With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we all know the epic debate that never ceases to spark. This year, my boyfriend and I made a pre-game pact to start spreading special love leading up to the 14th’s debut. And in our case, that was hardly a chore when our ‘Play With Me’ Valentine Kit has been sitting pretty since its arrival. Although it was hard to pick just one thing from the kit at a tantalizing time, tonight we knew the super sleek set of arousal gels were calling our name.

‘His & Hers’ in every sense of the phrase, ON’s Clitoral Arousal Gel for me and ON’s Arousal Gel for Men looked like a match-made in heaven. But slowing our rolls for just a hot second, we decided to get cooking dinner out of the way before jumping into our even more carnal dessert.

As the temperatures rose and aromas began to waft…who were we kidding? It was way too tempting to put off! Already the suggestive back caresses were in full swing, when mid-chiffonade of the basil he began tracing his hand up my skirt. At that point all bets were off and we burst into a powerful make out sesh that brought us away from the cozy kitchen and straight onto the plushy couch.

Exchanging nibbles to the lips and ears, I grabbed ahold of his hair as his warm palms glided from my ass to waist, up around the ribs to both of my breasts. The kisses grew hotter and fondling stronger as we swore with each minute the heat of our bodies grew more intense—which is when we knew it was time to crank things up a notch.

By that point we were already half-way stripped down, so we reached for the gels to elevate our already steamy pre-foreplay. He took the lead and slid down my lacey leopard thong to mist my clitoris with a few slippery spritzes of the arousal gel; and not but ten seconds later, the sensations hit like a titillating tidal wave. The natural excitement, the warmth that enveloped my labia, this gel I could feel was drawing all the blood to where it mattered most. I wanted my boyfriend more than ever, and once he started massaging my tingling clit, I knew I couldn’t keep him from joining this heightened pleasure party for much longer.

As I laid on my back and he continued to swirl his fingers around inside me, I snatched up his arousal gel from the coffee table and squeezed a few drops onto my own fingertips. We made eye contact and he saw that I wanted to give him the same seductive joy, so I grabbed his already hardening dick to slather on the cool (and very concentrated) gel drops.

Just like my experience, I could tell in his subtle jaw drop that the effect was nearly instantaneous. I continued softly stroking his penis, which felt like it was getting harder and so much thicker. When he was able to pry open his eyes in between similar rushes of ecstasy-filled sensation, he couldn’t get over the elevation of feeling as well. It was one of the most solid, multi-dimensional erections he had ever experienced—which we both knew was ready for a lot more than just a hand job.

As the increased arousal continued, I pivoted myself around and assumed one of our favorites: 69. With so much feeling building up in our precious parts, we thought it’d be the perfect pairing with such passion-inducing elixirs as these. And boy, were we right!

The second he slid his tongue inside, my world was officially rocked. It was electrifying and totally satisfying in every sense of the two words combined. It already took a lot to edge myself away from orgasming just seconds in, because without a doubt, I didn’t want this pleasure train to end any time soon. At the opposite end, he was just as enthralled. Once my soft, wet lips simultaneously began sliding up and down his still incredibly hard dick, it was taking him through a whole new world of oral-fueled delight.

Of course this position always feel amazing, but combined with the power of the arousal gels, it magnified absolutely everything to planes of pleasure neither one of us had ever experienced. After a few minutes passed, we both were overwhelmed with sensitivity. Finishing a few minutes apart from each other, we got to watch the rousing rush come over one another’s face and lay there in the residual buzz that each of our semi-throbbing bottom halves were still experiencing.

So regardless of how you like to play, we can pretty well guarantee a few dabs of his & hers arousal gel can be just the thing to get your Valentine’s Day party started. Whether busting it out when getting down to business with a partner, or simply your own bad self, there’s no way you’ll regret the punch these little potions of pleasure can deliver.

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Does it seem like she isn’t as interested in having sex with you as she used to be? Relax. It’s probably not that she doesn’t want to have sex with you; it might just be that she doesn’t want to have sex at all.

