the research phase for spanking instruments, reach for something already in your home, such as a paddle hairbrush, or a wooden spoon. Note that any tool with a smaller surface area, like a crop, will create a very sharp sensation. For beginners, choosing a tool that makes a ‘thuddy’ sound as opposed to a snap, crackle, or pop will be less painful. Think a wide, fur-lined paddle, or a flogger with thick, soft straps.

During

• Position: For beginners, the traditional over-the-knee (OTK) is a classic position. However, instructing the submissive to lean against an object like a chair is just as reliable as long as the object remains sturdy.
• Placement: Keep impact confined to the peek of the butt and below. Anywhere above could put the kidneys and tailbone in jeopardy. The fleshiest part of the butt should be the bullseye. The ‘sweet spot’ is where the upper thigh meets the butt. By focusing on medium-to intense impact here, the sweet spot is close enough to the genitalia to send pleasurable aftershocks to the testicles or the vulva.
• Pace: Rapid, repeat strikes can be jarring. As the Dominant, take your time and distribute calculated strokes that allow for breathing room and suspense! The element of surprise goes hand-in-hand with spank-induced euphoria.

Aftercare

Whether you spank for pain, pleasure, or both, it will result in a rush of adrenaline and release of endorphins. Effective aftercare can range from:

• A verbal re-cap to discuss what was good, or what you may want to change next time
• Eating chocolate to replenish oxytocin
• Kisses, light strokes or a massage to promote relaxation
• Applying lotion or chilled aloe vera for cooling relief (unless you enjoy the pain and prefer to bask in the sting)

Pro tip: Always keep an open mind, and don’t knock it ‘til you spank it!

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Fantasizing over feet, better known as “podophilia,” is one of the best known fetishes in the kink world. A fetish is, by definition, a very specific kind of sexual desire for an act, fantasy, object, or, in the case of foot fetish, a body part.

You don’t have to be a true fetishist to bring foot play into the bedroom. Our ankles, toes, and soles are packed with sensitive nerve endings, and taking a cue from feet lovers can be a fun way to explore your partner’s body in a whole new way. However you choose to play bedroom footsie, check out these mild to wild foot fetishes that put a new spin on the term “fancy footwork!”

1. Toe Job

Some fetishists can’t get enough of literally putting a foot in their mouth! Called “shrimping” in the fetish community, toe sucking is exactly what it sounds like: giving someone’s toes a bit of oral action. However, giving your lover’s toes a little tongue action isn’t just for foot devotees. The feet are super sensitive and react to all sorts of delightful sensations. Picture how it feels to be tickled between your toes, or to scratch an itch on your ankle. A warm mouth, soft tongue, and gentle sucking feel just as intense and ignite sexual desire in a way you’ve never experienced before. Teasing with a vibrating wand or bullet can have the same exciting effect. Give your feet a good scrub in the tub, or better yet, make an excuse to get a fresh pedicure. Then ask your partner to please and tease those toes with their lips, tongue, or toys as you ease into foreplay. You might just find your newest fetish!

2. The Dirtier, The Better

For most of us, a stinky pair of feet can make for a good laugh, or they can send your partner running in desperation for a breath of fresh air. For some foot fetishists, smelly, dirty soles are the ultimate turn-on! Believe it or not, some podophilia practitioners prefer their partner’s feet after a long day at work. Although the taste of foot sweat can be enticing as well, the smell is what most excites fetishists with “ofactophilia,” or sexual arousal emanating from body odors like armpit sweat and unwashed feet. If you’ve yet to feel a tingle from smelling your partner’s dirty feet, it’s unlikely that this fetish will grow on you overnight. But the next time you’re feeling aroused, skip the shower and enjoy each other’s natural scents as you go at it like a pair of wild animals.

3. Please Tread on Me

These boots are made for walking….right onto a willing participant’s chest, crotch, and face! For those that love feet and domination, being turned into a human carpet is a dream come true. Foot domination involves being stepped on in silky stockings, barefoot, or even in spike-thin heels. Feet are just one part of the equation in this BDSM fetish. Some enjoy the pain of a pair of stilettos being dragged across their chest or a barefooted jump onto their genitals. Others get off on submitting to the will of a powerful dominant. Either way, foot domination is usually enjoyed by men who love putting their tender bodies into the hands of a sadistic domina (all with properly negotiated consent, of course). Average less-kinky couples might not want to turn their partners into a human trampoline, but you can still get your kink on with a fun power exchange. Ask your partner to lie down and gently toy with their face and body with your feet. Lightly apply more pressure when they’re ready, and explore all their sensitive parts with your toes and soles.

