I sat back and listened to my friends having a lively argument. They were heatedly discussing one of the most contentious points in human history. Not religion or politics, not if the chicken or egg came first, but the equally as fascinating topic of female ejaculation.

Otherwise known as squirting, gushing, niagara falls, or my favorite, splash mountain.

There is so much mystery surrounding this delightful activity. Is it, or isn’t it pee? Where does it come from?

Is it “normal?” Can you learn how to do it? It’s time to settle this debate once and for all.

What the squirt?!

The technical definition of female ejaculation is an expulsion of fluid from or near the vagina during or before an orgasm. Pretty vague, right? The truth is that squirting is as different for each woman as orgasms are, we don’t all have the same kind! Heck, I don’t even always have the same types of orgasms in a day.

Unfortunately there have been no conclusive studies on female ejaculation, as there has been a lack of cohesive definitions and research methodology, as well as terminology. Most of the research done has been to examine the nature of the fluid, and determining whether or not it contains urine, but even that research has been inconclusive.

Some think that the fluid is secreted by the paraurethral ducts, which are through and around the urethra. Other’s feel it related to the Skene’s gland, but drawing a conclusion is proving to be as contentious to science as the location and use of the g-spot has been.

If you find this as frustrating as I do, consider this; pleasure is pleasure. It doesn’t really matter what the chemical compounds are of the fluid that’s spurting out of your pussy, as long as you’re having a good time doing it!

Whether it is in fact urine, or it’s the mysterious and wonderful elixir of life that continues to baffle science, having a good time is all that really matters. Since these fancy scientists can’t figure it all out, why don’t we roll up our sleeves and enjoy some hands-on research? I thought so. For those of us who have never experienced this seeming unicorn of a sexual experience, can squirting be learned? Of course the scientific jury is out on that too, but I sure had fun finding out.

Pre-squirt out.

First things first—it’s best to go to the bathroom and empty your bladder beforehand. Peeing before and after sex is great for men and women alike anyways. It promotes healthy urethras and decreases the chances of UTIs. Whether or not the squirted fluid is urine doesn’t really matter, but if it’s a concern for you, this practice may also help ease your mind.

Laying down a towel or waterproof blanket such as the Liberator Fascinator Throw Moisture-Resistant Sex Blanket is a great next step, as it makes clean up so much easier!

Being in touch with your pelvic floor muscles may increase your chances of celebrating with a gush, so spending some time connecting with your vaginal canal through Kegels can be a wonderful idea. To really get your pelvic floor into shape, the Apex by Pour Moi essentially does your Kegels for you.

This will hopefully start bringing you into your body, and relaxing your mind. I would suggest trying this out by yourself before experimenting with a partner. It’s lovely to be able to really relax and have as little self consciousness as possible. In addition, being in touch with your own body first can also help you communicate your sexual likes and dislikes to your partner.

Ready, set, squirt!

It’s time to get your groove on, and enjoy whatever gets your motor running. Try watching some porn that you like, light some candles to romance yourself, and break out your favorite toys. In order to build up the ejaculatory fluids, you need to be really aroused, so take your time luxuriating in your pleasure, you deserve it.

Now it’s time to locate the sometimes elusive g-spot. With your palm facing towards your vulva, insert a finger or two into your vagina, and try using a ‘come hither’ motion. You should feel a slightly spongy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina, when your finger is around the second knuckle of your opening. Every vagina is different, so don’t get discouraged if you can’t find it right away. The more aroused you are, the more engorged the g-spot becomes, so if you can’t locate it, try knocking out a clitoral orgasm first and spend some more time getting fired up.

Once you’ve got your finger on the button, give that g-spot some love! Explore what feels good. Curved g-spot stimulating toys like the We-Vibe Rave or the NJoy Pure Wand can be a lot of fun—and super helpful.

Firm, circular movements usually work best, but you can also try shorter ones, as if you were scratching an itch (gently). Every few minutes, try bearing down a little, squeezing your pelvic floor as if you were trying to pee. Spending about thirty minutes to an hour doing this is a good starting point, and if anything in particular is feeling really good, do more of that!