Assuming that you haven’t done something to upset her, or you’re just not any good in bed, or there’s someone else—causing her to refuse sex with you—there are quite a few reasons why women may not be in the mood, and they might not want to talk about it. Luckily, you’ve got us to spell it out for you. So instead of taking it personally, take a moment to put yourself in her shoes, and explore these ten reasons why she may not want to have sex:

1. Stress and fatigue. If she’s under a lot of pressure at work or struggling with finances or any number of tiresome things, that can be a real cock-blocker. Depression and anxiety can have this effect, too. She could probably use a massage.

2. She feels unattractive. Maybe she put on a few pounds over the holidays. Or, perhaps she’s just feeling bloated. Remember that women typically feel the pressure of living up to the images of perfection in the media, and that’s an entirely unreasonable standard. It may be something as simple as she needs to do laundry, and is wearing granny panties that day. Maybe she hasn’t shaved her legs. Just make sure she knows you think she’s the most beautiful woman in the world—and not just because you want to get laid.

3. Hygiene. She could have overslept and had to skip bathing that day. When you start putting the moves on her later, she’ll be likely to turn you down because she feels gross. Or, maybe you’re the one who needs a shower. Don’t be that guy.

4. A visit from Aunt Flow. It happens every month. Get used to her menstrual cycle. For some couples, having sex while she’s on her period isn’t an issue. But let’s face it—you should certainly be able to understand why she might not want to engage in that messy business.

5. Infection. Yeast and urinary tract infections happen. When they do, don’t expect her to let you go to town down there. They’re easily treatable, but she’s gonna need a few days off to beat it.

6. Hormones. For women especially, hormones fluctuate throughout a lifetime, and this can affect the libido. We normally associate testosterone as being a male hormone, but women have it, too. And when they don’t have enough, her sex drive can crash through the floor.

7. Medications. There’s a pill for everything today, and most come with side effects, many of which can impact sex lives by causing dryness, diminished libido, or other issues. In many cases, by explaining the side effects to her doctor, these hurdles can be overcome.

8. Past abuse. You may or may not be aware of a sexual assault, or even long term abuse, in her past. But if there was, it has likely left mental scars, at the very least. PTSD isn’t limited to combat veterans. So if you know of, or suspect, she may have been a victim, be mindful of how sexual contact can be a trigger.

9. Dryness or pain. During any given month, there are points in her cycle where her libido may increase or decrease, and her natural lubrication will fluctuate, too. If she has a problem producing moisture down there, she may be afraid that you’ll think you don’t turn her on. Introduce a lube as a regular part of your shared sexual routine to get around this. Pain, on the other hand, is not something you want to subject her to. Did she give birth recently? Give her a break for at least six weeks. And after that, lube is a good idea as sexual activity resumes. And if you’re so big that it causes her pain, spend more time on foreplay, and don’t forget the lube for the finale.

10. Illness. C’mon, if she’s got the flu or a cold, you should be pampering her, not trying to get on top of her.

So yeah, sometimes it really isn’t you—not everything is about you, guys. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can sympathize with what she might be going through. And then, you’ll be better equipped to offer her support and comfort. Her well being is most important.

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In today’s world we may be accustomed to everything “instant” and “on-demand,” but if there’s one area we guarantee will always remain an exemption, it’s the age-old art of the tease.

Sexual tension. Slow burning sensuality. Whatever you want to call it, this game-changing difference for bedroom bliss is also known as the power of anticipation. But for something that’s been a staple of sexuality for so long, why exactly do we even find it so hot in the first place?

Anticipation = Arousal

Tracing back to the basics of seduction, lesson #1 is that anticipation always raises arousal.

When the heat of a moment starts to supersede a simmer, it’s easy to see where things are likely headed. Yet once everyone starts sensing the ultimate end game on the horizon, what fun is it to jump straight to the finish line?

In times like these, of course you know what your partner wants. So dropping hints to acknowledge exactly where the events are leading can really get those imaginative juices flowing. By planting sensual seeds, your partner’s thoughts will unfold themselves. And before you know it, you’ll find each other hooked down a one-way path of sensual desire.

The Power of Play

Now, like many things in the realm of intimacy, it should come as no surprise that foreplay is key in building up sexual tension.

Of course it’s not that we don’t all love a good quickie now and again, but the fact of the matter is—mental stimulation is just as important as physical. And after all, the brain is our largest and most complex erogenous zone, so giving the TLC it needs (and frankly—deserves!) is the vital first step in mastering a tease that’s sure to please.