4. Teasing Tickles

We bet you’ve never thought of tickling as a sexy exchange of power, but tickling fetish is one of the most popular ways you can explore BDSM without the ouch factor. The submissive partner usually finds themselves restrained in rope or cuffs while the dominant uses fingers, feathers, and even toothbrushes to tickle-torture their feet. It’s the most fun you can have as a submissive, as you’ll be laughing uncontrollably with every new tickle tactic. If you’re among the crowd that absolutely hates being tickled, this fetish obviously isn’t for you. However, if you’re up for a little laughter in the bedroom, tickle fetish is a no-brainer for beginners, and can be practiced with or without restraints. For the BDSM-inclined, tie up your partner so you have ample access to their feet. Have an arsenal of tickling accessories on hand, like feathers, soft floggers, or brushes. Gently stroke your partner’s soles, toes, and ankles with each unique surface until they beg for more—or beg you to stop between bouts of belly laughs!

Foot fetishes are a fun way to spice up your sex life and add play, laughter, and exploration to your relationship. Whether you’re devoted to feet or just looking to surprise your partner with a new bedroom activity, our soles and toes can open the door to a unique way to experience sensual touch.

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Since Fifty Shades hit almost a decade ago, fetishes and kinky sex are experiencing a trendy revival. Humans have always been kinksters, but now that kink has gone mainstream, more people are feeling comfortable with sharing their deepest turn-ons.

By definition, a fetish is a very specific desire for an object, a body part, or a sexual act. If you ask your partner to cuff you to the bed and strap a blindfold over your eyes, then you’re dabbling in kink. However, if you salivate at the mere thought of the smooth, shiny surface of the cuffs and the coolness of the metal digging into your skin, then you probably have a handcuff fetish.

All kinks and fetishes, no matter how seemingly unusual, are perfectly healthy as long as they’re practiced between trusting, consenting adults. However, even the most open-minded couples can stumble upon a surprising fetish desire from a partner. Happy relationships stay happy through constructive conversation, and navigating fetishes is no different. Stay positive, informed, and willing to listen, and your partnership can grow through the connecting experience of kink.

Discuss Your Sexual Needs Early

If you’re embarking on a new relationship, make sure you both get your fetishes out in the open as early as possible. It might seem a bit like jumping the gun, especially if you haven’t slept together yet, but this is especially important if you’re serious about your fetish. Waiting until you’re head-over-heels to spill the fetish beans just makes things more difficult down the line. For example, if you can’t live without spanking, but your partner is extremely sensitive to pain, it could get uncomfortable if the two of you figure this out in the middle of a romp session. Communicate your kinks early to avoid any serious mismatches in sexual tastes that can’t be fixed through compromise later on. (And just think – you might find that you both dig a lot of the same things!)

Educate Yourself

If you’re unsure of how a fetish will work out in practice, read up! Make sure to canvas as many online resources as possible: medical articles, advice from kink-focused sex educators, amateur experiences, and accounts from serious fetish lifestylers. Like everything you read online, take it all with a grain of salt and double-check your facts. Some rather extreme practices are only easy for a chosen few, and others might be willing to dismiss and bash anything beyond the missionary position. Fetish “lifestylers,” a term often used to describe those in the active kink community, are generally very friendly and open to answering questions from curious newcomers. Check out online fetish communities of like-minded souls and seek out knowledgable, respected members. Be open and willing to be educated, and many experienced fetishists are happy to help.

Start Slow and Speak Often

No matter how soft or hard your fetish, always introduce new kinky activities slowly, and preferably without a mouth gag until you’re solid on other types of communication. You might have heard of a “safe word,” which is a single word discussed prior to play time that unmistakably communicates “stop activity immediately!” It’s also helpful to come up with a “safe action” if your activity involves inhibited speech through a ball gag or other material covering the mouth. For example, if you’re gagged and you need a break, you could agree that tapping three times with a hand or foot is the signal to stop. However you choose to communicate, both partners should do it often, especially when testing out new fetishes. The more you engage in fetish play or roleplaying while explaining how it feels, the better your partner will understand how to make the fetish enjoyable for both of you.

Communicate and Compromise

Though it’s rare between committed, loving partners, some couples might hit a wall when trying to find a comfortable middle ground for their sexual needs. Try as you might, your partner’s fetish could be too painful and rough, physically or mentally, to endure. Indulging a partner’s foot fetish, even if it’s a turn-off, is a lot easier than, say, more extreme fetishes like fisting or strap-on play. Engaging in certain acts just isn’t going to work for certain people. However, what you don’t want to do is close the conversation completely. Fetishes don’t disappear out of love, and forcing your partner to give up their fetish isn’t fair. If you’re polyamorous or in an open relationship, encourage your partner to see others who enjoy the stuff you’d rather skip in bed. For monogamous couples, explore every possible avenue of compromise. Fisting might be too much, but four fingers below the knuckles could be your meeting-in-the-middle. And don’t dismiss the power of porn. What you cannot do, you can always watch, and then everyone wins.

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