Allow yourself to really relax and enjoy this practice. It’s not a race and there is no pressure. In fact, putting pressure on yourself to squirt is often a barrier to actually squirting, so if you notice yourself getting frustrated and blocked, just switch to your most reliable method of orgasm and bring it home. There’s always next time to try again.

More squirt to go around.

Regardless of if you were successful at ejaculating solo, you can try this out with a partner whenever you feel ready. Follow the same steps, including laying down some towels for peace of mind. Make sure to communicate clearly with your partner as they explore your vulva and vagina with their fingers or a toy. This is such a fun way to discover what feels good, and help your sexual partner learn more about your anatomy.

When experimenting with a partner, try out different positions and see if any are more enjoyable than others. They can sit next to you while you lay on a bed, you could sit in their lap on the couch, or even lay next to each other on a big desk or dining room table – the possibilities are endless. Enjoy playing together for as long as you want, and see if you can create your own niagara falls at home!

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Regardless of whether you actually end up at the gushing destination or not, hopefully the journey was pretty enjoyable, and perhaps you even learned a little bit more about yourself along the way.

By Isabella Frappier, originally published on Sex With Emily @sexwithemily

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If you play with nipples just so, you can signal all the same marvelous parts of the brain as the genitals do when they’re aroused. You can even trigger orgasms (for some lucky women). Nipples contain more than 800 sensitive nerve endings, and nippleplay can release the happy hormone, oxytocin, making these headlights a go-to erogenous zone for incredible sensual pleasure.

But how to play?

Some like licking, but can’t stand biting or sucking. Others like rougher play, like clamps, flicking or flogging. Some deem nipples a straight-up no touch zone—and that’s OK. Open communication and experimentation is key.

If you enjoy having your nipples played with, and find the possibility of nipplegasm intriguing, below I’ve included some wonderful pleasure techniques to request from your lover. I’m sure they’ll be happy to oblige:

Use breath. Get close and breathe hot breath across the nipples. Add a sloppy lick of saliva for the wetness then blow on them, which’ll then feel cool and breezy.

Light, gentle fingertip touches. With a feather or light touch, and some saliva, glide up and over nipples, then circle around the areola.

Focus on one nipple at a time. Incorporate a massage on one breast while stimulating the nipple with the other hand. The longer you focus on one nipple at a time, the more likely the elusive nipplegasm will be achieved.

Kiss, lick, and suck with your mouth. Make out with the nipples like you’re giving a french kiss. Wiggle your tongue quickly back and forth. Lap it like dog kisses. Suck each nipple alternatively while massaging the other with your hand and watch your lover become overwhelmed with pleasure.

Slowly drip or drizzle hot candle wax on nipples. Pouring warm wax on the nipples sends waves of intense pleasure straight to your southern region, as the nerves in your nipples are connected to your other erogenous zones. This is why some women can even be triggered to orgasm when breastfeeding.

And here’s some other quick tricks sure to surprise n’ please your lover:

• Flick the nipples for a hurt-so-good rush, or slap them with a flogger
• Tap slowly and quickly, or use a vibrator to achieve the same effect
• Gently squeeze nipples in mini pulses
• Roll the nipple back and forth gently between the fingers
• Gently tug and release, then try a squeeze, twist and release

Things to add that can help achieve nipplegasm:

• Add tasty treats to the mix like syrup, whipped cream, honey, and melted chocolate. Or use a fun lickable nipple product like Nip Zip Ice Balm – Strawberry Mint.
• Nipple toys like the T-Cups Nipple Suction Duo or the NipplePlay Vibrating Suckers offer added sensations to send your lover over the edge.
• Nipple jewelry like the non-piercing Chandelier or “Squeeze Please” Nipple Jewels add fun and playfulness, as well as provide some breathtaking eye-candy during playtime.
• Flavored lube can be the right scent to get her feeling saucy. My own glycerine and paraben-free, water-based formula, Slippery Kitty – Strawberry is popular for women who have an erotic affinity to the strawberry scent.
• The Tickle-Time Feather is a light, lovely joy to have brushed across your breasts—and your entire body!