When taking the time to get you and your partner warmed up, there’s a certain playful exploration brought into the mix. Starting slow helps set an alluring mood leaving the other wanting so much more. So whether it’s first kissing the body everywhere but where they want most, or playing up some ‘all talk, no action’ antics before finally jumping in, every way to delay the grand finale will only make the eventual release feel more explosive.

Slow & Steady

But above all to keep in mind is the low and slow nature that’s so critical in maintaining the mood as well.

Like a crock pot only sexier, a bona fide tease is not something that can be rushed. By taking the time to properly introduce the super hot string of events to come, everyone’s minds have the chance to marinade on each and every seductive step. Wandering from move to move, filling in all the gaps of climactic potential in between…it’s truly amazing the world of difference a simple change in pace can make.

And while we’re at it, need we even mention the orgasm gap? The dastardly discrepancy never ceases to strike time and time again, so taking an unhurried approach to the foreplay festivities is like knocking out two birds with one sultry stone. Regardless of gender (or pre-existing excitement), everyone can get the time they need to cross the finish while unlocking plenty of experience-heightening sensation along the way.

So despite the fact that waiting for anything nowadays can sometimes feel like a chore, savoring the strides building up to a power-packed orgasm will be anything but regretted in the end. Seductive, slow, and snowballing with climactic suspense—there couldn’t be an artform more deserving of lasting residency in one’s repertoire than that of the classic tease.

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You wouldn’t bake a cake before preheating the oven, or skip ahead to the last page of a book—so when it comes to sex, foreplay is an essential part of the recipe.

When kicking off a budding fling or new relationship, things like kissing, touching and everything else to help set the mood are second nature. With the fire alive and a super hot escapade on the horizon, all steps of foreplay come with exploring a new connection; but as things often move to a more comfortable state of being, savoring the appetizer can sometimes go by the wayside of the entree expected time and time again.

So here’s why that’s a problem

Efficiency is great when it comes to business and doing laundry, but in the intimate moment it can be a real buzzkill. Thanks to research and insight that’s brought the infamous orgasm gap to light, it goes without saying certain parties will notice a bigger difference in satisfaction than others when cutting straight to the sensual chase.

Of course guys can go zero to sixty at the drop of a heated hat, but biology says gals need a bit more time (and stimulation) to get in the zone. And for something that’s arguably just as important to one’s experience as the actual sex itself, it’s no wonder foreplay is the true ticket to heightened elation.

Preparation is everything

By setting the stage with a sultry sesh of pre-sex festivities, you’re able to prepare the mind as well as the body for the climactic action to come. Orgasm is just as much a mental process as it is a physical one (especially when it comes to the female body), so lining up all the needed elements is absolutely essential.

Stimulation is key when it comes to experiencing pleasure. So when guys require getting hard on the outside, it’s not always as apparent that gals need the same reaction…just internally.

Arousing clitoral nerve endings results in the flow of blood and lubrication that helps sexual encounters feel enjoyable. And since upwards of 80% of women struggle with orgasming from intercourse alone, survey says that 17 minutes of foreplay needed on average isn’t just an Internet myth.

And best part is—it doesn’t have to start in the bedroom itself!

The most basic form of foreplay is flirting, which can be done anywhere at (almost) any time. The simplest acts of hugging, kissing and talking dirty can really turn up the heat—beginning however early in the game you’d like! Sure, we traditionally think of foreplay as leading right into bedroom business, but our dirty little secret is stringing out the tease.

The lower and slower you’re able to extend the allure, the better and more powerful of an end product you’re able to have.

Which leads to the ultimate lubrication…

And when communication’s on point, that can really make all the difference.

It’s one thing to go for the most obvious erogenous zones, but another to pay attention and intuitively hit all the right spots of your partner’s dreams.

By talking and keying into your other half’s natural reactions, you can explore each other’s bodies and desires to discover what really gets them going. And by keeping every element of touch, sound and visuals in the mix, you have a sure-fire recipe for sexy success.

We know it, we love it, we need it—so next time you find yourself tangled between the sheets, think twice before you cut foreplay from the erotic agenda.

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Sex and cannabis, two pleasurable pastimes that go together like peas and carrots. That may be obvious, but public perception has come a long way on these taboo topics. Relentless research and activism have proven that they are safe, reliable sources of improved health and happiness.

With the legalization of recreational cannabis, more awareness is being shed on the medical benefits of CBD-based products. In short, CBD, or cannabidiol, is the non-psychoactive compound of the cannabis plant. Unlike THC, CBD will not get you ‘high’. It is used to treat PTSD, anxiety, seizure disorders in animals, among many other symptoms. Dubbed ‘nature’s Advil,’ it naturally manages these symptoms while improving our mood. CBD is also working serious magic to enhance sexual intimacy, pain relief, and communication. These CBD products are perfect for intimacy—keeping your head clear and your body buzzing.

Massage Oils & Personal Lubricants

CBD-infused coconut oil is what sparked my interest in non-psychoactive cannabis. I used it as vaginal lubrication first, and then a topical oil for anal relaxation. Those who experience pain with penetration, clinically known as vaginismus, turn to CBD-infused lubricants for vaginal tension relief. When used vaginally, you may notice a subtle calming effect on the entire nervous system; hypersensitive but not overstimulated. By waking up the nerves, CBD lubrication and topical oils promote blood circulation, sexual response, and gets your juices flowing naturally. If you’re new to lube in general, I’d recommend starting with a natural water-based lubricant like Slippery Kitty, then graduate to a CBD-infused lube, GoLove CBD Intimate Serum.

Pair with: A ribbed, hand-blown glass dildo and slow internal strokes, and add a few drops of CBD oil to your sensual massage.

Bath Treats

Next level self care! CBD-infused bath bombs and soaking salts are great for beginners looking to dip a toe into psychoactive-free fun. It provides the medicinal effects of a good cannabis strain without being intoxicating. Full-body benefits include inflammation & pain relief, moisturized skin, and detoxification. CBD is amazing for melting away menstrual cramps, whether applied topically or used in a bathtub.

Pair with: A waterproof vibrator to tease the clitoris and nipples as long as you can hold out, and a satin robe for afterwards.

Edibles

Willy Wonka himself would be envious of the edibles on the market. Options include chocolates, suckers, taffy, gummies and more. (With a little research and a good CBD oil, you can also get creative in the kitchen.) Edible-induced relaxation reduces anxiety, and calms communication fears. If your to-do list races through your head during intimacy, an edible will help the mind focus on physical sensations. Schedule a sensory play date night, and try an edible for dessert. Pick out your sex toys in advance, and slowly move from one erogenous zone to the next.

Pair with: A set of vibrating nipple clamps, a multi-purpose vibrating massager, and a feather tickler.

As you experiment, remember the following: Start small. Take microdoses as you go, and check in on your physical response regularly. Pleasure awaits!

The pursuit to higher pleasure is a journey, and the benefits make the journey well worth it. Keep these things in mind, and enjoy the ride.

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What if I told you that the holy grail of orgasms has nothing to do with an intricate sex position, a magic pill, or even a partner? This ‘secret’ is a technique called edging, otherwise known as orgasm control. Anyone of any experience level can incorporate edging into their arsenal of bedroom tricks. Additionally, you may hear it being referred to as ‘surfing’ or ‘peaking’. This pleasure practice focuses on delaying climax one or more times during intercourse or masturbation, stoking a slow, intentional fire that will result in an orgasmic explosion like no other.

Think of the amplified feeling of gratification that happens the moment you finally achieve a sneeze, after losing it several times beforehand. The first climax after partaking in edging is much like that coveted sneeze, if you can imagine it being relocated to an erogenous zone. Just like a delayed sneeze, the more times you ‘lose’, or delay your orgasm, the more powerful it becomes.

Bringing yourself to the brink of climax is not for everyone; the 60 second orgasm may be your cup of tea, and that is a wonderful thing! Overall, the purpose is to tantalize, not to torment. Successful edging, which requires equal parts patience and self-control, serves a valuable purpose when it comes to harnessing sexual energy.