There are many fun and exciting ways to explore nippleplay. Toys, candle wax, lubricant, and a willing partner are great to have, but all you really need is an open mind and some nipples. From there, just go at your own pace to blissfully navigate what’s right for you and those two magical erogenous zones that drive everyone wild.

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It’s often said that a woman can decide who they’ll fall in love with based on the magic they feel from the first kiss—no pressure, fellas! In fact, many women believe kissing is more intimate than intercourse. Time to listen closely, because I’m about to teach those lips of yours some new tricks.

First, you can’t go wrong with tried-and-true techniques like wet, gentle pecks, sucking and biting her lips, sensual tongue swipes and neck suckles. These are scrumptious ways to create a mutually awesome kissing experience that can easily get juices-a-flowing. But to take her kissing experience to new heights, I recommend incorporating the elements of surprise, mental titillation and touch.

I call this trick “The Tongue Lover” and I have a good feeling it’s going to do more than make her mouth water:

After a good amount of warm up kissing when everything’s hot and steamy, and you’re both ready to head to the next level, place your hand tenderly on her cheek and swiftly suck her entire bottom lip into your mouth—use your suction to hold it there.

With her bottom lip snug inside your mouth, use the tip of your tongue to tickle, swirl and lick her bottom lip. Lick in circles and figure eights, go real slow, then speed it up. Spend a good 10 seconds tongue-teasing this area of her mouth.

While you’re teasing away, let your other hand travel south and ever-so-gently cup her entire vulva in the palm of your hand, and lightly knead and squeeze it, teasing her silly as you lick her lip inside your mouth. Observe her uncontrollable reaction to your simultaneous kiss and touch. You should feel her breathing getting stronger about now.

Next, slowly release her lip from your mouth and immediately look into her eyes and whisper in her ear, “That’s how I’m going to pleasure your clitoris next.” Then pull away while still gazing into her eyes and stay locked. Enjoy her blushing with excitement.

That, my eager pleasers, is The Tongue Lover. And whether you’re looking to make a whopping first impression or to spice things up with your lover, it’s definitely something to make her lips smack with joy. Just don’t be surprised if her mouth wants to kiss you somewhere other than your lips afterwards.

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If you’re reading this, bless you for giving oral sex the respect it deserves. Sadly, some people are unwilling to take the time and effort to properly to reciprocate oral sex with their partners, though they are enthusiastic to be on the receiving end. Enter the orgasm gap: the statistical fact that in heterosexual encounters, men orgasm more than women. Statistics show over 80% of women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, which is why oral sex can be critical. Aside from your cunnilingus capabilities, developing a compassionate mentality is a way to tip the orgasm equality scales. Here is a breakdown on becoming the best (oral sex) partner you can be.

Act (and ask) selflessly.

It’s no secret that communication is a challenge for lovers during intimacy, whether we are worried about hurting someone’s feelings, sounding pushy, or killing the mood. Cultural conditioning leads us to believe that staying quiet is easier than speaking up, or learning each other’s love languages. However, there’s a simple solution to remove the guesswork while taking pressure off your partner. Just ask! Let her know how much you love making her feel good, and you want to know what she loves best. Instead of asking “How does this feel?”, be more specific. Tell her you will perform a series of techniques that she will assign with a number. Example: 1 for “Meh” and 5 for “Eff yes!”. This game is an opportunity to demonstrate that you’re not just going through the motions, rushing to get your piece of the action. It will equip you with the knowledge of what works, while empowering her to communicate what she wants. (Why this concept isn’t the Golden Rule of Pleasure, I’ll never know!)

About those tips and techniques…

To start, never overlook the importance of a comfortable environment. Believe it or not, the lights off can make or break our ability to orgasm. Ask if she prefers the lights on or off before getting down to business. Next, grab a pillow or two and slide it underneath her pelvis, to give you a better angle while easing pressure on her back.

As far as oral sex techniques, slow, repeated ice cream licks on the vulva and the U-spot (the opening to the urethra, just above the vaginal opening, above the lips) are a crowd pleaser. Once you get into a rhythm, practice writing the letters of the alphabet with your tongue…in cursive if you’re fancy! Don’t be afraid to get up close and personal, either. By that I mean—use your face. All of it. Big noses are a plus. If you’re nimble, ask if she’d like internal or external finger or sex toy stimulation. For women who like simultaneous stimulation, there is nothing like the gift of a blended orgasm (G-spot and clitoris at the same time). Truth be told, what it really comes down to is dedication, and attention to detail. If all else fails, stop and ask for directions!

Don’t stop, get it, get it!

If your partner is expressing verbal or physical signs of sexual bliss, keep the same motion flowing. It may be an innocent knee-jerk reaction to abruptly switch up the tongue techniques when your partner approaches the edge. Their pleasure is peaking, and one might interpret that as needing to up the level of intensity all around. I have been guilty of this in the past. When their orgasm approached, a voice in my head would whisper, “Lights! Camera! Jazz Hands!”, at which time my hands and mouth would operate frantically with no rhyme or reason. (Just…why?) I ended up learning this later, unfortunately, as each partner was too coy to tell me otherwise. Repeat strokes aren’t boring; they are the stairway to orgasm heaven. If you are experiencing symptoms of lockjaw or carpal tunnel and your partner is enjoying that technique, just stay…right…there.

The female orgasm is a bi-product of something bigger than fancy techniques and vibrators combined. It is the result of mental clarity; thoughts free of sexual expectations and daily stress. There is a ways to go before equal pay in the workforce, but in the meantime, orgasm equality is attainable. One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind. One blog at a time.

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What if I told you that the holy grail of orgasms has nothing to do with an intricate sex position, a magic pill, or even a partner? This ‘secret’ is a technique called edging, otherwise known as orgasm control. Anyone of any experience level can incorporate edging into their arsenal of bedroom tricks. Additionally, you may hear it being referred to as ‘surfing’ or ‘peaking’. This pleasure practice focuses on delaying climax one or more times during intercourse or masturbation, stoking a slow, intentional fire that will result in an orgasmic explosion like no other.

Think of the amplified feeling of gratification that happens the moment you finally achieve a sneeze, after losing it several times beforehand. The first climax after partaking in edging is much like that coveted sneeze, if you can imagine it being relocated to an erogenous zone. Just like a delayed sneeze, the more times you ‘lose’, or delay your orgasm, the more powerful it becomes.

Bringing yourself to the brink of climax is not for everyone; the 60 second orgasm may be your cup of tea, and that is a wonderful thing! Overall, the purpose is to tantalize, not to torment. Successful edging, which requires equal parts patience and self-control, serves a valuable purpose when it comes to harnessing sexual energy.

Benefits:

• Deeper, more intuitive understanding of your and/or your lover’s body, knowing when that moment of ecstacy will happen, and how to control it
• A great introduction to BDSM. Edging is a common form of power exchange, as an exhibition of power and control on behalf of the Dominant partner. Imposing restraint is a staple for maintaining control over your partner
• Results in increased stamina for both men and women
• Excellent natural option for male ejaculation control

Challenges:

• Inadvertently going over the edge while skirting the line of sweet release during solo play
• Learning to know your partner’s physical signs and cues, including breathing, body movements, and physical reactions
• Throwing in the towel because orgasms are, um, awesome. Why wait?

Tips & techniques:

• Master it by yourself first. Practice makes perfect! Work your way up to 20-25 minutes at a time
• Alternate sex toys, finger fun, and sensory play. On a male partner, a masturbation sleeve is a great toy to bring into the mix
• Press pause: Get your juices flowing and ramp up arousal with yourself or your partner.  Identify the moment that you are close to climax, and STOP for a few seconds. Go back to the beginning with less pinpointed pressure, targeting everything but the bullseye (Looking at you, clitoris!) Rinse and repeat at least one more time; enjoy!
• Distraction: If you are experimenting solo, alternate your favorite toy with your fingers when you feel yourself about to burst
• Get creative! You are not limited to just foreplay here. The fun part about edging is that it can be a grab bag of whatever stimulation you prefer—whether you incorporate penetration or not

If you are new to edging, don’t get discouraged! It may take a few weeks or a couple months until you’ve perfected your technique. Like anything worth waiting for, patience is a virtue, young grasshopper.

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