Benefits:

• Deeper, more intuitive understanding of your and/or your lover’s body, knowing when that moment of ecstacy will happen, and how to control it
• A great introduction to BDSM. Edging is a common form of power exchange, as an exhibition of power and control on behalf of the Dominant partner. Imposing restraint is a staple for maintaining control over your partner
• Results in increased stamina for both men and women
• Excellent natural option for male ejaculation control

Challenges:

• Inadvertently going over the edge while skirting the line of sweet release during solo play
• Learning to know your partner’s physical signs and cues, including breathing, body movements, and physical reactions
• Throwing in the towel because orgasms are, um, awesome. Why wait?

Tips & techniques:

• Master it by yourself first. Practice makes perfect! Work your way up to 20-25 minutes at a time
• Alternate sex toys, finger fun, and sensory play. On a male partner, a masturbation sleeve is a great toy to bring into the mix
• Press pause: Get your juices flowing and ramp up arousal with yourself or your partner.  Identify the moment that you are close to climax, and STOP for a few seconds. Go back to the beginning with less pinpointed pressure, targeting everything but the bullseye (Looking at you, clitoris!) Rinse and repeat at least one more time; enjoy!
• Distraction: If you are experimenting solo, alternate your favorite toy with your fingers when you feel yourself about to burst
• Get creative! You are not limited to just foreplay here. The fun part about edging is that it can be a grab bag of whatever stimulation you prefer—whether you incorporate penetration or not

If you are new to edging, don’t get discouraged! It may take a few weeks or a couple months until you’ve perfected your technique. Like anything worth waiting for, patience is a virtue, young grasshopper.

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I was casually eating a strawberry macaroon when it hit me – or, to be more precise, when a million waves of hot sex memories hit me. As I was trying to keep my cool and avoid pulling a “When Harry met Sally” in the middle of the local Jewish deli, that magical strawberry macaroon made me want to close my eyes and enjoy my non-kosher thoughts while getting a sugar high—and I don’t even like sugar!

Holding a box of my newfound NSFW desert, on my walk back home, I connected the dots: it was not the strawberry macaroons that did the trick (yay Sherlock!) – it was my new strawberry scented lube that retrospectively worked its magic.

Let me explain—I have used all kind of scents with all kinds of lubes, but I’ve always had such a big selection that none of them stuck for long—until a couple of months ago, when I got Tickle Kitty’s eight ounce bottle of Slippery Kitty strawberry lube that found a home next to my bed and started using it every time I had sex. Its texture and its scent were pleasant, and it tastes great too. I bought if for myself after I saw it in Cosmo and knew I had to go out and buy it ASAP! I even started using lube even during times that it was not needed at all, and not just for sex or sex games, but even for sensual massages or foot rubs (which after a while led to sex, duh!)

The inevitable result was that every single time I was turned on, the air smelled like strawberries! Yup, you did the math, its brain 101 actually, that Pavlov’s dog thingie. It was a matter of a few repetitions and then, voilà, the tables of my senses were turned and every time the air smelled like strawberries I got turned on!

Let’s pause for a second here and ponder of what a powerful tool that is. Seriously, think about it. The possibilities are endless. It’s common knowledge that our brain is our most erogenous zone, and we’re used to the equation behind its mechanics being complicated and sensitive and somehow linked to our father issues or whatnot, but, isn’t it delightful to sometimes discover an easy trick with high rewards?

I felt like I hit the arousal manipulation jackpot.

Since then, I deliberately link the most special times I have with my boyfriend and my most amazing self-love seshes with my favorite toy with very specific smells. If there is a day that we have planned to take time off our busy schedules, lock ourselves in the bedroom and get crazy, I make sure that these hours are going to have their own smell-stamp – whether it is a lube, a candle, a massage oil candle (if you’re into vanilla you have to try the Afterglow massage oil candle!) or your perfume, it doesn’t matter. What matters is to only allow that smell to exist during those hours.

And to be practical about this, if you’re going through a phase of not feeling very sexual, or a busy period that doesn’t allow you to have enough time to get in the mood, exposing yourselves to that same smell which you have linked to your most magical moments will work wonders! It acts like a fast forward foreplay, plus, you can always make a sexy move on your man just by offering him a strawberry macaroon and giving him a dirty look. He will have no clue why, but that will be the most arousing macaroon he’s ever had!

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